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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 8, 2017 14:21:06 GMT
Where would they move it to? Lol, I had a neighbor who was the kind of guy who would have moved it to the public street in front of his house, or mine, if he didn't like what/how it was asked. It would be legal if not overnight. You need to know personalities before proceeding. Does the RV block an amazing view? I assume you knew it was there when you began planning a wedding at home. Why take issue now, especially if it's just along a pathway? If the event was at another venue guests might have a negotiate a parking garage or city sidewalk, not always lovely but forgotten once inside.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 8, 2017 14:27:13 GMT
why not try a note to neighbors apologizing in advance for any inconvenience on the street as you are having a number of guests over to celebrate with you and your daughter and that there may be more cars/traffic on the street that day, and that you hope the party will not disturb their afternoon. they may take the hint and go RVing that weekend to avoid the noise/traffic. If not, well you tried.... We tell our neighbors when one of our kids is having a party, especially in summer with a pool. The kids are told to keep their music volume down but it doesn't always happen. I want the neighbors to feel comfortable telling me if it's bothering them. I can't do much about cul de sac parking, but try.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 8, 2017 14:28:10 GMT
Serious question - If you ask them to move it, where exactly do you want them to put it? Are there free RV storage spots in your neighborhood? Do you expect them to pay to park it somewhere for the weekend? It's super normal here for people to have their RVs, boats, trailers, etc. in their driveways. My brother stores both an RV and a boat at his house. My dad stores a trailer at his. People have big driveways (usually 4-5-6 car drives) and they use them. I don't own an RV but know that most Walmart stores allow them in their parking lots. You can even camp there overnight in many locations. Would you be comfortable leaving $20,0000+ of your personal property unguarded in a Walmart parking lot for an extended period of time? I would not.
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Post by peatlejuice on Jul 8, 2017 14:34:24 GMT
I don't consider holding a large party, like a wedding reception, in a back yard with all of its attending noise as being neighborly. I consider that being a spoiled entitled person. In the spirit of being neighborly I won't complain about it. Β But, when you start making "requests" about changing my schedule and my parking on MY property...... you'll get a ton of passive aggressiveness. Β I don't see what the OP wants to do as being neighborly from her side. She wants to create a parking/noise issue in the neighborhood AND tell me what to do at my home so she can pretend to be some sort of princess on an estate.Β I see you live in a very different area. I can't imagine you're area, bc I live in LA. We just love rather than hate here tbh I'm from the same area as Volt, and for the record, I would be okay with *nicely* asking my neighbor to move the RV, because I have a good relationship with them. The OP never said what kind of relationship she has with hers, but where she kind if lost me is at, "nicely tell them it's a shit pile". There's no nice way to say that within the context of her request, because it's not a nice thing to say, even if it's true.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 8, 2017 14:35:10 GMT
I wouldn't ask them to move it but maybe that's because I have an RV in my driveway, but mine is covered.
Put up lattice (on your side) and twinkly fairy lights OR attach 2x2's to the fence along the walkway draped with tulle and twinkly fairy lights.
Check with your local rental place or wherever you're getting your chairs, tables, linens and stuff from as they probably have ideas for you.
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Post by mikewozowski on Jul 8, 2017 14:37:26 GMT
some of you people are crazy.
guess that's the way the world has gone these days.
if my neighbor was hosting a wedding next door, I wouldn't consider them a spoiled entitled person. that's crazy!
i am of the opinion that it never hurts to ask (about moving the RV). you might not get the results you want, but you might. kind of depends on your relationship and history with those neighbors.
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Post by mikewozowski on Jul 8, 2017 14:45:30 GMT
or, here's an idea. offer to rent them a spot to camp for the weekend. rv will be gone AND they won't have to listen to your noise.
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Post by mom on Jul 8, 2017 15:00:34 GMT
I think its tacky to ask in the first place, but if you MUST ask, then I would go about it like this:
Hey neighbor! Daughter is having her wedding in the backyard and our guests will be using the path right along your RV to access the backyard. We would hate if someone brushed up against your RV as they were walking to the backyard. We are going to encourage everyone to stay on the path, but we also wanted to give you a heads up incase you wold feel better moving it for that day. We know how much you enjoy your RV and would hate for any accidents to happen and it end up with a scratch. Anyway, just wanted to let you know our plan so you could decide if you would like to move it.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 8, 2017 15:01:58 GMT
It's their rv in their yard. It's not a reflection on you or your yard. Quit worrying about it and leave them alone.
