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Post by pepperwood on Apr 12, 2024 23:20:41 GMT
You need to leave. Nothing will change. You are resenting your job and the unfair responsibilities that they are placing on you. And I don't blame you one bit. Start putting your resume out there. I hope you can find something that will bring you joy. This. It is not a healthy environment for you-or for anyone, really. On the one hand, she is taking excessive time off. On the other hand, she gets angry with you for keeping things running. And maybe the worst part is that for some reason that I cannot understand, your company has not dealt with all of the absenteeism. This is an untenable situation. She obviously knows that you are a workhorse, and is happy to take advantage of you. Screw her, quite frankly. |
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Post by snyder on Apr 13, 2024 0:14:06 GMT
I so hope you get another position real quick. Sad situation to be in.
FMLA is on a rolling 12 month calendar which makes it real easy for one use milk the system.
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Post by flanz on Apr 13, 2024 0:24:30 GMT
“I feel so incredibly angry and then I feel guilty for feeling angry.“ jeremysgirl your anger is completely justified. You’re being taken advantage of by a shady co-worker and spineless management. I’m angry for you and not feeling guilty at all. My verdict for you, Not Guilty. Hear, hear!! |
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Post by mom on Apr 13, 2024 0:48:19 GMT
You are truly a saint for not going off on her bs. I think most people would have said something to effect of "yes, I approved these things since you weren't doing your JOB, so someone had to do it." Frankly, with this latest excuse, I am totally convinced she has pictures of one of the higher-ups screwing a goat.
Even the Peas are sick of her bullshit. Same. I am truly wondering what she has on someone. Because she should have been shut down long ago on this BS. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2024 12:04:25 GMT
You are truly a saint for not going off on her bs. I think most people would have said something to effect of "yes, I approved these things since you weren't doing your JOB, so someone had to do it." Frankly, with this latest excuse, I am totally convinced she has pictures of one of the higher-ups screwing a goat. Even the Peas are sick of her bullshit. The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2024 12:11:52 GMT
And I do want to cop to the fact that the counselor told me that I have to let go of thinking that everything produced by our office is a reflection on me. She told me I have to get in the mindset that it is a reflection on him and I need to step back and stay in my lane. That I tend to much to step in places I don't belong and clean up after the mess everyone else makes.
So that's on me that I invest way too much of my self esteem into my work.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 13, 2024 12:44:36 GMT
And I do want to cop to the fact that the counselor told me that I have to let go of thinking that everything produced by our office is a reflection on me. She told me I have to get in the mindset that it is a reflection on him and I need to step back and stay in my lane. That I tend to much to step in places I don't belong and clean up after the mess everyone else makes. So that's on me that I invest way too much of my self esteem into my work. She's on target with that advice. From personal experience I found that your efforts are rarely appreciated, which you just found out with her tattling to the boss and demanding you not approve any longer. (There are seriously not enough eye roll emojis for the things that woman does!) Perhaps if you start to think of yourself as a short timer and begin thinking of this as their problem (boss, co-worker, department/company) it will help you detach. After all, you are actively looking for a new position so it's time to start thinking like someone with one foot out the door. You won't be there at some point, so think of stepping back as taking the training wheels off for them to figure it out on their own! |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2024 13:20:54 GMT
