Would you be mad?? Quit??

*I can't work for companies or on the books because of my SSD.  I don't forget that I deal with disabling, intense pain every single day.  I'm wearing an eyepatch because my surgeons are now "stuck" and I might be left like this forever.  It all sucks, but the pain is overbearing and so very difficult to deal with.  THE ONLY REASON I am doing some Nannying is to bring in $$ to pay our newly increased rent since DH passed in November.  This is like a long nightmare.  I'm very proud of myself for being able to get jobs but on the inside I'm just dying and screaming out for help.  Still, I could keep a clear head for 8 hours/day and come home and just melt..............

*As far as DD34.  I've discussed his here many, many times.  I have files on her from when she was in preschool!!!  I have IQ tests that her preschool wanted & from then on we've had her in counseling. She has bipolar.  She missed quite a few years of school (middle school and up to her graduating year).  I have all of her records.  She was home-schooled by her teachers.  She was able to keep up quite easily, but her depression/anxiety was BAD.  Sometimes she couldn't come downstairs to even meet with the teacher.  She was overwhelmed.
First husband was in denial forever.  He didn't want her to see a counselor or to go on meds, ever.  He said it's for "losers".  Seeing that his daughter was supremely intelligent really threw him for a loop but I do admit that he'd got his own severe issues with life thanks to his messed up family life.  So, we never applied for SSD up in NY.  We assumed she'd be well enough to work and function.  Nope!!!!!!!!!!!
DD34 moved down here with me and Gary in 2013 because she had nowhere else to move.  She had 3 cats.  Gary immediately said, "yes, but she has to work or to to school".  Neither worked out.  She tried working many jobs.  They'd last up to a year and then it would be like hitting a brick wall (bipolar parents know this).
She has no medical and no therapy.  She has to pay out of her empty pockets for either, and for her meds that she's NEVER missed for 35 years.
*We did try to apply for SSD down here in FL.  I figured it would be easy since I had almost anything they'd ask her for.  Well, that's not how it went, AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Down here, they only want to know how you've gotten by during the past year.  They don't care about your medical history, etc.
We hired a SSD attorney and got turned down by the Judge 3 times.  That's it.  Supposedly she can't try to reapply unless there's a big change in her case.  ALSO, because she barely worked on the books, she'd have gotten basically nothing for her SSD.  Not sure why she wouldn't qualify for Medicaid since I am now deemed to be impoverished and she has no income.
I don't understand it, but I've tried every which way to make this work.  DD doesn't drive anymore.  She's got PTSD over it.  She has severe limitations about so many things.  She's more akin to an 11 year old than a 34 year old and it breaks my heart.  I wish she could see a qualified M.D.  for her routine, overdue care. I wish I could afford a GOOD therapist who deals in bipolar. She's been wasting her time for decades just to get her scripts every month. They don't really ask any deep questions. (The GOOD news is that yesterday I took her to a new Behavioral Health specialist. He's great!! This is about 20 min away. The other place was about 80 min each way! Hope he works out for DD. He wanted to make Rx changes and he sounds really good for her so far!

Nice to say, but when I ask her (or him) ANYTHING, they don't have time, at ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!  Conversations just don't ever happen.  I did ask about the baby in the beginning and they both said that the wife has 4 months off, so it should work out.  For whom??  They keep saying we'll talk about things down the line and then we never do.  My only responsibility is to find a better job if/when I can.  HOnestly this one isn't too bad.  They've worked with me when our 4 cats passed this year (some hours off; no pay) and when I had to go to the ER and take 2 separate weeks off (again, no pay, but they kept my job open).

The good part is that the parents aren't off the wall nutty.  The husband isn't overtly sexual with me (points there!).  I normally become friends with the parents but in this case, nah.  I'm more than 30 years older than this mom, and she is SO very strong-minded.  I think it must be hard for her to have any friends!  The husband is nice enough but they do have a weird vibe.

When you're alone and working in someone's home, you NEVER know what you're walking into.  I've walked into an interview where the dad had NO BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Yup. I've walked into interviews where the dads were acting more like it was a dating applicaition (I dress appropriately).  It's often very scary here, but I sometimes wind up with wonderful friends who were my Nanny parents. 

I think I began in the beginning of February.  Not too much time, but each situation is vastly different.  Some parents aren't home at all.  Some do work at home so we get to chat a little more.  Some are more amenable to talking.  This one gives a quick rundown of the baby's last night (food allergies, rashes, things I need to watch for) and that's it!  Most other moms have taken the time to sit down and begin a friendship.  I could understand that this one has absolutely no time.  She does give off a very cold vibe too.

They were nice enough to keep my job open when I took those 2 weeks off, separately, due to stomach issues and an ER visit.  They were nice enough to say, "it's okay" each time we had to put a beloved cat down and then I'd head back to work.  They all did express their sympathy (no paid time off, as expected).  They're nice enough but distant, if that makes sense.  By this point, I surely know if the family is going to be friendly with me or if they're going to be distant and guarded.  I usually know that after 1 week.  This family is the latter.  Oh well.