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Post by jenjie on May 16, 2018 18:40:36 GMT
Check and see if there might be a private investigator in your area who would help. We recently had a woman go missing in my area and a local PI took on the case pro-bono to find her. The PI was able to find the woman (tragically no longer living) within days of taking the case when law enforcement had been involved for nearly a month with no success. I sincerely hope this gentleman gets justice for all that's happened to him - thank you for stepping in to help. My heart just breaks over the whole situation. Quoting you again, sorry! I had a light bulb moment and remembered that I know a bail bondsman…so i called him and asked him if he could point me in the right direction. He is already looking for her (because finding people is what he does!) and not charging us anything! He is a veteran as well and is pissed! thanks again! Wonderful!! |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on May 16, 2018 19:15:00 GMT
Each time I check for an update, that their infuriated me even more!
I’m so pissed !
Please—-ANYTHING that I could possibly do—pm me!
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Post by gailoh on May 16, 2018 19:28:04 GMT
damn hope she gets caught...what a horrible thing to do to your own father ...let alone her two small children with her...hugs
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Post by anniefb on May 16, 2018 19:57:53 GMT
There really are no words to express my disgust and contempt for that woman. Thank you for looking out for the kids and the old man. That ^^ |
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Post by genny on May 16, 2018 20:24:05 GMT
Y'all are so great, thank you!
I talked with financial crimes officer today - she has asked for info i can only get from the VA, so I have to take Pops back down there to get what she asked for (she said VA can supply login in reports for benefits showing dates/times/IP addresses). She also wants the routing numbers and account numbers for the texas banks, but didn't have it here with me, that's at his apartment. But she said that they ARE actively looking for her and that every time they get a lead she bounces to another house. She's homeless basically and sleeping wherever anyone will let her and her POS boyfriend and those babies stay.
She has also asked for copies of all the stuff on his credit report so she can go directly to the original creditor and get details on what she bought, see if there is still security footage, etc. She will start a new report on every instance of fraud or theft since the original report was made.
While I have very few answers still, I am feeling so much better than I am at least making progress in a forward direction for him rather than sitting here waiting to see what she's going to do next.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on May 16, 2018 20:56:16 GMT
Y'all are so great, thank you! I talked with financial crimes officer today - she has asked for info i can only get from the VA, so I have to take Pops back down there to get what she asked for (she said VA can supply login in reports for benefits showing dates/times/IP addresses). She also wants the routing numbers and account numbers for the texas banks, but didn't have it here with me, that's at his apartment. But she said that they ARE actively looking for her and that every time they get a lead she bounces to another house. She's homeless basically and sleeping wherever anyone will let her and her POS boyfriend and those babies stay. She has also asked for copies of all the stuff on his credit report so she can go directly to the original creditor and get details on what she bought, see if there is still security footage, etc. She will start a new report on every instance of fraud or theft since the original report was made. While I have very few answers still, I am feeling so much better than I am at least making progress in a forward direction for him rather than sitting here waiting to see what she's going to do next. YOU ARE AWESOME!!! |
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Post by candleangie on May 26, 2018 17:11:56 GMT
Hey, just wondering if there’s been any news on you friend? He’s been on my mind today
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Post by inkedup on May 26, 2018 18:33:10 GMT
What an infuriating and heartbreaking situation. Bless you for working with these kids to help their grandpa, and all while you are holding down your job and personal responsibilities. If there is any type of grunt work required that can be done by anyone else, I would be 100% willing to make phone calls, do online research and write you a synopsis, or anything else to assist you in this. I am so disgusted and pissed off by this woman. I’m retired, so I could take on whatever you needed to support you in this. I’m sure I’m not the only one here that would be willing to help. I Imagine you could put the peas to the task to assist you on any research you needed. I love the Peas ❤ |
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Post by pmm on May 26, 2018 19:14:26 GMT
I have a question. I'm wondering how he never took his meds. If he had 3 surgeries, there would have been lots of pre-op information and he would have told his doctor he wasn't taking the meds and the doctor would have dealt with that (followed up with the pharmacy). While what the daughter did is beyond disgusting, how is it that the doctor isn't negligent for not making sure the patient was getting the medication that he needed? I erased my answer. I really need to look further down on these long threads. It was already answered much more eloquently than I answered it. |
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Post by mikklynn on May 27, 2018 12:50:11 GMT
Hey, just wondering if there’s been any news on you friend? He’s been on my mind today Me, too. |
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Post by katlaw on May 27, 2018 15:08:39 GMT
Thank you for helping him out. This makes me sick.
My cousin moved my uncle into a nursing home and never came to visit him. My DH and I went to visit him one day and the manager asked my DH if he could talk to him. He asked my DH if we had a way of getting in touch with my cousin, turns out his first months rent was paid and the rest of them were coming back insufficient funds.
DH and I called the bank and made an appointment with my uncle there to see what was going on with his accounts. He had put my cousin on to the accounts and was stealing all of his money. She was withdrawing his pension money the day it showed up in the account.
Looking back at the years prior to the nursing home, when he was living in his own apartment there were constant debit card charges at Wal-Mart, KFC, McDonalds, nail salons, hair salons, the gas station - all her using his money.
