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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 23:38:40 GMT
I don't consider holding a large party, like a wedding reception, in a back yard with all of its attending noise as being neighborly. I consider that being a spoiled entitled person. In the spirit of being neighborly I won't complain about it. But, when you start making "requests" about changing my schedule and my parking on MY property...... you'll get a ton of passive aggressiveness. I don't see what the OP wants to do as being neighborly from her side. She wants to create a parking/noise issue in the neighborhood AND tell me what to do at my home so she can pretend to be some sort of princess on an estate. Or, you know, you could be a decent human and just comply for a couple of hours or for one day, voltagain .... such a small gesture would make a big deal for someone. Why not do something nice especially when it's so easy? And parking space is provided? The original post does not mention parking being available. I strongly believe in boundaries. When I start letting you make "requests" (which based on pea responses like this sounds more like a demand) you have crossed my boundary of being free to do what I want on my property that is legal and not against the HOA. I consider it still being decent to say no to any request I deem unreasonable and I deem moving my legally parked vehicle as an unreasonable request. Being an indecent (the opposite of decent) human would be to move my vehicle, then crank up all the divorce/break up songs in every genre I can find to blast during your party along with burning some nice fatty meat on the back yard grill so the smoke ends up covering your yard. FTR, I really don't care of you or much of anyone else think I'm a decent/nice person or not. My experience, nice people end up being walked all over. As a neighbor, leave me alone and I'll leave you alone.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 8, 2017 23:45:32 GMT
Yowzers - I love my neighbors, and this thread definitely makes me appreciate them! I feel that way too about most of my neighbors. If any neighbor had asked me to move my RV for a wedding reception, I would have happily (or almost happily) done it. We have had scores of new neighbors and almost all of them (except the rental next door that sold drugs...) have been really great people who are generally kind of quiet and offer to help at a moment's notice. We do have a newer family behind us who has six boys, but they are moving in October. I was worried that my older kids would cuss in front of their much younger boys, but damn, the kids all cuss at least as well as I can.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2017 23:46:23 GMT
I don't consider holding a large party, like a wedding reception, in a back yard with all of its attending noise as being neighborly. I consider that being a spoiled entitled person. In the spirit of being neighborly I won't complain about it. But, when you start making "requests" about changing my schedule and my parking on MY property...... you'll get a ton of passive aggressiveness. I don't see what the OP wants to do as being neighborly from her side. She wants to create a parking/noise issue in the neighborhood AND tell me what to do at my home so she can pretend to be some sort of princess on an estate. So, we now know Volt is the grumpy neighbor we all dread. It's a wedding reception - a once in a lifetime event. Why not be nice? If you are trying to shame me. I don't give a flip what you think. I'm polite to my nieghbors if I see them outside. I keep my yard mowed/clean. My trash can gets brought in from the curb every trash day. You'd never know when I'm home or not unless you see me come/go. But why don't YOU be nice and invite me to the party that you are going to want me to alter my behavior to accommodate instead of just asking me to move my vehicle because you don't like it? Don't tell me what to do on my property and I won't tell you to take a hike. Niceness IS a two way street. Asking isn't always nice either. Peas complain about teens being entitled but don't see how entitled they are in their own behavior. Asking someone to do/not do a legal and and normal activity just because you are having a party is being entitled.
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Post by inkedup on Jul 8, 2017 23:52:35 GMT
Or, you know, you could be a decent human and just comply for a couple of hours or for one day, voltagain .... such a small gesture would make a big deal for someone. Why not do something nice especially when it's so easy? And parking space is provided? The original post does not mention parking being available. I strongly believe in boundaries. When I start letting you make "requests" (which based on pea responses like this sounds more like a demand) you have crossed my boundary of being free to do what I want on my property that is legal and not against the HOA. I consider it still being decent to say no to any request I deem unreasonable and I deem moving my legally parked vehicle as an unreasonable request. Being an indecent (the opposite of decent) human would be to move my vehicle, then crank up all the divorce/break up songs in every genre I can find to blast during your party along with burning some nice fatty meat on the back yard grill so the smoke ends up covering your yard. FTR, I really don't care of you or much of anyone else think I'm a decent/nice person or not. My experience, nice people end up being walked all over. As a neighbor, leave me alone and I'll leave you alone. Damn. You're hostile. The stuff you are talking about doing is straight up asshole behavior. I imagine you shaking your cane at the sky and shouting, "get off my lawn!!" Our neighbors recently hosted a beautiful baby shower for their son and his wife. About a month before, they kindly asked us if we minded trimming some trees back and offered to have their lawn service do it at their expense. Maybe because my neighbors are nice people, but I didn't feel like they were making demands of me and my home. We trimmed the trees and hedges and dropped off a gift for the baby. We were invited to the shower, so maybe that's another reason I didn't take their request as a personal affront. You said OP was acting like an entitled princess on an estate. Well, the same could be said for you. If you want to live on a quiet little island where no one ever dares infringe on your precious space, maybe you need an estate of your own.
