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Post by MaryMary on Sept 12, 2018 21:24:23 GMT
UPDATE: Cecily says that the rest of the class pronounces her name right despite her teacher saying it wrong, which was what I was concerned about. That EVERYONE would start saying it wrong. So if everyone says Sess-ily and the teacher is still pronouncing it Siss-ily, I suspect she can’t pick up the difference for whatever reason. Because I have said Don and Dawn outloud a thousand times and still can barely distinguish a difference and my family is begging me to shut up. Although I am considering changing the pronunciation to Nermi because that is still the best thing I have ever heard.
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Do you ignore it? Let her know? My 7 year old won’t correct her, but I’m sure it bothers her. Do I send a light, fluffy email mentioning it, or just accept that people are going to constantly pronounce it wrong and leave it up to my daughter to correct them or not?
Both times I’ve met her I’ve said “I’m Cecily’s mom” (sess-ih-lee) and she responds “Sicily is ____!” (enthusiastic praise, she is very lovely... I don’t want to offend her in any way, but if I was a teacher I would want to know if I wasn’t pronouncing a name correctly.).
Also... I am aware that both pronunciations are correct, but we use cess instead of ciss.
Also also... sorry if this is stupid or helicoptery. My name is Mary. My name has never been mispronounced ever in the history of forever. Just not sure how to handle it.
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Post by Patter on Sept 12, 2018 21:26:34 GMT
I would tell her and encourage your daughter to lovingly speak up. This is not the last time it will happen. I am 53, and people still can't pronounce my name. I get Peter, Potter, you name it. She will need to get used to telling people nicely how to pronounce her name.  |
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Sept 12, 2018 21:31:02 GMT
Mary you crack me up! I would just politely tell her especially given the age. Now if this was happening in High School, totally on Cecily to correct.  |
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Post by johnnysmom on Sept 12, 2018 21:31:10 GMT
I agree, as another one who's name is often mispronounced (Eileen) you want to teach dd that it's ok to correct people. But yes, I would go ahead and correct the teacher. If at all possible I'd do it in person so you can be clear on the pronunciation and say it in a non-offensible way (or at least know you tried).
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 21:31:14 GMT
Do you ignore it? Let her know? My 7 year old won’t correct her, but I’m sure it bothers her. Do I send a light, fluffy email mentioning it, or just accept that people are going to constantly pronounce it wrong and leave it up to my daughter to correct them or not? Both times I’ve met her I’ve said “I’m Cecily’s mom” (sess-ih-lee) and she responds “Sicily is ____!” (enthusiastic praise, she is very lovely... I don’t want to offend her in any way, but if I was a teacher I would want to know if I wasn’t pronouncing a name correctly.). Also... I am aware that both pronunciations are correct, but we use cess instead of ciss. Also also... sorry if this is stupid or helicoptery. My name is Mary. My name has never been mispronounced ever in the history of forever. Just not sure how to handle it. Perhaps she can't pronounce it correctly? We have a young lady in our office that has a name giving some people trouble. She pronounces it one way and a couple of people pronounce it another but they can't really hear the difference. It is very much a Cessily/Cicily type of thing they just can't get the pronunciation to match what they hear even after being told point blank they say it wrong. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Sept 12, 2018 21:33:27 GMT
My first name cannot be spelled correctly by any human. Similar problem. I spell it slowly for everyone because it’s so difficult to spell DAWN.
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Post by disneypal on Sept 12, 2018 21:34:41 GMT
Given your DD's age, I think I would send the light, fluffy email - explain that DD is a bit shy about correcting people so you just thought you'd let her know the correct pronunciation.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Sept 12, 2018 21:34:52 GMT
My chem teacher in HS mispronounce my name (my name isn’t some weird name...idk how he even could think it could sound how he pronounced it but whatever) I told him it was pronounced .... and he said “I prefer to say it my way”
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Post by disneypal on Sept 12, 2018 21:36:11 GMT
I told him it was pronounced .... and he said “I prefer to say it my way”  |
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Post by ellen on Sept 12, 2018 21:41:01 GMT
I wonder if she thinks she is saying it like you are. Our dog's name is Daphne. There are a few people who always call her Daphane (Like Stephanie) even though they hear us saying Daphne. I haven't corrected them, but I think they think they are saying it like we are.
