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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 7, 2014 20:05:12 GMT
You know one thing that I just am so weary of seeing and pretty surprised. It might be hard to put into words so I will give a few examples first. Although this isn't limited to Facebook so I am not pegging it all on that but I see it there but also in life in general.
Example: Diffusing some cypress and my house smells divine!
Responses come from friends but no friends that sell Young Living because we can't like her diffusing cypress in her home because we know she uses DoTerra and our YL cypress is incredible and life changing but we can't "like" hers because it isn't ours and not YL.
Example: Grateful my son is having a great week at youth camp and love how God uses our church in his life.
Responses come from church family or other believers but others can't be excited my son is loving life, experiencing healing or feeling loved on or because he isn't part of your denomination you aren't excited because our church might have different beliefs than yours, traditions or style?
I think for me it comes down to do you love your beliefs more, you company, your opinion, product or people? Your lack of being able to celebrate, embrace, encourage or love on, cheer on someone shows the smallness of your heart. God help me to never put my traditions, beliefs, products, what I perceive to be right or my right ahead of people. Let me never be stingy in kindness or the ability to accept people for who they are. Diversity it is the beauty in this world. I am at times stretched by some things......but stretch for crying out loud. It isn't going to kill you. You just don't seem like you have much life in your without it.
We are all made different. We aren't suppose to be the same. There isn't ONE right way.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 7, 2014 20:15:27 GMT
"Your lack of being able to celebrate, embrace, encourage or love on, cheer on someone shows the smallness of your heart."
Ugh, I know just what you mean by this. Some people have to rain on every parade.
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Post by sharlag on Aug 7, 2014 20:44:20 GMT
I agree with you. But I don't think I pay enough attention to note who is liking or responding to my Facebook posts, and how that might relate to their various affiliations.
How did you come to realize this specificity in your Facebook connections?
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Post by donna on Aug 7, 2014 20:44:18 GMT
Some people are just poo poo heads.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 7, 2014 20:51:19 GMT
Some people are just poo poo heads. Yup.
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Post by marmargirl on Aug 7, 2014 20:51:28 GMT
Some people are just poo poo heads. This. I know it's frustrating but some people are petty. Just try not to let them get the best of you.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 21:01:14 GMT
I totally agree with you on the inability to just be happy for someone else.
When I posted a photo of new furniture that I had waited several years to get and worked diligently to find at a good price...someone Said something like "must be nice to have money to blow on furniture".
Get over yourself and be happy that good things happen to your friends, family etc. Dont make it about you. Just choose to be nice.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 7, 2014 21:03:30 GMT
I'm not sure I have ever noticed that on my Facebook except maybe when it comes to political issues and politicians
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 21:07:43 GMT
So, are people just not responding or are they leaving mean comments that lead you to believe they value other things more? I don't respond to 99% of things on my Facebook, I just scroll on by. Doesn't in my opinion mean a thing about my values or that I can't be happy for other people.
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Post by melanell on Aug 7, 2014 21:09:16 GMT
God help me to never put my traditions, beliefs, products, what I perceive to be right or my right ahead of people. Let me never be stingy in kindness or the ability to accept people for who they are. Diversity it is the beauty in this world. I am at times stretched by some things......but stretch for crying out loud. It isn't going to kill you. You just don't seem like you have much life in your without it. We are all made different. We aren't suppose to be the same. There isn't ONE right way.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 7, 2014 21:11:48 GMT
I'm not sure I have ever noticed that on my Facebook except maybe when it comes to political issues and politicians When I read FB vents I always wonder how many FB sins I commit!! I don't like posts that contain any of the marketing items even though I don't sell any myself. I also don't like one of my relatives Jobs Daughter's posts. Not because I'm against them or her, but because that is all she posts about and it feels like she is pushing it on everyone. I also don't like food posts or fish face selfies. I like the things I'm interested in that aren't overkill or the only thing that person talks about.
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Post by melanell on Aug 7, 2014 21:13:06 GMT
When I posted a photo of new furniture that I had waited several years to get and worked diligently to find at a good price...someone Said something like "must be nice to have money to blow on furniture". Ugh. That kind of things rankles me. Did you say "Yes, it really is. It's good to remember how fortunate we are."? Because that's how I've started to handle those type of responses. I've reached the point where I just don't feel that I am required to defend, explain, or otherwise get into the nitty gritty about why or how we decide to spend our own money. (Now, if for some reason I actually owed money to someone, and they saw me buying this and that, I could see asking about it. But since that isn't the case, please spend your money in a way that works for you and let others do the same.)
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 7, 2014 21:23:00 GMT
I hear ya.
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 7, 2014 21:23:19 GMT
When I posted a photo of new furniture that I had waited several years to get and worked diligently to find at a good price...someone Said something like "must be nice to have money to blow on furniture". Ugh. That kind of things rankles me. Did you say "Yes, it really is. It's good to remember how fortunate we are."? Because that's how I've started to handle those type of responses. I've reached the point where I just don't feel that I am required to defend, explain, or otherwise get into the nitty gritty about why or how we decide to spend our own money. (Now, if for some reason I actually owed money to someone, and they saw me buying this and that, I could see asking about it. But since that isn't the case, please spend your money in a way that works for you and let others do the same.) There is a difference between simply not "liking" and posting a negative comment. I don't expect everybody to "like" every post.... But there is no reason to rain on somebody's small celebration!
