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Post by walkerdill on Oct 12, 2020 7:26:16 GMT
I have been in a relationship for 21 years & have 2 kids. Last year SO & I split for a month. I moved out & bought my own house. In that time he met a 27yo online & had a sexual relationship for 2 weeks. We got back together & he confessed everything. I made him get std tested. He moved in with me but kept his house & rented out the rooms but kept his room.
He confessed today that he never broke off the sexual relationship with the girl & it's been going on the entire year we've been back together. Every morning when he goes to Panera Bread he really picks her up & takes her to his house for sex when I go to work. I'm completely shocked. Never even had an inkling. 21 years we've been together. He says he's a sex addict & just couldn't stop. Has no plans on stopping.
I know I need to get tested for std's. I'm so glad we never married but I'm still gutted. He was my best friend. I'm so sad.
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Post by gar on Oct 12, 2020 7:29:05 GMT
Oh sweetheart...I'm so so sorry...what a bastard!
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Oct 12, 2020 7:33:16 GMT
I am so sorry. I wouldn’t give him houseroom now. xx
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Post by AussieMeg on Oct 12, 2020 7:36:54 GMT
Aw jeez..... I'm really sorry.  What a prick.  Please take care of yourself and your kids. |
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Post by joelise on Oct 12, 2020 7:48:42 GMT
I’m so sorry. What a dickhead he is!
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Post by koontz on Oct 12, 2020 8:14:54 GMT
I am so sorry! How horrible. Please be kind to yourself and protect yourself and your kids.
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Post by leannec on Oct 12, 2020 8:18:57 GMT
I'm so sorry! Focus on yourself right now ... it's a hard but that's what you need to do ... hugs to you  |
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Post by jenjie on Oct 12, 2020 8:25:29 GMT
I’m so sorry. Gentle hugs.
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Post by piebaker on Oct 12, 2020 8:41:15 GMT
I'm so sorry. After this terrible news, be angry and be strong to care for yourself and your children.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Oct 12, 2020 8:57:24 GMT
I’m sorry. I was once married to a sexual addict. Get counseling, please. There are specific things being with one will do to your head. The most important lesson, there’s nothing wrong with you!
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Post by PLurker on Oct 12, 2020 9:00:54 GMT
Oh, I am so very sorry.
The deceit and infidelity is heart-wrenching. Hugs, hugs and more hugs.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Oct 12, 2020 9:01:32 GMT
Oh, I’m so sorry!
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 12, 2020 9:03:40 GMT
I’m so sorry. How devastating to be lied to by someone you loved and trusted.
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Post by craftykitten on Oct 12, 2020 9:06:14 GMT
I'm so very sorry. The Peas have got you. Sending hugs.
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Post by michellegb on Oct 12, 2020 9:41:21 GMT
I'm so sorry. You (and your kids) deserve better than that.
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Post by quinlove on Oct 12, 2020 10:05:33 GMT
I’m so sorry. My heart breaks for you. ❤️
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Post by peasapie on Oct 12, 2020 10:14:42 GMT
Im sorry, hon. I was married to someone like this as well, for 22 years. I had no idea the extent of it for quite a while. I was so confused and embarrassed to tell anyone — I even wondered what was wrong with ME at first. It will take time for you to learn to trust again, but in the meantime take care of YOU and your kids and please know you are not alone.
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Post by littlemama on Oct 12, 2020 10:19:10 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 12, 2020 10:35:39 GMT
What a jerk. I am so sorry. Thank goodness you have your own home.
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Post by auntkelly on Oct 12, 2020 11:24:41 GMT
I’m so sorry. What he did is so awful on so many levels. I can’t even imagine how I would feel if I were you. Please take good care of yourself.
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Post by unknown pea on Oct 12, 2020 11:34:30 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 12, 2020 11:43:24 GMT
Wow! You must be heartbroken. I'm so sad for you and your kids. What a jerk he is. It never ceases to amaze me how many men choose to ruin a wonderful relationship with infidelity.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Oct 12, 2020 11:58:46 GMT
If you need an alibi, count me in.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2020 11:59:19 GMT
I'm so sorry. What a pig. Take care of yourself and the kids, you deserve better than him.
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Post by alexa11 on Oct 12, 2020 12:01:10 GMT
I'm so sorry! Hugs to you.
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Post by Katie on Oct 12, 2020 12:02:22 GMT
Uggghh...how awful for you. I am so very sorry.
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Post by christine58 on Oct 12, 2020 12:12:09 GMT
Something tells me she is not the first he cheated with during your relationship. Nope... Get him out of your house and life once and for all. You deserve better.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 12, 2020 12:15:15 GMT
You must feel shocked and overwhelmed right now with emotions. Counseling would be a good decision as you will have many thoughts to process as you go through this. I'm sorry for what he's done to you.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Oct 12, 2020 12:31:05 GMT
I am so sorry. He’s an asshole.
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Post by MZF on Oct 12, 2020 12:37:12 GMT
I'm sorry you are going through this (hug)
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What a prick. 
