Vent- Can't pay to support your kids? Stop procreating

I completely agree with you and it sucks that they get away with paying $50-$250 per month if they pay at all. The mother doesn't have the choice of only giving $50 to her child's care (or father, I know a couple dead beat moms)

And pregnant gf should have had her mind on straight and not gotten knocked up by a loser who can't afford his current kids. No sympathy yo that woman from me.

This applied just as much to women as it does men. If you can't afford to take care of a child, please try very hard to not get pregnant.

Agreed! I am living it, and this is a dead beat mom not dad. She has 3 kids, 2 do not live with her, the third one will probably end up with someone else eventually. We have #2, all kids have different dads. Sad in SOOOO many ways.

I have a friend who will be 30 in a few years and just recently got his first steady girlfriend. He has bounced around between his mom's and grandparents' house since I've known him the last 10 years. He held a job for about a month and was let go due to his various excuses for not coming to work. Even though they used protection he found a hole in the condom he used and his girlfriend thinks she might be pregnant. She wants a child (she's early 20's). I was telling him last night he needed to get his education (like he's been talking about) and get a good job before even thinking about having children. I can't wrap my mind around it. Last thing I wanted at that age was a boyfriend without a job

There is a woman from the UK in the papers recently who is looking for a sperm donor, she wants to have a 13th child! She is a single mum on benefits and sees nothing wrong with it I don't know how to make a link to the article.

I totally agree.

That also goes for girlfriend du jour of above named deadbeat, if you can't support a baby, protect yourself. And same goes for mommy of 3 (4, 5, 6) kids by as many baby daddy's, just stop having kids with every guy you date.

Sounds like octo-mom here in the U.S.

Totally agree as well.

I cannot imagine what you see in court, but I can totally agree with you on this vent!!

Where I used to work, I encountered so many grandparents taking care of grandchildren because of this very reason.

I see this in my job ALL the time.  Women who are having a baby with a guy who has numerous babies from other women who he presumably doesn't support.  It kills me that they all seem to think/say that the other women are the b-word but he LOVES me!  Past behavior is definitely an indication of future behavior.

Then you have the women who just keep having babies that they cannot afford to have and don't even seem to want to have them and that breaks my heart, as every baby deserves to be cherished and wanted.  I've decided that while the women don't necessarily want the baby, they don't do anything to NOT get pregnant and usually end up pregnant year after year.  They don't seem to care, as someone is going to be supporting them, usually the state but it doesn't matter so they don't have to worry about it.

It breaks my heart, especially since I see women who are losing much wanted and beloved babies and they've done nothing wrong.   Then you see the women who haven't gotten prenatal care, don't take care of themselves while pregnant, some do drugs, smoke and drink the entire pregnancy and they end up with a full-term, healthy baby.

Smh.

Totally agree--I feel bad for the people that did the right things and then fell on hard times. Welfare is supposed to be a hand up not a hand out. If there were not innocent children involved I would say-when you go on benefits we will pay for the kids you have now, but no more. My Step sister in law is one of those mothers--she could work but found a doctor that said she had panic disorder (she does not, I lived with a person that had it and they managed to work everyday) and bad knees. With all her benefits she brings in more then my DH who owns his own business, then will have the nerve to ask him for money (thankfully he says no)

In total agreement. One of my friends is fostering a little girl now and just recently went to court when the biological mother attempted to get her daughter back. The so called mother has 2 children by two different men and has no job. She is currently pregnant again and says she's not sure who the father is of the unborn child. Of course the judge ruled against her. The true victim is the 5 year old foster child who loves her foster parents but still says she wants to be with her "mommy."