blue tulip
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Post by blue tulip on Apr 25, 2016 18:11:18 GMT
my friend's niece has 4 young sons. that's enough they think, so when the 4th is born, they decided dad should get a vasectomy. but it spontaneously reconnected, and when youngest is about a year old OOPS, she's pregnant with son #5. so when he is born, niece has a tubal, because that will work, right? well, apparently a fistula formed on the end, allowing it to reconnect and allow passage of an egg, and NOW SHE'S PREGNANT WITH BABY #6. ! she's started a gofundme if anyone is interested in helping them. www.gofundme.com/Sundberg7plus1
seriously.. can you imagine? you think you're taking all the right steps, and the odds of both procedures failing?! if I were them I would never have sex again. even with a hysterectomy, with her luck she'll be the first to grow a baby in her abdominal cavity or something.
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quiltz
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Post by quiltz on Apr 25, 2016 18:14:31 GMT
Dad should have been checked out at the recommended intervals.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Apr 25, 2016 18:15:26 GMT
OMG. Talking about defying the odds. I feel for her, she tried to do everything right!
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Post by finally~a~mama on Apr 25, 2016 18:16:26 GMT
I remember reading an article many years ago in Redbook or Good Housekeeping (one of those type of magazines) about a couple that had this exact same thing happen. Only difference was they started with 2 kids instead of 4.
ETA: Seems pretty crazy on both accounts. Guess those babies were meant to be!
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gsquaredmom
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Post by gsquaredmom on Apr 25, 2016 18:18:45 GMT
I have a friend who had one using a condom, second using the pill, told by a doc she was infertile due to endometriosis scarring her tubes and had a third, had her tubes tied and had a fourth!
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Apr 25, 2016 18:19:37 GMT
Sounds like my worst freakin' nightmare but I'm unsure why this is worthy of a gofundme campaign.
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blue tulip
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Post by blue tulip on Apr 25, 2016 18:19:49 GMT
Dad should have been checked out at the recommended intervals. I believe he was, at least up to the 6 mos one. they hadn't hit the year one when they found out she was pregnant. I'm not 100% sure tho.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on Apr 25, 2016 18:20:45 GMT
'Cause I'm a geek and I was curious - the odds of a failed vasectomy are .05%. The odds of a failed tubal are .005%. So the odds of both happening are .00025%.
Higher than the odds of winning the lottery but still. . .
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AnotherPea
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Post by AnotherPea on Apr 25, 2016 18:22:50 GMT
I've heard of very similar stories. Dh and I doubled, even tripled up on birth control when it was a really bad time for a baby. So glad that our attempts worked.
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blue tulip
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Post by blue tulip on Apr 25, 2016 18:24:43 GMT
they are on 1 income, the house and vehicle is too small, and they don't have a lot of options to expand either at this point without help. with the amount of money people get for dumber things, I bet they thought people might get a kick out of their bad luck and possibly be moved to help them. usually I would be right there with you, but in this case I don't blame them for trying.
Sounds like my worst freakin' nightmare but I'm unsure why this is worthy of a gofundme campaign.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2016 18:25:54 GMT
She's either really really lucky/unlucky, had bad surgeons who performed the procedures or not telling the truth. Whatever the case is, it sounds like these babies were meant to be.
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Post by Linda on Apr 25, 2016 19:37:45 GMT
a friend of mine had the same thing happen years ago - V after baby 4, tubal after baby 5 (their first boy) and then he had another V.
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Post by papersilly on Apr 25, 2016 21:49:07 GMT
Sounds like my worst freakin' nightmare but I'm unsure why this is worthy of a gofundme campaign. yeah, that's where I got lost too. it's not a cause I would consider fundworthy but I'm sure there will be people who will be happy to donate.
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Apr 25, 2016 21:53:05 GMT
I had a friend who had twins when her dh's V failed. They were the girls her DH had been wanting to round out his family of boys, so they were excited and happy.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2016 21:59:22 GMT
Sounds like my worst freakin' nightmare but I'm unsure why this is worthy of a gofundme campaign. I can't seriously believe they expect people to give them money.
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scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Apr 25, 2016 22:29:21 GMT
Dad should have been checked out at the recommended intervals. I believe he was, at least up to the 6 mos one. they hadn't hit the year one when they found out she was pregnant. I'm not 100% sure tho. According to your story, baby 4 was about s year old when 5 was born??
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2016 23:06:50 GMT
When I was pregnant with daughter, I met up with a woman who was pregnant with twins at the doctors. She was 45/46, her husband was 56. Second marriage for both. All children out of the house. Both had been "fixed". They were in counseling. The doctor said these were children who really wanted to be born. Unfortunately the couple got divorced around the time the twins were born.
