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Post by thundergal on Mar 19, 2019 16:19:06 GMT
Merge Did you take pics of the mess she left?? No. All I could think was to get it clean. I probably would have done exactly the same thing in a fit of rage and to feel like I was in some kind of control over the situation. To just get it fixed. I understand why you feel foolish because I think I would, too, if I were in your shoes. But you are not foolish. I hope that as time passes, that feeling subsides. All we're ever able to do is our best with the information we have, and there just wasn't any reason to suspect this was going to happen. Wore your daughters clothes...I'm just...what a completely crazy situation!! Sendin' hugs!!
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Mar 19, 2019 16:27:40 GMT
I'm not sure that's true. linkIf you go to the first page, lower right hand corner "Losses you can deduct" - Losses You Can Deduct For tax years 2018 through 2025, if you are an individual, losses of personal-use property from fire, storm, shipwreck, or other casualty, or theft are deductible only if the loss is attributable to a federally declared disaster (federal casualty loss). See Pub. 547 for more information When my house was robbed, twice, in 2012 or 2013, I could only deduct the value of robbery on my taxes if it was higher than a certain percentage of my income. So even though I was out literally ten thousand plus of (real) dollars (tvs, video game systems, games and accessories, iPad, computers, washer and dryer all of which either verifiable by photo or serial number and receipt as existing) I couldn't deduct a penny.
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Post by ladytrisha on Mar 19, 2019 17:07:39 GMT
As others have mentioned, I think you're dealing with a drug addict at this point and her little druggie friends. My sister has been clean 14 years now, but while she was using, she was a totally different person and the lies she told all of us became more outrageous. It's funny because they think they're being sooo smooth with their lies, while the reality is that we all see clearly thru each one.
I hope law enforcement helps.
Just an idea, but if you have any pawn shops near you, you should see if your jewelry ended up there. My sister stole her twin's jewelry (it wasn't valuable except it got quick cheap drugs).
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Post by christine58 on Mar 20, 2019 1:35:41 GMT
Any update? I hope you have her arrested for theft.
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Post by Margie on Mar 20, 2019 3:41:17 GMT
Oh, that's awful!
We had a house/pet sitter that we thought was very reliable. Our dog loved her, and that, of course, is very important. We paid her very well. She worked for us for several years, and everything seemed to be okay when we got home.
Then...we got a Ring doorbell. Gone all day, booty calls from strange men. Like pants halfway down their ass men. And our new cleaning lady told me that the two times she came when we were on vacation, the sitter was never there and had left quite a mess.
Needless to say, she's history.
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Post by dewryce on Mar 20, 2019 4:34:26 GMT
Merge This is just crazy sauce. I’m so sorry this happened to you and hope you are able to find your rings.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2019 4:42:52 GMT
I'm so sorry Merge. Hope life rewards your trust much better in the future. You deserve better.
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Post by Lexica on Mar 20, 2019 20:36:50 GMT
Any update? I am so hoping you got your sentimental jewelry back and anything else you’ve discovered missing. I wouldn’t let her get away with wearing your daughter’s clothing either. How old is your daughter? I’m imagining late teens and that nothing that is her taste should be worn by an almost 30-year-old woman. And who doesn’t flush the toilet at someone else’s home? Disgusting. I am betting she either had someone else staying there or had a party. I hope you talked to your neighbors to see if they noticed anything.
I recently went to a meeting of our neighborhood residents that was held to discuss some vehicle break ins over the last couple of weeks. (Incidentally, I brought two platters of “Dead Aunt Cookies” that were a HUGE hit). The city sent their residential crime liaison officer and one of the things she talked about was monitoring and recording the exterior of your home. She recommended the Ring doorbell and purchasing several independent outdoor cameras so that you can monitor 365 degrees around your exterior.
The neighbor that hosted the meeting showed us hers as well as some hidden interior cameras that all fed into a digital feed. She said the cost per year to have them record was surprisingly reasonable. This neighbor’s husband recently retired from the police department so they are much more aware of the need to monitor your whole home. Her husband collects guns and they need to be extra cautious regarding theft. Her husband now works for a company training dogs for police departments as well as some for personal protection. He always has at least 2 of these dogs at their home any time I’ve been there.
Since I will be moving this summer, I am not going to bother installing anything in this house, but will absolutely be outfitting my new place when I buy one.
I had insomnia again last night and as I was trying to get back to sleep, I kept thinking about your situation and getting angry for you. Obviously she had someone else in your house via the door code that she accidentally sent to you. That was serendipity though because you now know she was passing out your code. That would make me livid with just that. Oh, and her excuse for that one - leaving cookies out for someone to pick up? That can’t be done by putting them in a ziplock bag on the front porch? At least she says stupid lies that are obvious.
Please let us know any additional news. I’m obsessing on your situation right now.
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Post by PaperAngel on Mar 20, 2019 21:53:57 GMT
Please consider the following:
- Change the guest code for your alarm system (& all locks, if she was also given a physical key, or garage code, if she was given a garage door opener) so neither she nor others with whom she shared your entry information can access your home again
- Change the location of your hidden key outside, if applicable
- Scan your home, especially bedrooms & baths, for cameras or other recording devices that she or her uninvited guests could have left to monitor you/your child(ren)
- Call a dealership for your vehicles, explain the situation, & seek advice on how to protect your car if she had the (traditional) key copied
Wishing you & your family safety & peace...
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Post by iamcaro on Mar 20, 2019 22:38:01 GMT
There is such good advice in this thread for just general safety measures. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
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Post by Merge on Mar 20, 2019 22:50:33 GMT
BTT for update.
