would you be upset

I don’t understand why you *wouldn’t* ask what she wanted.

That’s the whole point of a restaurant - everyone can choose what they want.

I’ve never ordered takeout without asking everyone what their order is. I even ask my little kids, much less all the other adults.

I think is weird not to ask what people wanted when you are ordering take out.  

I agree she was rude and should be thankful that you included her in the take-out, considering she is TWENTY YEARS OLD!

As the order taker for the house, it can be exhausting. Going to each member, have them hum-hah around about what they want, ask if the take-out could be somewhere else, blah blah blah. 

Just like I'm not a short-order cook, if I'm getting take out, I order family style of a similar type meal that I would be fixing - i.e. spaghetti, salad, and bread. Pizza. etc.

I rarely order individual take-out meals. But if I did, and it was sandwiches, I would ask everyone what kind do they want.

If someone is bringing home food for me to eat, I eat it and am just happy that I got a night off!

So yes, I would be upset with her, and next time, free-for-all and figure it out for herself.

We also normally do family style when ordering take out- but I always try to get input - usually I’ll just yell from the kitchen

“hey boys I’m ordering Thai take out what do we want? Pad Thai, pumpkin curry, pad see ew and what else? Should we get a beef dish !!” Lol I don’t ask my husband bc he eats everything

I think it is weird to order an individual meal for someone without asking, I wouldn’t think it was weird to order a family style meal without asking for everyone’s input.

I guess I would assume that for some reason, the DD wasn't available for the OP to ask what she wanted. So in that case, the DD should be grateful. But normally, I would say that each person should be asked what they want to eat when ordering takeaway.

I am just going to order for everyone next we get takeout! Seriously. I the think fallout probably lasted less that the whole round of who wants what! That crap can last a half hour or more around here!

There are times I get takeout on the way home from work. You don't like it? Don't eat it. I think your daughter was rude. She is old enough to make something else.

We almost always ask what everyone wants. My 21 year old grandson is boring and usually orders the same things over and over, so I could very easily not ask what he wanted and hit it on the nail. However, if I ordered something different, as long as it didn't have tomatoes or mayo on it, he would be fine and never say a word, even though he might have wanted something different. Even if it had a tomato or mayo, it would just get removed before eating. Wiping of mayo is kind of difficult, but he has done it. Thinking big picture with may extended family, I think any one of us would be thankful we got food from someone. I know we have all gotten together and ordered take out and had incorrect orders and not one single person complained or they offered to trade etc. Maybe it is a bit of "age" thing, but I think a lot of it is learning to be grateful for what you have, especially at an another's expense. Its just like rolling eyes at a gift you received and didn't care for. My mother would have smacked me if I did that in the presence of the gifter.

I would not like someone ordering for me. I wouldn't act like that, but she is 19. She is entitled to feel however she wants about it though

-If you had an opportunity to ask, I do not know why you wouldn't. Just...don't get why you wouldn't.

-If you didn't have an opportunity to ask, well what's done is done. 

Regardless, however, it is immature to pout and give the silent treatment. The silent treatment is not allowed in my house. Anyone who pulled that at my dinner table would be asked to leave the table. 

I would never do this to my kids. I just text and say you've got two minutes to tell me what you want from X restaurant. And they Google the menu and tell me what they want. I even ask DS and he's the world's pickiest eater and never veers from the same choice at every restaurant. I still ask. Because it's rude not to, IMO.

Wow, y'all have some prompt, decisive families!

FTR, nobody has ever complained about what I ordered them. In fact, sometimes when I ask, "Chicken parm, or philly cheese steak?" I get, "Oh, you can pick for me," or "Just get me what I always get."

Honestly, I think you were fine.

You ordered her exactly what she had last time she ate at that restaurant. You know she likes it. She's just being a bitchy 19 year old. I know, I was like that plenty at that age.

If you left the house to go get dinner, sure, I get asking everyone. But if it was on the way home from work, spur of the moment, I don't think you did anything wrong at all.

In fact, at 19, if my mom had done that and I behaved that way, I would have been told next time I could find my own dinner because she wouldn't pick me up something again. Mom picked up dinner almost every Friday night when we were growing up so no one had to cook. Rarely, if ever, were we asked what we wanted. She KNEW what we liked.