AmeliaBloomer
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jun 9, 2016 17:18:10 GMT
A ton of cards with 2 dimes, 1 nickel and a penny? What is the significance of that? 16 cents - graduating in 2016 Count again, sister. It's 26 cents! ETA: Oh, I see seasidemermaid beat me to it. (Maybe the two dimes signify the 20 in 2016? But then we're left with only six cents. Somebody help me unravel this 'cause now I HAVE TO know...)
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jun 9, 2016 17:19:45 GMT
That's just crazy. I'm always on the side of - it's not a gift grab to share good news as I genuinely love to hear that someone graduated/is getting married/having a baby - even if it's too far for me to attend the event. I hate when people prove me wrong and really are just trolling for $$
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Post by chirpingcricket on Jun 9, 2016 17:22:52 GMT
A card with with 2 dimes, 1 nickel, and a penny glued to it. My daughter got a ton of cards with this. I don't understand. Why? I mean, did your daughter include a self-addressed, stamped envelope with her announcements? Or were the cards with coins mailed to her at the senders' own accord? I feel as if I'm missing something.
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River
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Post by River on Jun 9, 2016 17:26:28 GMT
I guess I'm that tacky mom. I did the same exact thing only I added a note saying the envelope was for their convenience if they would like to send him a congratulations note since I knew they would be unable to make it. I did this for all his close out of state relatives. He received some very nice letters from his great aunts and yes, a few included a gift card.
My intentions where not for money. His out of state relatives are older and not very mobile, so I wanted to make it easy for them to send him a letter.
I didn't even consider that it would be received as tacky. Oh well, hopefully my family knows we weren't looking for a money grab.
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Post by sunraynnc on Jun 9, 2016 17:43:16 GMT
Better than the evite I got to a double grad party. This was a pool party brunch scheduled at 11 am last Sunday. Guests could bring other guests and we were supposed to bring an appetizer or a dessert.
Really?!?
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 9, 2016 17:47:30 GMT
If you want to then you can buy a regular graduation card and send that card and only the card, ignoring the money grab. I wouldn't send that envelope anywhere but the trash.
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suzastampin
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Post by suzastampin on Jun 9, 2016 17:48:41 GMT
I'd sit down and write her a nice note about how wonderful it is that she will be graduating and heading into the next stage of her life. Wish her good luck and much success, then put it into the stamped envelope and mail it to her.
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Post by mom on Jun 9, 2016 18:00:06 GMT
Id put a random address on it and mail it back either empty or with the classified section stuffed it, with the 'help wanted' ad circled and scribble a note that it was time to get a job.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jun 9, 2016 18:01:46 GMT
16 cents - graduating in 2016 But it's 26 cents total? Then I haven't a clue. Just hoping they couldn't count right, I guess.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jun 9, 2016 18:13:29 GMT
I think you need to send her some glitter.
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Jun 9, 2016 18:32:51 GMT
16 cents - graduating in 2016 Count again, sister. It's 26 cents! ETA: Oh, I see seasidemermaid beat me to it. (Maybe the two dimes signify the 20 in 2016? But then we're left with only six cents. Somebody help me unravel this 'cause now I HAVE TO know...) I thought the same maybe. Then after reading your comment an idea came that probably unravels it. I haven't read the rest of the replies on here, but just incase it hasn't been mentioned yet, I now believe this was from last year's graduation. - 2 dimes is the 20 the penny is the 1 and the nickel is the 5 - 2015. That's the only guess I have. ETA: I guess it would make more sense ( no pun intended )that the graduation was in 2006 though so that's my final answer
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Post by cath4k on Jun 9, 2016 18:42:24 GMT
I dont think that is the norm. Our oldest graduated 2 yrs ago. We sent the school announcement to very close family ( grandparents, great grandparents and aunts and uncles) and then sent the photo announcement with his party info on it to everyone else. that is all I sent. That's what we did last year. Close family got the grad invite plus the party, and everyone else got the party invite. We knew some of the people that live out of town (like another state) probably wouldn't make it but wanted to include them anyway. I've received a few grad announcements this year with no invitation of any kind, yet I know the reason is to give the graduate money. I think the envelope is a little much, but the expectation isn't any different than a regular grad announcement. This is why my daughter did not send graduation announcements for her master's degree. She/we wanted to inform people that she was officially done because she was so happy and we were so proud - but - we didn't want people to think it was a gift grab. I'm so tempted to send stuff like that and include a note that says, "no gifts, please" but that seems tacky too because it is not supposed to be asking for gifts in the first place. It is just that many people think it is a way to ask for gifts.
