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Post by lily on Apr 8, 2016 14:42:50 GMT
Oh and remind your husband it is NOT FUNNY to jiggle that soft lumpy belly when you are laying in bed and say it looks like a bowl of jello....
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 8, 2016 14:49:56 GMT
C-section might result in external stitches or steri strips or STAPLES! This last time, I was SHOCKED and totally grossed out by the fact that I had 18 staples and had to live with them for a week. It didn't hurt to remove them. Another vote for kellymom.com For plugged up milk ducts (so fucking painful! Especially in the middle of the night when all you want to do is nurse your baby and go back to sleep- me last night,) take soy lecithin 3 times a day for 2-3 weeks. When you have gone for a week with no clogs, cut it down to twice a day for 2-3 weeks. Still no clogs, go down to once a day for the duration of nursing. If you get clogs at 1 a day, up it to 2 a day and keep it there.
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Post by nurseypants on Apr 8, 2016 15:38:59 GMT
That pregnancy can be one of the best, most special times of your life. That you should never complain about being pregnant or having to take care of a newborn to woman who has been unable to conceive. Mommyjacked in a mommy thread! Impressive.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Apr 8, 2016 16:19:15 GMT
That if you cannot nurse your baby exclusively, you are STILL A GREAT MOM AND YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. Your baby will survive and those who think less of you can go f*ck off!
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Post by littlemama on Apr 8, 2016 16:48:17 GMT
I wish I had known about the sprinkler boobs and the "consistency" of the blood afterwards. I just about passed out when I passed the first giant clot.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Apr 8, 2016 16:52:40 GMT
Also, you may have to get someone else to help with the grocery shopping at some point. My morning sickness (at night too) had me running out of the store to vomit after experiencing the sights and smells of the butcher/seafood/cheese aisle. Sent from my SM-N910V using Tapatalk This was me in the meat department. Dry heaving and that prebarfing watery mouth that wouldn't stop. Every now and then it happens to me in one store still and no one else can smell anything.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Apr 8, 2016 16:55:12 GMT
and it will be a long time before you manage to finish a drink before it's cold. Or a meal while it's still hot. Still waiting for both here.
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Post by raindancer on Apr 8, 2016 17:04:33 GMT
Cocoa butter on the boobs and belly daily will keep some of the stretch marks away. Start early as the boobs will get bigger before the belly does. Or not. I was pretty confident in this little "fact" until week 36. Then I learned, nope. That's not so true.
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 8, 2016 17:13:15 GMT
C-sections are literal life savers, and having one does not make you any less a woman or a mother. It doesn't matter how the baby comes out. It matters that you both are safe and healthy in the end. Don't get too wrapped up in planning the perfect birth. I have several friends who talked themselves into the idea of his perfect birth that would go exactly a certain way, and when it didn't and major changes had to happen quickly they wound up severely depressed over it for years. There is nothing wrong with formula/bottle feeding your baby. Yes Breast milk is best, but some of just plain suck at making milk, and it really can't be done. The kids got to eat, and if you allow yourself to obsess and stress and worry about breast feeding you will start to hate yourself and your baby. I speak from experience. And it freaking sucked. Once we switched to formula only life was infinitely better for everyone in our house.
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Post by mellyw on Apr 8, 2016 17:18:25 GMT
Haven't seen this mentioned, but when baby drops, it can hurt & make you think labor is starting. My DD dropped about 2 weeks before I had her, I remember it so clearly because my DH was in Korea, not scheduled to come home for another week. Freaked me the heck out.
And yes, the bleeding after was a shock. As someone else said, when I went to the bathroom the first time, it was like a crime scene. I also apologized to the Nurse, it was such a mess.
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:20:15 GMT
At some point your nipples may begin to itch unmercifully! Don't wash them with soap when that happens, it just aggravates it horribly. I'm past that stage, but based on other experience, I think a raw, organic coconut oil would be extremely soothing. It's also reported to be great at preventing stretch marks - rub it on your belly daily.
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:33:17 GMT
The dark line from your belly button to the nether regions will go away once the baby is born. again, coconut oil will prob help
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:34:27 GMT
That precious little Angel that you deliver could cause a raging case of hemorrhoids. Just sayin' YES! I suffered for a week, and then my fab OB doc called me at home to see how I was doing. He prescribed magical suppositories that fixed me up QUICKLY. If you have an issue, call your doc right away!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 17:36:27 GMT
That some people feel better than ever when pregnant, with none of the issues listed here. That having the ability to bear children is a privilege and an honor, not an inconvenience. The entire process is so amazing! That the first month after birth can be hell, but worth every minute. Our capacity to give and love is incredible. Well, I hope you didn't take my posts as me being inconvenienced, because I never said that. Yes I was sick as a dog the entire time, got high blood pressure, bed rest ect. That said, my dd is the most amazing thing in my world. I can not believe I grew a whole person and if need be, I would die for her.