And I do want to cop to the fact that the counselor told me that I have to let go of thinking that everything produced by our office is a reflection on me. She told me I have to get in the mindset that it is a reflection on him and I need to step back and stay in my lane. That I tend to much to step in places I don't belong and clean up after the mess everyone else makes. So that's on me that I invest way too much of my self esteem into my work. She's on target with that advice. From personal experience I found that your efforts are rarely appreciated, which you just found out with her tattling to the boss and demanding you not approve any longer. (There are seriously not enough eye roll emojis for the things that woman does!) Perhaps if you start to think of yourself as a short timer and begin thinking of this as their problem (boss, co-worker, department/company) it will help you detach. After all, you are actively looking for a new position so it's time to start thinking like someone with one foot out the door. You won't be there at some point, so think of stepping back as taking the training wheels off for them to figure it out on their own! That's what she suggested too. I'll just tell you something that I disclosed to her yesterday too. I started seeing another therapist, a personal one, last week. The reason I did is because I am having such a hard time in my personal life right now with feeling like I have no purpose and no direction. It is going to sound very stupid. Because I wished for this for many years when my kids were out of control. I wished for peace in my personal life. And now that I have it, something feels so far off about it I don't know how to manage my feelings or how to set any goals for myself. I needed some direction and sometimes when I say this to people in real life they look at me like I'm crazy. Just crochet and enjoy the peace they say. And it doesn't feel like enough for me. When I took this job, I had been coasting in my prior position. I wasn't growing there at all. This opportunity came up and it was a perfect marriage of my two lanes of employment experience. I couldn't have asked for a job more suited to me. I felt excited about the possibilities. I thought finally I was taking my career by the horns and going in a direction where I would thrive. Now, I know how to do my job, so growth is limited. But I also enjoy the work so there's that. I think that I put way too much hope into this position or took it too seriously or something like that. And I'm disappointed it hasn't worked out the way I wanted it to. I think that's part of the reason I've hung in there longer than I probably should have. I think all of that is clouding my judgment. And it feels good to finally start connecting some of the dots. I don't blame myself for what's going on as I don't have control over other people. And it's true that they all have done things that would blow anyone's mind and create an angry feeling. But I've got to own my reaction to all of it and what I'm making all of this mean about myself. I'm still actively looking for jobs. But I've gotta cope in some ways because I truly don't know how long I'll be here until a new opportunity comes around. |
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2024 13:36:08 GMT
FMLA covers an employee for 12 weeks per year. They can let her go if she takes more than 12 weeks. Ask me how I know...my Fortune 500 company tracked every hour I took off when DH was battling cancer. It was made very clear that I would lose my job of 37 years if I took any more than that. Yes, they sucked. Please, don't beat yourself up, jeremysgirl . She has a crap attitude. I was always available by phone for my coworkers. They always knew when I'd be in or out of the office. Were there last minutes times I was out? Of course, but I sent everyone a message. As someone who handles payroll, I can tell you that yes we do track it. We are required to. However, we do make exceptions when some people exceed their fmla. We even have the ability to tap into a sick time pool that employees donate to help out co-workers in need. I wish every company did that. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that extra pressure during such a difficult time. I was taking unpaid time by the end, and happy to do so. I just could not afford to lose my job and the really great health insurance. I wish I had worked for your company! |
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Post by peabay on Apr 13, 2024 13:40:17 GMT
You are truly a saint for not going off on her bs. I think most people would have said something to effect of "yes, I approved these things since you weren't doing your JOB, so someone had to do it." Frankly, with this latest excuse, I am totally convinced she has pictures of one of the higher-ups screwing a goat. Even the Peas are sick of her bullshit. The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. How bad would it be to let the things she wants to approve go unapproved by her? Let her do it and when she doesn't, she deals with the consequences. Either she shits or gets off the pot (no pun intended given her recent bout of "food poisoning"). |
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2024 13:41:40 GMT
You are truly a saint for not going off on her bs. I think most people would have said something to effect of "yes, I approved these things since you weren't doing your JOB, so someone had to do it." Frankly, with this latest excuse, I am totally convinced she has pictures of one of the higher-ups screwing a goat. Even the Peas are sick of her bullshit. The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. Your boss is ridiculous. He needed to back you up hard at this point. |
