likescarrots
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Post by likescarrots on Mar 18, 2019 18:39:45 GMT
WOW! Just Wow! Police report and cameras (that you can monitor live) if you ever need to use a house sitter again. So sorry Merge. One of the hinky things this time was that she had unplugged our internet almost the minute she walked in the door (it was down/unplugged when we got home and the app I use showed it had been down since the 10th). Strongly suspect she was worried that we could see or hear her somehow if there was internet to the house. she was making sure if you had any cameras they weren't accessible to you. Sounds like the whole thing was planned out. I'm sorry this happened to you and I would for sure contact the police.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 18:43:34 GMT
You can only write off losses due to federally declared disasters, so no. I'm not sure that's true. linkIf you go to the first page, lower right hand corner "Losses you can deduct" - Losses You Can Deduct For tax years 2018 through 2025, if you are an individual, losses of personal-use property from fire, storm, shipwreck, or other casualty, or theft are deductible only if the loss is attributable to a federally declared disaster (federal casualty loss). See Pub. 547 for more information
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Post by jassy on Mar 18, 2019 18:45:06 GMT
My guess is that she is either newly addicted to drugs (from the last time you hired her) OR (maybe more likely) she is involved/dating someone who is addicted to drugs and gave them access to your home. The pills might not have been about your dog meds at all.
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Post by internetmama on Mar 18, 2019 18:53:40 GMT
My guess is that she is either newly addicted to drugs (from the last time you hired her) OR (maybe more likely) she is involved/dating someone who is addicted to drugs and gave them access to your home. The pills might not have been about your dog meds at all. Excellent point. Shown that text to the police for the report. I’m livid for you and also hope your neighbors can fill in some blanks for you. Do you know this girl’s family? Have her address? Ever googled her name? Maybe she’s stupid enough to have left a social media trail with photos? Just say the word and The Peas would be all over that hunt!
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 18, 2019 18:53:46 GMT
My guess is that she is either newly addicted to drugs (from the last time you hired her) OR (maybe more likely) she is involved/dating someone who is addicted to drugs and gave them access to your home. The pills might not have been about your dog meds at all. Either of these, or she subcontracted out to a 'friend' which would also explain shutting off the internet in case you had cameras. She may not have wanted you to see that there was someone else in your house. I'd be really concerned about someone else driving around in your car. I hope you took pictures. Either way, make a list of everything - and file a report with the police.
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Post by gar on Mar 18, 2019 19:00:21 GMT
Wow indeed! That's insane and you must feel your home's been so violated - what a horrible shock.
The 'subcontracting' makes sense and now she's covering like crazy!
I agree with filing the report and with checking with your neighbours to see if they have any info for you.
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Post by mrssmith on Mar 18, 2019 19:00:51 GMT
That’s crazy! I probably would have called the police right after I walked in seeing that. I hope you took pics.
Also, when I get home tonight I am taking pictures of all my valuables. I never lock up my jewelry. Maybe I am too trusting!
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Post by Really Red on Mar 18, 2019 19:14:35 GMT
OMG. I would be livid. OMG. I have kids staying at my house for my pups all the time!
I cannot even. I hope you get your rings back and I'm amazed you knew what was gone. If you don't, I really hope you file a police report. It's not okay what she did.
Wow. The fact that she cut your internet connection means she knows what she was doing.
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Mar 18, 2019 19:55:19 GMT
How horrible. It's definitely worth a call to the Police.
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 18, 2019 20:06:04 GMT
Wow. I hope you get your rings back.
I, too, wonder if she had someone else in the house.
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Mar 18, 2019 20:08:00 GMT
girl, you need to call. the. police!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 20:09:25 GMT
DH feels like it's hard to show theft when you gave someone access to your home, and that the police won't be able to do anything about it. Who knows. People reports thefts by the cleaning crew, baby sitter, dog sitter, contractor, even their own roommate all the time. Hiring someone to house and pet sit means you expect a certain level of accountability. Trashing your house and stealing ain't it. Please do file a police report. You only know of the damage and missing items you see. You need to have this documented in case something bigger turns up... her guests file a lawsuit because they were injured in your house, your financial information is stolen, etc.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Mar 18, 2019 20:10:22 GMT
So sorry to hear that this has happened. I feel so bad your pets. My first thought, was that perhaps she rented your house to someone (on one of those vacation rental websites or to a friend).
I would definitely file a police report, so you at have documentation.
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Post by roberta on Mar 18, 2019 20:42:43 GMT
😲 Sorry for all this. It’s horrible to be violated like this. I agree - police
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Mar 18, 2019 20:46:28 GMT
Just a note, you might put a credit freeze out, and check your credit cards. If she had access to your house files, she could get your credit card number off the bills, your ssn off your tax returns, etc.
I also immediately thought the pills meant pills for someone to take, drugs.
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wellway
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Post by wellway on Mar 18, 2019 20:53:07 GMT
Is this her business, is she declaring her income, is she insured? I would, in addition to a police file, make a claim against her.
She might lol at it now but a call from the police, her insurers and the tax office might make her attitude do a 180.
Still livid for you and your pets
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dantemia
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Post by dantemia on Mar 18, 2019 21:06:16 GMT
I'd be worried she did all that drinking and then drove your husband's car.
