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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 14:45:12 GMT
I've been to a few that I've enjoyed. Great venue, people at our table were fun, and the food was good. I want to say that I've declined only two. One was a destination wedding that we couldn't afford to go to and the kids weren't invited anyway. The other was a contractor for the company I worked for.
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Post by leannec on Sept 12, 2018 14:47:12 GMT
They are OK ... I enjoy seeing people I haven't seen in awhile and I love seeing the wedding dress I usually dislike the food and I don't drink so I often find myself as one of the only sober people in the room My feeling is that they are too expensive and that the money could be better spent on a smaller affair and a down payment on a house
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Post by gmcwife1 on Sept 12, 2018 14:49:28 GMT
I’m not really a social person so they are like all other social situations for me ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) I do like the idea of a nice wedding, but I’m not into the socializing part. So I’m a go even though it’s not my thing.
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Post by auntkelly on Sept 12, 2018 14:50:07 GMT
I love weddings. I think the ceremony is beautiful.
I love a good party, so I love wedding receptions as well.
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Post by quiltz on Sept 12, 2018 15:07:34 GMT
I enjoy going to weddings, especially weddings in a church.
I have been fortunate that the weddings that have a time space between ceremony & reception, things are planned & available for guests to do/use.
Sometimes the receptions can be a bit lame, with people talking too much when they speak.
For me, a good wedding is on time, beautiful flowers, good cocktail hour, excellent food and a good dj or band.
I have been to weddings while married and now, as a single. Your attitude can make or break the "experience" of a wedding.
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Post by bc2ca on Sept 12, 2018 15:15:03 GMT
I can't think of a single wedding that I haven't loved - I've been to everything from the backyard DIY to the biggest, fattest Greek wedding extravaganza.
I'm finding the most recent weddings we've attended have been a shift back to less formal, smaller bridal parties and outdoor services with a simple reception at the same venue.
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Post by lisae on Sept 12, 2018 15:27:22 GMT
Once upon a time, I would have said that I wasn't that much of a fan. However, I really enjoy going to weddings now because I find people have gotten more creative. When I was in my 20's, it seemed like every wedding was a copy of the one before it just with slightly different color bridesmaid dresses. Now, there is often a theme and all kinds of different venues, interesting cakes, favors, etc. I don't get invited to that many weddings as we are just in a period where our friends children are either married or not old enough yet but I do enjoy going when I get a chance.
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Post by lucyg on Sept 12, 2018 15:43:14 GMT
I hate weddings. I actually think they’re really harmful to our society and contribute to the high divorce rate. Couples focus on stupid details of the wedding instead of agreeing on things like financial goals, parenting styles, and home maintenance. People don’t understand the difference between planning a wedding and planning a marriage. This is part of the reason I don’t understand so many pea threads on weddings. People posting about how they don’t know anyone else at their daughter’s coworker’s friend’s sister’s wedding. Well why the hell are you even at that wedding? I went to my brother’s wedding and my sister’s wedding and the one cousin on my mom’s side. That’s it. I declined cousin invites. I declined all friend invites. My husband was even the best man in a wedding once and I didn’t go. I hate everything about them. Their patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions, religious overtones that I don’t believe in, the waste of money. It makes me uncomfortable and angry. I won’t even watch movies or tv shows about weddings. Why are you married then? There's a difference between a wedding and a marriage.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 12, 2018 15:46:07 GMT
Why are you married then? There's a difference between a wedding and a marriage. This is true. I assumed she was talking about marriage in general and didn't take the comments as just a commentary on weddings specifically.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 12, 2018 15:48:59 GMT
And lucyg and myshelly there was no judgement from me. I got married in 6 minutes in Vegas so I'm certainly not judging anyone else's beliefs. I have heard the arguments you've made myshelly against the whole idea of marriage so I just assumed that's what you were talking about and then I wondered why you would partake in it.
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Post by Skellinton on Sept 12, 2018 15:56:00 GMT
It depends on the wedding! Some are great; well planned, not too large and overwhelming, decent food, good music. Some are a nightmare; large gap between ceremony and reception with nothing to do, loud and cheesy music, yucky food (I am totally ok with cake only at a reception), drunk and obnoxious guests, etc.
