peabay
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Post by peabay on Apr 26, 2023 0:43:53 GMT
A dear friend of mine has a daughter who was really motivated to change and get better after her psychiatric hospitalization. First, she didn't ever want to go back again; second, she said "wow, there are people who are a lot sicker than I am. I have a lot going on for me" and that was a game-changer. She's done really, really well ever since. Continuing to wish you all the best. Thank you for sharing this. I am sincerely hoping this will be the case. Despite all her challenges, this child is graduating with honors and can have a very bright future ahead of her. This moment feels pivotal. But we're also past the point where mom and dad can fix every problem. She has to want to get better. Your description of your daughter's phone calls sounds a lot like what my friend went through. Her dd would call crying and afraid - and this was a super fancy Fairfield County private hospital that doesn't take insurance. So, I don't think it would necessarily be any different or better if you were paying out of pocket for a fancier place. Eventually, she was just really motivated to get better and get out. She's been therapy and medication compliant ever since.
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Post by Merge on Apr 26, 2023 0:49:30 GMT
Thank you for sharing this. I am sincerely hoping this will be the case. Despite all her challenges, this child is graduating with honors and can have a very bright future ahead of her. This moment feels pivotal. But we're also past the point where mom and dad can fix every problem. She has to want to get better. Your description of your daughter's phone calls sounds a lot like what my friend went through. Her dd would call crying and afraid - and this was a super fancy Fairfield County private hospital that doesn't take insurance. So, I don't think it would necessarily be any different or better if you were paying out of pocket for a fancier place. Eventually, she was just really motivated to get better and get out. She's been therapy and medication compliant ever since. Well, that's good to know, lol. My mom guilt is like, should I be selling a kidney? Raiding my retirement account to put her in a private place? Our kids went to urban public schools so they're not exactly fragile flowers, but still.
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 26, 2023 0:55:12 GMT
I just wanted to say that your family has been in my thoughts.
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Post by Gem Girl on Apr 26, 2023 0:58:07 GMT
@merge
You are brave, kind, and strong. Wishing your family health and peace.
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Post by silverlining on Apr 26, 2023 3:31:36 GMT
I'm so glad to read your promising update. It sounds like she's taking responsibility for her choices, and will be able to make a connection between taking her medicines and avoiding being in this situation again. I'm glad she's so motivated to finish up her work and get her degree!
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ComplicatedLady
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Apr 26, 2023 4:07:00 GMT
Hugs Merge (and mom). Not sure what else to say but I want you both to know that I am thinking of you and your families.
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Post by katlady on Apr 26, 2023 5:07:36 GMT
Just wanted to say I am thinking of you and your family! {{hugs}}
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Post by gar on Apr 26, 2023 7:53:10 GMT
Good morning Merge, just checking in and hoping you slept well.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 26, 2023 9:48:22 GMT
How are things?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2023 9:56:46 GMT
My mom heart breaks for yours. I hope that from this day forward, each new day brings her (and you) a step closer in the healing process.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2023 9:58:57 GMT
Wanted to add…you and DH could both sell a kidney to get her in a better place but at the end of the day, it’s up to her to want and accept the help at her fingertips. All the money in the world cannot change that fact.
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Post by wellway on Apr 26, 2023 11:51:52 GMT
Just checking in to say, you and your dd are still in my thoughts.
Hugs to you both.
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Post by PenandInk on Apr 26, 2023 12:09:32 GMT
Merge, I’ve been thinking of you multiple times a day. How are you feeling with the covid? I hope it’s a mild case. Perhaps it was a blessing to give you a reason to step back and let her deal with the consequences of her behavior. I’m so sorry you are in this position at all, but I’ll agree with others that it’s helpful to know other parents have the same struggles. I pray this is a huge step for your DD to move forward with her life.
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Post by Merge on Apr 26, 2023 12:51:14 GMT
Wow, I really appreciate all the messages of support and people checking in to see how we are. It means a lot, truly.
I spoke with DD last night and she was about the same. Going on about the amazing new friends she's made at this facility but also desperately wanting to be released. She is equal parts wanting to be home with her cat but also terrified of having to deal with the fallout from all of this - school work to make up, friendships to repair. Depending on whether or not she is on the release list today, I'll be going over there either to pick her up or to take some more supplies for her.
My Covid has been a mild case. Like a bad cold with exhaustion. I will need to go back to work tomorrow, my first allowed day, as I'm out of sick days for the school year, but I think I'll be OK for it. Fortunately, I only work half days.
I'll update later today when I know more about any potential release.
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Post by stormsts on Apr 26, 2023 13:56:55 GMT
Just stopped by to check for an update. I have been thinking of you and your family daily. I am so sorry you are having to go thru this.
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Post by Merge on Apr 26, 2023 14:24:00 GMT
Welp, she called earlier and told me she wasn’t being released today, but then her case manager called me and said that she is. I’m picking her up at noon!
Please continue to have good thoughts for us. She has a long road ahead.
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Post by essiejean on Apr 26, 2023 14:54:34 GMT
Good luck and prayers for the transition back home again! Hoping all works out and she gets to walk with her class for graduation like you planned.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 26, 2023 15:46:09 GMT
Welp, she called earlier and told me she wasn’t being released today, but then her case manager called me and said that she is. I’m picking her up at noon! Please continue to have good thoughts for us. She has a long road ahead. Best wishes for her and your entire family! It's a long road for all of you, please take the time to deal with your own trauma in all of this. I agree with peabay above that this can absolutely be a wake-up call for never ever wanting to go back there. (((hugs))), I truly hope that is the case for your daughter.
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Post by annie on Apr 26, 2023 16:53:50 GMT
Sending out hugs and good thoughts to both you and your daughter!!
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Post by GamGam on Apr 26, 2023 18:34:08 GMT
I pray for her homecoming. May this be the beginning of her healthy recovery. And May there be moments of laughter together today. Take good care.
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Post by ntsf on Apr 26, 2023 18:37:32 GMT
hope all goes as best as possible.
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Post by kate on Apr 26, 2023 21:11:34 GMT
Praying for smoother sailing ahead for both you and DD. Sending love.
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Post by quietgirl on Apr 26, 2023 21:24:52 GMT
Sending good thoughts, hopes and healing
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Post by flanz on Apr 26, 2023 23:52:07 GMT
Wishing you all the best and lots and lots of support for your DD and you and your family. xoxo
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Post by luckyjune on Apr 27, 2023 1:32:27 GMT
Thinking of you and hoping things are going well.
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Post by Merge on Apr 27, 2023 1:39:05 GMT
Thanks again, all, for the well wishes and support. DD is back in her apartment with her cat and she's happy about that. She's a little nervous about returning to class tomorrow, but I reminded her no expectations of having prepped for class or finished any assignments. Just show up and get back in the groove, and start a convo with your professors about how to finish the semester. She only has one class tomorrow so it's not a heavy schedule.
She and her sister went out to dinner together tonight and that made my mom heart happy. Younger sister was understandably upset and alarmed through all this, but she's a warm, kind soul and wants to be supportive.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 27, 2023 1:43:13 GMT
Hopeful news.
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Post by gar on Apr 27, 2023 9:31:02 GMT
That's lovely that they went to eat together Here's hoping she can settle back into her class ok and you can start to feel less on full alert, bit by bit
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Post by elaine on Apr 27, 2023 10:15:40 GMT
(((Hugs))) I have been thinking of you and your family. I am glad to hear that she is back in her apartment.
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Post by PenandInk on Apr 27, 2023 17:11:37 GMT
What a great update! Awesome to have the support of her sister. I hope the day goes well for her.
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