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:36:42 GMT
Your boobs will leak. They will leak before you have the baby. They will leak like a faucet when enjoying your spouse. It's best if he wears a poncho. Lol! And the flip side of this is, you may be shattered and shocked to learn that your body won't produce a drop of milk!!! Happened to me twice! I had had friends who opted not to breastfeed and who went through the pain of milk coming in, binding their breasts, etc. I had no idea that not being able to nurse, while wanting to, was a remote possibility!
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:38:30 GMT
Sex after delivery is PAINFUL! We're talking feels like a rug burn! For a few weeks after delivery you will still look pregnant. Don't fear having a c-section. The baby needs to get out some way. I'm sounding like a broken record. Coconut oil is the BEST personal lubricant ever!!! If you've ever used KY Jelly, there is NO comparison!!!
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:40:13 GMT
I got thrush in my mouth while pregnant with my 2nd child and afterward would drool like a dripping water faucet. I couldn't swallow the saliva because it would make me throw up immediately. I couldn't spit in the middle of a grocery store. It was miserable. so sorry. that sounds like a definition of miserable to me. I hadn't heard of that.
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:41:07 GMT
That having babies, difficult births, would cause urine leakage, with coughs, sneezes later in life. I never knew this. KEGELS! Do them!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 17:42:01 GMT
That if you are pregnant, do not go into Pet Smart when they are playing The Lion King video, at the part when Simba's father gets killed because YOU WILL CRY!!
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:51:34 GMT
Every story that a person tells you about their delivery will likely not happen to you. The more you try to control your delivery, the less likely it will go as you planned. Get What to expect when you are pregnant. A good book for dad is called Dads pregnant too. You are going to receive a TON of advice. Don't dismiss everything you hear but don't take everything to heart either. I had an emergency csection and 8 months later, sex is still painful. Rug burn for sure. Eat well during your pregnancy. Your weight will NOT likely fall off and you magically will be 40 lbs lighter after birth. If you are nursing and think you will burn extra calories doing that, yeah, that didn't work for me either. Enjoy every single but of attention, showers, belly touches, kicks, etc. If you don't feel totally comfortable with your OB, find a new one. Take the birthing classes that your hospital offers. I thought I knew a TON..but I learned a lot. Yes, hemroids are horrible and so is morning sickness..but you may not have any of that..so take each day as it comes. Congratulations!! @carblover443 - have you tried a high quality organic coconut oil? Best lube ever!!!
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Post by gsquaredmom on Apr 8, 2016 17:53:03 GMT
That some people feel better than ever when pregnant, with none of the issues listed here. That having the ability to bear children is a privilege and an honor, not an inconvenience. The entire process is so amazing! That the first month after birth can be hell, but worth every minute. Our capacity to give and love is incredible. Well, I hope you didn't take my posts as me being inconvenienced, because I never said that. Yes I was sick as a dog the entire time, got high blood pressure, bed rest ect. That said, my dd is the most amazing thing in my world. I can not believe I grew a whole person and if need be, I would die for her. Not at all. My comments were not directed at any particular person. I was thinking of all the women I have known over the years who complain non-stop and act like bearing and raising children is a huge inconvenience. I don't mean people like you. You and your baby are the epitome of what it takes sometimes to experience a successful pregnancy. I am talking about women who trivialize their pregnancy or who complain about being fat. Ugh. Not fat. Baby! These are women without the issues you have, who just take it all for granted. Hard to believe, but they are out there!
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 17:55:32 GMT
Not everyone has food cravings while pregnant. You can get your period only 3 months after baby is born while breastfeeding constantly. You will be greatly disappointed when that happens. You can also have your period for the first few months you're pregnant (which will cause you to assume that you aren't pregnant, until...SURPRISE!!1!) Back labor feels entirely different than regular labor and all those birthing classes will not prepare you for back labor. I've heard that if the baby has a lot of hair, you will have heartburn while pregnant, but my babies just had peachfuzz, so I haven't experienced that one. I had back labor and hubbie was prepared, from our childbirth classes, to rub two tennis balls in the small of my back during labor. Good little items to pack in the hospital bag.
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 18:04:24 GMT
Say "YES, please!" when some angelic folks offer to feed you after the baby is born! People want to help and you will enjoy the pampering.