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Post by wholarmor on Aug 7, 2014 23:00:10 GMT
So are they not "liking" posts, or they are leaving bad comments on them? Because I don't "like" every post that my friends post- especially when I don't agree with them. For example, my friend was very excited for her child to get baptized in the LDS church. Having left the LDS church, I don't share in her excitement, but I wouldn't leave any rude comments about it.
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Post by theboydbunch on Aug 7, 2014 23:03:00 GMT
Some people are just poo poo heads.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 23:11:34 GMT
It can be hard to remember that what we see on our newsfeed may not show up at all on someone else's. So, I'm pretty well set against leaving negative comments but a no-response at all may simply indicate they never saw the post in the first place.
Just because you are on someone's friends list doesn't mean you show up in their newsfeed. Or a short post can end up lost between other people posting meme with large images. Making assumptions about silence can be very dangerous emotionally. You are using no factual data to make a judgement.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 7, 2014 23:14:38 GMT
I forgot to give a shit who "likes" my facebook posts or responds to them.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 7, 2014 23:17:25 GMT
That seems pretty small and petty. I don't remember getting responses like that. I feel like my fb posts are funny and my friends (some family) know me well enough to be funny back or smart asses. That I appreciate. I love to hear that my friends and family are happy. That should be a prerequisite to being a friend. Now family on the other hand, oy.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 7, 2014 23:19:55 GMT
Sharlag-How did you come to realize this specificity in your Facebook connections? Sharing mutual friends and seeing the rave responses between others and if someone talks about a brand outside of theirs no response. No assumptions made it is based on fact over time. I have heard some of their opinions and beliefs about competitors as they are often vocal. I have purchased both brands and just hate that the focus is one a company and not the topic.
Volt-Very true! I don't make assumptions and try not to because I can't fathom what someone else is thinking.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Aug 7, 2014 23:20:16 GMT
I wouldn't rain on your parade, but I don't like every post I see - just ones that I actually, you know, LIKE. I don't tend to like veiled marketing, so if you're selling whatever you're diffusing, I probably wouldn't like that one (although I wouldn't be super annoyed unless that's almost ALL you post about). If you just posted "Grateful my son is having a great week at church camp." I'd probably like that, but not necessarily the way you put it, because the rest of it doesn't really line up with my beliefs. It doesn't offend me exactly, but I don't exactly agree. It's not that I "love my beliefs more" than I love a friend - but we don't have to always agree on everything to be friends. I don't lie about my beliefs to my friends and I wouldn't want them to lie to me about whether they like something or not.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 23:21:44 GMT
"Your lack of being able to celebrate, embrace, encourage or love on, cheer on someone shows the smallness of your heart." Ugh, I know just what you mean by this. Some people have to rain on every parade. That is a great quote!
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 7, 2014 23:23:13 GMT
I wouldn't rain on your parade, but I don't like every post I see - just ones that I actually, you know, LIKE. I don't tend to like veiled marketing, so if you're selling whatever you're diffusing, I probably wouldn't like that one (although I wouldn't be super annoyed unless that's almost ALL you post about). If you just posted "Grateful my son is having a great week at church camp." I'd probably like that, but not necessarily the way you put it, because the rest of it doesn't really line up with my beliefs. It doesn't offend me exactly, but I don't exactly agree. It's not that I "love my beliefs more" than I love a friend - but we don't have to always agree on everything to be friends. I don't lie about my beliefs to my friends and I wouldn't want them to lie to me about whether they like something or not. Yeah, that's kind of how I feel about it. If you post something like, "I really love cheese," I'm not going to like that. I don't care if you like cheese, I don't like that you like cheese, and I don't really have feelings about whether or not you like cheese. I don't know. Seems like a weird thing to get all bajiggedy about.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 23:26:16 GMT
Are you saying if someone posted their teen was having a great time at a camp. Learning, growing, being appreciated for who he is without the trappings of religion and the staff is doing a great job with deprogramming him from Christianity....... you would honestly be able to "like" that status?
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Post by kryssy on Aug 7, 2014 23:30:23 GMT
I guess I don't know how you can interpret an absence of comments as an offense...? How do you know someone is not commenting on a status because of pettiness, vs. not commenting because they're too busy, vs. not commenting because they never even saw the status in their news feed...? (And I know you're just using Facebook as an example, and I do get what you're saying and know that it does happen... But I guess in general, I just try not to assign motives to non-actions. Signed, One Who Comments/Likes Sparingly And It Means Nothing. Really.
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Post by greenlegume on Aug 7, 2014 23:51:56 GMT
I forgot to give a shit who "likes" my facebook posts or responds to them. Keeping score on "likes" is a dangerous game to play. It's like setting yourself up for unnecessary butthurt. Maybe someone didn't see it. Maybe they have no opinion on diffuser oils. Maybe they don't even know what diffuser oils are. Same thing with the church post. Sounds like a lot of the "Seriously, so blessed" syndrome. Lots of people aren't into that. Doesn't make them bad people.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 7, 2014 23:53:28 GMT
Whenever I see the word "butthurt" in a thread, I think of this:
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 7, 2014 23:54:51 GMT
Also, what does it mean to "diffuse some cypress?"
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Post by greenlegume on Aug 7, 2014 23:55:25 GMT
Sock, I like this one too:
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 7, 2014 23:57:21 GMT
I forgot to give a shit who "likes" my facebook posts or responds to them.
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