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Post by mikklynn on Feb 20, 2019 3:00:55 GMT
DH's sister, a known troublemaker in the family, wore a white sweater dress to our nephew's wedding. His bride was not happy about it.
Personally, I thought it was fine.
The wedding was in the south, if that matters.
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Post by mustlovecats on Feb 20, 2019 3:02:28 GMT
I am from the south and white was considered acceptable if it did not appear bridal. A white sweater dress to a winter wedding would have caused no notice.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2019 3:03:44 GMT
DH's sister, a known troublemaker in the family, wore a white sweater dress to our nephew's wedding. His bride was not happy about it. Personally, I thought it was fine. The wedding was in the south, if that matters. In the south, that is one of the unforgivable sins. A white sweater/jacket is barely passable. a white DRESS of any fabric, NO. Not even a sweater.
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 20, 2019 3:05:53 GMT
My grandfather's wife wore her wedding dress to my wedding. I tend to think that white is the bride's color, but I'm old fashioned.
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 20, 2019 3:07:11 GMT
My grandfather's wife wore her wedding dress to my wedding. I tend to think that white is the bride's color, but I'm old fashioned. Holy cow, that is nuts!
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Post by peatlejuice on Feb 20, 2019 3:07:17 GMT
Was this the mother of the groom? And was it only the white sweater dress she wore? No other colored jacket, leggings, etc.? How white was the dress?
One of my ushers (who was like a second mother to DH) wore a dark cream/beige dress with a blue sash to our wedding, and I was fine with it. I probably would have been much less fine with it if it had been a purer shade of white and didn't have the colored accessories to go with it. My MIL also wore a solid white top, but had black slacks (and is also from a foreign country where the whole white wedding dress isn't a big thing), so I was okay with that too. Again, I would have been less okay if she'd worn white slacks and no other colors than white.
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Post by pattyraindrops on Feb 20, 2019 3:13:11 GMT
My answer wasn't there.
In general it is not ok.
I wore a white skirt to my son's wedding. My DIL requested it with a blue/teal top.I questioned her to make sure and she said yes that is what she wanted.
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 20, 2019 3:15:57 GMT
While I wouldn't consider it earth shattering, I would notice and wonder why someone wore it.
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 20, 2019 3:16:12 GMT
Was this the mother of the groom? And was it only the white sweater dress she wore? No other colored jacket, leggings, etc.? How white was the dress? One of my ushers (who was like a second mother to DH) wore a dark cream/beige dress with a blue sash to our wedding, and I was fine with it. I probably would have been much less fine with it if it had been a purer shade of white and didn't have the colored accessories to go with it. My MIL also wore a solid white top, but had black slacks (and is also from a foreign country where the whole white wedding dress isn't a big thing), so I was okay with that too. Again, I would have been less okay if she'd worn white slacks and no other colors than white. Not the mom, an aunt. The dress was all white, with a long white vest, the same knee length as the dress.
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Post by mom on Feb 20, 2019 3:20:05 GMT
Not ok, at all.
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Post by Merge on Feb 20, 2019 3:20:31 GMT
Eh, I wouldn't do it, but I also think the rule is stupid. The bride will be the only one there in a super-fancy white gown. No one is going to "outshine" her by wearing a white sweater dress. What if the bride goes non-traditional and doesn't tell the guests, and wears a blush-colored gown? And I show up in a blush-colored blouse? Am I also upstaging the bride? Or is it just a color? People really need to re-think some of these old traditions. I'm glad the next wedding I'm attending will have two grooms. No worries about "upstaging" anyone with what I wear.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Feb 20, 2019 3:22:48 GMT
DH's sister, a known troublemaker in the family, wore a white sweater dress to our nephew's wedding. His bride was not happy about it. Personally, I thought it was fine. The wedding was in the south, if that matters. In the south, that is one of the unforgivable sins. A white sweater/jacket is barely passable. a white DRESS of any fabric, NO. Not even a sweater. And if you disregard that iron clad rule, you WILL be talked about for all of eternity!
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Post by librarylady on Feb 20, 2019 3:22:52 GMT
My grandfather's wife wore her wedding dress to my wedding.
Yep, I have a cousin who not only wore white to a wedding==she wore HER wedding dress to a wedding! 50 years later we are still wagging our tongues about it.
I must add to the story that the one who did this is qualifies for a SE class person. She was definitely a slow learner, but functioned in society.
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 20, 2019 3:22:59 GMT
Eh, I wouldn't do it, but I also think the rule is stupid. The bride will be the only one there in a super-fancy white gown. No one is going to "outshine" her by wearing a white sweater dress. I forgot to mention, she wore a white bustier and long white skirt to her own DDs wedding.
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Post by padresfan619 on Feb 20, 2019 3:44:15 GMT
This reminds of when my mother in law tried to wear a wedding gown to my wedding. My husband nipped that in the bud, I knew then I was making the right decision to marry him, despite his wacky mom. She wore a different dress.
White is never ok at a wedding unless it is a part of the dress code dictated by the couple.
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Post by peatlejuice on Feb 20, 2019 3:47:41 GMT
Was this the mother of the groom? And was it only the white sweater dress she wore? No other colored jacket, leggings, etc.? How white was the dress? One of my ushers (who was like a second mother to DH) wore a dark cream/beige dress with a blue sash to our wedding, and I was fine with it. I probably would have been much less fine with it if it had been a purer shade of white and didn't have the colored accessories to go with it. My MIL also wore a solid white top, but had black slacks (and is also from a foreign country where the whole white wedding dress isn't a big thing), so I was okay with that too. Again, I would have been less okay if she'd worn white slacks and no other colors than white. Not the mom, an aunt. The dress was all white, with a long white vest, the same knee length as the dress. The fact that she chose a white vest on top of the white jacket makes me think she was going for the "attention whore" shock value - she could have easily chosen a colored vest instead. This would have been less okay if she was the groom's mother, but since she's just an aunt (and one known for being trouble, at that), I'd just roll my eyes and let it go if I were the bride. I admit that I would have been pissed if my mom showed up in a white bustier and skirt to my wedding, though. How did her daughter take that?
