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Post by peasful1 on Aug 19, 2014 6:35:17 GMT
Yes, and truth be told, my husband would be a better care giver than me. In that way, he's a much better nurturer.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 19, 2014 10:21:28 GMT
I have and could again. DH maybe, maybe not. It would really depend but he does have a fast fag reflex and changing bandages in major surgery is questionable. I know he wouldn't pay for it though, so he'd either deal, make my kids do it, or beg my friends. Or he'd expect me to do it myself if it was where I could reach.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 19, 2014 10:36:19 GMT
If I'm being perfectly honest, that's me. I'll care for you and do any care-giving necessary, but you better be doing your part. I am a buck-it-up-get-over-it kind of person. I don't tolerate malingering well. LOL.
My husband would be the same, I'm afraid. We've only had to care for each other through minor stuff thus far, but I have no doubt either of us would step up if we needed to for the big stuff.
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Post by giatocj on Aug 19, 2014 11:00:16 GMT
Yes, and I have. Three years ago after a skydiving accident my SO was laid up for several weeks and I was his care giver. It wasn't always pretty, but you do what you have to do, I know he would do the same for me, should the need ever arise.
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Post by Ramona on Aug 19, 2014 11:48:31 GMT
I have been my husband's caregiver for two separate illness. I doubt he would do anything for me, thankfully, my daughter said she would. She was still living at home and also helped the first time for him.
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Post by Zee on Aug 19, 2014 11:52:13 GMT
Yes, but then I'm a nurse.
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Post by melanell on Aug 19, 2014 11:54:24 GMT
I would hope so, but since I haven't yet been put the test, I cannot say for sure. However my DH was put to the test, and he did very well.
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Post by picotjo on Aug 19, 2014 11:58:30 GMT
I could and have. I took care of my DH after gallbladder surgery and I took care of my DS's gf---who I had only met 3 times before-- in my home for a week after her knee replacement.
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Post by eisforennui on Aug 19, 2014 11:59:31 GMT
unpacking and change bandages on a wound would take some serious gag reflex suppression. i'd HOPE to be able to do it. thankfully i've not been in the situation where i've had to. i'd much rather deal with that than stuff that comes out of either end of a person, though. :/ i've told my mom that i really meant it when i said "no diapers". :/
who can say. i'll find out, i suppose?
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Post by rumplesnat on Aug 19, 2014 12:01:14 GMT
I could for my husband and kids. It would take a lot of soul searching for anyone else!
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Post by lindah on Aug 19, 2014 12:20:53 GMT
Yes, I could. I am an RN & worked in a hospital setting my entire career, tho for the last 20 years, I worked in the NICU.
My dh would take care of me to the best of his ability even tho he has no medical background.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 12:24:10 GMT
My husband never gets squeamish about anything. He'd do a great job.
I had to take care of him for a long time while he was sick -- including flushing and changing ports on his hickman catheter and caring for him when he was mostly paralyzed. It really wasn't an issue -- I had no choice and just did it.
You're a very good friend to help them out. You're the kind of person they can clearly depend upon.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 12:39:13 GMT
Yes, but I'm a Surgical Technologist, so that sort of stuff doesn't bother me at all. You're very nice to help your friends in this way!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 19, 2014 12:44:46 GMT
My DH is a nurse and EMT so I know he would take excellent care of me. I would definitely give it my best to care for him or my kids should something happen. But I'm not entirely sure I would be able to handle certain things. Hopefully, I never have to.
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Post by whipea on Aug 19, 2014 12:47:49 GMT
No. Not the nurturing caring medical type. I would have to gather resources and hire a professional.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 12:48:37 GMT
I hope I could since I've been an RN for 21 years, 10 of it spent in critical care where you never know what you're going to get.
My SO on the other hand, not so much. He's all ready told me that he can't handle the sight of blood so I'd probably have to count on my nurse friends to help me if anything ever happened.
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Post by leannec on Aug 19, 2014 12:53:25 GMT
I could do it if need be but dh is definitely in the "man cold" camp so I don't even want to know what his behaviour would be like if he had major surgery I've had a few surgeries, including those with large incisions ... I was luckily able to take care of those myself When my mum had two separate foot surgeries she stayed here at my place so that I could take care of her ... you just do what you have to do ...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 12:55:14 GMT
My DH could do it, I'm sure. Our preemie son came home from the hospital with a g-tube after 10 weeks in the hospital. DH practically shoved me out of the way to take care of the baby. If the tube came out and stomach contents went everywhere, he didn't bat an eyelash. He just cleaned it up and went on.