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Post by maryland on Mar 18, 2019 21:06:54 GMT
😫😫😫 I would be beyond livid. I am LIVID right now FOR YOU. I cannot even imagine! How old is this person? Your poor dogs! Have you checked your medicine cabinets? I would probably still file a police report on her. She stole from you, not just the rings, but also your daughter’s clothing. I would want to ensure this never happens again to some other unsuspecting person. That’s a lot of liquor to finish all by ones self. And with your house in such a state, did she throw a party? I would too! She needs to pay you back the advance, return the stolen items and pay for a cleaning service. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this. You want to make sure she doesn't do this to another family.
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Post by sabrinae on Mar 18, 2019 21:09:35 GMT
Please make the police report. It covers yourself in case she took something that you haven’t noticed yet. I’d would also urge anyone else in a similar situation to take pictures before cleaning the mess up. I would also report to the police that she drove your car without permission in case she got tickets or caused an accident while driving it
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Mar 18, 2019 21:10:37 GMT
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Mar 18, 2019 21:43:34 GMT
Everything the others have said, plus, have you spoken to your neighbours? Did they notice anything? Anything else that you haven't spotted yet?
We rented our house out while we lived abroad. When one family moved out, the youngest son didn't hand back one of our keys and came back the following week to our empty house and held a Facebook party. The neighbours reported watching hundred of teens walk up the cul-de-sac, and naked teens yomping through our kitchen. They called the agent who didn't come, the police, and the son's mother. She stormed over there and kicked everybody out before the police got there. We knew nothing of this until a year later when we got back - and that was from the neighbours, not the agent. The agent never told us anything.
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Post by Zee on Mar 18, 2019 21:50:39 GMT
Thanks all. I agree there was probably a party, and I also think she farmed out a couple of days to friends if she was busy or something came up. I also suspect those rings aren't coming back. DH feels like it's hard to show theft when you gave someone access to your home, and that the police won't be able to do anything about it. Who knows. But you have messages admitting she took the rings, right? If those were on Facebook, unblock her so you can still access them.
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Post by Merge on Mar 18, 2019 22:04:51 GMT
Thanks all. I agree there was probably a party, and I also think she farmed out a couple of days to friends if she was busy or something came up. I also suspect those rings aren't coming back. DH feels like it's hard to show theft when you gave someone access to your home, and that the police won't be able to do anything about it. Who knows. But you have messages admitting she took the rings, right? If those were on Facebook, unblock her so you can still access them. I unblocked her but the old messages don't appear. I love the your screen name, though.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Mar 18, 2019 22:14:15 GMT
As a house/pet sitter myself, I am absolutely disgusted. The level of trust and responsibility is not to be violated like that. I feel so bad for you.
I do want to suggest after you’ve calmed down, be open to finding another sitter. I’ve heard horror stories from boarding, and it can really stress animals out.
With some research you may find a trustworthy reliable person. And after this, make a few pro active changes, like installing cameras, locking up jewelry, car keys and liquor.
Having a sitter also helps lessen the chance of burglary because your house isn’t observably empty.
This from someone who took care of 2 dogs ( one who was old , big, and sick) 3 cats 3 goats Fish in aquarium 6 rabbits And 10 laying chickens
For 4 weeks. The older dog had a giant bottle of Tramadol, and part way through I had to go get a refill. I’d never seen so much pain meds all at once!
Either way, I know you’ll be more careful, and I’m so sorry you came home to this!
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Post by wezee on Mar 18, 2019 22:25:54 GMT
sounds like she had someone else staying there with her.
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Mar 18, 2019 22:31:30 GMT
Oh how,awful! Glad your pets are OK, hope you can get the rings back.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Mar 18, 2019 22:39:32 GMT
But you have messages admitting she took the rings, right? If those were on Facebook, unblock her so you can still access them. I unblocked her but the old messages don't appear. I love the your screen name, though. Type something to her—the old messages should reappear.
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Post by SockMonkey on Mar 18, 2019 22:49:37 GMT
Ohhhhh, I would be SO mad. About all of it, but mostly about the neglected dogs.
TBH, I would probably file a police report.
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Post by birukitty on Mar 18, 2019 23:25:20 GMT
Merge I am so very sorry this happened to you, your family and especially to your dogs. I too am livid that you came home to this and most especially that your dogs received such inadequate care.
I will echo so many of the other Peas-I think it is vitally important that you file a police report. Your DH is assuming the police won't be able to do anything about it. Maybe that's true. But doing something about it isn't the only reason for filing the police report. Someone used your car without permission. Who knows what they did while driving it? Ran through a stop light, speeding, maybe even did a hit and run with little to no damage to your car. These are all possibilities that you won't know until the police track down your car. By filing a police report now you'll be protecting your family without the mess of going to court to prove you weren't there but on vacation.
In my opinion it's very important to file a police report. Think of it as a way to further protect yourself and your family. If something happens to this pet sitter because of it I'd consider it a bonus. I'd think of protection first. Also as others have said who knows what you might find missing in the coming days? Having that police report filed will give you the chance to add missing items to the report.
Again I am very sorry this happened to you. You've gotten some great advice from several Peas so far so I won't add to it. I wish for you strength, peace and tenaciousness in the coming days as you deal with this mess. We are here for you any time you need to vent, complain or just need a shoulder to lean on.
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lesley
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Post by lesley on Mar 18, 2019 23:25:27 GMT
The traumatised pups alone would make me want to exact whatever revenge I could. As everyone else has said, you need to report this to the police. Who knows what consequences of her actions might appear in a few weeks/months?
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