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Post by snugglebutter on Mar 20, 2019 22:57:17 GMT
I'm so glad she returned the rings and clothes! So sorry you had to deal with such a hassle.
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Post by stampinchick on Mar 20, 2019 23:00:42 GMT
I feel bad for you. It's disgusting what she did and I hope she ends up being charged. And I hope you get your rings back. I haven't read all the replies so I'm not sure if this has been mentioned, but I'd be concerned that somebody made a copy of the car key. It might be worth getting a security camera for the car. I just saw a story about this camera today. It's pricey but might be worth it. Owl security camera for carsFootball player takes down thief
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Post by kate on Mar 20, 2019 23:01:30 GMT
So glad your rings are home. But the weirdness just goes on and on!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 20, 2019 23:09:31 GMT
but I'd be concerned that somebody made a copy of the car key. Car keys are no longer inexpensive.... I have been quote $65.
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Post by julie5 on Mar 20, 2019 23:17:50 GMT
What a relief that your rings are back. But still, dang, she’s something else that’s for sure.
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Post by Skellinton on Mar 20, 2019 23:18:45 GMT
Glad you got your rings back, but what an incredibly weird situation. I hope the Constables will be able to charge her with something though, what she did is not ok.
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Post by Lexica on Mar 20, 2019 23:20:11 GMT
The fact that she didn’t take the clothes tells me she didn’t recognize them. They must have belonged to whomever stayed at your house while she wasn’t there. I absolutely hate the smell of cigarettes, and knowing that they smoked in your car would drive me nuts. I won’t even buy a used car that I can detect smoke smell in. My son found a truck he wanted to buy and when we opened the door to look inside we got a huge hit of smoke. I told him that smell won’t go away. He chose a different truck. He hates it probably more than I do. Does this sitter smoke to lyour knowledge?
I’m happy you got the rings back, but livid that she just left them on your porch to be possibly stolen. This woman has no common sense at all.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 20, 2019 23:21:55 GMT
I’m glad you got your rings back. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with all of this.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2019 23:47:16 GMT
I really think she's using. She probably didn't take those things you left because she either stole them, purchased them when she was high and doesn't recognize them or was more concerned with just returning your things and getting the hell out of there before the cops showed up.
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Post by M in Carolina on Mar 21, 2019 0:21:03 GMT
I can’t even imagine anyone violating someone’s home like that.
I’m glad you got your rings back at least.
You definitely need to recode the doors and rekey the locks. She could have given a key to someone else who got an extra key cut.
Since you quite rightly called the constable, you need to prepare for an attempts at revenge. I also wouldn’t park any cars outside if you can help it so nobody slashes your tires or keys your car(s).
I hope your pets recover completely. How scary for them.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Mar 21, 2019 0:22:27 GMT
Great update on the rings and clothes for DD....but there is nothing she can say that would ever make it right.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 21, 2019 0:27:54 GMT
3/20 update: This morning DH texted me and said he'd opened the trunk of his car to find two plastic tubs of women's clothes. Obviously they'd been using the car to move stuff around. He put the tubs of clothes on the porch with the other tub of housesitter's things that we found. He also found a cigarette butt in the car ashtray, gross. BUT then he came home this afternoon to find two of older DD's t-shirts, washed and folded, on the doorstep. Tucked in between them was a plastic baggie with my two missing rings inside, and a note that said 1000 apologies, Sara (the housesitter's name). But she didn't take the boxes of her things with her. They're still sitting on our porch. I don't even know what to think. At least my rings are back. I called the constable to let them know they'd been returned WOW just WOW....she obviously has a problem.
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Post by PaperAngel on Mar 21, 2019 0:41:56 GMT
Re: update. Please document with authorities the suspected use of your husband's car, cigarette, & the contents in the trunk. Perhaps the clothes were stolen from other homes where her or her friends housesit, or she didn't recognize them because they belong to a friend who crashed at your house & may have driven your husband's car while you were out of town. It's also possible your husband's car may have been used (instead of hers) in the commission of a crime.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 21, 2019 0:50:34 GMT
I'm glad you got the rings back.
Very strange she didn't take the bins of clothes.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 21, 2019 1:21:46 GMT
Sure glad you got your rings back. Baggie the butt.... DNA if needed!
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Post by christine58 on Mar 21, 2019 1:35:08 GMT
Re: update. Please document with authorities the suspected use of your husband's car, cigarette, & the contents in the trunk. Perhaps the clothes were stolen from other homes where her or her friends housesit, or she didn't recognize them because they belong to a friend who crashed at your house & may have driven your husband's car while you were out of town. It's also possible your husband's car may have been used (instead of hers) in the commission of a crime. Great point...
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Post by sassyangel on Mar 21, 2019 1:50:04 GMT
Wow, it just gets odder and odder.
I’m pleased, for your sake, she did the right thing and returned the rings.
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Post by ellen on Mar 21, 2019 1:57:00 GMT
This whole thing is just bizarre. I'm glad you got your stuff back. I'm guessing that the other times she worked for you she had been ok. There is something seriously wrong happening in her life. We kennel our dogs. We aren't crazy about it, but they're safe and they have each other for company. When we pick them up the operators always tell us how good they were. Your story makes me not feel at all guilty about kenneling them.
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Post by chaosisapony on Mar 21, 2019 2:16:41 GMT
I'm glad to read your update! Hopefully she's learned something from this and will get help with whatever has gone wrong with her life.
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