I often set up meal trains for friends who have had babies or been hospitalized or otherwise going through some huge, draining transition in their lives. One of the best things to include in such a plan is to have the recipient(s) leave a cooler or other container near their front door and to have providers drop their meals and any notes or gifts into the box within a certain window of time, so that a meal delivery does not mean a personal visit. Some new parents might like you to visit and if so will let you know. Many, if like me, will be grateful for the food support and their privacy (esp. if haven't showered in a few days!) Ask participants to use disposable dishes if at all possible, so that there is no major cleanup for recipients. One time when foil pans, etc. are really a blessing.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 19:07:01 GMT
Every story that a person tells you about their delivery will likely not happen to you. The more you try to control your delivery, the less likely it will go as you planned. Get What to expect when you are pregnant. A good book for dad is called Dads pregnant too. You are going to receive a TON of advice. Don't dismiss everything you hear but don't take everything to heart either. I had an emergency csection and 8 months later, sex is still painful. Rug burn for sure. Eat well during your pregnancy. Your weight will NOT likely fall off and you magically will be 40 lbs lighter after birth. If you are nursing and think you will burn extra calories doing that, yeah, that didn't work for me either. Enjoy every single but of attention, showers, belly touches, kicks, etc. If you don't feel totally comfortable with your OB, find a new one. Take the birthing classes that your hospital offers. I thought I knew a TON..but I learned a lot. Yes, hemroids are horrible and so is morning sickness..but you may not have any of that..so take each day as it comes. Congratulations!! @carblover443 - have you tried a high quality organic coconut oil? Best lube ever!!! I have not tried that..I haven't hooped on the coconut oil train yet.. This may be a really dumb question, but couldn't any lingering oil turn rancid? I really would rather not have a rancid crotch
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 8, 2016 19:17:28 GMT
When everyone talked about their milk letting down I was all, huh? I had to work for it. the only time it came out voluntarily was drying off after a shower (seriously, now?!) and if I was completely engorged from missing a feeding.
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Post by Peamac on Apr 8, 2016 19:47:39 GMT
Not everyone has food cravings while pregnant. You can get your period only 3 months after baby is born while breastfeeding constantly. You will be greatly disappointed when that happens. You can also have your period for the first few months you're pregnant (which will cause you to assume that you aren't pregnant, until...SURPRISE!!1!) Back labor feels entirely different than regular labor and all those birthing classes will not prepare you for back labor. I've heard that if the baby has a lot of hair, you will have heartburn while pregnant, but my babies just had peachfuzz, so I haven't experienced that one. I had back labor and hubbie was prepared, from our childbirth classes, to rub two tennis balls in the small of my back during labor. Good little items to pack in the hospital bag. Yeah- the tennis balls helped, but nothing else about my back labor was like what they taught in birthing class. I didn't even have that urge to push with DD1, since I was in pain from my waist down. the best part of the class was the last session when they showed Bill Cosby's description of his wife giving birth. But that was over 20 years ago before we knew what he was really like.
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Post by kelly8875 on Apr 8, 2016 19:58:50 GMT
Thought of more.... The shoes I went into the hospital with that fit just fine, did NOT fit me when it was time to go home. I retained so much water, I couldn't get them on. Not even close.
For days and days and days, I would pee at least a gallon at a time. Not even exaggerating... I thought something was wrong with me. I was so full of fluid I was squishy like a wet sponge.
And your baby might not drop.
No amount of oil or lotion can prevent stretch marks. You might wake up one day and be ginormous, and your skin cannot take the pressure and will give you stretch marks.
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Post by Zee on Apr 8, 2016 20:05:52 GMT
I'm just going to step in and advocate for the women who thoroughly HATE pregnancy, and felt more like a great big broodmare than a glowing mommy-to-be growing her little angel inside her.
It's OK if you feel it's less than a magical experience that's a great privilege, and more like a host with a highly uncomfortable parasite growing in there.
I LOVED the newborn stage, so it's not that I'm not a maternal person. I just hated gestating. It was awful for me. My mother sailed through it but I was totally and completely over the experience after the second time.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 21:32:27 GMT
Well, I hope you didn't take my posts as me being inconvenienced, because I never said that. Yes I was sick as a dog the entire time, got high blood pressure, bed rest ect. That said, my dd is the most amazing thing in my world. I can not believe I grew a whole person and if need be, I would die for her. Not at all. My comments were not directed at any particular person. I was thinking of all the women I have known over the years who complain non-stop and act like bearing and raising children is a huge inconvenience. I don't mean people like you. You and your baby are the epitome of what it takes sometimes to experience a successful pregnancy. I am talking about women who trivialize their pregnancy or who complain about being fat. Ugh. Not fat. Baby! These are women without the issues you have, who just take it all for granted. Hard to believe, but they are out there! Ok, good. I didn't want to come off like I was ungrateful for her. She turned 15 Jan. I remember sitting at the table looking at her thinking, OMG I can not believe she is mine, that dh and I made her.
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Post by smcast on Apr 8, 2016 21:42:06 GMT
I chose not to breastfeed and it took two weeks to dry up. Didn't know it would take that long. You will have rocks as breasts and it is painful. I used cold cabbage leaves in my bra to soothe besides the nursing pads. They also help with mastitis pain. An enzyme in them helps to leach out the infection. Gone are the days they give a med to hasten the process.
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