I have been to several lovely weddings I really enjoyed, I have been to several that have been awful.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 12, 2018 16:35:59 GMT
I hate weddings. I actually think they’re really harmful to our society and contribute to the high divorce rate. Couples focus on stupid details of the wedding instead of agreeing on things like financial goals, parenting styles, and home maintenance. People don’t understand the difference between planning a wedding and planning a marriage. This is part of the reason I don’t understand so many pea threads on weddings. People posting about how they don’t know anyone else at their daughter’s coworker’s friend’s sister’s wedding. Well why the hell are you even at that wedding? I went to my brother’s wedding and my sister’s wedding and the one cousin on my mom’s side. That’s it. I declined cousin invites. I declined all friend invites. My husband was even the best man in a wedding once and I didn’t go. I hate everything about them. Their patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions, religious overtones that I don’t believe in, the waste of money. It makes me uncomfortable and angry. I won’t even watch movies or tv shows about weddings. Why are you married then? Because I believe in marriage. I don’t believe in weddings. Perfect example of how many people don’t understand or see the difference. One really has nothing to do with the other.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 12, 2018 16:39:26 GMT
Why are you married then? Because I believe in marriage. I don’t believe in weddings. Perfect example of how many people don’t understand or see the difference. On every really has nothing to do with the other. Again, I'm quite sorry for the misunderstanding.
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Post by busy on Sept 12, 2018 16:40:03 GMT
I enjoy them. I like celebrating people. I guess I've been lucky that I've never been party to a drama-filled crazy bridezilla type wedding. I think weddings are fun.
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Sept 12, 2018 17:04:27 GMT
I generally dislike them but only because they feel very "cookie cutter" to me. Brides typically follow bridal trends (so many strapless dresses even though they are NOT flattering on everyone), same old tired wedding venues with the flower arches and rubber chicken receptions.
Now I love me a funky, original wedding but sadly brides seem to be pressured into trends by bridal consultants. It's like high school all over again with the "all the kids are wearing / doing this" nonsense
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Post by hippypea on Sept 12, 2018 17:16:34 GMT
Um, hello, WEDDING CAKE. Enough said.
Seriously though, the simpler, the better, IMO.
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Post by Zee on Sept 12, 2018 17:25:27 GMT
I hate the wedding, moreso if it's a long or overly religious ceremony where I have to sit through a mass or lecture on what Jesus wants. I love the reception!
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Sept 12, 2018 17:30:52 GMT
nope, not a fan-- not even for family members or friends. (I attended, yeah, because they're family- but still, not a fan.) Weddings / receptions are just not a social occasion that I find even remotely fun, at all. My feeling is that they are too expensive and that the money could be better spent on a smaller affair and a down payment on a house ![:huh:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/6XNh98aNlGG6JLnVAPyQ.jpg) ^^^ yeah, that. Money that could be better spent elsewhere.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 12, 2018 17:32:53 GMT
Because I believe in marriage. I don’t believe in weddings. Perfect example of how many people don’t understand or see the difference. On every really has nothing to do with the other. Again, I'm quite sorry for the misunderstanding. It’s not that I’m offended. It’s that it’s disappointing that more adults in our society can’t think about the difference.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 12, 2018 17:40:39 GMT
Again, I'm quite sorry for the misunderstanding. It’s not that I’m offended. It’s that it’s disappointing that more adults in our society can’t think about the difference. It's not that people can't think about the difference. When Lucy pointed out your meaning, I had no trouble thinking about the difference. And personally, I agree with many things that you said. (I love many weddings, but as a huge majority of my family\friend circle is Catholic, I can say, I would rather gouge my eyes out than attend a Catholic wedding mass). But, as I said, I have heard many of your arguments against weddings specifically ALSO used as reasons to oppose marriage, in general. I just had a discussion with a friend (very religious) about this very topic. It was in the forefront of my mind. Just because someone doesn't get your meaning at first read doesn't mean they are incapable of considering your thoughts. But, hey, if you'd rather chalk me up to one of the ignorant masses...feel free.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Sept 12, 2018 17:40:50 GMT
Again, I'm quite sorry for the misunderstanding. It’s not that I’m offended. It’s that it’s disappointing that more adults in our society can’t think about the difference. I didn't really think about it like that, but I think I have to agree with myshelly. We're not even having a big 'wedding' for our own. It's just going to be the two of us, the officiant, and two witnesses. Even the discussions and process of picking out outfits, choosing the specific place at the forest preserve, talking about whether to have a photographer or not, etc. has stressed both of us out, and it's not even a large event, at all. We wanted to do something 'nicer' than the courthouse, but the 'wedding' details (even this TINY of a ceremony) have, at times, sucked the joy out of the thought of us getting 'married' for me, anyway. Maybe it's different because we're both older, and we've been together for 15 years, but I've NEVER had visions of a big wedding, ever.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 12, 2018 17:47:21 GMT
It’s not that I’m offended. It’s that it’s disappointing that more adults in our society can’t think about the difference. It's not that people can't think about the difference. When Lucy pointed out your meaning, I had no trouble thinking about the difference. And personally, I agree with many things that you said. (I love many weddings, but as a huge majority of my family\friend circle is Catholic, I can say, I would rather gouge my eyes out than attend a Catholic wedding mass). But, as I said, I have heard many of your arguments against weddings specifically ALSO used as reasons to oppose marriage, in general. I just had a discussion with a friend (very religious) about this very topic. It was in the forefront of my mind. Just because someone doesn't get your meaning at first read doesn't mean they are incapable of considering your thoughts. But, hey, if you'd rather chalk me up to one of the ignorant masses...feel free. But you had trouble discerning the meaning of the word wedding versus the meaning of the word marriage until someone pointed it out to you? And you don’t think that’s an issue?
