Nink
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Post by Nink on Oct 14, 2015 12:06:47 GMT
I keep my phone on at night since it's the only phone I use, so if there's an emergency I can hear it. I also use it as my alarm so it's right next to the bed. Texts in the middle of the night annoy me. Sorry.
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Post by blarneygirl on Oct 14, 2015 12:15:11 GMT
I use my phone as an alarm, so it's at my bedside. My college student will email me if he has something he wants me to know and it's during the window of time I'm either trying to fall asleep or asleep. I appreciate it, as I'm a horrible sleeper, and a text during that time would almost certainly determine that I'm going to miss a decent night of sleep.
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Post by *sprout* on Oct 14, 2015 12:15:53 GMT
I can't set my phone for "do not disturb". A 3 am text about something that does not need immediate attention would piss me off. I would probably send you a text just like your sister did.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 12:17:42 GMT
Some people set their phones up to alert them to emails or Facebook messages. Do I have to worry that any email, FB message, etc. I send may wake them, too? It seems like sometimes people want the convenience of having a phone that will allow them contact with anyone at any time, but become upset if that causes some unintended negative consequences as well. I know someone whose phone dings and bings all day long and the owner complains about it all day long. It drives me crazy. She bought the phone. She set up the alerts. Then on the flip side, people seem to think that everyone sees their emails and messages immediately and some of us do not choose to be alerted all day long about these things, so it could be hours before we see them. So much aggravation about something that is supposed to make life better.
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Post by gar on Oct 14, 2015 12:19:06 GMT
I don't text at night precisely because I don't know what the recipient's habits are regarding their phone at night. If I think I'll forget I can do myself a reminder.
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Nanner
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Post by Nanner on Oct 14, 2015 12:19:15 GMT
Exactly what farmdpea said. I don't think you were out of line. There's a DND feature on the phone for a reason. It's unfortunate so many people don't know how to use it. Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. You sound a touch condescending. Or maybe I'm taking offence because I'm tired. Just because YOU don't have a landline doesn't make it the right way to do it. There are reasons people have them. And just because YOU use DND, there are also reasons that a person would have their phone turned on. Because someone doesn't use it, doesn't mean they are stupid and don't know how to use it.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 12:21:18 GMT
Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. There are still many places where cell coverage is spotty or non-existent. If you don't have a landline then you don't have a phone.
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Post by ellen on Oct 14, 2015 12:22:56 GMT
We ditched our landline, so my cell is my primary phone. I use it as my alarm clock. I don't shut it off at night. My sister texts me late at night and I hate it. It's stupid things like pictures of things she bought at a thrift shop. She texted at 3 am this past weekend with a question that have waited until the next morning. She is the only one that does this and I hate it.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 14, 2015 12:23:47 GMT
I don't text after the time I know that person goes to bed. I keep my phone next to the bed for an alarm and have had texts come through when I am sleeping and it shocks the heck out of me and I often can't get back to sleep. Unless you know that the person doesn't have their phone next to them (and even on vibrate only it will still wake me) then I would wait until you know it is morning. I used to have my phone on DND until there was a family emergency and I didn't hear the call/text, now I keep it on. This pretty much me....
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Post by monklady123 on Oct 14, 2015 12:23:31 GMT
Interesting replies. Personally (but I'm old) I do not consider texts and calls to be the same thing. I turn my phone to silent/no vibrate at night and I often find texts from dd when I wake up in the morning. The time stamp says something crazy like 1:35 a.m. lol. So I'll answer them at 5:30 a.m. when I'm up so she finds them when she wakes up. hehe We often say things to each other like "I can't believe you're *still* awake at 1:00 a.m.!" and "Why do you get up SO EARLY??" lolol... That said... we do have a landline so if she had some major emergency she'd call. Same with ds who also has a cell phone. My parents have a simple cell phone that they take to doctors' appointments or when they go to the grocery store, so they can call Access to pick them up. It would never occur to my mother to actually talk to anyone else on that phone. So if she needed me in the middle of the night she'd use her landline and also call my landline. There are a couple of other people I text off and on and I probably wouldn't text them except during daytime hours simply because I wouldn't have anything to say to them. lol. I guess it never occurred to me that anyone would text with an emergency, since you can't be sure the receiver would get it. And I always forget that there are actually people who don't have landlines anymore. Yeah, like I said, I'm old, from the Days of the Dinosaur in fact (i.e., the old phone-with-cord days).
