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Post by mom26 on Sept 12, 2018 4:30:06 GMT
I am not a fan of weddings. I find them boring, personally expensive and they last way too long. Most of the time seems to be spent waiting around for things to happen. Without fail, I find myself looking for that 'acceptable moment' to make my exit. Yeah, I'm a scrooge.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 4:39:59 GMT
Generally yes. But only one of our friends has children, they live in Montana so we never got to know them, so there will be no more wedding going for us.
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Post by mom26 on Sept 12, 2018 4:48:50 GMT
Poll responses are interesting so far. Even across the board except for my choice: Hate 'em.
Come on, I can't be the ONLY one who hates weddings!
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 12, 2018 4:55:26 GMT
I love them and they make me sentimental. I admire the commitment that the couple has chosen to take and I’m honored to be there and share in their happy day.
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Post by Why on Sept 12, 2018 5:33:56 GMT
My preferred choice would be "Hate them - but I will attend if family or close friend".
ETA - I voted for the 3rd option.
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Post by lucyg on Sept 12, 2018 5:41:52 GMT
ugh. I just wish people would have smaller, simpler, shorter weddings. I encouraged both of my kids in that direction.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 12, 2018 6:48:25 GMT
I like the social part of Weddings. Meaning the reception. Seeing people I haven't seen in awhile.
I used to love going to Weddings, but not so much anymore. I don't care for the music that's played these days. Last Wedding I attended, I knew two songs. Just not a fan of the current music(I am not even sure what it's called). I had a headache by the time I left.
The waiting, after the ceremony prior to the reception to begin, I don't care for.
If anyone asked, I would decline being in a Wedding(Bridesmaid) these days. Too expensive, between a dress, shoes, hosting a shower, gifts, etc...). Been there, done that. Especially since, at my age(50's), and amongst my circle of people, it would likely be a second or third Wedding anyhow.
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Post by pjaye on Sept 12, 2018 7:18:42 GMT
I love a good wedding ceremony, Church/beach/park wherever, love seeing the dress, love the vows, the kiss etc. get teary eyed every time. After that it should be all over, the rest of it I pretty much hate.
For the couple, I'm sure a wedding reception is a lot of fun, after all they know everyone and everything is about them. As a guest I always find it's a weird mix of people, most of whom I don't know and you sit at a table eating average food and trying to talk to people you have nothing in common with. I've been bored at every single reception I've been to.
So the actual wedding ceremony is a love, everything before and after is a hate (probably too strong a word, but at least boring)
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 12, 2018 7:29:36 GMT
Its the waiting around that gets to me. Most of the waiting is for the photos, at least at the weddings I attended. I like the ceremony part though if it starts on time and is indoors. Something about sitting on folding chairs out in the heat just does not appeal to me.
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Post by dald222 on Sept 12, 2018 7:35:24 GMT
I love weddings
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 12, 2018 7:58:15 GMT
I dislike weddings. I think they are a huge waste of money (which is why I've never bothered to get married). I don't particularly enjoy other people's weddings either. I've been a bridesmaid 5 times in my younger years, and I enjoyed those ones. But these days..... meh. The only thing I look forward to is the food. However I will go to a wedding if I'm invited. Because for some reason other people actually like having them!
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Post by hannahruth on Sept 12, 2018 8:53:23 GMT
So as mother-of-the- bride coming to the end of the planning of a small wedding in October I can understand why people aren't that fussed about them.
The ceremony is my favourite part and then I hate the waiting (church for 2.00 but reception not until 6.00) and as someone attending I feel as though I have mingled with enough guests before the reception but no that is still coming.
Speeches can be so awful, they really only need to be short and sweet. Don't need all the stories from when they were knee high!
DD's wedding will be our last for awhile until the younger family / friends are of the age to marry. If they marry at all.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 10:24:21 GMT
I'm somewhere between hate them and will go if they're family or friends.
I usually only go if I feel like it's an obligation. The last two weddings we attended, we only went because we knew it'd make DH's 92 year old Grandma happy. We were bored the entire time. One ceremony was way too preachy for us. The other reception was way too loud.
Heck the only reason why we had a ceremony was to make his mom and grandparents happy. DH would've been happy with two witnesses and a judge.
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Post by pilcas on Sept 12, 2018 10:38:21 GMT
I always hated the waiting around and having to go from church to reception hall. As a result I usually skipped going to the church unless it was a very, very close relationship. My own wedding I arranged have the ceremony at the reception site, had the pictures taken right before the actual wedding and all immediately followed by the reception.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Sept 12, 2018 10:49:49 GMT
Family weddings are great largely because a good portion of my family are certifiably nuts and the entertainment value endless. Non-family weddings are hit or miss for me and depend largely on who else gets seated at my table at the reception.
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Post by Nink on Sept 12, 2018 10:54:09 GMT
I’m at the point where sadly, I go to more funerals than weddings these days. So when I get a wedding invite, I’m thrilled to be going to something happy.
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Post by peabay on Sept 12, 2018 10:55:48 GMT
Love them!
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Post by peabay on Sept 12, 2018 10:56:20 GMT
I’m at the point where sadly, I go to more funerals than weddings these days. So when I get a wedding invite, I’m thrilled to be going to something happy. Same. And I totally agree!
