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Post by jetscat on Aug 8, 2014 18:07:55 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 18:11:04 GMT
I think it is lovely.
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Post by grinningcat on Aug 8, 2014 18:11:17 GMT
I love it. I wish I had written my grandmother's obit more like that instead of the formula that was insisted upon. Granted, I managed to share a lot of that in the eulogy I wrote. I think it's wonderful. What do you not like about it? Or at least, I am getting the feeling you don't like it. I could be wrong.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 18:12:26 GMT
Oh my. That could rival some of the Christmas letters we discuss here annually.
I think it's horribly pretentious.
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Post by lucyg on Aug 8, 2014 18:12:36 GMT
I think it's lovely, too. Do you think there's something wrong with it?
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Post by marysue63 on Aug 8, 2014 18:12:35 GMT
I thought it was lovely! It really captured her spirit and what was important to her. Personally, that is how I would like my obituary to read, celebrating all the wonderful about me as a person.
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Post by beanbuddymom on Aug 8, 2014 18:14:06 GMT
My first thoughts though I feel awful saying it was that it sounds rather pompous. And that it sounds like was written by Martha herself.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 8, 2014 18:14:13 GMT
I think it's nice. It's what her kids wanted the world to know about her and how they wanted to remember her.
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Post by azredhead on Aug 8, 2014 18:16:10 GMT
I thought it was nice as well, I just thought it was odd that they put what she made for dinner, but I guess as she is Martha's sister it wouldn't be surprising.
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Post by Sarah*H on Aug 8, 2014 18:16:21 GMT
I also think it is lovely.
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Post by iluvpink on Aug 8, 2014 18:16:51 GMT
Hmm...I can see how some might think it pretentious but I think it's beautiful and tells a lot about her and the family. Her descendants reading it many many years from now will learn a lot about all of them. I wish I had something like that written by my ancestors. Of course if I had, nobody reading it could say pretentions. Lots of factory workers, brick layers, miners etc lol.
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Post by cakediva on Aug 8, 2014 18:16:59 GMT
My Dad's was somewhat like this. We mentioned his volunteer work with the Knights of Columbus, how long he worked at the place he worked (and that his morning computer messages would be missed by all). We talked about the joy of his life - his grandchildren, and how fun he was to be around. We ended it with "only XXX days until Christmas Pops" - because we called him Pops, and because he would call you at random to tell you how many days there were until Christmas.
When my Papa died (my Mom's dad) we did the same thing.
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Post by beanbuddymom on Aug 8, 2014 18:18:25 GMT
Oh my. That could rival some of the Christmas letters we discuss here annually. I think it's horribly pretentious. Yes the Christmas letters we talk about is also what it sounded like to me as well. I had the unfortunate task of writing my father's obituary. It didn't sound like this at all and he would have come back from the dead to slap me if I had written it like this, He hated pretention of any sort.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Aug 8, 2014 18:18:22 GMT
I like it. I think it really expresses who she was and what she loved.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 18:19:20 GMT
I don't think an obituary is a time to downplay one's accomplishments. While it may come off as a bit pompous or overblown to outsiders, it's clear that her children felt that she had many accomplishments that they wanted her to be remembered for.
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Post by julieb on Aug 8, 2014 18:19:56 GMT
Not horribly, but it definitely is a little pretentious or maybe some unnecessary information, like this -
Who cares?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 18:20:19 GMT
I don't think an obituary is a time to downplay one's accomplishments. While it may come off as a bit pompous or overblown to outsiders, it's clear that her children felt that she had many accomplishments that they wanted her to be remembered for. ANd their own accomplishments, too, by the reading of it.
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Post by valincal on Aug 8, 2014 18:21:39 GMT
I like it. Nice tribute.
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Post by lovetodigi on Aug 8, 2014 18:22:00 GMT
I think that it is nice to see obituaries that are written from the heart rather than the normal pre-cut type. It gives a brief insight to that persons life. I like it.
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Post by Fairlyoddparent on Aug 8, 2014 18:22:26 GMT
I think it's very sweet. I hope my children remember things about me so fondly. If it were written by her, then, yes, it would be considered pretentious. It was written, in love, by her children as a salute to their mother.
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Post by jetscat on Aug 8, 2014 18:24:08 GMT
I loved the part about what she made for the final family meal, but the "Grammy-nominated, polyglot" kind of stuff was over the top and unnecessary IMO.
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Post by shevy on Aug 8, 2014 18:24:05 GMT
I don't think it's pretentious. I think it gives me, the reader who didn't know her, an idea of how she lived and what was important to her. I must prefer this to the sterile formula obits that I often see.
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Post by bc2ca on Aug 8, 2014 18:25:14 GMT
The only line that struck me as odd was the reference to Chris, the polyglot, reading a speech in multiple languages, but I assume that has meaning to the family. What I loved is the image of the whole family gathered together just a couple of days before her stroke.
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 8, 2014 18:26:20 GMT
I do think it is petty to criticize someone's expression of grief and remembrance. In my mind, it is as petty as criticizing outfits worn to a funeral . Jmho
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Post by creativegirl on Aug 8, 2014 18:26:23 GMT
I think it's very nice. I can see what some of you are saying about it seeming a little arrogant- not the description of her, but the descriptions of the children themselves. That said, I take it not as "Look at how great we are!" but rather "Look at what successful and well-rounded children our mom raised, even under such difficult circumstances." I think (or at least I hope!) they meant it as a kudos to her job raising them, not a kudos to themselves.
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Post by lucyg on Aug 8, 2014 18:27:58 GMT
Okay, yes, maybe it talked too much about the kids' accomplishments. That's a minor thing to me. Overall, I still think it's a lovely tribute. How simple would it have been to just write a brief, standard obit? Someone(s) put a lot of work into this and it is mostly about mom.
And to those who think it sounds like a bragging Christmas letter ... that is a very different kind of a thing from an obit. The person being remembered is supposed to be celebrated in an obit.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 8, 2014 18:28:31 GMT
I think it sounds very much like a well off family would live and speak. To them, it's normal. May her spirit live in the hearts of her family forever.
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Post by marimoose on Aug 8, 2014 18:29:09 GMT
I think it is quite nice, pleasant to read. Pretentious to some, to others not. Me, I think it was written so lovingly by her children and I would dope that my family would be able to remember my finer qualities and when and/where I came from than dwell on anything less than pleasant. This is more or less a final tribute to their mom and I think they did well. Too each his own.
As far as Christmas letters, I hate those, again, to each his own but I get one from my Dad each year and if he really wanted me to know the sort of info he includes then maybe he should pick up the phone and talk to me. That is my issue with those kinds of letters. If I don't have enough connection for us to reach out to each other then I probably don't have any real interest in what is in the letter. Not intended to be snarky, just honest.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 18:30:01 GMT
I don't mind it, but think the obituary should be all about the person. I don't see the need to write what her kids or husband did as a profession. Not a big deal either way.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Aug 8, 2014 18:30:46 GMT
"Two nights before her stroke, Laura prepared dinner for her husband, three children and two sons-in-law. Lamb kebabs marinated in yogurt and mint; and, for desert, a lemon-blueberry cream pie."
I like how they worked in that her son is a Grammy-nominated musician and scholar of Middle Eastern studies who speaks three languages, but they still misspelled dessert.
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