Well the answer to this seems pretty clear to me. It should be first name, last name, MIDDLE name. Everyone that has said it should be maiden name, uses their maiden name as a middle name, so therefor it is their MIDDLE name now.
My maiden name is also my middle name now, as I didn't have a middle name before I was married -and I call it my middle name now.
This is the first time I have ever heard of replacing your middle name with your maiden name. Everyone I know either kept their maiden name as their last name or replaced it with their married name. I definitely would not use my maiden name as a middle. I like it but it ends in "er" and my married name ends in 2 "er"s so it would not sound nice at all! Besides I have always liked my middle name.
My sister gave her oldest son my mother's maiden name for a middle name. But I think it was because my grandfather was dying at the time he was born. Not quite sure why she didn't give him my grandfather's first name.
I kept my maiden name on papers because I liked it and it is in danger of disappearing (no males to carry it on). I have been sad because I liked my middle name and it is disappearing. I had no idea it was a southern custom.........I thought the southern custom was to give one of your children your maiden name as a first name........
I'm really glad this dropping middle name thing is not a thing in New Zealand. For starters, I have three middle names and a double barrel surname as my maiden name. So say I was Polz Mary Sue Ellen Smith-Jones before I got married, I'd have to be Polz Smith-Jones Brown after the wedding? How odd. BTW, my middle names are all named after relatives. I would find it odd just to abandon them.
I had no idea it was a southern custom.........I thought the southern custom was to give one of your children your maiden name as a first name........
I have lived in the south all my life, multiple generations before me have lived in the south...but I have never heard of this particular custom. I have hear maiden names as middles for kids (my son is one) but not maidens for firsts.
We do like to name our kids juniors, thirds, and so on. And nicknames, we love our nicknames. My youngest is a Boo-even his girlfriend calls him Boo.
Perhaps tradition has changed?I would have been married 30 years in November. I dropped my middle name when I married and have always used my family name as my middle name. I would have chosen the same as was suggested to you.
No one in my family has ever done that either. Middle names are very important - in fact, my maternal grandmother was upset at my mother for not passing on the middle name that they both share.
If/when I get married, I will not be dropping my middle name for my maiden name. That may be a tradition in some parts of the country, but certainly not in the PNW.