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Post by mom2rjcr on Apr 30, 2019 22:23:08 GMT
I have my master's degree and my DH has only 2 years of college. It doesn't make a difference in our relationship. He makes almost 3x the money I do, so have a degree isn't all that for us.
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Post by luckyjune on Apr 30, 2019 22:23:25 GMT
DH and I both have our BAs (same university) and MAs (different universities). I got my MA first (literacy education) and DH got his next (school administration).
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Post by caangel on Apr 30, 2019 22:32:56 GMT
I should add, we both see each other as intelligent people but not in the same ways. He thinks in a different way than I do. He has a map in his head and is good with math and physics (he's an engineer). I am terrible at directions and don't care at all about physics or mechanics. I am better at creative writing, spelling, and natural sciences. I can't understand algebra but I do ok at geometry, which he's still better than me at but it was his least favorite math subject. We are both artistic but he is good with watercolors where I'm better at drawing. I think more quickly and he thinks more thoroughly. We are a good match. This is me and my DH (also engineer). He has a BS and is licenced in his field. I have a master's and certificate in my field. I keep pushing my DH to get another (higher) licence in his field but he doesn't really need it so he isn't motivated. |
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 30, 2019 22:36:24 GMT
When I met and married my husband, I had a master's degree and he had a high school diploma. I supported him financially to get his bachelor's degree and he got into a Master's program and now we both have master's degrees.
My son got his bachelor's degree a year ago and his fiancee is finishing an associates degree. I know their plan is that she will get a bachelor's degree and he will work on a masters.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 30, 2019 22:39:49 GMT
I have more education. The only affect on the relationship is that I am asked to edit his letters.  That pretty much describes us. In general, I am better read on a broad number of topics than DH but it has nothing to do with my education level. He will often ask my opinion on something because he knows there is a good chance I've done a little research already. |
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Post by peabay on Apr 30, 2019 22:44:24 GMT
I have a Ph.D.; he has a J.D. We both defer to the other in our areas of expertise - he literally just called me today to deal with a sticky emotional situation with his sister; I (and everyone else in the family) turn to him with legal questions. We respect each others' smarts.  |
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Post by huskergal on Apr 30, 2019 22:47:50 GMT
I was a thesis away from finishing my first Master's Degree. I do have a Master's and am currently working on my +36. I have 6 hours left. I am a teacher.
My dh has a Bachelor's. He has training through work but no more formal education. He makes a lot more money than me so it doesn't affect our relationship at all. I take classes because I love learning. I would love to get a doctorate in Psychology. It is on my list. My dh doesn't like school and has no interest in taking any classes.
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Post by dudleypippen on Apr 30, 2019 22:48:20 GMT
I have quite a bit more- masters currently enrolled in PhD program and he has a GED. It doesn’t come up other than to talk about what kind of educational opportunities we want our children to feel supported in choosing.
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Post by smcast on Apr 30, 2019 22:59:47 GMT
My dh has a degree in journalism.
I have a BA in psychology and BS in nursing.
Basically two four year degrees vs. one. We both have various certifications in our fields. Not a big deal.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 30, 2019 23:00:16 GMT
He’s more educated and older by seven years. I do not have a degree despite many returns to college. It’s never been brought up other than he says he would be happy to be a kept man. However there’s no way I can match his salary even if I had a degree before retirement. I have no desire to work longer than I have to.
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Post by librarylady on Apr 30, 2019 23:07:04 GMT
Significant difference in our formal education level. However, he can hold his own with me and it is not a problem.
If it had been, I would have never married him. He is well read and can discuss things.
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Post by moodyblue on Apr 30, 2019 23:07:54 GMT
I have a Master's degree and 30 hours beyond that. My husband attended two colleges but never got a degree. He was also widely considered the smartest person they knew by many people, and he was always learning about new things and helping others with stuff, especially technology. I never ever looked down on him for not having a degree and we complemented each other well in our strengths and weaknesses.
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Post by Merge on Apr 30, 2019 23:14:11 GMT
Same level of education but his income is a lot more than mine because of the type of degree. It does affect our relationship sometimes - during times that money has been tight, he has expressed frustration that I can't carry more of the financial burden. It's come up that if I had chosen a different career, we might have been able to afford to send our kids to more expensive colleges.
I'll admit it; it's hurtful.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2019 23:19:32 GMT
Both educated but in different fields. I have a lot more college credits than he does tho. Right now he the smarter one because I just can’t understand how some financial paperwork is supposed to be done. He has explained 4xs and I still don’t get it.
We don’t judge anybody’s intelligence or education until proven otherwise.
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Post by paget on Apr 30, 2019 23:20:24 GMT
I have a MSW
He has a BA + 1 year of law school
His job has nothing to do with his education and makes much more money than me.
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Post by Peal on Apr 30, 2019 23:24:21 GMT
DH has a PhD I have an Associates. He never makes an issue of it, but I have always felt inadequate around him and his colleagues who have all had advanced degrees. But that's my issue, not his. When we got married neither of us had more than a high school diploma though.
My grandmother had a Masters and decided against getting a PhD because my grandfather had no secondary education and she didn't want to make him feel bad. He would never have cared. He was so proud of her. But it was a much different time.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 30, 2019 23:26:05 GMT
We both have Master's degrees and a butt ton of additional classes for certification.
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Post by kelly8875 on Apr 30, 2019 23:26:59 GMT
I am more educated that my BF, and I was more educated than my XDH.
I have a double major in management and accounting (I am not a CPA).
BF has about 15-20 college credits in a culinary program.
XDH had 2 separate AA degrees from out local community college. One in Music, he got out of high school. Then about 10 years later got a different one in Safety and Health Administration.
