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Post by scrapsotime on Apr 8, 2016 21:53:08 GMT
That you will have the urge to kill when your husband announces that he has a headache and needs aspirin before he can continue being your labor coach just before they take to the delivery room.
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Post by flanz on Apr 8, 2016 22:38:04 GMT
@carblover443 - have you tried a high quality organic coconut oil? Best lube ever!!! I have not tried that..I haven't hooped on the coconut oil train yet.. This may be a really dumb question, but couldn't any lingering oil turn rancid? I really would rather not have a rancid crotch I'm not a doctor but from personal experience, I believe our bodies naturally clean themselves. No rancid crotch here, and there are tons of anecdotes online from others who have discovered this neat little tool. I totally believe a raw, virgin, organic coconut oil must be much healthier than KY jelly or other products full of chemicals I can't pronounce! If you try it, I think you will be very pleasantly surprised. The girlfriends I've shared this tip with, and their husbands, thank me!
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Post by Grom Pea on Apr 8, 2016 23:37:39 GMT
That you will have the urge to kill when your husband announces that he has a headache and needs aspirin before he can continue being your labor coach just before they take to the delivery room. Ha ha, I was about to get an epidural with my first and my dh looked like he was going to pass out, I ended up fanning him with a package of gauze while a nurse got him juice and the anesthesiologist gave me an epidural.
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Post by malibou on Apr 9, 2016 0:26:11 GMT
That your legs probably will not snap off during labor.
That even though you look like you are carrying a litter of babies, you may still deliver just one average sized baby.
That when I wondered about what it must feel like to be a fembot from the Austin Powers movie, I didn't literally mean I wanted my nipples to feel like they were machine gunning everybody all day everyday for 3 months.
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Post by pmm on Apr 9, 2016 0:27:16 GMT
At some point your nipples may begin to itch unmercifully! Don't wash them with soap when that happens, it just aggravates it horribly. I'm past that stage, but based on other experience, I think a raw, organic coconut oil would be extremely soothing. It's also reported to be great at preventing stretch marks - rub it on your belly daily. I well beyond that point. This child just turned 25 in January. At this point I'd be willing to rub it on my belly if it would make it shrink.
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Post by Lexica on Apr 9, 2016 0:39:36 GMT
I didn't know that you drained forever after a C-section and need to wear pads to absorb it all. I was a tampon user and didn't have any pads in the house. My ex was more than willing to run the errand for me, but I wasn't familiar enough with the brands and size terminology for pads. I didn't want him coming home with those gigantic thick suckers that frightened me as a child and had me going straight to tampons when I first started my period.
I don't think cell phones had been created yet. At any rate, we didn't have one. My ex carried a pager for me to let him know when I went into labor because he was frequently out in the field away from a phone. He ended up buying about 8 different boxes because he didn't want to have to go back again. He had travelled miles away from the house for fear of being caught in that aisle. It would have been so much easier if I had known and could have picked my own. I thought there was something wrong with me when it just kept draining and draining and draining.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Apr 9, 2016 1:11:30 GMT
Pregnancy carpel tunnel was horrible. That was my only complaint and I had some relief once I delivered, but my hands were weak for a long time. Diaper and snaps were not easy.
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Post by melanell on Apr 9, 2016 1:38:45 GMT
If you think something is wrong, call your doctor. If they send you home, but you still really think that something is wrong, it's okay to go call another doctor or go to the hospital to be checked there. And you don't need to feel bad or silly if everything turns out to be fine. Just be relieved.
