Tacky Graduation Announcement

oh my.....

Oh, definitely tacky!   (I loooove these posts)

Nope, never heard of that being done before. I'm afraid she's wasted a lot of stamps!

That's pretty ballsy. I'd probably be taking a pass on sending a gift to that graduate after that.

With a sticky note that says: Since it appears to be okay to blatantly ask for money, I do not feel any discomfort in reminding you that a thank you note is expected within four weeks of receipt of this gift. 

Or send it back to them. Empty! Lol

Yes, I would be inclined to put something other then money in that envelope and send it back. Maybe a little note of encouragement and congrats - but no money.

I'd send back a congratulatory note using the stamp. Acknowledging the graduation would be a nice thing to do even without a check.

I have never heard of this though. I wonder if there was a party and the RSVP card wasn't included.

Wow! I'm out of the graduation circuit and hope this isn't normal anywhere. I'd be very tempted to just send a note back.

That's just so weird that I'd be tempted to call cousin and ASK what the envelope is for.




You don't go trolling for congratulations cards, either. It's just plain weird, whatever they're expecting.

Now I need to go back to that "favorite threads" thread and add bad etiquette threads to my list. I forgot how much I love gift/invitation/shower/wedding offenses, too.

You could go ahead and fill out the Thank You for her.

"Dear Aunt GypsyGirl. You are the most wonderful, beautiful, fun to be with, fantastic human being that every walked the face of the earth."

Not bad for the 5 bucks you give her. 

16 cents - graduating in 2016

When I was 17 years old and graduating from high school, it was customary for the seniors to order announcements at the same time that they ordered class rings, memory books, calling cards, etc. I think it was even the same event as ordering our caps and gowns. I placed an order like everyone else, and in the spring when the announcements arrived, I got out my hydrangea address book and my favorite blue fountain pen and embossing seal with my return address to emboss the back flaps of the envelopes and a bottle of perfume so I could spritz the dear things and so on and so forth and so much girlie ceremonial accoutrements.

As I began addressing envelopes, my mother walked past my bedroom door and asked me what I was doing. I said, "Addressing graduation announcements," and she asked to whom I was sending them.

I began rattling off a list of family friends, mentors, church members, aunts & uncles, and adults I liked about town because of music and theatre functions in which I had participated, and my mother's mouth dropped open.

When I finally shut up, she said, "You know, those are only supposed to go to people from whom you expect a gift."

"WHAT?"

"You send graduation announcements to people who you believe will give you a gift on the occasion of your graduating."

"No. No! That's ridiculous!"

"But that's what people perceive. It's a normal social expectation."

So I gaped at her for a minute, and then I cleared off my desk and threw away all those announcements.

I just wanted people I liked to share in my happiness to be finished with high school. (It was a fairly miserable four years, and I just knew college would be more pleasant.) I didn't want, need, or expect gifts. If sending an announcement were tantamount to holding out one's grubby paw and waiting for largesse to drop from the sky, well, then, I wasn't going to send out any announcements. So I didn't.

So, yeah, no - expectant envelope from distant cousin for gift would fall into the "tacky" column for me.