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Jun 9, 2016 18:45:48 GMT
I guess I'm that tacky mom. I did the same exact thing only I added a note saying the envelope was for their convenience if they would like to send him a congratulations note since I knew they would be unable to make it. I did this for all his close out of state relatives. He received some very nice letters from his great aunts and yes, a few included a gift card. My intentions where not for money. His out of state relatives are older and not very mobile, so I wanted to make it easy for them to send him a letter. I didn't even consider that it would be received as tacky. Oh well, hopefully my family knows we weren't looking for a money grab. I don't see this as tacky at all. An empty envolpe without any insight on what it's for is what I see as tacky.
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Rainbow
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Post by Rainbow on Jun 9, 2016 18:48:36 GMT
We received a high school graduation for DH's cousin's daughter yesterday. Nice school announcement for her school in another state. Picture. Little slip of paper with her future plans. And a stamped envelope addressed to the graduate. We've seen this young lady approximately ten times in her life. DH wasn't particularly close with the cousin. And here she is expecting us to send her money. Ballsy! It wasn't an RSPV like a wedding but just an empty envelope. Am I out of touch with the times and this is the thing to do? So, stick a congratulations letter in the envelope and mail it back.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2016 21:08:31 GMT
Okay.
We didn't send out stamped envelopes.
It is the order of the the coins.
2 dimes= 20 1 penny= 1 1 nickel = 5
My daughter graduated last year, and this was a popular thing for her friends to put in cards. You could do 2 dimes 2 nickels 6 pennies.
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Jun 9, 2016 21:18:41 GMT
graduations aren't a big thing here.... it would never occur to me to mail out anything to anyone that my kid graduated from high school. parents go, usually siblings, maybe an occasional grandparent, if they are local. i would probably give a pic to grandma's... not assuming anyone else would want one. but in this situation, i would be tempted to give her some words of wisdom about working hard, paying her dues and being someone her parents would be proud off. and i like the glitter idea. just to "celebrate".
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Post by librarylady on Jun 9, 2016 21:23:01 GMT
16 cents - graduating in 2016 But it's 26 cents total? Yes, I am wondering also. Why 26 cents?
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 9, 2016 21:25:09 GMT
Now I need to go back to that "favorite threads" thread and add bad etiquette threads to my list. I forgot how much I love gift/invitation/shower/wedding offenses, too. I'm thinking of starting a "Do I have to respond to an RSVP when I don't want to go? I'm annoyed my friend sent me an invite to the class reunion. She knows I don't want to go! I've been quite clear in the past.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jun 9, 2016 21:27:16 GMT
I think it's s great idea and an easy way to send congratulations
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 9, 2016 21:33:22 GMT
Graduations aren't a big thing here. Generally immediate family go out for a meal, and the graduate may get a few cards from close family and friends, and that is it. An empty envelope would be viewed as extremely odd, and would not achieve its desired results.
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Post by melanell on Jun 9, 2016 21:34:20 GMT
This is the first I have ever seen/heard of this.
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Post by berty on Jun 9, 2016 22:12:58 GMT
Better than the evite I got to a double grad party. This was a pool party brunch scheduled at 11 am last Sunday. Guests could bring other guests and we were supposed to bring an appetizer or a dessert. Really?!? You should feel lucky. They could have asked you to bring a main dish or pony up for the catering.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 9, 2016 22:39:03 GMT
I don't see a problem with sending announcements to people. I guess since our family is close and those are the people we would send announcements to, plus a few friends, we know them and how they would interpret it. My cousins that I've only seen a couple of times probably wouldn't get one, although I know my cousin sent my parents one for his child. My mom liked seeing the picture and probably sent 20 bucks or something.
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Jun 9, 2016 23:32:09 GMT
I sent graduation notices out to lots of family and we had big parties (3 daughters) 2 parties each actually. One when they graduated high school and one when they graduated college.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jun 9, 2016 23:39:09 GMT
Got to say ..I myself would appreciate the stamped envelope because I hate going to the PO for stamps.
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Post by smokeynspike on Jun 9, 2016 23:54:24 GMT
While I think it is probably a gift grab on the parents' part for their kid, I would not send something snarky back to hurt the feelings of the graduate. I would doubt she had any, or hardly any, input into the announcements.
Would you all REALLY send an envelope back empty or with a snarky note or with trash in it, etc? Those things just seems very mean spirited to do to a young person, tacky invite or not!
Melissa
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Post by femalebusiness on Jun 10, 2016 0:05:26 GMT
I'd file it in my round file giving it the attention it deserves.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Jun 10, 2016 1:32:31 GMT
Hahaha
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 10, 2016 1:44:37 GMT
I would save the envelope and use it for something else and just put something over the address.
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smcast
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Post by smcast on Jun 10, 2016 3:21:41 GMT
I've never heard of that but would appreciate it since I send a card with money enclosed to all who take the time to invite me to their party.
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