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Post by scrapngranny on Jul 8, 2017 15:04:13 GMT
If you don't know them well enough to invite them to the wedding, it would be rude to ask them to move it.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jul 8, 2017 15:11:35 GMT
I guess we can figure out from this thread who has shitpile RVs...
Hahahaha! JK JK.
Really, though, I don't think it's a big deal to ask nicely! Nice goes a long way.
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Post by basketdiva on Jul 8, 2017 15:13:32 GMT
I think its tacky to ask in the first place, but if you MUST ask, then I would go about it like this: Hey neighbor! Daughter is having her wedding in the backyard and our guests will be using the path right along your RV to access the backyard. We would hate if someone brushed up against your RV as they were walking to the backyard. We are going to encourage everyone to stay on the path, but we also wanted to give you a heads up incase you wold feel better moving it for that day. We know how much you enjoy your RV and would hate for any accidents to happen and it end up with a scratch. Anyway, just wanted to let you know our plan so you could decide if you would like to move it. OP says its on the fence line so I take that to mean it it is on the the neighbor's side of the fence. Not chance of accidents that I see.
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Post by mom on Jul 8, 2017 15:14:53 GMT
I think its tacky to ask in the first place, but if you MUST ask, then I would go about it like this: Hey neighbor! Daughter is having her wedding in the backyard and our guests will be using the path right along your RV to access the backyard. We would hate if someone brushed up against your RV as they were walking to the backyard. We are going to encourage everyone to stay on the path, but we also wanted to give you a heads up incase you wold feel better moving it for that day. We know how much you enjoy your RV and would hate for any accidents to happen and it end up with a scratch. Anyway, just wanted to let you know our plan so you could decide if you would like to move it. OP says its on the fence line so I take that to mean it it is on the the neighbor's side of the fence. Not chance of accidents that I see. Ahh. I read that as fence line - like it was parked on the imaginary fence line.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 8, 2017 15:15:11 GMT
It doesn't hurt to ask but don't be put out if they say no, especially since they weren't invited.
Can you rent some kind of curtain or cover to hide the RV?
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 8, 2017 15:18:33 GMT
I would be shocked by any neighbor telling me what I can and can't do because of an event they're having at their house. By having a party at your house, you have to expect possible interruptions, and unsightly things. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere. You can't tell others what to do... I'm guessing the neighbors don't have another place to park the RV, so where are they supposed to take it for your party? You can get additional decorations to add and hide it if it's a problem.Now, if you are already amazing friends with the neighbors, chances are you all have already talked about the RV, so you could ask in passing. But beyond that, you need to deal with it as is, and plan around it. This was my initial thought too. If the RV is big, odds are good they are storing it where they do because they don't have a better place to put it. You can ask, but if they have it on their property legally and aren't breaking any rules, you have to at least consider that the request to move it would not be very well received. If it was me, I would get creative with my resources and line the driveway next to the RV with a rented canopy or tent and put the sides down to create a decorative archway, or hang burlap or tulle or something else along my side of the fence to disguise it from my side. Honestly, if they're just walking through that area to get to where the reception is, how many people are really going to care? It's not like people will be lining up in your driveway for photo opportunities especially if there are more scenic areas set up for that elsewhere. And speaking of that, a good photographer should be able to mitigate ugly or unwanted things in the background with the camera settings or in post production. We had some professional family photos taken at home a couple years ago. He took several in front of our house with the side of the neighbor's house visible in some of the shots. Their house isn't ugly at all, but it's the back side of their garage which has no landscaping or windows and it looked out of place the way the photos were shot. The photographer blurred them some with the camera and more in Photoshop and the pics in front of our house turned out to be our favorites. I also agree that if I were the neighbors with the RV and knew there was going to be a noisy, into the night party going on next door that would drive my dogs nuts, I'd take the opportunity to get the heck out of Dodge on that weekend!
