hutchfan
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Post by hutchfan on Nov 10, 2021 14:22:58 GMT
Sending you hugs.
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Post by jewelie121 on Nov 10, 2021 14:36:06 GMT
Iām so sorry. Hugs!
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Post by shamrock on Nov 10, 2021 14:36:42 GMT
Sending you strength. Covid has had more repercussions than we ever could have imagined. I donāt know where your head and heart are with this news, and as fresh as it is I imagine they are all over the place. Iām sure youāll get advice by peas who have walked similar paths. May that be helpful to you.
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 10, 2021 14:39:25 GMT
Oh no.... I am so sorry!!!
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Post by teacherlisa on Nov 10, 2021 14:40:37 GMT
I am so so sorry!
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Post by piebaker on Nov 10, 2021 14:41:30 GMT
I'm very sorry.
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peasquared
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Post by peasquared on Nov 10, 2021 14:42:44 GMT
I am so sorry! We're here for you!
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Post by Linda on Nov 10, 2021 14:43:40 GMT
((((Hugs)))) and prayers
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Post by picotjo on Nov 10, 2021 14:47:43 GMT
I'm very sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2021 14:48:16 GMT
I am so sorry. Lots of (((HUGS)))
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Post by canadianlinda on Nov 10, 2021 14:50:03 GMT
So sorry to hear this. You have been given some good Pea knowledge, so Iāll send hugs and hope you get through this as gently as possible.
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Post by leannec on Nov 10, 2021 14:52:59 GMT
I'm so sorry! I know exactly how you are feeling because I was in your place two years ago (except youngest had graduated the previous June) ... We went to counseling ... didn't work ... I got a lawyer and a formal separation agreement ... it was expensive but worth it! I have loved living independently for two years now ... it seems scary at first but the freedom is so great! We signed divorce papers last week and I feel fine with it ... Hugs to you!  |
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naby64
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Post by naby64 on Nov 10, 2021 14:55:12 GMT
Dang, I am so sorry. Big hugs to you.
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Jili
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Post by Jili on Nov 10, 2021 14:56:34 GMT
OMG I am so sorry. I don't have the words. What a complete shock. Let us know how we can help.
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Post by NanaKate on Nov 10, 2021 14:59:41 GMT
Hugs
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Post by mcjunkin on Nov 10, 2021 15:10:31 GMT
My friend went through similar, only it was her that decided she wanted out. In 2020 when there were lockdowns and Covid was rampant, and the world was upside down, she lost her sister to cancer, watching her pass at the hospice house through the window, as visitors were not allowed. She spiraled afterwards. Everything in her life at that time was out of her control, a lot due to Covid, and the only thing she felt she could control was her marriage. She decided she wanted her husband to leave. No specific issues, no problems. For her, it was a knee jerk reaction to emotional disarray and ended up being temporary.
I agree with everyone who suggested counseling for both, regardless of whether or not you want to try to salvage anything. He, especially, has dealt with unspeakable things in this pandemic, and that does things to people. Absolutely not trying to make excuses for his actions.....but still.....
So sorry you are going through this.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 10, 2021 15:21:57 GMT
I am so sorry.  |
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sassyangel
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Post by sassyangel on Nov 10, 2021 15:25:50 GMT
Damn. š I nearly dropped my phone when I read that, so I can only imagine how blindsided and shocked youāre feeling. Iām so sorry. What an absolute gut punch. *hugs* we are here for you. I second that even if he decides he wonāt get counseling, you consider getting some for yourself.
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Post by Skellinton on Nov 10, 2021 15:27:21 GMT
I am so very sorry. Gentle hugs coming your way.
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PLurker
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Post by PLurker on Nov 10, 2021 15:29:58 GMT
I'm so sorry.
While it may not seem so, as many of us can attest, you will come out the other side one day and feel better about things however they turn out.
I agree though, until then protect yourself. Lawyer up.
Higs6
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anniebeth24
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Post by anniebeth24 on Nov 10, 2021 15:32:35 GMT
So sad to read this. Hope that sharing your story with us will in some way help you through.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 10, 2021 15:34:07 GMT
I am so sorry. I just donāt know what to say, other than I wish you were not going through this.
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Post by scraphappy0501 on Nov 10, 2021 15:39:32 GMT
I am so sorry. We are all here for you. Sending hugs to you!
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rgibson
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Post by rgibson on Nov 10, 2021 15:40:47 GMT
I'm so sorry you have been so blindsided. I agree with others - find a lawyer, find some counselling and be kind to yourself.
It is going to be so hard to "fake it" for the next while. I agreed to that and it was absolute hell, so much so, that it was such a massive relief when he broke the deal and I was finally able to walk away. I had never imagined we would divorce (we had been married for close to 28 years) but those couple of months in limbo opened my eyes and it wasn't such a hard decision after all.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Nov 10, 2021 15:43:29 GMT
(((Very big hug)))
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Post by Darcy Collins on Nov 10, 2021 15:49:27 GMT
Oh my - I am so very sorry. With the death in the family, I can only hope that he's going through a personal crisis and you can work things out - assuming that's what you want. We're here for you!
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Montannie
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Post by Montannie on Nov 10, 2021 15:54:03 GMT
I'm so sorry. Hugs.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Nov 10, 2021 15:54:24 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by lucyg on Nov 10, 2021 15:56:50 GMT
oh honey, I am so sorry. Whatever happens in the end, you will make a better life for yourself. I have faith. |
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Post by malibou on Nov 10, 2021 16:00:36 GMT
On dear. I truly feel for you. Wishing you everything you need to help you navigate thru a very trying situation in an abundantly trying current world.
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