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Post by SunnySmile on Jul 9, 2017 0:03:26 GMT
We've had experiences from both sides, so to speak. Once our neighbors were having a big party, which they told all the neighbors about. They invited us to drop in, but we weren't friends yet, they had just moved in next door, and it was a family thing in which we didn't want to intrude on. Their music was so loud that it was instantly annoying, because not only was it extremely loud, it was rap music, which I loathe. We let it be for a while, thinking they would adjust the volume, but they never did. I have no idea how anyone had a conversation it was so loud. We ended up leaving to go see a movie because we just couldn't stand it any longer.
The other situation that happened was my parents used their backyard for the reception of my brother and his wife. The whole place was set up beautifully, and right in the middle of the reception, a huge wind storm came through and blew everything around, tables blew over, tablecloths and flowers went flying. My parents ended up with tons of people in the house, which they had never intended, walking through bedrooms and other rooms that they weren't invited to see. I would seriously reconsider having the reception in your yard, you might be getting or giving more than you bargained for.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 9, 2017 1:31:32 GMT
I don't think neighborly people ask neighbors to alter their home life for your convenience. Neighborly people apologize before hand when they plan to inconvenience their neighbors with a large party and the cars and noise that go with it.
In no way shape or form is asking your neighbors to move their RV going to be received as anything other than "It's an eyesore that is going to ruin my party."
I'm sharing the bench with Volt on this one.
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Post by imsirius on Jul 9, 2017 1:40:10 GMT
So, we now know Volt is the grumpy neighbor we all dread. It's a wedding reception - a once in a lifetime event. Why not be nice? If you are trying to shame me. I don't give a flip what you think. I'm polite to my nieghbors if I see them outside. I keep my yard mowed/clean. My trash can gets brought in from the curb every trash day. You'd never know when I'm home or not unless you see me come/go. But why don't YOU be nice and invite me to the party that you are going to want me to alter my behavior to accommodate instead of just asking me to move my vehicle because you don't like it? Don't tell me what to do on my property and I won't tell you to take a hike. Niceness IS a two way street. Asking isn't always nice either. Peas complain about teens being entitled but don't see how entitled they are in their own behavior. Asking someone to do/not do a legal and and normal activity just because you are having a party is being entitled. There it is... why on Earth would you be invited with an attitude of " leave me alone, don't ask me to do anything nice for you?" Being a nice neighbour is more than taking in your cans and keeping your lawn mowed. Thank God I have wonderful neighbours who all get along. You would be a nightmare to live next door to.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Jul 9, 2017 2:04:25 GMT
I don't think I could say anything (see my post going on..lol) but what about putting up some kind of screen to cover it?? Not on it, but like something to block it from view. a trend I've noticed, maybe on pinterest, is a "flower wall" - maybe you could do something like this to screen the RV. Also, do you think inviting the neighbors to the wedding would help, or not?
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 9, 2017 4:30:10 GMT
I wouldn't ask them to move it but maybe that's because I have an RV in my driveway, but mine is covered. Put up lattice (on your side) and twinkly fairy lights OR attach 2x2's to the fence along the walkway draped with tulle and twinkly fairy lights. Check with your local rental place or wherever you're getting your chairs, tables, linens and stuff from as they probably have ideas for you. What, you have an RV in your driveway, don't you know you're supposed to park that thing at Wal-Mart. And apparently just leave it there, unattended for a few hours We cover our RV too, except for right now since it's getting packed for a trip
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