How/where is the FL pea bergerblonde or something like that?

There was a big kerfluffle and she left

I hope she is doing well. I always hope everyone is doing well.

Yes

We can be nasty to people who are struggling. I hope she’s okay.

My memory is that some said she was making excuses when she said various bits of advice would not work for various reasons. Then others accused her of abusing the kindness of peas and suggesting that she might be grifting us.......and it went downhill and ugly and she left.

Welcome to my life! I'm here several times a day and still miss a whole lot!

I think this is one of the situations that will forever be seen and retold in several different, completely opposite ways over the course of time.

I am sure of one thing that will be true of all variations though - to a person, we wish for good things for BB.

There was that...but there was also the several long time posters here who outed her lesbian stalker history on the old board.
I think that's what finally did it.

23 pages for your enlightenment on this topic: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/134334/locked-threads

My recollection is.....she had a problem with her car, and needed it repaired.
She didn't like the price or didn't have the money, so her solution (which she posted about here on this board) was >> she would blast them on social media and all the review websites in order to force them into doing her repair work for free, because she is a widow and she felt that entitles her to "free". 

That's how it started, and it rapidly went downhill, turning into a multiple page thread. Then she deleted her membership.

She did get it locked and I think that ended up being the tipping point for many. A thread was started asking why she got a thread locked when there have been a lot of threads worse that hadn’t been locked. This is when the stalking information came out. In the end it seems like it would have been better for her to let the car thread fade away rather that having it locked.

It was odd having it locked because there was nothing bad in that thread. The only thing Rivne that made her look bad is mom asked her mechanic dh about the problem and he told her what she could do to fix it. She ignored that help. It ended up that mom dh was correct. No acknowledgment of that though.

A lot of peas made suggestions and when she had excuses as to why the wouldn’t work they moved on. I‘m talking about the one or two that felt the need to argue and judge her and chase her around the board. When you sit in a place of privilege and tell someone who is grieving and in poverty what they should do is assholian. The suggestions were great and like I said most of the peas were helpful. She was around a long time and had pretty thick skin it was sad to see her feel the need to delete her account that just represents one more loss for her.

Some of us (like myself) were horrified, that she thought it was very okay that her "plan" was >> to intentionally post poor reviews online about a quality reputable business, as a way to force the business into giving her free services.
This type of behavior and thought process, speak volumes about a persons character.

Some offered advice, guidance, counsel, etc... but she didn't want to hear it. 

I realize that she had experienced a lot of trauma and that she was a recent widow, but at some point you have to rely on your own strength, courage, and knowledge to move forward, no matter how imperfect or different your life circumstances are.

Me too!

I do agree with this, but not everyone has the same resiliency, which can make it hard to pull yourself up. I know people who have gone through very traumatic things that came out on the other side as lovely, strong people, while others who experienced the same type of thing never really recovered and became bitter and angry. I think in general BB didn't seem like a very happy person, she hated where she lived, etc, and I think that made it difficult for her to find ways to pull herself forward.