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Post by gillyp on Apr 13, 2024 13:45:23 GMT
SHE is acting like she never left the playground.  HE is no more use than a chocolate fireguard. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2024 13:46:44 GMT
The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. How bad would it be to let the things she wants to approve go unapproved by her? Let her do it and when she doesn't, she deals with the consequences. Either she shits or gets off the pot (no pun intended given her recent bout of "food poisoning"). That's my plan. If that's what she wants, she can have it...all of it. |
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 13, 2024 15:09:19 GMT
HE is no more use than a chocolate fireguard.  Translation please! Sorry for the hijack jeremysgirl ! |
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Post by Lurkingpea on Apr 13, 2024 15:10:06 GMT
The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. How bad would it be to let the things she wants to approve go unapproved by her? Let her do it and when she doesn't, she deals with the consequences. Either she shits or gets off the pot (no pun intended given her recent bout of "food poisoning"). I agree I would do my job and my job only. If there's something she's supposed to be getting done and she isn't, don't do it for her. I realize there will be parts of your job you won't be able to complete because she isn't doing her part. Have receipts to back it up and I don't know how they could possibly fault you. You need to do only what is your job. That is the only way this is going to be taken seriously. Why should they bother to make her do her job when they know you're going to do it for her. Work your hours and only your hours. If something can't be completed because she didn't do her job let it be incomplete. |
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Post by gillyp on Apr 13, 2024 15:17:38 GMT
HE is no more use than a chocolate fireguard. Translation please! Sorry for the hijack jeremysgirl ! Sorry. Fireguard definition: A metal screen placed in front of an open fireplace to catch sparks. So a fireguard made of chocolate is useless because it will melt from the heat of the fire. |
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Post by Rhondito on Apr 13, 2024 15:19:50 GMT
The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. Your boss is ridiculous. He needed to back you up hard at this point. I thought the same thing when I read it. He should've stepped up and reprimanded her for not communicating and being unreliable. Instead, he avoided the big problem altogether. He treated them like children having a silly argument. |
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 13, 2024 15:39:38 GMT
gillyp - That is hysterical! Thanks for the translation!
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 13, 2024 15:54:12 GMT
You are truly a saint for not going off on her bs. I think most people would have said something to effect of "yes, I approved these things since you weren't doing your JOB, so someone had to do it." Frankly, with this latest excuse, I am totally convinced she has pictures of one of the higher-ups screwing a goat. Even the Peas are sick of her bullshit. The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. Just my 2 cents; I would respond to both that she has requested to approve for herself, that going forward, you are fine with that, and will stop approving on her behalf. Because if you don’t, she will probably not approve something, and somehow it will be your fault. OR you will see that she has not approved something, so you will do it, and she will start complaining about you-again. She is a woman who likes to have everything in writing, so you might be smart to go along with it. In writing, CC’d to your boss. Your boss has washed his hands of it, which is terrible. I hope that you get another job, and soon. |
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 13, 2024 15:57:53 GMT
The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me. How bad would it be to let the things she wants to approve go unapproved by her? Let her do it and when she doesn't, she deals with the consequences. Either she shits or gets off the pot (no pun intended given her recent bout of "food poisoning"). This. I am beginning to wonder how much she has emailed the boss in the past. I wouldn’t trust her -or your boss-as far as I could throw them. |
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Post by 3boysnme on Apr 13, 2024 15:58:34 GMT
Wow! This just keeps getting worse! I agree with everyone...don't do her job anymore. Just do yours. And if you can't finish a task because it is held up by her, then send her an email telling her she needs to do A, so you can do B. And CC EVERYONE on it. Your boss, your boss's boss, etc.
Or send it to the boss telling him to inform her to so her job so you can do yours. And CC everyone on it, including her. This is beyond ridiculous now.
