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Post by tentoes on Oct 6, 2019 13:18:52 GMT
So sorry you are going through this. Sending you hugs! If your therapist isn't giving you suggestions for this situation, try another one for a while!! I wish you luck my dear. Don't let anybody make you think of yourself as worthless. Hug those kids of yours, and make sure they know how much you love them.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Oct 6, 2019 13:47:50 GMT
I had another thought (two in a row - that's a record!)....
This may sound controversial, but it happens often in my neighborhood, so take it as just another idea to consider.
Six & eight are young, but not totally helpless (if neuro-typical). They could learn to wake up to an alarm, get dressed with clothes set out the night before, eat a breakfast from a muffin already set out, cheese stick or yogurt, and cut up fruit in the front of the fridge.
You could give them each a phone (i know, another expense) that have alarms preset by you for wake up, dress, eat, brush teeth, leave house.
You can teach them to lock & unlock the house door.
And you can facetime/skype as they leave the house, walk to the bus stop, and wait for the bus, up until they get on.
And if you aren't sure of actually jumping into this idea with both feet, you could do a dry run on a day you dont have work, just to see how they handle it.
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Post by stampbooker on Oct 6, 2019 15:53:54 GMT
Ashley, this might not work, but I have a suggestion. It seems like the teens in your area go to school earlier than the younger kids so finding teenage sitter might be difficult. However, maybe their are some homeschooled kids in the area that could help. My son is 17 and he provides after school care for several children. Try posting in some homeschool facebook groups for child care.
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Post by AngieandSnoopy on Oct 6, 2019 16:47:05 GMT
I hope you can finally get to the point that you do NOT have to depend on your mother. I know it is hard living just across the street. For me, it was a combination of my younger sister AND my mother. My father, my good parent, died when I was just 8. I won't go into all the details but my sister in particular, always accused me of being what SHE was. I never could understand that but found out that is "normal" with people with emotional problems. Blame everyone else for what YOU do...
So, I'm guessing your MOTHER is the one no one likes. I know for a fact that relatives avoided my mother and sister's phone calls like the plague. Fortunately, the only relatives that still believe the lies my sister said about me are 2 states away, never knew me anyway, and are probably like my sister was if they believe that garbage.
My sister would always say she didn't care if anyone liked her, that she told it like she saw it and that everyone in the world was crazy but her. Trust me, she even had several doctors say she needed therapy and my mother and sister went ballistic, my mother was how DARE they insinuate my sister was crazy...
People who have never had relatives or friends like that just do NOT understand that there is nothing you can do to convince people like that of anything. All you can do is vent and cry until the plans you are making to move on and away from them can be put into place. But it does take time, not only to realize HOW you are being treated will never change, you have to change and get away.
The fact that you DO care tells me that the big problem is them. I just made sure that I did NOT act the way they did and/or said I did and moved on. I've been between a rock and hard place like you are now. Just keep trying to find some alternative plan between now and the first of the year, maybe something WILL pop up when you least expect it. If not, you are ALMOST there!!!
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