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Post by Peal on Sept 12, 2018 21:41:26 GMT
Let the teacher know, but don't be surprised if nothing changes. Once people get a pronunciation in their heads, it's hard for them to change. Our last name is a very simple last name to pronounce, especially for native English speakers. It rhymes with lots of other simple English words. But it's still only pronounced correctly about 2/3 of the time. People add letters, take letters away, hear other people say it correctly, they never can seem to get it right though.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 12, 2018 21:43:20 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts.
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Post by kate on Sept 12, 2018 21:44:13 GMT
I would, as johnnysmom suggested, do it gently and in person. Vowel sounds can be tricky for some people. Also, they very widely by region. The word "let" spoken by someone from western NY sounds to me like "lut." Spoken by someone from Australia, it sounds to me like "lit." The teacher may actually be saying it with the correct vowel, but a different regional accent. When *I* say, it, of course, it's a perfect "let" - to MY ears.  |
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Post by AnotherPea on Sept 12, 2018 21:48:28 GMT
I'd politely correct the teacher. But you'll probably have to learn to let this go. People mispronounce my daughter's name a lot. Very similar situation. She has aunts that mispronounce it, even though they've been corrected multiple times. The way they say it is an acceptable way, but I wasn't even aware there was an alternate until I had the kid.
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Post by MaryMary on Sept 12, 2018 21:48:56 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts. Whoa, okay... mind blown. They are the same in my brain, too. How do others pronounce them differently?!? Although, I’ve always thought Mary/merry/marry were identical sounding so maybe I’m a dumdum. And I appreciate the thought that maybe cess/ciss are too similar for some to distinguish between. Maybe I will just leave it alone. |
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Post by gar on Sept 12, 2018 21:53:18 GMT
My first name cannot be spelled correctly by any human. Similar problem. I spell it slowly for everyone because it’s so difficult to spell DAWN. No way!! I’ve never heard you mention that before!! OP - I would certainly say something- why not? 🙂 |
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Post by Linda on Sept 12, 2018 21:54:15 GMT
I would correct it and I would encourage your daughter to speak up and correct it as well.
My older daughter not only gets mispronunciations but she also gets unrelated names as well - she learnt quickly to answer to anything close
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Post by gar on Sept 12, 2018 21:54:42 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts. Whoa, okay... mind blown. They are the same in my brain, too. How do others pronounce them differently?!? . I think it all comes down to the North American accents. Don and Dawn don’t sound alike to me at all. |
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Post by scorpeao on Sept 12, 2018 21:58:50 GMT
You can correct the teacher, but if your experience is anything like mine, it won't matter. My daughter is Naomi. Sooooo many people pronounce it Nigh-oh-me...it's Nay-oh-me. By the time she got to high school she quit correcting people. About three months into her freshman year her band director asked how to pronounce it. She told him and he said everyone kept correcting him when he was saying it correctly. When she said she didn't really care how you pronounced it he said "I need you to care because I'm tired of being corrected." The band ended up calling her Nermi...go figure.
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Post by meridon on Sept 12, 2018 22:03:46 GMT
To muddy the waters even further...Cecily is of course the feminine form of Cecil, which is pronounced See-sil in the US and Cess-il in the UK. Maybe point that out to the teacher and let her know you pronounce it the European way? Maybe that will help her "hear" it?
I have a similar problem--DD age 8 is named Marina but her teacher printed out all the labels on everything as Mariana and told DD that "the computer did it"....um, ok, but we're a month into school now, and she still hasn't printed new labels. I took a sharpie and changed it myself on the main folder they use, hoping that the teacher would see it and take the hint.
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Post by Skellinton on Sept 12, 2018 22:04:06 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts. Who do they not sound the same too? Dawn and Don, I mean. How do they sound to other people? |
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Post by yivit on Sept 12, 2018 22:06:34 GMT
How can a teacher teach the difference between short E and short I if they can't distinguish the difference between Cecily and Sicily?
