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Post by secondlife on Jul 31, 2016 1:45:48 GMT
You know, I used to just get my DH's hand me down phones whenever he got a new one.
Because I was just a SAHM and didn't need anything fancy.
But you know - I wanted my own phone. That I picked out for myself. Because I am a grownup and I wanted a phone that did the things I wanted it to do.
So I said so. I said I wanted to select my own phone next time and I did. I am carrying an iPhone 6s and I like it very much. When my 2 year time with it is up I will probably upgrade it to whatever big fancy phone they come out with next.
I don't buy my husband phones for gifts - they are phones, we buy them when we need them. So I didn't want mine as a gift either.
I'm not a princess and I am really low maintenance. I just wanted my phone to be mine the same way his phones are always his. So that is my opinion on that.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 31, 2016 1:53:37 GMT
Usually, I just tell him "honey, I just bought my birthday present from you", I always buy my own gifts. I highly endorse the practice for anybody with a gift-impaired husband. And...A FLOWERED TRASH CAN?! Heavens, metaphors abound with that one. Heh. I turned fifty and told my husband what I wanted for a gift. It was an experience (in town). We never went, so I FB'd my travel agent and had her book a trip for two to Universal for 5 days. Way more expensive (and fun).
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Post by miominmio on Jul 31, 2016 5:48:53 GMT
Love your update! Here should be a class for these guys, DH still has far to go! Oh, definitely! I would send DH to a class like that.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 31, 2016 6:10:59 GMT
One of the disadvantages of being a SAHM I'm afraid. We discuss most major purchases, so it's normally not a problem, but this just rubbed me the wrong way. Oh. Hell. No. Do not fall into that mindset. Unless you are laying around eating bonbons & watching Lifetime movies all day while your staff cooks, cleans, raises your children & does your nails, you work just as hard as your husband. Do not let anyone tell you different. Just because you don't get a paycheck does not mean that you are not just as important in contributing to the running of your household as he is. And hey, if you can get that bonbon gig, more power to ya! Oh, and no you are not ungrateful. A gift should be new. To the world. Not just to you. I'll work on it, promise! (The thing is, to some extent I agree with Yubon (on this thread, not the other) and I would love to work again. I have a master of law degree, and not working was never something I even considered. Until it became the only possible option). And I agree, a gift should be new. Unless we are talking about a very valuable antique.
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Post by joelise on Jul 31, 2016 11:41:52 GMT
Just a vent, and I'm definitely going to buy myself something nice . update: DH has seen the error of his ways I'm going to keep the 6+, but if the iPhone 8 gets released next year, I will get one of those. And I will get a very nice necklace as an anniversary gift instead. He is normally a great guy (I wouldn't be married to him if he weren't) but his gift giving skills just suck. At least the phone was better than the (albeit cute with a flower pattern) trash can I once got.I'm pleased you worked it out amicably. Also at the trash can present! Sometimes men just don't have a clue!
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 31, 2016 12:28:02 GMT
OMG - a trash can! We may be married to brothers. I adore my DH, but he is the worst gift giver, too. The year I graduated from college around Mother's Day he told me to just go buy my own gift. I was really upset that he couldn't be bothered, so I bought myself a diamond pendant. He never did that again I like your update. Congratulations on the anniversary!
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