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Post by Hayjaker on Apr 13, 2024 16:11:31 GMT
Wow! This just keeps getting worse! I agree with everyone...don't do her job anymore. Just do yours. And if you can't finish a task because it is held up by her, then send her an email telling her she needs to do A, so you can do B. And CC EVERYONE on it. Your boss, your boss's boss, etc. Or send it to the boss telling him to inform her to so her job so you can do yours. And CC everyone on it, including her. This is beyond ridiculous now. I agree with this. Ask for specific clarity via email and cc everyone. Eventually the boss will have to react, and you are just keeping good communication on the overlap in processes. And you can be absolutely friendly and matter of fact in tone while you are CYA. |
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 13, 2024 20:00:44 GMT
Wow! This just keeps getting worse! I agree with everyone...don't do her job anymore. Just do yours. And if you can't finish a task because it is held up by her, then send her an email telling her she needs to do A, so you can do B. And CC EVERYONE on it. Your boss, your boss's boss, etc. Or send it to the boss telling him to inform her to so her job so you can do yours. And CC everyone on it, including her. This is beyond ridiculous now. Right? This woman reminds me of some of the old soap opera characters. She’s a piece of work. |
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Post by mom on Apr 13, 2024 20:10:04 GMT
She's on target with that advice. From personal experience I found that your efforts are rarely appreciated, which you just found out with her tattling to the boss and demanding you not approve any longer. (There are seriously not enough eye roll emojis for the things that woman does!) Perhaps if you start to think of yourself as a short timer and begin thinking of this as their problem (boss, co-worker, department/company) it will help you detach. After all, you are actively looking for a new position so it's time to start thinking like someone with one foot out the door. You won't be there at some point, so think of stepping back as taking the training wheels off for them to figure it out on their own! That's what she suggested too. I'll just tell you something that I disclosed to her yesterday too. I started seeing another therapist, a personal one, last week. The reason I did is because I am having such a hard time in my personal life right now with feeling like I have no purpose and no direction. It is going to sound very stupid. Because I wished for this for many years when my kids were out of control. I wished for peace in my personal life. And now that I have it, something feels so far off about it I don't know how to manage my feelings or how to set any goals for myself. I needed some direction and sometimes when I say this to people in real life they look at me like I'm crazy. Just crochet and enjoy the peace they say. And it doesn't feel like enough for me. When I took this job, I had been coasting in my prior position. I wasn't growing there at all. This opportunity came up and it was a perfect marriage of my two lanes of employment experience. I couldn't have asked for a job more suited to me. I felt excited about the possibilities. I thought finally I was taking my career by the horns and going in a direction where I would thrive. Now, I know how to do my job, so growth is limited. But I also enjoy the work so there's that. I think that I put way too much hope into this position or took it too seriously or something like that. And I'm disappointed it hasn't worked out the way I wanted it to. I think that's part of the reason I've hung in there longer than I probably should have. I think all of that is clouding my judgment. And it feels good to finally start connecting some of the dots. I don't blame myself for what's going on as I don't have control over other people. And it's true that they all have done things that would blow anyone's mind and create an angry feeling. But I've got to own my reaction to all of it and what I'm making all of this mean about myself. I'm still actively looking for jobs. But I've gotta cope in some ways because I truly don't know how long I'll be here until a new opportunity comes around. This is pretty common amongst us who have lost children. I truly think it's part of the grieving process. I know tomorrow is the day that you lost Esther, so I (unprofessionally, I must add) suspect that is playing into your mindset. Be gentle with yourself. It's all part of relearning how to live without our children. A therapist to help you work thru this is good but I suspect you will find your way once the anniversary comes and goes. Again, go easy on yourself. Just like parents have to learn how to be parents, us parents without one of our kids have to re-learn the world and ourselves. It's all a process and the only way to get thru it all is to just keep showing up. On a lighter note, I saw this on TikTok and now I want to send one to your coworker anonymously, of course. LOL www.shitexpress.com |
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Post by mom on Apr 13, 2024 20:14:34 GMT
The screwing a goat made me laugh so hard. I will say to you that I'm no saint. When I responded to that message yesterday morning, I turned it right back on my bosses. I told they told me to do the approvals. And then she forwarded my message to them requesting that they tell me to stop. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. That if we wanted to work out some arrangement to only approve when we know the other is not working to work it out. She did this behind the scenes. And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. 🙄 So in one sense she got slapped but in another he turned it back to me.