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 14, 2015 12:25:01 GMT
Some people set their phones up to alert them to emails or Facebook messages. Do I have to worry that any email, FB message, etc. I send may wake them, too? It seems like sometimes people want the convenience of having a phone that will allow them contact with anyone at any time, but become upset if that causes some unintended negative consequences as well. I know someone whose phone dings and bings all day long and the owner complains about it all day long. It drives me crazy. She bought the phone. She set up the alerts. Then on the flip side, people seem to think that everyone sees their emails and messages immediately and some of us do not choose to be alerted all day long about these things, so it could be hours before we see them. So much aggravation about something that is supposed to make life better. I think think alerts are different. People use text today like calls.
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Post by anxiousmom on Oct 14, 2015 12:28:24 GMT
Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. There are still many places where cell coverage is spotty or non-existent. If you don't have a landline then you don't have a phone. I am smack dab in the middle of a fairly decent sized town, right next door to the world's largest tourist attraction involving a mouse, and there really is very little of Central Florida that is not covered by cell service. And yet. My house seems to have it's own personal cell phone jammer. Texting is fine, the wifi works like a champ, but phone calls on my cell only happen if I am in a particular spot on my back porch. I have had multiple cell providers over the years and not one single one of them work. Currently, my son and I have different providers (ATT and Verizon) and neither one works inside. So for me, if I didn't have a landline, I would not be able to ever talk inside my house. Emergency phone calls would be problematic-both in receiving or God forbid, in making.
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Post by moveablefeast on Oct 14, 2015 12:29:40 GMT
Some people set their phones up to alert them to emails or Facebook messages. Do I have to worry that any email, FB message, etc. I send may wake them, too? It seems like people want the convenience of having a phone that will allow them contact with anyone at any time, but become upset if that causes some unintended negative consequences as well. Sometimes you just can't have everything. I know someone whose phone dings and bings all day long and the owner complains about it all day long. It drives me crazy. She bought the phone. She set up the alerts. Then on the flip side, people seem to think that everyone sees their emails and messages immediately and some of us do not choose to be alerted all day long about these things, so it could be hours before we see them. So much aggravation about something that is supposed to make life better. I think if you have your phone to ding every time someone looks at your picture on Facebook you get what you get. The difference is I can set all my apps not to send notifications - it's settings that keeps pinterest from dinging my phone at all hours but it's manners that keeps my insomniac friends from texting at all hours.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 14, 2015 12:30:09 GMT
I would not send a text in the middle of the night even if it's a "don't need an answer until later" one. I guess I would think of that the same as calling someone in the middle of the night just to leave a voicemail. I wouldn't do it. It's like you're telling them you didn't mean for them to notice it until later thus blaming them for the fact that you disturbed them.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 12:35:38 GMT
It's the phone owners job to control the incoming messages and noises. If you don't wanna be bothered, set it appropriately.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 12:39:04 GMT
Another thought: Some people have sleep issues (like me - if sleep gets interrupted in the middle of the night, sometimes I can't get back to sleep or it may take hours before I actually do fall back asleep and I can't take naps because I work), but I still want to keep the phone on for emergencies. You can't have it both ways. It's not my responsibility to remember who has sleep issues. Take responsibility for yourself and your sleep time, especially if you have sleep issues. It's the only way.
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Post by disneypal on Oct 14, 2015 12:39:07 GMT
Texts and calls are different to me. I usually answer calls straight away. I check and reply to texts whenever. The people in my circle are not big texters and that is fine by me.
