gsquaredmom
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Jun 26, 2014 17:43:22 GMT
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 10, 2016 3:40:32 GMT
You could use it to rsvp no
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Post by JustKim on Jun 10, 2016 4:03:29 GMT
There's a first for everything - and I usually read about them here! If I sent a check in that envelope, I'd most likely include a stamped envelope addressed to myself....for the thank you note! With a sticky note that says: Since it appears to be okay to blatantly ask for money, I do not feel any discomfort in reminding you that a thank you note is expected within four weeks of receipt of this gift. I like this. Add a check for $20.16 - .49 (cost of stamp) but put the stamp on the return thank you card and have it addressed already so she can return to you within the four week time line! Honestly, I can't believe how weird and expected this whole gift receiving has become. I have learn to make sure that when my sons are getting married or having kids that they will NOT do things like this!!
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SweetieBsMom
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Jun 25, 2014 19:55:12 GMT
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jun 10, 2016 11:42:14 GMT
Gift grab or no I'd send a nice note: Congratulations on your accomplishment.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jun 10, 2016 12:02:12 GMT
Would you all REALLY send an envelope back empty or with a snarky note or with trash in it, etc? Those things just seems very mean spirited to do to a young person, tacky invite or not! Melissa No, I wouldn't. I would think it though-but as I opened the card I would shake my head and say a 'bless her momma's heart.'
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scrapbug
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Jun 26, 2014 0:11:46 GMT
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Post by scrapbug on Jun 10, 2016 21:40:14 GMT
I've received a few grad announcements this year with no invitation of any kind, yet I know the reason is to give the graduate money. I think the envelope is a little much, but the expectation isn't any different than a regular grad announcement. I disagree. I don't believe just because someone sends an announcement that they're expecting anything back. I have received many over the years and I know that it's a way of showing off their kids accomplishment and pictures to friends and family and not because they are wanting gifts. An envelope is actually asking for a handout. I wrestled with this over and over with my daughter this year - and probably with my son a few years ago, but I've forgotten what I did about his. I wanted to send announcements and know some of my family and friends would expect it from me, but at the same time I didn't want anyone to feel obligated to send anything, but there are always those who will. I wasn't sure whether to say something on FB to get the word out, no gifts - but then I didn't want anyone to feel bad about not getting one at all, and we weren't about to send out to a ton of ppl, or should I share the announcement on FB, etc. In the end, I just sent 13 announcements to our closest family members, not friends, and just posted pre and post graduation pics of my dd on FB for everyone to see - no announcement.
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Post by scrappersue on Jun 10, 2016 22:26:43 GMT
My daughter received a $20 bill and below it was taped a $10 bill and below that was a $5 and then a $1. I guess it was supposed to represent 2016 ($20 and then $16) She loved it. It took me a second to "get it". I just wrote checks for $20.16
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Post by shaniam on Jun 10, 2016 22:59:46 GMT
I send announcements to more than our closest family and friends. It is just because I am proud though and certainly do not expect any gift or money to be sent.
The envelope is tacky though. I do not understand the sense of entitlement some people have.
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