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Post by sunnyd on Jul 8, 2017 4:08:08 GMT
We're having dd's wedding reception in our backyard next month. Our neighbors have a large RV parked on the side of their house, which is inches away from our fence line. It's an old, tall, large, ugly RV. It's on the side of our house where guests will walk to get to our backyard and the RV is very visible as it's parked right up against our fence. We honestly hate looking at that thing on a normal day. Would it be terribly rude for me to ask them to move it for the night of the reception? They use it quite a bit on weekends so there is a tiny chance that it will be gone that weekend anyway but not likely. How do I tell them nicely that it looks like a shit pile & we'd like it moved for the evening? TIA! Thanks & more info:Thank you for all of the replies. You can mark me down on the 2peas spreadsheet as being super judgy of junky RVs plus the mom of an entitled princess because she wants to have a wedding reception in our backyard, lol!  I own that!  To answer a few questions, dd is having a very small wedding, not at our house. We're having an open house/reception for wedding guests, serving dessert in the backyard from 7 to 9 p.m. Wedding & dinner are elsewhere. Dd wants to cut a cake & have a first dance which the other venue doesn't allow. There is a church two houses down that we have permission to use for guest parking. The neighbors could move their RV to their driveway. They live on the corner and their driveway is on the other street. Or they could move it to the church parking lot for 2 hours, which is allowed. The neighbors are nice people but we're not close friends. We chat at the mailbox, wave from the car, exchange Christmas treats & borrow an egg from each other if needed. I'm pretty sure I'm going to ask them to move it.  I'll let you know how it goes. Worse case, they say no & think we're judgy & entitled, lol. I think they will move it but if not, it's fine and we will happily work around it. I really do appreciate all of the responses, different perspectives & suggestions for what angle to take with my request. Thanks, peas!  9/14 UPDATE:So I told dd she would have to talk to the neighbor herself if she wanted to ask them to move their RV. She went over with her fiance and invited them to the backyard reception. Dd asked them if they could possibly move the RV for a few hours during the party. She used the peas idea to mention that they want a more natural background for their entry and send off photos. The neighbors happily obliged and the RV was gone for the party. Whew! The neighbors attended the reception and brought a lovely gift. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 8, 2017 4:09:56 GMT
That is really rude, and I don't think there is a good way of saying it.
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Post by jumperhop on Jul 8, 2017 4:11:41 GMT
Rude
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 8, 2017 4:11:51 GMT
Does your hoa or town have an ordinance against Eva?
It can't hurt to ask them or see if you can get something to hide it
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Post by pondrunner on Jul 8, 2017 4:13:01 GMT
Sorry to say I don't think you do, if it isn't in the way or encroaching on your property I think you mind your side of the property line and leave your neighbor to mind his. Do you have an HOA, is it in violation of covenants or any such? Without something like that I think you're stuck.
You could put a section of lattice above your fence or something and put twinkle lights on it to disguise it from your side.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 8, 2017 4:13:11 GMT
I don't think I could say anything (see my post going on..lol) but what about putting up some kind of screen to cover it?? Not on it, but like something to block it from view.
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Post by samantha25 on Jul 8, 2017 4:18:08 GMT
We got married in our friend's back yard (HOA in Greeenwood Village, CO) and we sent out a polite note (paper, door to door) to neighbors to not mow their lawns during our ceremony, so maybe you could send a note to all neighbors to help with procuring a beautiful background on this day at this time by doing xxxxxx (insert remove your RV).
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Post by anniefb on Jul 8, 2017 4:24:18 GMT
Unless I know them really really really well and we often do favours for each other I wouldn't ask - I'd just try and screen it in some way.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 4:30:40 GMT
Either live with it or find a different venue for your wedding. You don't like what they are doing in THEIR property, keep in mind they might not like having your guest walking between the houses through there even if your guests stay on your property.
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Post by Rhondito on Jul 8, 2017 4:31:05 GMT
There's no way I would ask them to move their RV from their property. Maybe if we were friends or very friendly, which I'm assuming you're not or you probably wouldn't be asking us this question.
I would hang tulle and twinkle lights using rope and tall stakes for the area your guests will walk.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 4:31:17 GMT
Unless I know them really really really well and we often do favours for each other I wouldn't ask - I'd just try and screen it in some way.  Unless you know them really well, I wouldn't risk pissing them off. They might just retaliate by parking that big 'ol ugly RV in front of your house on the day of the reception. |
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jul 8, 2017 4:33:38 GMT
I feel for you. RVs, trucks, etc., are such an eyesore in neighborhoods, IMHO. I'm sure others firmly disagree.
