The end "might" be in sight! SMALL UPDATE 9/24

My first thought is Screw Him! His attorney has his interest at heart not yours.
He delayed for so long too bad for him.

that's what I was thinking too. NOW he wants mediation? Fck him.

I agree with the others. He's put you through HELL and now he wants mediation? Fuk that! Say no, tell your lawyer to get the subpoena ready for the OW and get on with it. Tomorrow is the 25th. You're done dicking around! Put his penis in a visegrip and start turning that sucker!

*I may be a bit more emotionally involved in this then I should be.*

Yes! Her soon to be ex grinds on my nerves like he's personally doing all this shit to me! He represents all the dog shit stains in this world who try to put one over on the women in their lives. I hope Just T doesn't give in. I know she wants this to be over and done with. Having to live out of a suitcase and dodge the asswipe all this time. But she really does have his balls in a vicegrip now. She just needs to keep turning that screw! 

I have no legal experience, but I'm wondering if your attorney could request his best and final offer to see how far apart you are and then make a judgement as to if it is worth the time and expense of a mediator or going forward with the court.

Can you have "any" further negotiation to have the OW involved?
Like make her just show up at the mediation?
I would think there would be some creative way.
How do you know he hasn't transferred lots of $$ to her?

Ooh...good question! But if she doesn't know about Just T, wouldn't she think it odd why all of a sudden he's giving her all this money? Or maybe not. She could just be a gold digger.

Perhaps he could take out a loan to pay you your lump sum. Then he could explain to the bank why he was late with the payment each month.

After reading today’s update about him having to make a payment plan, ask your attorney about getting him to agree to letting you carry a life insurance policy for the total amount of what he would owe you.  I did this to protect my son’s future child support.  If you decide to do this, buy and pay for the policy yourself so you have the peace of mind that he didn’t let it drop.  

My ex really balked at first but I explained that if he died in a year, his son would be the one losing out since he was just an infant.  And he wouldn’t have to pay for any of it.  He finally agreed and went to the physical that my insurance arranged.  To purchase life insurance on someone else that you are no longer related to, you just have to show a financial need as to why.  His payments would give you that need.

*I would not agree to mediation, especially now, when you have spent months with attorneys!  Also, can’t the court order that the house be sold to provide money to go towards the final settlement?  So what if he wants to keep the house.  If he wants it, he has to buy you out immediately.  If he cannot afford to do that and can’t get a loan for half the value to pay you with, then no, he cannot keep the house.

In my divorce, the attorneys figured out how much money from the house that my ex was to get.  I didn’t have that, of course.  But my ex wanted to set an agreement that I could remain in the house until our son was 18, and then sell it, giving him 50% of the equity earned at that sale date.  And for the privilege of living there, I had to pay him a percentage every year, like an interest rate.  AND he wanted to have a key to the house with the rights to enter at any time, day or night, to check to make sure I was maintaining the house properly.  When I told my father this, he first laughed, then told me to get the final buyout number as low as possible, agreeing to the percentage payments AND giving him a key, which is what he really wanted.  Once everything was all done and dusted, my father would write a check and pay him off in full.  

My ex was so happy to think I was agreeing to all of his demands.  I got the final split amount down as low as possible, having him leave the furnishings out of the deal and just focusing on the equity.  The furniture wasn’t worth that much anyway and a lot of it was solely mine, such as the antiques that I bought when we were dating.  My dad wrote the final check out.  I was afraid to give it to him so I had my attorney do it.  My attorney didn’t  understand why I needed him to do this part.  But then he called me to tell me it was over and said he understood why I didn’t want to be the one to give him the check.  My ex was livid to learn he was not getting any yearly interest and most upsetting he was NOT getting a key with the right to enter my house.  He refused the check and threw it on the floor of the attorney’s office, trying to stop me from doing this.  The attorney said he was furious and his fists were white knuckled.  He explained to him that my paying off this debt was 100% legal.  We were fully divorced and he had no rights other than the visitation that the courts set up.  He said I probably would have been physically hurt if I had given him the check myself.  Why did he think I was afraid to do it?

No, I think there are many of us that are feeling this exact same way.