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Post by Yubon Peatlejuice on Apr 25, 2016 23:34:08 GMT
Boo fucking hoo. These fuckwits should get $0
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Post by ~Sherri~ on Apr 26, 2016 0:32:02 GMT
They seem like a sweet family! And the pictures are adorable!! If I had any extra cash, I would love to help them. I wish them the best of luck!! DH and I wanted a big family but God had other plans. We were blessed with two daughters and now have two awesome grand children to spoil with tons of love!!
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Post by melanell on Apr 26, 2016 1:27:11 GMT
I believe he was, at least up to the 6 mos one. they hadn't hit the year one when they found out she was pregnant. I'm not 100% sure tho. According to your story, baby 4 was about s year old when 5 was born?? The OP said baby 4 was about a year when she became pregnant (or possibly when she found out she was pregnant) with #5.
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Post by melanell on Apr 26, 2016 1:31:48 GMT
When I was pregnant with daughter, I met up with a woman who was pregnant with twins at the doctors. She was 45/46, her husband was 56. Second marriage for both. All children out of the house. Both had been "fixed". They were in counseling. The doctor said these were children who really wanted to be born. Unfortunately the couple got divorced around the time the twins were born. What a shock that must have been.
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Post by psoccer on Apr 26, 2016 2:32:29 GMT
I thought it was a sweet story. There is a lot of energy in the family. People can create a GoFund for pretty much anything, and people don't have to contribute, or call them names. They did what they perceived the responsible thing to prevent future pregnancies. People may have offered to help, and they felt this might be the best way for them. I wish them the best, it seems like they are smiling through it all.
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 26, 2016 2:57:20 GMT
Perhaps it's time for separate beds? I wouldn't fund this, but I wish them the best.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Apr 26, 2016 6:20:47 GMT
Jeez. The things people expect others to pay for.
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Post by grinningcat on Apr 26, 2016 11:10:07 GMT
I thought it was a sweet story. There is a lot of energy in the family. People can create a GoFund for pretty much anything, and people don't have to contribute, or call them names. They did what they perceived the responsible thing to prevent future pregnancies. People may have offered to help, and they felt this might be the best way for them. I wish them the best, it seems like they are smiling through it all. Yes, people can definitely create a GoFundMe for anything and this is a prime example. Why on earth would they think that random people would donate money to them? If they want money, earn it. Do something. I just don't like the entitlement that they seem to have over their oops babies.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 11:17:36 GMT
These are things we should never expect anyone else to pay for. What a giant nerve.
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Post by Florida Cindy on Apr 26, 2016 11:31:08 GMT
My paternal Grandmother had 6 kids. 5 boys, 1 girl.
My maternal Grandmother had 8 kids, 6 boys and 2 girls.
How did our Grandparents raise all those kids w/o Go Fund Me in the 1930's and 1940's?
How did our Grandparents raise all those kids w/o help from the government?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 11:53:46 GMT
When I was pregnant with daughter, I met up with a woman who was pregnant with twins at the doctors. She was 45/46, her husband was 56. Second marriage for both. All children out of the house. Both had been "fixed". They were in counseling. The doctor said these were children who really wanted to be born. Unfortunately the couple got divorced around the time the twins were born. Wow, I can't even imagine. I'm around that age, my kid is high school age. I'm not sure how well I would handle starting all over again, I would need counseling too. As for the people in the OP, is anyone else wondering how the heck they had time for sex with 5 little one? I don't have a problem with the gofundme, not something I would donate too, as they had already planned a large family, but if people want to donate that is their business.
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Post by melanell on Apr 26, 2016 12:02:48 GMT
My paternal Grandmother had 6 kids. 5 boys, 1 girl. My maternal Grandmother had 8 kids, 6 boys and 2 girls. How did our Grandparents raise all those kids w/o Go Fund Me in the 1930's and 1940's? How did our Grandparents raise all those kids w/o help from the government? In combing over many old newspapers from these time periods, some of these people did ask for help, and some were given help, even if there is no proof that they asked for it. Some received help from the local government while others received help from people in their church communities or people who belonged to similar organizations that they did. It is not new for people to request help or for it to be given to them. It's just that now there exists a new way in which to ask. As for my own grandparents, I happen to know for a fact that the town in which one set of my grandparents lived, there were food hand-outs during lean times. Anyone could go receive food from the government on certain days. And I know that they did, at least occasionally, take advantage of that. Of course, there was no need to buy car seats or larger vehicles back then, which seems to be the first priority for this family right now. My grandmothers, parents, aunts & uncles walked everywhere in their day to day lives. My grandfathers had cars which were the one and only car in the family, and in both cases they were the only ones to drive. If they took the family anywhere, they just piled them all in. There were no laws saying that they had to limit the number of passengers or provide special seats for them.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Apr 26, 2016 12:35:11 GMT
Seems to me like it's time to become a 2 income family... shoot more like 2 and a part time...
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