Depending on my relationship with the neighbor, I might say, "You are such great neighbors that I feel comfortable asking if you could help us out next month. DD is getting married in our backyard, and she has a vision for how she'd like for the setting to look. Since our guests will be coming and going on that side of the yard, is there any chance of parking the RV somewhere else just for that one day? We'd even be willing to cover the cost of relocating it during the wedding, if that would help. If it's too much of an inconvenience, we understand. But if it's possible, we would be so appreciative."
If I owned an RV and someone asked me that, I would certainly cooperate. But then I pride myself on being a good neighbor, as well, and if a neighbor asked me to do something to help make their child's wedding wishes come true and I could oblige, I would definitely do so.
You'll have to let us know how it turns out. All the best to you and your DD (and her fiance).
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 8, 2017 4:51:43 GMT
We had a wedding in the front yard on our street. I think they sent out a notice to all of us asking not to make a lot of noise at the bottom of the street (we are on a hill). We were happy to oblige. We are closer to the top anyway. That was all they asked. I think you are asking too much about the RV. They will get ticked off.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jul 8, 2017 4:51:46 GMT
If they are not close enough friends to be invited, they are certainly not close enough to ask them to move it. I doubt your guests will care. Put up some kind of screen if it's that important. Movies use pine branches stapled to wood to screen things. You have loads of options. You could put up a nice arching tunnel tent like those used as entrances to big tents so they see nothing of the side of the houses or stuff. Put lights in and the tone is set for a lovely setting.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 8, 2017 4:53:18 GMT
First I would check the rules of your town, parking an RV so close to another house would not be allowed in my town.
Second yes, I would ask. It doesn't hurt to ask and if they are nice they will move it for the day.
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Post by jamielynn on Jul 8, 2017 5:21:22 GMT
I can't imagine asking, and think in the past there have been threads about being the neighbor getting the letter about not mowing and not parking on the street. I don't think those went well if I recall.
If you did maybe you could go off something like "in the background of the pictures" and not mention it being an eyesore; but I wouldn't.
If it's on their property they shouldn't be asked to accommodate.
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Post by courtney on Jul 8, 2017 5:44:16 GMT
I don't think it is rude to ask at all! Worst case is they say no and get offended, but what is the worst they can do.
Realistically, if you ask in a polite way, they should have no problem with it. You deal with their RV everyday, they can move it for one day. I know if my neighbor was having a wedding reception in their yard and they wanted me to move my car( or in this case RV) so that it wouldn't be in the way, in pictures, etc I would have no problem with it.
A simple, "Hi *neighbor*, my DD is getting married on XYZ date and we will be hosting her wedding reception at our place. I wanted to provide you prior notice in the event that you are around that weekend. We hope to not disturb your, so please let us know if there are any issues with people parking you in or noise or anything. We are inviting only dearly close family and friends, so we are certain it won't be an issue. I do have a request though. We were hoping to take pictures and were hoping you could move your RV for the day only so that we can take pictures from all angles without worrying about it in the background. I hope that is okay with you! We'd love to have you over the week after for dinner to share some of the leftovers from this joyous occasion. Let us know when works for you!"
Most people are very accommodating when you ask with a polite attitude!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 5:50:26 GMT
We got married in our friend's back yard (HOA in Greeenwood Village, CO) and we sent out a polite note (paper, door to door) to neighbors to not mow their lawns during our ceremony, so maybe you could send a note to all neighbors to help with procuring a beautiful background on this day at this time by doing xxxxxx (insert remove your RV). Wow. Just. Wow |
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Post by courtney on Jul 8, 2017 5:59:30 GMT
We got married in our friend's back yard (HOA in Greeenwood Village, CO) and we sent out a polite note (paper, door to door) to neighbors to not mow their lawns during our ceremony, so maybe you could send a note to all neighbors to help with procuring a beautiful background on this day at this time by doing xxxxxx (insert remove your RV). Wow. Just. Wow I don't see how this is unreasonable. If you wrote notes to your neighbors asking them to not mow their lawns before noon on weekends because you like to sleep to noon, yeah I'd roll my eyes. But for a one time occasion, with prior notice, I would happily oblige and think only sourpusses would have a problem with being asked. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 6:05:50 GMT
I used to mow lawns and had a set time for everybody. There was no wiggle room. If I didn't mow I didn't get paid.