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Post by mtscrapper on Oct 14, 2015 12:42:21 GMT
Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. There are still many places where cell coverage is spotty or non-existent. If you don't have a landline then you don't have a phone. We have a landline because my husband works out of the house and has to have it for work. He has to be able to fax papers to his home office and you can't do that with a cell phone. There are probably lots of different reasons people still have landlines.
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Post by compeateropeator on Oct 14, 2015 12:44:10 GMT
Exactly what farmdpea said. I don't think you were out of line. There's a DND feature on the phone for a reason. It's unfortunate so many people don't know how to use it. Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. There are a few reasons why I have decided to keep a landline - a couple of them are: We sometimes have spotty service. I also think that if I ever had to call 911 and couldn't speak, emergency personal would have my address and would be able to respond much quicker (This may be all in my head but it makes me feel better ). If I lose power for an extended amount of time (and it does happened) I can plug in an old rotary phone and not have to worry about keeping a phone charged. I'm stuck in the 80's?
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Oct 14, 2015 12:44:44 GMT
For messages that are sent during normal waking hours, I use text (or email if it's long and I don't need an immediate reply).
For messages sent during normal sleeping hours that can be replied to at the recipients leisure, I use email. I may follow up with a text in the morning.
For messages that are an emergency, I send a text and call (cell and house if I have both numbers).
I keep my phone at bedside because 1) I'm a listmaker and must be able to add a thought to a list immediately or I'll lay awake all night fearfull that I'll forget to add that Very Important Thought to its appropriate list, 2) it's my alarm clock, 3) my cell number is the number my kids & family use most and I want them to be able to get hold of me in an emergency. I do have a landline, though.
I get around the nighttime texting issue by turning my text notifications off when I go to bed. The main offenders of texting to chat too late at night are my sibs, who live in later time zones and will start a sib group text discussion at 11pm my time. I don't want to participate after I've gone to bed, but want to catch up with them in the morning. Turning off text notification lets me do that.
I leave the call notifications (ringer) on because I figure if something is so important that someone sent me a text and then called when I didn't text a reply immediately, it must be really important and I want to take that call.
I don't send texts at night. If I want to send info at night (to get it off my to do list or because it's not time sensitive or because I hope the recipient checks her email first thing in the morning) I send an email. I may follow it up in the morning with a text telling the recipient I sent an email.
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Post by mtscrapper on Oct 14, 2015 12:50:01 GMT
Another thought: Some people have sleep issues (like me - if sleep gets interrupted in the middle of the night, sometimes I can't get back to sleep or it may take hours before I actually do fall back asleep and I can't take naps because I work), but I still want to keep the phone on for emergencies. You can't have it both ways. It's not my responsibility to remember who has sleep issues. But I still think there should be a bit of courtesy shown from the person texting even if the recipient has sleep issues or not. I choose to keep it on even though I know I might occasionally get a text from someone at an odd hour. It happens. I would rather have it on for those emergencies than not. Fortunately, I don't have many people who do text me in the middle of the night, but it has happened.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 12:50:41 GMT
M'eh, anyone who knows me knows that I will only answer my phone, text or calls, IF I'm awake and can hear the phone. They know if it's urgent to call DH's cell. That's what happened when my Grandma was in the hospital and they were told she's not going to make it. Dad called DH's cell at 3am to have us come up. My kids know to call DH if they need us in the middle of the night. So for me, any alerts on my phone in the middle of the night are simply muted for DH's peace, not mine.
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Post by moveablefeast on Oct 14, 2015 12:51:52 GMT
Another thought: Some people have sleep issues (like me - if sleep gets interrupted in the middle of the night, sometimes I can't get back to sleep or it may take hours before I actually do fall back asleep and I can't take naps because I work), but I still want to keep the phone on for emergencies. You can't have it both ways. It's not my responsibility to remember who has sleep issues. Beautifully said. It's this kind of gentle consideration for others that makes a really great friend - you know, someone who really thinks about your happiness in life.
