anniebygaslight
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Jun 28, 2014 14:08:19 GMT
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Post by anniebygaslight on Oct 31, 2015 6:53:03 GMT
I'm so sorry. You did the right thing.
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wellway
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Post by wellway on Oct 31, 2015 8:07:07 GMT
I'm sorry you had to make this hard choice but it was the right choice. Your son is better served in the long run by being made to face the consequences of all his actions (homework and hitting). Parenting is so hard sometimes.
((Hugs))
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Post by Merge on Oct 31, 2015 8:41:42 GMT
I'm sorry! That must have been so hard for you.
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Post by gar on Oct 31, 2015 8:54:03 GMT
That must have been a tough call...I'm sorry
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 31, 2015 10:26:46 GMT
I'm so sorry you had to do that but you certainly did the right thing. Being a parent is so darn hard sometimes.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Oct 31, 2015 10:36:52 GMT
That was such a difficult choice you had to make. I hope he learns from it and the experience helps change his future behavior.
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Post by peasapie on Oct 31, 2015 10:54:17 GMT
I'm so sorry. It must have been terrifying to have him acting that way, and what an awful situation for you to be in. Life is just never easy, is it. Big hugs to you.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 31, 2015 12:33:09 GMT
I'm so sorry. Hugs to you and your DH. Parenting is hard!
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blue tulip
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Jun 25, 2014 20:53:57 GMT
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Post by blue tulip on Oct 31, 2015 12:38:05 GMT
i'm sorry. add me to the long list of people saying you did the right thing tho. ((hug))
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calgal08
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Post by calgal08 on Oct 31, 2015 14:09:04 GMT
Being a parent is the hardest job of all. I'm so sorry you had to do that, but, you know in your heart it was the right thing. I'm sure the police felt the same way. It was a hard lesson for your son to learn.
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Post by jenjie on Oct 31, 2015 14:11:53 GMT
Elaine, I'm so sorry your son put you in the position to have to do this. You did the right thing, as much as it must hurt your heart. Big hugs to you and your family. I like the way this was stated. Don't forget it. Don't let your son or anyone else guilt you into thinking otherwise. I'm sorry he brought this upon himself and upon you. {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} my friend.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Oct 31, 2015 14:43:52 GMT
I'm so sorry.
(((hugs)))
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Post by knit.pea on Oct 31, 2015 14:46:52 GMT
You did the right thing, and I am so sorry you had to.
Will your DH be home for your DS while you have the surgery? Do you think DS is worried about the surgery or the change in his daily routine?
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~Lauren~
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Post by ~Lauren~ on Oct 31, 2015 15:01:42 GMT
Hugs, Elaine. That had to be such a difficult thing for you and your husband, but you did the right thing.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Oct 31, 2015 15:07:15 GMT
You did the right thing. I've done it for our DD when she was about the same age. It sucked more than anything in the world! DH isn't a crier but he sure did that night!
My SIL has already had to do it for her 9 year old daughter that is bi-polar. When there other children present (or even if it's only you), it's what you have to do to protect everyone!
My DD is now mostly stable (plus she's away at college). However, when she was home visiting this past weekend, it was very difficult and I saw some signs of old behaviors (rage) returning. It's very scary. I love her to pieces but it's better for everyone if she doesn't live here. She's talking about returning here in a year to go to school locally and honestly, it fills me with dread.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2015 15:20:07 GMT
I'm so sorry.
There were times when I was afraid that I might have to call the police as well. It is so scary. Not just the dealing with the physicalneess of it, but just...this is your child and you love him. I can't imagine how hard it was for you to have to actually do it. *hugs and prayers*
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Post by cannes on Oct 31, 2015 15:23:14 GMT
Parenting is a crazy ride, isn't it? When it's great, it's GREAT; when it's bad, it's BAD.
The bad is even worse when our head and our heart are at odds with each other.
You did the right thing, mom. I know your heart broke having to make that call, but it was the right thing to do. Sometimes acts of love aren't easy. But, as a parent, I know making that call was truly an act of love. Big hugs!
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Post by elaine on Oct 31, 2015 15:56:35 GMT
Thank you, every single one of you, for your kind words and support. Never underestimate how much comfort just a brief cyber hug can give.
I drank a couple of glasses or wine after younger son went to bed and ds1 was quietly surfing the net in his room, and promptly fell asleep on the couch while watching tv with dh.
Dh will be telecommuting while I'm away so he will be here with the boys. It will be a change in routine, and I know they are a little anxious about it. I would guess that contributed to last night's meltdown, but I really think the majority of it was not liking the consequences - both failing the class and not being allowed to go to the game - of his actions. We wouldn't have punished him for simply failing if he had tried his hardest, but it was the lying each time we asked about his homework.
My heart still is heavy this morning for the reason many of you have mentioned - I am so sad that I was put in the position that I had to call the police. I know that it was the right thing to do, and I'd do it again in the same situation, but I never imagined when I was holding him as an infant that this day would come. No one ever can prepare you for how hard parenting can be.
Thanks again everyone.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Oct 31, 2015 16:26:07 GMT
I am so very sorry
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Post by Chips on Oct 31, 2015 16:33:41 GMT
((((hugs)))) Elaine and so sorry.
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cakediva
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Jun 26, 2014 11:53:40 GMT
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Post by cakediva on Oct 31, 2015 16:38:08 GMT
Hugs to you and your family Elaine. I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2015 17:26:04 GMT
Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by blarneygirl on Oct 31, 2015 17:28:50 GMT
What a horribly difficult situation Elaine. I'm sending you warm hugs. May you not be faced with this need again.
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marianne
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Post by marianne on Oct 31, 2015 17:34:13 GMT
Oh, Elaine, I'm so, so sorry. I think you did the right and best thing. (((hugs)))
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 31, 2015 17:37:32 GMT
I'm so sorry for everything you're going through elaine
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Post by anonrefugee on Oct 31, 2015 18:18:16 GMT
I'm sorry. Knowing you're right isn't always a comfort, but maybe his getting new type of help will be. Hoping you have calm in coming weeks.
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Post by ceepea on Oct 31, 2015 18:45:53 GMT
Big warm hugs for you. You made the right decision for your family at that moment. You are a great mom.
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 1, 2015 0:19:39 GMT
Hugs Elaine! You are one very strong woman and your boys are so lucky to have you as their mom.
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Post by tinydogmafia on Nov 1, 2015 0:35:01 GMT
I am terribly sorry. I can't imagine how awful that must have been on you. So many ((hugs)) for you.
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Post by ro on Nov 1, 2015 0:45:59 GMT
I'm so very sorry. You did the right thing for your family and for him. It's nonetheless heartbreaking. Many many hugs and I will pray for your family.
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