She is a woman who likes to have everything in writing, so you might be smart to go along with it. In writing, CC’d to your boss. Your boss has washed his hands of it, which is terrible. I hope that you get another job, and soon. 1000% this. CYA every chance you get, in writing. And be very specific if you cannot do your part since she has not done hers. And if someone (like a client) asks you to do her job because they cant get ahold of her, then email everyone that she was unavailable to help clients at whatever time, and since you didnt have her approval to step in, you didnt. |
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Post by kate on Apr 13, 2024 20:34:01 GMT
And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves.  Um NO. He's the BOSS, it's his JOB to work it out. "Work it out yourselves" sounds like it's now your co-responsibility with Ms. Goldbricker to decide your work duties. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. I would refer back to this - even quote him in the email. Say, "Because The work needs to get done, I will continue approving per Mr. Boss' instruction of [insert date] unless I receive a change of instruction from him." ETA: I wouldn't just stop doing her approvals without Boss' explicit okay - if his last email said "work it out between you" and the work starts NOT getting done (because obvs she's not going to suddenly become responsible), he could conceivably come back to blame it on BOTH of you for not "working it out" effectively. Are you interested in Mr. Boss' job? The company would be better off with you running the department! |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2024 21:57:49 GMT
mom thank you for your kind words. I was doing alright until yesterday. It just completely hit me and knocked me down. I was in no mood to respond to anything really. This time is hard for me. And mother's day last year I totally lost my shit. I'll be on vacation for mother's day this year so I was hoping that might help.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2024 22:00:15 GMT
And then she responded adding me to the email saying could you please inform Becki that I'll be approving for myself from here on out? And he replied, you're adults, I trust you to work it out yourselves. Um NO. He's the BOSS, it's his JOB to work it out. "Work it out yourselves" sounds like it's now your co-responsibility with Ms. Goldbricker to decide your work duties. His reply was that the work needs to get done and that I was told to approve so as not to hold up the process. I would refer back to this - even quote him in the email. Say, "Because The work needs to get done, I will continue approving per Mr. Boss' instruction of [insert date] unless I receive a change of instruction from him." ETA: I wouldn't just stop doing her approvals without Boss' explicit okay - if his last email said "work it out between you" and the work starts NOT getting done (because obvs she's not going to suddenly become responsible), he could conceivably come back to blame it on BOTH of you for not "working it out" effectively. Are you interested in Mr. Boss' job? The company would be better off with you running the department! I'm waiting for her to respond. Like I said, I was in no place yesterday to make rational decisions. I just needed to walk away. |
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Post by mom on Apr 13, 2024 22:18:50 GMT
mom thank you for your kind words. I was doing alright until yesterday. It just completely hit me and knocked me down. I was in no mood to respond to anything really. This time is hard for me. And mother's day last year I totally lost my shit. I'll be on vacation for mother's day this year so I was hoping that might help. I wish I could say it gets easier, but it doesn't. It gets different, but even 20 years later, I still lose my shit. I have figured out for me that I *need* to lose my shit about 2-3 days before an anniversary or birthday so that I can let the grief go. Then on the actual day, I am ok. Honestly, it's predictable for me now so much that even DH knows that the actual days aren't what knock my breath away, but the day or two before. Anywho, take care of yourself. |
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Post by wordfish on Apr 13, 2024 22:27:37 GMT
I supervise a group of people. They happen to all be women. It's a collaborative, tight-knit group and they are producing some of the best work the department has ever seen. Lots of creativity and drive.
Do you know how hard I work to keep everything somewhere in the "lane of harmony?" EXTREMELY HARD. I don't let any minor issues that I become aware of go too long, I keep an eye on workloads, I meet individually with each team member once a month to go over their work, which is deadline driven, and I am over there several times a day, with my eyes and ears open. I also try to give them as much autonomy as they want (some want more than others). It's a LOT of work,
I understand the temptation to stay "hands off." Sometimes I very much want to do that when issues arise. But I consider myself someone who never wanted to manage people. I do have an MBA in my field, though, so I know it's very important to put in the effort. They are my highest priority. I don't feel as though I am a natural people manager at all, so I try to work extra hard and implement new solutions, to make up for it. My goal is to never be the nightmare boss in someone's story. I can be tough, but I always want them to know that we are a team, and I will do whatever I can to help them--even to help them move up in the company. I still don't think this comes naturally for me as a pretty extreme introvert, but I try to make up for a lack of natural talent at this particular skill with a lot of effort and studying.
It doesn't sound like your boss is putting in the time and effort needed to fix this. I totally get the temptation. I would save hours out of each month if I gave in to it.
You deserve to work at a place where your bosses want to see you grow and thrive. It doesn't sound like this is going to be that place.
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