S/O of the wedding invite thread - I just have to ask

Generally yes. But only one of our friends has children, they live in Montana so we never got to know them, so there will be no more wedding going for us.

I love them and they make me sentimental. I admire the commitment that the couple has chosen to take and I’m honored to be there and share in their happy day.

ugh. I just wish people would have smaller, simpler, shorter weddings. I encouraged both of my kids in that direction.

I love a good wedding ceremony, Church/beach/park wherever, love seeing the dress, love the vows, the kiss etc. get teary eyed every time.
After that it should be all over, the rest of it I pretty much hate.

For the couple, I'm sure a wedding reception is a lot of fun, after all they know everyone and everything is about them. As a guest I always find it's a weird mix of people, most of whom I don't know and you sit at a table eating average food and trying to talk to people you have nothing in common with.
I've been bored at every single reception I've been to.

So the actual wedding ceremony is a love, everything before and after is a hate (probably too strong a word, but at least boring)

I love weddings

So as mother-of-the- bride coming to the end of the planning of a small wedding in October I can understand why people aren't that fussed about them. 

The ceremony is my favourite part and then I hate the waiting (church for 2.00 but reception not until 6.00) and as someone attending I feel as though I have mingled with enough guests before the reception but no that is still coming. 

Speeches can be so awful, they really only need to be short and sweet. Don't need all the stories from when they were knee high! 

DD's wedding will be our last for awhile until the younger family / friends are of the age to marry. If they marry at all. 

I always hated the waiting around and having to go from church to reception hall. As a result I usually skipped going to the church unless it was a very, very close relationship. My own wedding I arranged have the ceremony at the reception site, had the pictures taken right before the actual wedding and all immediately followed by the reception.

I’m at the point where sadly, I go to more funerals than weddings these days. So when I get a wedding invite, I’m thrilled to be going to something happy.

Same. And I totally agree! 

I voted that they are ok.

I feel like any of the first three fit depending on circumstances. I don’t dislike weddings but most I don’t find extremely enjoyable. They are ok (at my current age. Different when my friends were all getting married for the first time 15-25 years ago). Now I’m going as an aunt or to remarriages or to people I don’t know as well—-a generation removed. I’m also not quite to my friends’ kids’ weddings yet. Getting there though. That might pick up the joy a bit more again.



I’ve also in the last 15 years or so photographed 21 weddings and three receptions as a photographer, so that does change my perception a bit seeing it all from that end helps to take off the shine a bit.

Eh they are okay. I just think they are long, drawn out and ridiculously expensive. That's why I'm glad my DS and his fiancee are having a small destination wedding at a beautiful place. My DD hates being the center of attention so I could totally see her doing the same thing.

I've never been a fan of weddings. Even when I was the bride. I eloped for many reasons. That said, I will attend if it's someone I'm close to and enjoy the day with them.

I hate weddings.

I actually think they’re really harmful to our society and contribute to the high divorce rate. Couples focus on stupid details of the wedding instead of agreeing on things like financial goals, parenting styles, and home maintenance. People don’t understand the difference between planning a wedding and planning a marriage.

This is part of the reason I don’t understand so many pea threads on weddings. People posting about how they don’t know anyone else at their daughter’s coworker’s friend’s sister’s wedding. Well why the hell are you even at that wedding?


I went to my brother’s wedding and my sister’s wedding and the one cousin on my mom’s side. That’s it. I declined cousin invites. I declined all friend invites. My husband was even the best man in a wedding once and I didn’t go.

I hate everything about them. Their patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions, religious overtones that I don’t believe in, the waste of money. It makes me uncomfortable and angry.

I won’t even watch movies or tv shows about weddings.