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Post by melanell on Jul 8, 2017 15:22:03 GMT
Unless I know them really really really well and we often do favours for each other I wouldn't ask - I'd just try and screen it in some way. Unless you know them really well, I wouldn't risk pissing them off. They might just retaliate by parking that big 'ol ugly RV in front of your house on the day of the reception. Even if it wasn't in retaliation---the most obvious places to move an RV would be to the street or a driveway, so you're definitely chancing it be even more visible if they move it. Save
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Post by melanell on Jul 8, 2017 15:29:00 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head. The thing is that in many cases these days, neighbors have very limited contact with one another. If you do things with the neighbors regularly and are friendly with them, asking them for a favor is no big deal. but if it's a situation where you have very limited contact and now you decide to reach out just because their property is an inconvenience to you, it definitely comes across as nervy and/or rude to me. My parents, for instance, are great friends with their neighbors and they make accommodations for one another's events and such all of the time. So it depends on what kind of relationship exists. But even if they are friendly, you have to use some really careful wording in such a request. I mean, you need to stay far far away from saying it's ugly or an eyesore, and if you make up some other excuse for the current location not working for you, again you run the risk that they may move it someplace worse. Save
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Post by SockMonkey on Jul 8, 2017 15:38:08 GMT
I would be shocked by any neighbor telling me what I can and can't do because of an event they're having at their house. By having a party at your house, you have to expect possible interruptions, and unsightly things. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere. You can't tell others what to do... I'm guessing the neighbors don't have another place to park the RV, so where are they supposed to take it for your party? You can get additional decorations to add and hide it if it's a problem.Now, if you are already amazing friends with the neighbors, chances are you all have already talked about the RV, so you could ask in passing. But beyond that, you need to deal with it as is, and plan around it. This was my initial thought too. If the RV is big, odds are good they are storing it where they do because they don't have a better place to put it. You can ask, but if they have it on their property legally and aren't breaking any rules, you have to at least consider that the request to move it would not be very well received. If it was me, I would get creative with my resources and line the driveway next to the RV with a rented canopy or tent and put the sides down to create a decorative archway, or hang burlap or tulle or something else along my side of the fence to disguise it from my side. Honestly, if they're just walking through that area to get to where the reception is, how many people are really going to care? It's not like people will be lining up in your driveway for photo opportunities especially if there are more scenic areas set up for that elsewhere. And speaking of that, a good photographer should be able to mitigate ugly or unwanted things in the background with the camera settings or in post production. We had some professional family photos taken at home a couple years ago. He took several in front of our house with the side of the neighbor's house visible in some of the shots. Their house isn't ugly at all, but it's the back side of their garage which has no landscaping or windows and it looked out of place the way the photos were shot. The photographer blurred them some with the camera and more in Photoshop and the pics in front of our house turned out to be our favorites. I also agree that if I were the neighbors with the RV and knew there was going to be a noisy, into the night party going on next door that would drive my dogs nuts, I'd take the opportunity to get the heck out of Dodge on that weekend! Yeah, but it's NOT just the photos. Maybe they don't want the wedding to look like someone is cooking the blue meth next door, ya know?
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Post by melanell on Jul 8, 2017 15:38:09 GMT
If you don't know them well enough to invite them to the wedding, it would be rude to ask them to move it. That's why I was wondering if this was a limited contact type of neighbor situation, because any wedding I've attended where I knew enough about the couple and/or their parents to know any of their next door neighbors, most of the next-door neighbors were invited. Save
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Post by my.unquiet.mind on Jul 8, 2017 15:44:51 GMT
If it's that big of a deal to you, I suggest you reconsider the location of your wedding.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jul 8, 2017 15:56:24 GMT
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***I had to Log back in to make this post. I've been logged out for weeks and it's obnoxious to log back in everytime- anyone know how to fix this??? Do you have your browser set to clear your history or cookies when you close it? No- it's on my phone and I didn't change any settings (that I'm aware of). One day I was just logged out and each time I log in and check the remember box - but it doesn't!
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Post by myshelly on Jul 8, 2017 16:08:12 GMT
I guess we can figure out from this thread who has shitpile RVs... Hahahaha! JK JK. Really, though, I don't think it's a big deal to ask nicely! Nice goes a long way. You could own the nicest, fanciest, most expensive, brand new top of the line RV and the peas would still clutch their pearls and shriek The horror! An RV! In a neighborhood! How tacky! How trashy! Call the HOA, I've got them in speed dial!