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Post by bigbundt on Apr 9, 2016 2:46:38 GMT
I'm just going to step in and advocate for the women who thoroughly HATE pregnancy, and felt more like a great big broodmare than a glowing mommy-to-be growing her little angel inside her. It's OK if you feel it's less than a magical experience that's a great privilege, and more like a host with a highly uncomfortable parasite growing in there. I LOVED the newborn stage, so it's not that I'm not a maternal person. I just hated gestating. It was awful for me. My mother sailed through it but I was totally and completely over the experience after the second time. THANK YOU! Pregnancy was a means to an end both times. There will be a period when you look at your DH (or partner or whoever) and HATE everything about him. You will wonder how you let someone you hate so much get close enough to impregnate you. Happened both times for me and it is a rather common experience among my girlfriends. If you plan to get an epidural, get it as soon as they let you. I had forgotten how much real contractions hurt so I waited with my second until they broke my waters. I *immediately* had a contraction (nurse said that was a first in her 25 years of nursing), asked for an epidural, and then had to wait 45 minutes for the anesthesiologist. He barely made my window, my daughter was in my arms half an hour later. With my first, I got the epidural within minutes because there wasn't a lot of patients before me. I had no clue I would have to wait that long! I was scared to death by my friends of the first post partum poo. Not all women have that issue. Even if they still got hemorrhoids.
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 9, 2016 2:56:54 GMT
I'm just going to step in and advocate for the women who thoroughly HATE pregnancy, and felt more like a great big broodmare than a glowing mommy-to-be growing her little angel inside her. It's OK if you feel it's less than a magical experience that's a great privilege, and more like a host with a highly uncomfortable parasite growing in there. I LOVED the newborn stage, so it's not that I'm not a maternal person. I just hated gestating. It was awful for me. My mother sailed through it but I was totally and completely over the experience after the second time. I could not love this more. I really do think we need to say this out loud and more often. People need to hear it, or at least be aware that there are people who feel this way. I really didn't experience many of the things listed here and had a really easy time of pregnancy, labor, and delivery. I just didn't love any part of it. At all. Far from magical or glowing. And I think it would have helped at the time to hear other people say the same. I had no one telling me this was a normal and valid way to feel.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2016 3:23:51 GMT
I have not tried that..I haven't hooped on the coconut oil train yet.. This may be a really dumb question, but couldn't any lingering oil turn rancid? I really would rather not have a rancid crotch I'm not a doctor but from personal experience, I believe our bodies naturally clean themselves. No rancid crotch here, and there are tons of anecdotes online from others who have discovered this neat little tool. I totally believe a raw, virgin, organic coconut oil must be much healthier than KY jelly or other products full of chemicals I can't pronounce! If you try it, I think you will be very pleasantly surprised. The girlfriends I've shared this tip with, and their husbands, thank me! Another believer in coconut oil lube here! It get absorbed and is a dry oil. Rub some on your hands and see how fast the oiliness goes away and the softness stays. It does not go rancid. It has a very long shelf life.
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Post by penny on Apr 9, 2016 3:42:45 GMT
Have never been pregnant, and don't have any younger siblings so I haven't even been around many pregnant women... And reading all this - I have so many questions...lol It's one thing to read about what happens, but descriptions that include words like "consistency" and "rug burn" convince me that the medical/factual descriptions leave a lot out...lol
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 9, 2016 3:58:29 GMT
That after giving birth your stomach still looks like it still has a baby in there, which is really freaky: And your stomach muscles can separate (Diastasis Recti), which looks even freakier than the post-birth wobbly belly: (This photo is not me, but after the birth of my second child my stomach looked like the 2 bottom photos - freaked me the heck out!
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Post by FurryP on Apr 9, 2016 4:13:48 GMT
those pictures!!! Get a puppy instead!!!!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 9, 2016 4:26:17 GMT
Pregnancy carpel tunnel was horrible. That was my only complaint and I had some relief once I delivered, but my hands were weak for a long time. Diaper and snaps were not easy. Mine was so bad it woke me up in the middle of the night in tears. I had surgery on both hands three months after I delivered because the pain didn't go away.