It wasn’t and isn’t an issue for either of them. I believe that education is personal, and should only be for yourself. And highly educated people are NO better than non-educated people. Some of my favorite people have zero post-high school education. Some of the people I dislike the most are the biggest @sses ever.
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 30, 2019 23:27:38 GMT
I was going to say that I have more formal education than DSO - I did Year 12 and he left part way through Year 11. But then I remembered he did an apprenticeship so I guess he really has more formal education than me. It never comes up in conversation and doesn't affect our relationship in the slightest. My ex (DD's dad) left school after Year 10 and did a plumbing apprenticeship. I never ever said anything derogatory to him about his lack of secondary schooling compared to mine, but I remember once during an argument he made a comment about being a "just a dumb plumber." The way he said it implied that he thought that's how I saw him. But honestly, I never said anything to give him that impression, or to make him feel less-than in any way. Keep in mind, back in my day a university degree was not the be-all and end-all that it seems to be in the US. Only ONE of my friends went to university. The rest of us left school after Year 11 or 12 and went straight into full time employment. Most of my male friends left school after Year 10 and got an apprenticeship (carpenter, plumber, electrician etc). I am more educated but he makes way more money (I am a teacher in a private school). He gets frustrated with how much education I have compared to money I make and hours I put in. Teachers' pay sucks! When I was in my mid to late 20s, I (with no tertiary qualifications) was earning more than my now-ex FIL, who was a primary school principal. He was pretty peeved about it. (I didn't tell him what I earned, my big mouth ex told him, much to my embarrassment.) |
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Apr 30, 2019 23:30:58 GMT
I have a Bachelors, DH has an Associates plus a certification. My job requires a BS, DH’s does not. I make a little more, but when you figure in his benefits it is about the same.
We have never used our degrees to put others down but rather as a discussion point on what some jobs require.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Apr 30, 2019 23:31:45 GMT
I have a BBA and my DH has a diploma in forestry engineering. We have never had a conversation that I can remember about our differences in education. It certainly doesn’t affect our interactions or decision making.
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Post by Merge on Apr 30, 2019 23:39:22 GMT
I am more educated but he makes way more money (I am a teacher in a private school). He gets frustrated with how much education I have compared to money I make and hours I put in. This. DH agrees that I work much harder than he does. He makes a lot more than I do. In a world where smarts are often judged by income, I resent being thought of as less than others. DH doesn't think I'm less, but he does wish I earned more. |
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Post by leannec on May 1, 2019 0:04:32 GMT
I'm definitely more educated than dh ... I have a degree in Education (I'm a teacher) as well as a diploma in Broadcasting (my original career choice waaaaaay back) ... dh is a realtor so he just took the courses necessary to do that job This doesn't affect our relationship at all because we have mutual respect and manage to hold really good, intelligent conversations  Dh likes to say that I'm book smart and he's street smart  |
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Post by Zee on May 1, 2019 0:19:45 GMT
Same level of education but his income is a lot more than mine because of the type of degree. It does affect our relationship sometimes - during times that money has been tight, he has expressed frustration that I can't carry more of the financial burden. It's come up that if I had chosen a different career, we might have been able to afford to send our kids to more expensive colleges. I'll admit it; it's hurtful. That would be a major issue for me, if my husband didn't respect my career choice and appreciate what I do for the family. I do all right but I'd never be able to match his salary or do what he does. I would be pretty upset if he made comments about what we could afford if only I had chosen to do something else. 😡 Feeling kind of angry on your behalf! |
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Post by Merge on May 1, 2019 0:32:05 GMT
Same level of education but his income is a lot more than mine because of the type of degree. It does affect our relationship sometimes - during times that money has been tight, he has expressed frustration that I can't carry more of the financial burden. It's come up that if I had chosen a different career, we might have been able to afford to send our kids to more expensive colleges. I'll admit it; it's hurtful. That would be a major issue for me, if my husband didn't respect my career choice and appreciate what I do for the family. I do all right but I'd never be able to match his salary or do what he does. I would be pretty upset if he made comments about what we could afford if only I had chosen to do something else. 😡 Feeling kind of angry on your behalf! Oh thanks - but it's not really a major thing. Just one of those little thorns that crops up now and then. |
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Post by padresfan619 on May 1, 2019 0:36:31 GMT
We both have bachelors degrees. My husband makes almost more than double in income than I do, but we are both very lucky that besides our mortgage we are debt free. We both went the community college route for our general education classes and then transferred to a traditional university. My husband has never made me feel bad about not being able to contribute as much financially, but he has encouraged me to look for something better. That decision was made for me when my boss decided to shut our company down, I have found a new job that I start next week that has a better salary and better benefits but I’ll be honest I probably wouldn’t have sought it out if the threat of being laid off wasn’t on my back.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2019 0:44:35 GMT
DH has two bachelor's degrees. I have one. We studied completely different fields (history and English vs engineering). I do not read as much as he does these days but I do follow current events more than he does. We have told our kids to go to me for paper-checking and him for math. We acknowledge each other's strengths. I do not remember us ever using our education in an argument. We went to different universities and will tease the other when one school is doing better than the other in sports.
We have one son who planning on attending DH's alma mater and the other wants to attend mine.
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Post by leftturnonly on May 1, 2019 0:45:42 GMT
Are you more formally educated than your SO or is he/she? Does it affect your relationship? Yes, I was. Yes, I was interested in and able to talk with him about his job on a daily basis. |
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Post by leftturnonly on May 1, 2019 0:47:24 GMT
We respect each others' smarts.  What she said!  |
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Post by freecharlie on May 1, 2019 1:03:00 GMT
More. I have a masters. Dh has an associates.
He makes about double what I do
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That pretty much describes us. 
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