We changed his account and were able to divert all his money coming in to that new account.
We never heard from my cousin again. It broke my heart that my uncle died always wondering what he did to make her stop visiting him and make her stop bringing his grandchildren to visit him.
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Post by scrappinmama on May 27, 2018 18:19:20 GMT
How awful! I can't believe how ugly people can be. God bless you for stepping in and helping. I hope they catch the daughter!
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Post by mollycoddle on May 27, 2018 20:46:20 GMT
Thank you for helping him out. This makes me sick. My cousin moved my uncle into a nursing home and never came to visit him. My DH and I went to visit him one day and the manager asked my DH if he could talk to him. He asked my DH if we had a way of getting in touch with my cousin, turns out his first months rent was paid and the rest of them were coming back insufficient funds. DH and I called the bank and made an appointment with my uncle there to see what was going on with his accounts. He had put my cousin on to the accounts and was stealing all of his money. She was withdrawing his pension money the day it showed up in the account. Looking back at the years prior to the nursing home, when he was living in his own apartment there were constant debit card charges at Wal-Mart, KFC, McDonalds, nail salons, hair salons, the gas station - all her using his money. We changed his account and were able to divert all his money coming in to that new account. We never heard from my cousin again. It broke my heart that my uncle died always wondering what he did to make her stop visiting him and make her stop bringing his grandchildren to visit him. How terrible. I should not be shocked by these stories, but I always am. When my parents were in a nursing home-close to me-I was there all of the time. There were people whose relatives never visited, and the nurses told me that they had to call some families to ask them to buy new clothes for residents. We donated all of my mom’s things when she died, because even though it was a very nice place, there were people who had very few clothes. Ugh, I’m getting angry just thinking about it. |
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Post by katlaw on May 28, 2018 1:34:56 GMT
How terrible. I should not be shocked by these stories, but I always am. When my parents were in a nursing home-close to me-I was there all of the time. There were people whose relatives never visited, and the nurses told me that they had to call some families to ask them to buy new clothes for residents. We donated all of my mom’s things when she died, because even though it was a very nice place, there were people who had very few clothes. Ugh, I’m getting angry just thinking about it. Me too. It breaks my heart. Years ago my grandmother was in a nursing home and her roommate got up every day and did her hair, got dressed in nice clothes and put on a bit of lipstick. Just in case today was the day her daughter came to take her out for lunch. And it never happened. I agree with you, I get angry at how people can just throw away family. |
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Post by genny on May 29, 2018 15:55:23 GMT
Thank you for helping him out. This makes me sick. My cousin moved my uncle into a nursing home and never came to visit him. My DH and I went to visit him one day and the manager asked my DH if he could talk to him. He asked my DH if we had a way of getting in touch with my cousin, turns out his first months rent was paid and the rest of them were coming back insufficient funds. DH and I called the bank and made an appointment with my uncle there to see what was going on with his accounts. He had put my cousin on to the accounts and was stealing all of his money. She was withdrawing his pension money the day it showed up in the account. Looking back at the years prior to the nursing home, when he was living in his own apartment there were constant debit card charges at Wal-Mart, KFC, McDonalds, nail salons, hair salons, the gas station - all her using his money. We changed his account and were able to divert all his money coming in to that new account. We never heard from my cousin again. It broke my heart that my uncle died always wondering what he did to make her stop visiting him and make her stop bringing his grandchildren to visit him. That is so sad! Pops is in the same boat, he just doesn't understand. But he is so ready for her to be caught so she has to answer for all of it. |
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Post by genny on May 29, 2018 15:55:58 GMT
How terrible. I should not be shocked by these stories, but I always am. When my parents were in a nursing home-close to me-I was there all of the time. There were people whose relatives never visited, and the nurses told me that they had to call some families to ask them to buy new clothes for residents. We donated all of my mom’s things when she died, because even though it was a very nice place, there were people who had very few clothes. Ugh, I’m getting angry just thinking about it. Me too. It breaks my heart. Years ago my grandmother was in a nursing home and her roommate got up every day and did her hair, got dressed in nice clothes and put on a bit of lipstick. Just in case today was the day her daughter came to take her out for lunch. And it never happened. I agree with you, I get angry at how people can just throw away family. Both of these stories break my heart. I just don't understand! |
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Post by genny on May 29, 2018 16:08:18 GMT
Hey, just wondering if there’s been any news on you friend? He’s been on my mind today Nothing new to report unfortunately. I can't remember if I told y'all that we heard she was in Texas (where the last bank account was that the VA money was going in to). One of her baby's daddy told one of the grandkids that he knew she was in Texas but didn't know where. We let the police and the investigator know, but the address we had for her friend in Texas is a mail center so we didn't have an actual physical address to give them. I haven't heard an update from either the police or the PI since last week, and there was nothing new then. It's so frustrating that someone could so easily get away with this kind of thing. And as large as the dollar amount it, it's clearly not big enough for anybody to do anything more than wait for her to surface. The next VA check gets deposited Friday into the new account and she no longer has access to E Benefits so she can change it…if she doesn't know that she's been caught on to yet, she will soon and I'm afraid she's just going to dig deeper. She literally is using like 10 different aliases that the police know about. I just can't imagine a life like that - always hiding, always scheming. I will definitely update when I have something newsworthy! For now I think I've done all I can do while things go through the motions (credit disputes, etc). He is well though, all things considered. He is healthy (as he can be given all his medical problems) and very happy with his grandson there with him. He's even been talking about if there is anyway that he can get custody of the younger grandkids when she gets caught. He's got books and a toy for the 5 year olds' birthday coming up all ready to give him if he ever sees him again. I can't tell you how much I've come to love this sweet man and I am praying she gets caught so he gets some justice. And thank you guys for thinking of him! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2018 18:58:53 GMT
Any updates?