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Post by cyndijane on Apr 9, 2016 5:04:56 GMT
I'm just going to step in and advocate for the women who thoroughly HATE pregnancy, and felt more like a great big broodmare than a glowing mommy-to-be growing her little angel inside her. It's OK if you feel it's less than a magical experience that's a great privilege, and more like a host with a highly uncomfortable parasite growing in there. I LOVED the newborn stage, so it's not that I'm not a maternal person. I just hated gestating. It was awful for me. My mother sailed through it but I was totally and completely over the experience after the second time. I could not love this more. I really do think we need to say this out loud and more often. People need to hear it, or at least be aware that there are people who feel this way. I really didn't experience many of the things listed here and had a really easy time of pregnancy, labor, and delivery. I just didn't love any part of it. At all. Far from magical or glowing. And I think it would have helped at the time to hear other people say the same. I had no one telling me this was a normal and valid way to feel. Another who wants to say- some of us {hate} being pregnant. It changes me- and NOT for the better. I do my best to look for those sweet moments, but they mostly aren't there for me. And it's okay to not be excited about it. It's okay to say, this isn't what I wanted. You can go the entire pregnancy and not be happy about it, and be in denial over the whole thing, and not fall immediately in love with your newborn- and still be an awesome mom. Feelings are just feelings, and hormonal, pregnancy-induced feelings may not be worth listening to.
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Post by bigbundt on Apr 9, 2016 12:12:42 GMT
The not liking the process of pregnancy reminded me of another thing that isn't talked about: you don't always bond with your baby right away... and that is normal. With my first I thought it would be like the movies where I would cry with happiness and fall in love right away. They handed her to me and I felt nothing. I was certainly happy to have her but I didn't get that rush of overwhelming love that I was expecting. I didn't feel it in the hospital, or the first couple of weeks of having her home. It came on suddenly and quickly after that but it wasn't instantaneous. It went much quicker with my second but again it wasn't instantaneous.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 9, 2016 14:08:30 GMT
I also didn't feel much of anything for my baby right after birth. It was a couple of weeks before I fell in love with him. I wish someone had told me about that. I felt like a shitty person and mom.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2016 14:15:41 GMT
After reading all five pages of this thread I'm definitely going to just stick to having cats
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 9, 2016 14:25:50 GMT
I also didn't feel much of anything for my baby right after birth. It was a couple of weeks before I fell in love with him. I wish someone had told me about that. I felt like a shitty person and mom. I wish that someone had told me that throughout the whole child rearing process there would be times that while I loved the child in question, I still could absolutely hate his guts and hate the very sight of him. That there would be times that in spite of the love, that I would abhor being a parent and would want time where I didn't have to be so damn responsible for the care and feeding of another human being. You always hear about the happy moments, the joy of parenting but for some reason there is a veil of secrecy that comes down when it comes to the less than stellar moments. I thought that there was something really wrong with me the first time I felt it-like seriously wrong-but finally got the courage to ask a therapist who assured me that it was normal.
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Post by quiltz on Apr 9, 2016 16:08:07 GMT
I also didn't feel much of anything for my baby right after birth. It was a couple of weeks before I fell in love with him. I wish someone had told me about that. I felt like a shitty person and mom. I wish that someone had told me that throughout the whole child rearing process there would be times that while I loved the child in question, I still could absolutely hate his guts and hate the very sight of him. That there would be times that in spite of the love, that I would abhor being a parent and would want time where I didn't have to be so damn responsible for the care and feeding of another human being. You always hear about the happy moments, the joy of parenting but for some reason there is a veil of secrecy that comes down when it comes to the less than stellar moments. I thought that there was something really wrong with me the first time I felt it-like seriously wrong-but finally got the courage to ask a therapist who assured me that it was normal. I think that if you read enough posts here you will get a fair representation of what child rearing is all about. Just like marraige, people try to tell you how your life will change but until you personally expierece it, it Is hard to explain.
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Post by miominmio on Apr 9, 2016 19:32:52 GMT
Is that a newer guideline? I know about folic acid and neural tube defects. Did not know about biotin. Just me having pregnancy brain ten years after my last kid, of course it is folic acid.
