Is it ok to wear white to a wedding

I am from the south and white was considered acceptable if it did not appear bridal. A white sweater dress to a winter wedding would have caused no notice.

My grandfather's wife wore her wedding dress to my wedding.

I tend to think that white is the bride's color, but I'm old fashioned.

Was this the mother of the groom? And was it only the white sweater dress she wore? No other colored jacket, leggings, etc.? How white was the dress?

One of my ushers (who was like a second mother to DH) wore a dark cream/beige dress with a blue sash to our wedding, and I was fine with it. I probably would have been much less fine with it if it had been a purer shade of white and didn't have the colored accessories to go with it. My MIL also wore a solid white top, but had black slacks (and is also from a foreign country where the whole white wedding dress isn't a big thing), so I was okay with that too. Again, I would have been less okay if she'd worn white slacks and no other colors than white.

While I wouldn't consider it earth shattering, I would notice and wonder why someone wore it.

Not ok, at all.

   And if you disregard that iron clad rule, you WILL be talked about for all of eternity!  

The fact that she chose a white vest on top of the white jacket makes me think she was going for the "attention whore" shock value - she could have easily chosen a colored vest instead. This would have been less okay if she was the groom's mother, but since she's just an aunt (and one known for being trouble, at that), I'd just roll my eyes and let it go if I were the bride.

I admit that I would have been pissed if my mom showed up in a white bustier and skirt to my wedding, though. How did her daughter take that?

While I wouldn't do it, wearing white doesn't really bother me, especially with some brides now choosing dresses that are blush, off white, etc. What would bother me more is the style of dress, ie too revealing, flashy, similar in style to bridesmaids, etc.

Does she look that good in white? I have a tendency to think that younger, tanner people look better in white. I didn't even wear white to my own wedding as it clashed with my skin.

I think eyes are on the bride, but since it is SUCH a tradition, it's a little spiteful to wear white.

I didn’t care what people wore to mine, but I myself wouldn’t wear white to a wedding..I really don’t wear white at all to be honest so even if it wasn’t frowned on I wouldn’t wear white. 

WTH is with women wearing wedding dresses to other people's weddings?!
I have never heard of anyone doing that, now several in one thread!

Me too........NO, not upstaging the bride.That dress is fine, although not something I would wear in the winter in the north cold.

Let me just say, almost 60 years ago I can only remember what 3  4 other people wore: I wore white, my mother wore medium blue, my maid of honor wore darkish green, oh and her mom wore a dark print.. My cousin wore a white brocade fitted suit and a red hat, shoes and clutch.

For sure not in the cold, but just an example of white with a pattern.