-signed, Yvette, which is pronounced ee-vet not wye-vet or yuh-vet or even eye-vet. Don't even get me started on spelling it.
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Post by gar on Sept 12, 2018 22:08:33 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts. Who do they not sound the same too? Dawn and Don, I mean. How do they sound to other people? Try saying it in a British accent |
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Post by jennyap on Sept 12, 2018 22:14:12 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts. Who do they not sound the same too? Dawn and Don, I mean. How do they sound to other people? You can listen to the UK and US pronunciations on this site: dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/dawn(Link is for dawn) |
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Post by bc2ca on Sept 12, 2018 22:21:23 GMT
I would tell her and encourage your daughter to lovingly speak up. This is not the last time it will happen. I am 53, and people still can't pronounce my name. I get Peter, Potter, you name it. She will need to get used to telling people nicely how to pronounce her name.  DD name is almost always mispronounced at first and she learned to politely correct people. IME, her friends were always happy to correct the new teacher, too.  It may be the teacher knows someone/had a previous student with that name that pronounced it the other way, it may be that she just doesn't hear the difference between what you are saying and what she says. |
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Post by yivit on Sept 12, 2018 22:22:30 GMT
I agree that Cess and Cic might sound the same to the teacher. To me Dawn and Don and lawn and con all sound exactly the same. Some people will think I’m nuts. Who do they not sound the same too? Dawn and Don, I mean. How do they sound to other people? I can tell the difference and pronounce them differently. But then, I've taken great lengths to NOT sound like some hick (even though I'm a native Texan and born and raised in SE Texas) because when I was taking foreign languages it got in the way. My drawl DOES come out though at times. Boy, did it while I was in college at Texas A&M! Sometimes people don't believe me when I tell them I was born in Pasa-get-down-dena, until I break out the drawl. |
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Post by scrapngranny on Sept 12, 2018 22:26:08 GMT
This reminds me of a story of when my grandson was in preschool. His teacher was Hispanic and pronounced his name, Ethan as Efan. He came home school one day and swore to his mom she was pronouncing his name wrong because Mrs. So&So said his name was Efan. Poor little guy was so confused.
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Post by marimoose on Sept 12, 2018 22:26:53 GMT
As a person whose name was slaughtered all through school, I would speak up to the teacher. I was a military brat, moving frequently and tended to be shy because she I was always the newbie. As an adult I shortened my name and people still mispronounce it. One of the checkers at Safeway has called me 5e wrong name for 20 years and I just don’t correct her  . My brother calls me the same pronunciation as a nickname so it doesn’t bother me one bit but I always laugh inside... every time. I wish my mom had helped me out with the teachers since she tagged me with the name haha |
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 12, 2018 22:27:28 GMT
How is that baby 7 years old?
I’d send the email if you want her to be known by your pronunciation going forward.
My DD has a name that is a very common, very normal traditional name. We used a diminutive of the name and from day 1, my MIL refused to use it, calling her the formal name. When she started school, we filled out the school form saying that was what she was to be called. Her 1st grade teacher decided to use her full name.
Between the two, DD chose to use the full, formal name. Then used another version of the name a few years later, but not the one the family calls her. So she goes by three different names, depending on the people she’s around. Gah. I carried that child for 8 months, was on bed rest, had twice weekly doctor appts and was in labor for 53 FREAKING HOURS. I’m supposed to be the one to name her!!! Not my MIL or her first grade teacher!
Sigh. Send the email.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 12, 2018 22:29:18 GMT
I would nicely and politely inform the teacher Her name is pronounced this way.... not that way.
My name can be shortened. I don't like that, and immediately (politely and nicely) correct people, if they shorten it. It's ABCDEF, not ABC.
I won't answer to the shorten name.
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DD name is almost always mispronounced at first and she learned to politely correct people. IME, her friends were always happy to correct the new teacher, too. 
. My brother calls me the same pronunciation as a nickname so it doesn’t bother me one bit but I always laugh inside... every time. I wish my mom had helped me out with the teachers since she tagged me with the name haha