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Post by candleangie on Jun 20, 2019 1:59:04 GMT
Hey genny I know this was a year ago....I was just curious if it ever got resolved. Did they ever find her? |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 20, 2019 5:12:15 GMT
What a piece of shit. Well done for getting on the case.
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Post by Why on Jun 20, 2019 7:43:17 GMT
That women must have been heavily into drugs to think she was going to get away with this level of deceit forever.  Hope she was caught and the younger kids are safe. You are a gift to this family. |
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Post by dizzycheermom on Jun 20, 2019 16:54:39 GMT
Bumping this to first page to hopefully get an update!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 20, 2019 18:11:20 GMT
genny any news? How is 'pops' doing?
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Post by catck on Jun 20, 2019 18:59:22 GMT
If you need an alibi....... what an awful person she is, hope she gets everything coming to her and more.
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Post by theshyone on Jun 21, 2019 8:32:57 GMT
I read the whole thread too, not realizing it was from 2018, now I am invested and want to know the outcome.
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Post by genny on Jun 21, 2019 13:09:15 GMT
Wow, I was shocked to see this back up from a year ago!
Bad news - she has still not been caught. In March of this year it was all on my mind more than usual and I got to looking on Facebook again. She has 2 or 3 pages, but they are all inactive. I looked up her boyfriend and there was a recent picture of him holding the youngest child and it was tagged in a city in Alabama. I took a screen shot and emailed it to the detective. She called me almost immediately and basically said your timing is insane, I was going to call you today- SHE'S BACK HERE. A local liquor store called the police on a bad check, the cops came out and he had video showing her face and the car she was in. At this point several days had passed though. I was not given the tag number, but was given the color and and make of the car and a general idea of the year. We started driving around sketchy parts of town where she was known to hang out and where her dealers were and never saw her. She's been quiet since.
After this initial post when I gave the info to our local PD about where we thought she was in texas, they did contact the police in that city. They were able to secure video surveillance of her at an ATM withdrawing money from the account where she had routed his VA funds, but the video was a couple of days old. She still manages to stay a step ahead.
We were initially able to recover a small amount of the money from the bank that she had stolen by using his debit card - they will only go back 60 days with disputes of this type. The large initial check that he got from VA (approx $16k) was not included in that because it fell just outside of the 60 day window. There has been no recovery of the additional thousands in the VA deposits and I don't think at this point he'll ever see it. It's disheartening to think that someone can get away with so much. I mean, if you are smart enough to get away with this kind of shit why not do some good with that kind of smarts (and critical thinking I guess?).
As far as he goes, unfortunately his health is not the best. He's been hospitalized 3 times in the last 2 months or so. Issues with his heart, a wound that wasn't healing and had become infected, intestinal problems. He is pushing the kids to let him move to an assisted living facility. He has a nurse that comes daily now to help him bathe and he's started becoming incontinent. What is the hardest for him is when his grandson (who still stays with him) and his granddaughter (who lives in the apartment next door) are at work. He has started getting very anxious and a little paranoid. He'll call G at work and ask him to please please come home. It's really sad. The kids don't want him to go to assisted living - they are all very close and they want to take care of him. But you know, they just simply can't be there 24/7 and they are starting to see that he is probably right.
Thanks for checking in on him you guys! you better believe the day she gets caught I will let you all know. I am looking forward to the day I can sit in the courtroom and watch her face what she's done. The detective told me she's facing something like 125 years and $100,000 in fines.
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Post by Anita on Jun 21, 2019 14:04:35 GMT
I'm so sorry that POS still hasn't been caught. The whole story is so heartbreaking. I hope someday she is served some justice.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 21, 2019 16:59:57 GMT
I am praying for justice.
The kids need to let grandpa go to assisted living, but I am sure you know that. He might be happier there, with other people around him during the day.
I still admire you so much for all you have done.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 17:09:29 GMT
They need to let him go to assisted living so they can enjoy his days as a family.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jun 21, 2019 17:17:37 GMT
I think if he wants to go to assisted living he should be able to go to assisted living, he won't be alone all day long. However (having just gone thru this with my Dad), he may not be a candidate for assisted living with the loss of both legs. My Dad's assisted living had a threshold of independence he needed to maintain in order to be there. He had lost one leg and was still independent enough to be at assisted living. Had he survived his last surgery, he would have gone to a nursing home.
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