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Post by originalvanillabean on Nov 10, 2021 13:02:53 GMT
I am so very sorry.
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Post by peace on Nov 10, 2021 13:05:59 GMT
I'm so sorry. Please take care of you. I do agree with the advice to speak to an attorney and a therapist. Perhaps he would agree to counseling- if not to save the marriage then to work together to end it amicably. There is light somewhere- you will ind it. Hugs
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Post by janeinbama on Nov 10, 2021 13:12:46 GMT
I am so sorry. You know the Peas have your back. Please follow Pea protocol and make copies of all Financial Records and be prepared. I hope you can speak with a therapist to help you and him if he will. ((HUGS))
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Post by christine58 on Nov 10, 2021 13:12:47 GMT
youngest graduates in may Then now is the time to talk to a lawyer. You don't have to act, but you do need to protect yourself. Especially if you have a pension! Just go talk to someone |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2021 13:16:35 GMT
OMGoodness. I'm so sorry. Please reach out for help through your friends, your community, etc. You're not alone and you are loved by many - let them be there to help.
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Post by Sharon on Nov 10, 2021 13:17:59 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Nov 10, 2021 13:19:58 GMT
I'm sorry to hear this. Covid has such far reaching effects.
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 10, 2021 13:21:24 GMT
Oh, I’m so sorry! Hugs to you, my dear.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Nov 10, 2021 13:27:51 GMT
I'm in shock for you. Hugs to you and your family.  |
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Post by milocat on Nov 10, 2021 13:30:37 GMT
So sorry hear hear that.
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Post by gramasue on Nov 10, 2021 13:32:05 GMT
Oh, no! No wonder you're in shock. I'm so sorry.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Nov 10, 2021 13:35:30 GMT
The first time I read it, I thought you meant that he had been planning to fake it until the graduation, but no longer can.
I’m not sure I would be able to pretend everything is ok for several months, and I think your son will know something is not right anyway. But I would take some time to make a plan and figure out what next steps are, as well as go to counseling regardless of what the outcome is. You have both been through a lot the last few years with work and family stuff.
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Post by yodutchess on Nov 10, 2021 13:39:12 GMT
I am so sorry. Hugs to you.
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Post by compeateropeator on Nov 10, 2021 13:40:09 GMT
I have no words that can help but sending you all the hugs and love that I can. I am so so sorry!
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Post by lisaknits on Nov 10, 2021 13:44:07 GMT
I am so sorry to hear this. ((Hugs))
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 10, 2021 13:44:57 GMT
This is not what I expected to read when I opened 2Peas this morning. I'm sorry you've been blindsided by this. There have been an extraordinary number of challenges brought on by Covid and your jobs have kept you both in the trenches. That's a lot of stress.
I want to advise you to let the dust settle and not make any sudden responses to this... but the other half of me wants to advise you to not wait to talk to a lawyer and get your ducks in a row. Whew. I'm just sorry you're going through this. Let us know how we can help. There's always support and commiseration here.
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Post by joelise on Nov 10, 2021 13:47:38 GMT
I’m so sorry to read this. You must be in shock right now. Sending hugs your way.
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Post by Sarah*H on Nov 10, 2021 13:47:50 GMT
I am so incredibly sorry. Even if he won't go to counseling, I think you should consider it for yourself.
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Post by janeliz on Nov 10, 2021 13:48:38 GMT
Oh no. I’m so sorry. What a punch in the gut for you. We’re here for you. ((Hugs))
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Post by gar on Nov 10, 2021 13:51:06 GMT
Oh my goodness...I'm so very sorry you're hurting.
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Post by mom on Nov 10, 2021 13:53:03 GMT
I am so sorry. Is there any chance he will seek counseling? Do you want to try and work through this?
What do you need? How can we help?
So many questions - just know we are here for you.
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 10, 2021 14:01:29 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 10, 2021 14:02:54 GMT
My heart just aches for you. What a shock. You have the to get everything in order I hope. Hugs.
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Post by ferblover on Nov 10, 2021 14:04:14 GMT
I am so sorry!
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 10, 2021 14:06:02 GMT
I’m so sorry. I hope he’ll agree to go to couples’ counseling. I also hope you find a therapist for yourself.
I can’t imagine the stress health care workers and their families have experienced these past two years.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 10, 2021 14:07:22 GMT
youngest graduates in may Then now is the time to talk to a lawyer. You don't have to act, but you do need to protect yourself. First, I'm so sorry. There is no good time to be told that, but during a pandemic is probably one of the worst. Second, protecting yourself and your future by consulting with a good lawyer now is the best advice you can be given at this point. |
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Post by Gennifer on Nov 10, 2021 14:09:41 GMT
I’m so very sorry.
And I don’t want to seem like a dick, but is he wanting to wait so he doesn’t have to pay child support? (My ex-BIL did that.)
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 10, 2021 14:14:53 GMT
I’m so sorry! Wow, I wouldn’t even know how to process that too after everything you have both no doubt been through over these last couple years. Definitely know that everyone here has your back no matter how things play out. And May? That to me feels like an awfully long time to have to fake it. Please take care of yourself! It’s a rough time of year to have something like this sprung on you. Sending all kinds of hugs your way!
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Post by christinec68 on Nov 10, 2021 14:18:07 GMT
I am very sorry...sending gentle hugs.  |
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Post by Lexica on Nov 10, 2021 14:21:35 GMT
I am so very sorry. Hospital and school. Both places of high stress regarding Covid. I would also recommend going to counseling as a couple, whether it is to try everything to resurrect the marriage or to learn coping strategies and how to end the marriage without destroying the children and each other. I'm sure waiting and pretending is going to take a terrific toll on both of you. Counseling would help.
Were there any warning signs coming from him at all prior to this big bombshell?
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