It is time for me to give up

I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you. Sending you vibes for strength and peace.

I’m really sorry but I’m glad you know where you stand and what you need to do. You’re a wonderful person deserving of happiness. Hugs.

I am so sorry. Been there and done that. It's not fun but you can do it. Small steps and one day (hour or minute) at a time. You can do this and the peas can help. Hugs...

Hugs, great big hugs!

Hugs, I’m so sorry you are on a path you did not choose, but you are right - there will be ups and downs - but you *will* get through this.

You are a really good and decent person - hold onto to that.

I’m sorry. It’s hard to walk paths you don’t choose.

 You know that you are not giving up though don't you? The choice isn't there for you so you can't be "giving up". Please don't take any blame for all of this. He doesn't want to participate in the saving therefore it's not a matter of you giving up it's him that is giving up. Please don't be hard on yourself  it's not a matter of you giving up it's you having to accept the inevitable - there's a different, please remember that. (((hugs)))

I'm so sorry. Sending hugs....

Sending you love and hugs and strength. I'm glad you have your ducks in a row. Now is the time to move forward. One breath at a time, one foot in front of the other.

I am so sorry. ((Hugs.)) You are correct, you can't save your marriage alone but you can save YOU alone and you will make a fine job of it. It's time to put yourself first. You will be amazed at what you will achieve.

You can do this! Big hugs and sending you strength to deal with all this.

I'm sorry. Step by step you can do this.

Huge Hugs! We are here for you. 

I am sorry. It is a hard realization.

Do not feel like you are the one who is giving up. Also put the blame where it belongs. He is giving up. He doesn’t want to work at keeping the marriage.

No matter what he says to others or does, keep you head high and move on being concerned for you and your children. Margaret Thatcher. Think and be like Margaret Thatcher - classy but ruthless. Remember, the best revenge is a life well lived.

I know that you are worried about what he has said to his family and others. Do worry about that. Don’t counter with the truth. They don’t want to hear it right now. Trust me, the truth will come out and they will know.

Don’t try to counter what he says to your children. Do not speak ill of their father. It will come back to bite you. Trust me on this. I have watched it happen too many times. I don’t know what your relationship is like with your father but I had a very good relationship with mine. I would not like someone - anyone, but especially my mother - speak ill of my father.

Get yourself a good attorney and move forward. I know it is hard and your emotions are raw. You can and will do this. While the story of your life is different than you imagined, you can and will re-write a good one.