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Post by flanz on Apr 10, 2016 22:29:22 GMT
I also didn't feel much of anything for my baby right after birth. It was a couple of weeks before I fell in love with him. I wish someone had told me about that. I felt like a shitty person and mom. me too. I had no milk so couldn't nurse, and I had a huge and badly infected episiotomy. My DH was like a nursing mom in that he was up round the clock with the baby and gave our son all of his baths for the first three weeks. DH was a grad student at the time (three week vacation for the holidays began the night I gave birth) so could do it. My hero. And it was a partial blessing in another way. I think he would have been a great hands on dad regardless, but being the one in charge for the first three weeks really made him so comfortable with the baby. For years DH was the one who gave our kids their baths and cut their fingernails and toenails, and loved, loved, loved spending time with them. None of that awful, "I've got to babysit the kids this weekend" crap I've heard from other men. No matter how easy early motherhood might be for you, I highly encourage you to support your partner as best you can in being hands on right from the get go.
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