I would not have been happy with such a request. Unless somebody was going to pay me not to show up.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 8, 2017 6:12:20 GMT
Yeah you're going to come off as rude no matter how you phrase it. I'd suggest figuring out a covering of some sort. You could even fashion a pretty backdrop for people to take pictures against.
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Post by courtney on Jul 8, 2017 6:28:18 GMT
I used to mow lawns and had a set time for everybody. There was no wiggle room. If I didn't mow I didn't get paid. I would not have been happy with such a request. Unless somebody was going to pay me not to show up. Even if they gave them a months notice to reschedule? Surely things come up. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 6:52:41 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head.  |
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Post by sunshinestate on Jul 8, 2017 7:33:16 GMT
Where would they move it to?
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Post by pinklady on Jul 8, 2017 7:41:48 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head. In my book, being neighborly or a good neighbor is leaving me alone.  |
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Post by courtney on Jul 8, 2017 7:44:28 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head. In my book, being neighborly or a good neighbor is leaving me alone. So if your neighbor had a simple request, such as this, you wouldn't do it? Shame on you. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 7:46:45 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head. I don't consider holding a large party, like a wedding reception, in a back yard with all of its attending noise as being neighborly. I consider that being a spoiled entitled person. In the spirit of being neighborly I won't complain about it. But, when you start making "requests" about changing my schedule and my parking on MY property...... you'll get a ton of passive aggressiveness. I don't see what the OP wants to do as being neighborly from her side. She wants to create a parking/noise issue in the neighborhood AND tell me what to do at my home so she can pretend to be some sort of princess on an estate. |
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Post by courtney on Jul 8, 2017 7:54:26 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head. I don't consider holding a large party, like a wedding reception, in a back yard with all of its attending noise as being neighborly. I consider that being a spoiled entitled person. In the spirit of being neighborly I won't complain about it. But, when you start making "requests" about changing my schedule and my parking on MY property...... you'll get a ton of passive aggressiveness. I don't see what the OP wants to do as being neighborly from her side. She wants to create a parking/noise issue in the neighborhood AND tell me what to do at my home so she can pretend to be some sort of princess on an estate. WTF tbh. You are the one sounding entitled. They are doing something on their land. Which they do hardly ever. You can be a decent person and allow it for one night for their daughters only wedding. Shame on your. Seriously. If you are concerned with yourself in this situation, the fault lies with you. I'm sure they would repay you for what ever "inconvenience" you "know" |
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Post by courtney on Jul 8, 2017 7:57:11 GMT
I can't believe many, nay most, of the responses here. What has happened to being neighborly? Being the good neighbor? I wouldn't park an RV on my property to begin with, and I most certainly would happily accommodate a neighbor for their child's wedding day. Literally, shaking my head. I don't consider holding a large party, like a wedding reception, in a back yard with all of its attending noise as being neighborly. I consider that being a spoiled entitled person. In the spirit of being neighborly I won't complain about it. But, when you start making "requests" about changing my schedule and my parking on MY property...... you'll get a ton of passive aggressiveness. I don't see what the OP wants to do as being neighborly from her side. She wants to create a parking/noise issue in the neighborhood AND tell me what to do at my home so she can pretend to be some sort of princess on an estate. I see you live in a very different area. I can't imagine you're area, bc I live in LA. We just love rather than hate here tbh |
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 8, 2017 8:11:30 GMT
"Shame on you", really?! courtney? I don't see how you can say you love rather than hate if you go around handslapping like that. OP, I get it , we have on street parking here and people are often annoyed by caravans, large vans etc. The problem is that if it is on their land I really don't see how you can ask them to move it. Where else could they park it? Saying you want them to move it because it's ugly is just never going to go well. Is it going to be visible all through the event or just as people walk in? I'm assuming you haven't invited them to the wedding. Have you told them it's happening? In my mind that's a courteous thing to do, and then it's your opportunity to find out if they are even going to be around that weekend. If they are off RV-ing, you're sorted. If they aren't, you're u can start thinking of ways to mitigate the eyesore from your side...I like the idea of putting up a trellis or a screen that could be decorated, or even making a walkway with fabric drapes. It depends on the space. Good luck! |
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I own that! 
I'll let you know how it goes. Worse case, they say no & think we're judgy & entitled, lol. I think they will move it but if not, it's fine and we will happily work around it. I really do appreciate all of the responses, different perspectives & suggestions for what angle to take with my request. Thanks, peas! 
Unless you know them really well, I wouldn't risk pissing them off. They might just retaliate by parking that big 'ol ugly RV in front of your house on the day of the reception. 