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Post by SockMonkey on Jul 8, 2017 16:10:28 GMT
I guess we can figure out from this thread who has shitpile RVs... Hahahaha! JK JK. Really, though, I don't think it's a big deal to ask nicely! Nice goes a long way. You could own the nicest, fanciest, most expensive, brand new top of the line RV and the peas would still clutch their pearls and shriek The horror! An RV! In a neighborhood! How tacky! How trashy! Call the HOA, I've got them in speed dial! So, what kind of RV do you have? πππππππ
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Post by myshelly on Jul 8, 2017 16:11:05 GMT
You could own the nicest, fanciest, most expensive, brand new top of the line RV and the peas would still clutch their pearls and shriek The horror! An RV! In a neighborhood! How tacky! How trashy! Call the HOA, I've got them in speed dial! So, what kind of RV do you have? πππππππ I don't have one.
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Post by leeny on Jul 8, 2017 16:14:51 GMT
Right now the issue is the RV. What if one of your close neighbors decide to have a bbq at the same time? Will their noise and bbq smoke bother your party? These are details that should have been figured out before you committed to your backyard party.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 8, 2017 16:19:08 GMT
Right now the issue is the RV. What if one of your close neighbors decide to have a bbq at the same time? Will their noise and bbq smoke bother your party? These are details that should have been figured out before you committed to your backyard party. Exactly! For all you know the other neighbor could have a bday party with a 20 foot tall bouncy house in their yard on the day of the wedding. Someone could mow. Someone could be having trees removed. The city could decide to repave your street. I couldn't handle the stress of a backyard event like this.
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Post by mcscrapper on Jul 8, 2017 16:26:38 GMT
I haven't read all of the posts but.... If I had a travel trailer that I kept in my back yard, there stands a good reason that I don't have a place to store it otherwise and if you were to ask me to move it, my only option might be to my front yard.
Also, depending on neighbor relations, if someone were to ask another homeowner to not mow at a specific time, I'd be willing to bet money there would be a lot of people mowing, grilling, and having their own backyard festivities ALL day long just out of spite.
If I were to have a backyard wedding, I would definitely tell my few neighbors (who would most likely be invited anyway) and apologize for the road congestion but I would also to offer to either come and mow the day before or pay someone to do it for them as a kind, neighborly gesture. I certainly wouldn't even consider asking someone not to do something just to suit my needs. As far as the RV situation goes... I'd probably inform the neighbor of my plans and try to ask the neighbor if he had any plans that weekend to be gone. If not, make your own arrangements to have something in place to hide the offending camper.
Our neighborhood pool has a home right next door that is very close to the party deck of the pool. Twice each summer the pool puts together an adult party that is over by 11pm. For years, the party committee gave the homeowner and gift card for dinner and a movie out so we aren't disturbing them too much. It usually quiets down by 10 anyway but the homeowners are older and have always been gracious about the parties there and have never complained. I guess it is all in the delivery and how you make people feel when imposing on them.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 8, 2017 16:41:06 GMT
This was my initial thought too. If the RV is big, odds are good they are storing it where they do because they don't have a better place to put it. You can ask, but if they have it on their property legally and aren't breaking any rules, you have to at least consider that the request to move it would not be very well received. If it was me, I would get creative with my resources and line the driveway next to the RV with a rented canopy or tent and put the sides down to create a decorative archway, or hang burlap or tulle or something else along my side of the fence to disguise it from my side. Honestly, if they're just walking through that area to get to where the reception is, how many people are really going to care? It's not like people will be lining up in your driveway for photo opportunities especially if there are more scenic areas set up for that elsewhere. And speaking of that, a good photographer should be able to mitigate ugly or unwanted things in the background with the camera settings or in post production. We had some professional family photos taken at home a couple years ago. He took several in front of our house with the side of the neighbor's house visible in some of the shots. Their house isn't ugly at all, but it's the back side of their garage which has no landscaping or windows and it looked out of place the way the photos were shot. The photographer blurred them some with the camera and more in Photoshop and the pics in front of our house turned out to be our favorites. I also agree that if I were the neighbors with the RV and knew there was going to be a noisy, into the night party going on next door that would drive my dogs nuts, I'd take the opportunity to get the heck out of Dodge on that weekend! Yeah, but it's NOT just the photos. Maybe they don't want the wedding to look like someone is cooking the blue meth next door, ya know? LOL! In all reality, I'd think if the trailer looked 'rolling meth lab' bad all the way from my yard another venue would have been chosen from the beginning.
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