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Post by patin on Sept 12, 2018 18:26:35 GMT
Our oldest DGD is getting married this weekend I am so excited. I can't wait! I love weddings & receptions!
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Sept 12, 2018 18:36:30 GMT
Coming back to this, I think I am really torn on this.
On one hand, I think I don't LOVE them because they are so all encompassing. In many cases they mean buying and/or preparing clothes, travel, hotels, an hour mass (family is Catholic), a long receiving line, 1-4 hours before dinner, socializing (usually not a big deal but depending on the wedding, it can be awkward or stressful--think family drama), eating (which can be a highlight or a lowlight), listening to often awkward speeches, waiting around and through first dances/dance routines, loud music, getting home late, outside heat exhaustion, etc... Then, add in young kids either there with you or you had to find someone to take them overnight and add in that I am often asked to do backup photography or help with something, etc.... And I work full time in a job that requires outside the work day work, and have responsibilities to my aging parent (was parents), and my kids are busy, etc... It is a big commitment of time and energy.
On the other hand, I don't think I have ever been to an awful wedding. Weird things have happened, sometimes I have felt like a fish out of water, they aren't always my cup of tea style-wise, but even though they are overwhelming, most of the time I am glad I went and had a great time or at least I am happy to celebrate with the couple, Sure they can be productions, but I don't mind some entertainment and seeing how different couples try and make it their own. Weddings can have "patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions, religious overtones that I don’t believe in, the waste of money." But they don't have to be and they are not all the same. No more than every funeral/memorial is the same. Marriage is a social construct that has patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions. Whether you invite that into your union or not, is up to you and what you make it. Same goes for the celebration that surrounds it (if you chose a celebration).
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MaryMary
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Jun 25, 2014 21:56:13 GMT
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Post by MaryMary on Sept 12, 2018 21:58:16 GMT
I enjoy the ceremony. I love the pictures. Beyond that, I feel like they are a huge waste of money and effort. I keep telling my kids I will give them $10K to skip the reception entirely.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 12, 2018 23:31:46 GMT
I enjoy the ceremony. I love the pictures. Beyond that, I feel like they are a huge waste of money and effort. I keep telling my kids I will give them $10K to skip the reception entirely. I think my son is secretly hoping we will do this. He asked me (in high school) which side of the family paid for the honeymoon. My husband and I had a good laugh.
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luckyexwife
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Jun 25, 2014 21:21:08 GMT
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Post by luckyexwife on Sept 13, 2018 0:51:25 GMT
I love weddings. I think the ceremony is beautiful. I love a good party, so I love wedding receptions as well. I love weddings as well! I have been to lots of weddings, and I enjoy the social aspect, the beautiful ceremonies, and the fun receptions. I don't know if I'm just more relaxed and laid back, but I have not been to a wedding where we've had to sit around with nothing to do for hours, or been bored at the reception.
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