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Post by penny on Apr 10, 2016 0:26:19 GMT
That after giving birth your stomach still looks like it still has a baby in there, which is really freaky: View Attachment And your stomach muscles can separate (Diastasis Recti), which looks even freakier than the post-birth wobbly belly: (This photo is not me, but after the birth of my second child my stomach looked like the 2 bottom photos - freaked me the heck out! View AttachmentI just saw something about this in my fb feed! A friend is a personal trainer and she was talking about how crunches aren't always the best for post-pregnancy workouts... If you have that separation, when you come up in the crunch, you're actually encouraging the muscles to stay separated... It's hard to explain in words, but she posted her fellow trainers video explaining why it happens and that's easy to understand... She uses an unzipped jacket to illustrate how the separated muscles move farther apart during the motions...
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 10, 2016 4:12:38 GMT
Vanilla cupcakes taste ok on the way up, too. They don't burn and just make sure you have one for breakfast every day. They truly did work!
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Post by TankTop on Apr 10, 2016 11:31:56 GMT
It is completely possible to puke up a food you just ate and then want more of the same thing.
A baby can be allergic to breast milk. My second was. Took 3 ER visits and countless breathing treatments before the connection was made. Who knew?
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Post by jenjie on Apr 10, 2016 11:56:32 GMT
That you will have the urge to kill when your husband announces that he has a headache and needs aspirin before he can continue being your labor coach just before they take to the delivery room. Hah! you also don't want to hear dh complaining about not being able to sit comfortably with hemorrhoids after you have just pushed out an 8 pound baby!
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Post by jenjie on Apr 10, 2016 12:34:20 GMT
Three little words you need to hear:
Fiber
FIBER
F I B E R
They neglected to say those words to me when prescribing iron pills. It resulted in an ER visit where I discovered there are more embarrassing things than having people see your nether regions during childbirth.
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Post by piebaker on Apr 10, 2016 14:23:28 GMT
I can't find it to highlight, but on a prior page someone said: "If you think something is wrong, call your doctor. If they ignore you, call another doctor." A friend told me that doctors are there to ask questions, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise.
I had the flu while pregnant, but thought I couldn't take any medications, so why call the doctor. I thought my back ached from two weeks of a hacking cough, but it was preterm labor. Please call your doctor if you think something is amiss.
Immediately after delivery, you may start trembling/shaking involuntarily for several hours. I think it has something to do with blood volume for two returning to one?.
Finally, if you would like to breastfeed and it isn't going well, consider renting a professional grade breast pump from a lactation consultant. I pumped every four hours for six months for my second daughter, who was three months premature, so she had at least some breastmilk added to formula for seven months. Expressing was a method to connect with my baby while she was in the NICU.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 10, 2016 19:35:35 GMT
I'm past that stage, but based on other experience, I think a raw, organic coconut oil would be extremely soothing. It's also reported to be great at preventing stretch marks - rub it on your belly daily. I well beyond that point. This child just turned 25 in January. At this point I'd be willing to rub it on my belly if it would make it shrink. if that worked they wouldn't be able to keep it on the shelves
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Post by scrapsotime on Apr 10, 2016 20:48:24 GMT
If you plan to get an epidural, get it as soon as they let you. I had forgotten how much real contractions hurt so I waited with my second until they broke my waters. I *immediately* had a contraction (nurse said that was a first in her 25 years of nursing), asked for an epidural, and then had to wait 45 minutes for the anesthesiologist. He barely made my window, my daughter was in my arms half an hour later. With my first, I got the epidural within minutes because there wasn't a lot of patients before me. I had no clue I would have to wait that long! This happened to me. I was induced and nothing happened. They decided to break my water and had immediate contractions. I was holding my daughter 35 minutes later. No time for an epidural. Everyone was like 'wow, we weren't expecting it to happen that fast.'
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