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Post by RosieKat on Feb 20, 2019 3:48:53 GMT
As long as the bride is OK with it, then it's fine. Both my grandmother and mother wore "winter white" dresses to my wedding - my mom was hesitant, but it was such a pretty dress on her that I fully supported it. Both of them looked gorgeous and appropriate - the styles were lovely and elegant but clearly not bridal.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2019 3:54:08 GMT
While I wouldn't do it, wearing white doesn't really bother me, especially with some brides now choosing dresses that are blush, off white, etc. What would bother me more is the style of dress, ie too revealing, flashy, similar in style to bridesmaids, etc.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 20, 2019 3:57:52 GMT
My mother’s BFF’s daughter wanted to wear white to my wedding and they (the mother and daughter) had a massive fight over this and the daughter ended up not coming to the wedding. I didn’t care either way as my wedding in Canada was just a party for my friends and family.
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Post by Really Red on Feb 20, 2019 3:59:09 GMT
Eh, I wouldn't do it, but I also think the rule is stupid. The bride will be the only one there in a super-fancy white gown. No one is going to "outshine" her by wearing a white sweater dress. I forgot to mention, she wore a white bustier and long white skirt to her own DDs wedding. Does she look that good in white? I have a tendency to think that younger, tanner people look better in white. I didn't even wear white to my own wedding as it clashed with my skin. I think eyes are on the bride, but since it is SUCH a tradition, it's a little spiteful to wear white.
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Post by pancakes on Feb 20, 2019 4:05:29 GMT
I’m not old fashioned and NO I don’t think it’s ok. White is one of my most flattering colors to wear, but I would never do that to the bride. The only time it’s ok is if there’s a significant pattern on the dress in a different color. Like this:
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Feb 20, 2019 4:13:02 GMT
I didn’t care what people wore to mine, but I myself wouldn’t wear white to a wedding..I really don’t wear white at all to be honest so even if it wasn’t frowned on I wouldn’t wear white.
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 20, 2019 4:14:09 GMT
Honestly a white sweater dress sounds fine. I think white at a wedding is wrong just because it is noticeable and everyone thinks it’s wrong - so how awkward! But really - white should be fine as long as it doesn’t resemble a wedding dress!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2019 4:15:50 GMT
WTH is with women wearing wedding dresses to other people's weddings?! I have never heard of anyone doing that, now several in one thread!
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Post by SweetieBugs on Feb 20, 2019 4:35:21 GMT
That wouldn't bother me in the least. As a bride, the only thing that did bother me was my DH's sister's outfit. We had an elegant afternoon wedding at a beautiful location and she wore a red and navy, sailor style shorts (short-shorts!!) jumper/romper outfit. She was 40 years old!!! Out of the 125 people in attendance, she stuck out like a ridiculous sore thumb and it really annoyed me to have to take nice family wedding photos. I know I sound petty, but no more petty than a bride being upset with someone wearing white.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Feb 20, 2019 4:55:30 GMT
I tend to think that white is the bride's color, but I'm old fashioned. Me too........ What if the bride goes non-traditional and doesn't tell the guests, and wears a blush-colored gown? And I show up in a blush-colored blouse? Am I also upstaging the bride? Or is it just a color? NO, not upstaging the bride. The only time it’s ok is if there’s a significant pattern on the dress in a different color. Like this: That dress is fine, although not something I would wear in the winter in the north cold. Let me just say, almost 60 years ago I can only remember what 3 4 other people wore: I wore white, my mother wore medium blue, my maid of honor wore darkish green, oh and her mom wore a dark print.. My cousin wore a white brocade fitted suit and a red hat, shoes and clutch.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 20, 2019 4:56:30 GMT
It might be of little consequence to the bride if you wear white to her wedding, and the majority opinion might think it is a silly rule, BUT if you wear white to a wedding, you ARE going to be talked about. So if you make that decision, then you might be trying for attention. And at weddings all attention should be on the bride and the bridal party. Now of course,there are special circumstances that make it fine and dandy. Some of you have mentioned that. so there is that
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Post by pancakes on Feb 20, 2019 4:58:28 GMT
I tend to think that white is the bride's color, but I'm old fashioned. Me too........ What if the bride goes non-traditional and doesn't tell the guests, and wears a blush-colored gown? And I show up in a blush-colored blouse? Am I also upstaging the bride? Or is it just a color? NO, not upstaging the bride. The only time it’s ok is if there’s a significant pattern on the dress in a different color. Like this: That dress is fine, although not something I would wear in the winter in the north cold. Let me just say, almost 60 years ago I can only remember what 3 4 other people wore: I wore white, my mother wore medium blue, my maid of honor wore darkish green, oh and her mom wore a dark print.. My cousin wore a white brocade fitted suit and a red hat, shoes and clutch. For sure not in the cold, but just an example of white with a pattern.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Feb 20, 2019 5:00:37 GMT
WTH is with women wearing wedding dresses to other people's weddings?! I have never heard of anyone doing that, now several in one thread! I read an article a few days ago about a bride who invited guests to wear their wedding dresses to her wedding...
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 20, 2019 5:01:30 GMT
No. Don’t be an asshole. Leave the white clothes at home for another day.
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