Me, on the other hand. I hope I never have to find out! My saving grace is that my BFF is a nurse, as well as several other close friends. I think I'm the only non-medical person amongst us. I know I could count on them to help if necessary.
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Post by not2peased on Aug 19, 2014 12:58:13 GMT
Yes, I could-I cared for my son after surgery and his wound was horrifying to look at. even the home care nurses were taken aback about how gross it was, lol
they showed me what to do and I did it
I doubt my s/o could do it-he's very squeamish
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 19, 2014 12:59:35 GMT
I can and have. I cared for DH after his kidney removal and lung surgeries. I am doubtful he could do the same. He'd be able to handle meals, etc, but I don't think he could do wound care.
You are wonderful to help your friends.
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Post by scrappert on Aug 19, 2014 13:14:30 GMT
Yes, I would be able to take care of a loved one for a long period of time.
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Post by ChicagoKTS on Aug 19, 2014 13:38:29 GMT
Well, I know I would be a better patient than my husband. I was raised by a mom with a "suck it up and get over it" attitude. He was raised by a mom with a "take to your bed for a couple of weeks with a hang nail attitude". I push through any illness while he wallows. I think those attitudes would be the same in our care giving. I would expect him to suck it up and just get better FAST and he would allow me to linger forever and continue to show sympathy. As for dealing with potentially yucky stuff. . . I think that might be a toss-up. I can usually do what I have to do and so does he. Except if he starts to vomit, then all bets are off. That is one thing I can not handle. I end-up right next to the person.
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Post by doxielady on Aug 19, 2014 13:45:37 GMT
DH and I have both been through this and fortunately - we can both handle it.
DH has had to care for me after many major surgeries and he doesn't bat an eyelash. He takes it all in stride. Blood, dressing, shots - none of it bothers him. He's a woodworker and has had a few accidents that have been pretty bloody that I have needed to assist with. So we have both been put to the test.
We are also both "suck it up and deal with it" types, so we don't linger or play sick for the attention.
Now - caring for a friend or neighbor might be different. That takes a special kind of caring to be able to assist.
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 19, 2014 13:55:29 GMT
Absolutely not. Dh had a blood blister under a fingernail one time that he was trying to pop, thru the nail. By time it was over he was on one side of the kitchen island and I was on the other, both flat on the floor trying to keep from passing out.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Aug 19, 2014 14:05:53 GMT
I too have a horrific gag reflex. I mean, I vomit so frequently from ridiculous stuff that it isn't even funny. But when my DS had appendicitis and then developed an abscess at the wound site that had to remain open, I seriously had no problem doing it. Now, this wound didn't smell and wasn't oozy or anything so that may have made a difference. I would definitely care for my DH at home asking for help if I needed it.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Aug 19, 2014 14:10:33 GMT
I can handle most things and have. My weakness is feces and vomit. I have to do a lot of talking to myself to get it cleaned up, lol but I managed.
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Post by Gravity on Aug 19, 2014 14:17:46 GMT
I am a RN so I could do it. However, I've spent my entire career in the NICU. That said, I had rather deal with the nastiest wound ever than deal with poop from an adult.
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Post by raindancer on Aug 19, 2014 14:25:52 GMT
I have many times, but I can empathize, I have a fear of vomit. Like a phobia. It makes me panic. So you can imagine that a dh with Crohn's disease who gets abdominal blockages is hard for me.
But it's what you do. It sucks. It's hard. But you puke and move on. (meaning I'm a joiner, and your friend should gag, be sick and get on with it. That's what you do). But I think it's nice you help them, my mom often comes and sits with me when my dh is sick and helps him if she is there so I can have the mental break (and physical too!). It can be really draining emotionally.
My DH worked in an ER and was in the military. Nothing phases him. He would be amazing.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 19, 2014 14:34:31 GMT
I'd like to think my instinct to care for my family would kick in and I could do it, but who knows. A few weeks ago my kid got his ear pierced and the big dummy tried to change earrings the next day. Of course, he couldn't get the thing thru the hole. Seeing that earring poke around the back of his lobe gave me the heebie jeebies. Good thing my friend was over and she handled it.
She's probably who I'll end up calling if I ever need care, lol. My husband wouldn't physically be here to help me much and has passed out at the sight of needles before, so I'm not thinking he'd be much help.
I've had friends who've had to help their spouses recover at home, so it is something I've though about. Don't know what we'll actually do should it come down to something like that.
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Post by caro on Aug 19, 2014 15:01:34 GMT
Yes I could take care of my DH and family members. It's not easy but I could do it.
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