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Post by Zee on Sept 12, 2018 17:53:12 GMT
It's not that people can't think about the difference. When Lucy pointed out your meaning, I had no trouble thinking about the difference. And personally, I agree with many things that you said. (I love many weddings, but as a huge majority of my family\friend circle is Catholic, I can say, I would rather gouge my eyes out than attend a Catholic wedding mass). But, as I said, I have heard many of your arguments against weddings specifically ALSO used as reasons to oppose marriage, in general. I just had a discussion with a friend (very religious) about this very topic. It was in the forefront of my mind. Just because someone doesn't get your meaning at first read doesn't mean they are incapable of considering your thoughts. But, hey, if you'd rather chalk me up to one of the ignorant masses...feel free. But you had trouble discerning the meaning of the word wedding versus the meaning of the word marriage until someone pointed it out to you? And you don’t think that’s an issue? It's not, move on
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Post by myshelly on Sept 12, 2018 17:54:44 GMT
But you had trouble discerning the meaning of the word wedding versus the meaning of the word marriage until someone pointed it out to you? And you don’t think that’s an issue? It's not, move on It is to me. I’m judging.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 12, 2018 17:55:22 GMT
ugh. I just wish people would have smaller, simpler, shorter weddings. I encouraged both of my kids in that direction. Yes, they have turned into Pinterest extravaganzas around here. Do you really need a $100 sign pointing guests to the reception area that is 100 feet from the wedding area? There are only two buildings in the entire forest. I also hate that the wedding starts at one and the reception isn't until 4 or 5 hours later. Then that lasts 3-4 hours and you have pretty much spent your entire day at a wedding. My son and his gf talk about a destination wedding and I could not be more in. Let the hotel's wedding planner do 90% of the work that do every week and give me a beach and a margarita. We'll see if that really happens, but I know it could.
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Post by Zee on Sept 12, 2018 17:55:59 GMT
It is to me. I’m judging. Haha, ok ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 12, 2018 18:00:12 GMT
And lucyg and myshelly there was no judgement from me. I got married in 6 minutes in Vegas so I'm certainly not judging anyone else's beliefs. I have heard the arguments you've made myshelly against the whole idea of marriage so I just assumed that's what you were talking about and then I wondered why you would partake in it. Not planning on doing it a second time, but 6 minutes in Vegas sound like the perfect plan!
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 12, 2018 18:02:23 GMT
So as mother-of-the- bride coming to the end of the planning of a small wedding in October I can understand why people aren't that fussed about them. The ceremony is my favourite part and then I hate the waiting (church for 2.00 but reception not until 6.00) and as someone attending I feel as though I have mingled with enough guests before the reception but no that is still coming. Speeches can be so awful, they really only need to be short and sweet. Don't need all the stories from when they were knee high! DD's wedding will be our last for awhile until the younger family / friends are of the age to marry. If they marry at all. My sons have been writing speeches for each other's weddings since junior high. I am a little worried about them (when the time actually comes).
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 12, 2018 18:03:41 GMT
I am not a fan of weddings. I find them boring, personally expensive and they last way too long. Most of the time seems to be spent waiting around for things to happen. Without fail, I find myself looking for that 'acceptable moment' to make my exit. Yeah, I'm a scrooge. Agreed. The only weddings I have actually found fun are the ones where I am very close to the bride and groom. So, out of the dozens I've attended, that would be two fun weddings lol.
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Post by MorningPerson on Sept 12, 2018 18:18:09 GMT
In general, I really enjoy going to weddings. My favorite part of the whole day that I try to never miss is watching the groom as the bride walks down the aisle toward him. Even when my daughters were the brides and I suppose I should have kept my eyes glued to my daughter walking down the aisle, I couldn't resist catching a glimpse at the emotion in the faces of my sons-in-law.
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