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Post by Kerri W on Oct 14, 2015 12:58:40 GMT
Exactly what farmdpea said. I don't think you were out of line. There's a DND feature on the phone for a reason. It's unfortunate so many people don't know how to use it. Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. You sound a touch condescending. Or maybe I'm taking offence because I'm tired. Just because YOU don't have a landline doesn't make it the right way to do it. There are reasons people have them. And just because YOU use DND, there are also reasons that a person would have their phone turned on. Because someone doesn't use it, doesn't mean they are stupid and don't know how to use it. I didn't pass judgement at all on why somebody would have a landline. I'm sure there are oodles of reasons to have one as a great number of peas seem to have.*That* is what I commented on and was surprised by. I literally do not know a single person who has a landline and there are many here who do.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Oct 14, 2015 13:01:55 GMT
We ditched our landline, so my cell is my primary phone. I use it as my alarm clock. I don't shut it off at night. My sister texts me late at night and I hate it. It's stupid things like pictures of things she bought at a thrift shop. She texted at 3 am this past weekend with a question that have waited until the next morning. She is the only one that does this and I hate it. It might be a pain to do or to remember to do but you can set just her texts to 'silent' and your phone won't make a sound when she does that. Of course if you want to hear when you get a text from her when you're awake you'll have to remember to change the 'silent' alert back to a sound. I think it's rude to text someone at 3am unless you know for sure they are awake. It's on the sender *and* the receiver I think but there are legit reasons why someone can't put their phone on silent or DND during the night. That's why the sender should be considerate of the time. If you have a thought you want to text to someone at 3 am then type it in the message box but don't hit send until the morning time. Simple. You get your thoughts down so you don't forget and the receiver will receive it when they're not trying to sleep.
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Post by PenandInk on Oct 14, 2015 13:09:10 GMT
Last year, when my mom was in hospice, I started keeping my cell phone on my nightstand in case I recieved an emergency call. She passed away in March, but I now have somewhat of an OCD issue that I must keep the phone beside me in case there is an emergency. I will not turn on the do not disturb for this reason. So I am careful not to text people at odd hours, because I know how it is to get a stupid text at 3am. But again, I'm not really mad when someone texts a non emergency note because I'm the one keeping the phone on my nightstand, LOL
I'm on the east coast and my kids are all out west, so if I have something I want to text and I know they might be still asleep, I send it via Facebook messenger. I don't worry about forgetting to send it, and it doesn't wake them up.
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Post by RosieKat on Oct 14, 2015 13:12:18 GMT
No, a text is more like email to me. My cell phone stays in the other room - if it rings, I'll hear it just like I would the landline. Now, I'll be first to admit I'm not technologically avant garde, and I can do just fine without a cell phone (and many other things, long as I have Internet). But I also don't have a need to be on my phone nearly as much as pretty much anyone else I see that's about age 50 on down.
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Post by Miss Ang on Oct 14, 2015 13:14:22 GMT
My phone is my alarm so it sits on my night stand. We no longer have a house phone so in the event of an emergency in the middle of the night, I would never want turn the sounds off. If someone texted me at 3:30am for something that could have waited until the next morning, I would have be annoyed.
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Post by christinec68 on Oct 14, 2015 13:16:34 GMT
Personally, people can text me all day and all night. The ping when a text comes in won't wake me up unless there are 10 in a row. But I will only text my sister or husband late at night because I know the phone pinging won't wake them up. I know it would wake some people up so I won't text someone late unless I know it won't bother them.
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Post by brandy327 on Oct 14, 2015 13:21:52 GMT
Like you, I put my texting on do not disturb at night. I have friends that live in a different time zone and go to bed while they're still up. I don't mind if they text me late and they know I'll reply once I'm up the next day. Since we don't have a land line anymore, I do leave my ringer on all night though in case of an emergency someone can call.
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