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Post by purplebee on Sept 12, 2018 11:08:51 GMT
I’m at the point where sadly, I go to more funerals than weddings these days. So when I get a wedding invite, I’m thrilled to be going to something happy. Me too....
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Sept 12, 2018 11:35:33 GMT
I voted that they are ok.
I feel like any of the first three fit depending on circumstances. I don’t dislike weddings but most I don’t find extremely enjoyable. They are ok (at my current age. Different when my friends were all getting married for the first time 15-25 years ago). Now I’m going as an aunt or to remarriages or to people I don’t know as well—-a generation removed. I’m also not quite to my friends’ kids’ weddings yet. Getting there though. That might pick up the joy a bit more again.
I’ve also in the last 15 years or so photographed 21 weddings and three receptions as a photographer, so that does change my perception a bit seeing it all from that end helps to take off the shine a bit.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 12, 2018 12:26:39 GMT
I do enjoy going to weddings! I like the ceremony part and generally always enjoy the reception as well.
My oldest son is getting married this fall. We've actually considered the guests' experience in some of the decisions about locations and timing. We've made a conscious effort to eliminate as much possibility for discomfort as possible.
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Post by mellowyellow on Sept 12, 2018 13:08:56 GMT
Eh they are okay. I just think they are long, drawn out and ridiculously expensive. That's why I'm glad my DS and his fiancee are having a small destination wedding at a beautiful place. My DD hates being the center of attention so I could totally see her doing the same thing.
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Post by just PEAchy on Sept 12, 2018 13:17:26 GMT
I enjoy going to weddings.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 13:23:26 GMT
I don't mind the ceremony but after that, I'd rather just go home. The last wedding we went to there was a four-hour gap between the ceremony and the reception, there was literally nothing to do in that time other than hang around in a large room with nowhere to sit, no drinks or food.
I hate the speeches (cringe), and pretty much all the traditional things that people do at weddings. I try to avoid them as much as I can.
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Post by finsup on Sept 12, 2018 13:38:52 GMT
I love weddings! My nieces/nephews/friends' kids are the ones I get invited to these days and it makes me even more sappy about weddings because I've known them since they were babies. And I love to dance! A couple of my nieces had dry weddings with little or no dancing so that wasn't so fun, but I love them and my family so I still enjoyed.
My son just got married this weekend. So that guests didn't have to wait around they did pics beforehand, and during the pics that were right after the ceremony guests got to enjoy appetizers and free booze with a gorgeous view.
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Post by Anita on Sept 12, 2018 13:39:24 GMT
I've never been a fan of weddings. Even when I was the bride. I eloped for many reasons. That said, I will attend if it's someone I'm close to and enjoy the day with them.
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Post by piebaker on Sept 12, 2018 14:09:36 GMT
I enjoy weddings because I am also at the age where I attend more funerals than happy occasions.
This past year I've been to two weddings, a college graduation and a christening and have thoroughly enjoyed each one. Cherish the good times.
My daughter's wedding last year was joyful for me, mainly because two of her bridesmaids are planners and walked her through every eventuality. Five years ago, I attended an amazing wedding at a Westchester country club that was the "bar" that I will measure all future weddings against. The cocktail hour and the Venetian hour at the end were amazing.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 12, 2018 14:33:22 GMT
I hate weddings.
I actually think they’re really harmful to our society and contribute to the high divorce rate. Couples focus on stupid details of the wedding instead of agreeing on things like financial goals, parenting styles, and home maintenance. People don’t understand the difference between planning a wedding and planning a marriage.
This is part of the reason I don’t understand so many pea threads on weddings. People posting about how they don’t know anyone else at their daughter’s coworker’s friend’s sister’s wedding. Well why the hell are you even at that wedding?
I went to my brother’s wedding and my sister’s wedding and the one cousin on my mom’s side. That’s it. I declined cousin invites. I declined all friend invites. My husband was even the best man in a wedding once and I didn’t go.
I hate everything about them. Their patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions, religious overtones that I don’t believe in, the waste of money. It makes me uncomfortable and angry.
I won’t even watch movies or tv shows about weddings.
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Post by mom on Sept 12, 2018 14:41:53 GMT
I'd rather stay home.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 12, 2018 14:44:19 GMT
I hate weddings. I actually think they’re really harmful to our society and contribute to the high divorce rate. Couples focus on stupid details of the wedding instead of agreeing on things like financial goals, parenting styles, and home maintenance. People don’t understand the difference between planning a wedding and planning a marriage. This is part of the reason I don’t understand so many pea threads on weddings. People posting about how they don’t know anyone else at their daughter’s coworker’s friend’s sister’s wedding. Well why the hell are you even at that wedding? I went to my brother’s wedding and my sister’s wedding and the one cousin on my mom’s side. That’s it. I declined cousin invites. I declined all friend invites. My husband was even the best man in a wedding once and I didn’t go. I hate everything about them. Their patriarchal, sexist roots and traditions, religious overtones that I don’t believe in, the waste of money. It makes me uncomfortable and angry. I won’t even watch movies or tv shows about weddings. Why are you married then?
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