JustTricia
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Post by JustTricia on Oct 14, 2015 21:59:34 GMT
For all that are saying set your DND to only allow specific people, what about emergencies? Police, hospital, loved one in a car accident where their phone is destroyed / trapped and they are using someone else's phone?
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Nicole in TX
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Post by Nicole in TX on Oct 14, 2015 23:22:36 GMT
If you have a cell phone, I assume you set it to silent when you do not want to be disturbed.
This could be at 4 AM, or perhaps when you are napping at 2 PM. I can't second guess when someone wants to be disturbed or not.
If you don't want to be disturbed by your phone, turn it off or set it to silent.
I use my phone as my alarm clock. My alarm goes off but all texts/calls are silent.
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Post by padresfan619 on Oct 14, 2015 23:30:36 GMT
For all that are saying set your DND to only allow specific people, what about emergencies? Police, hospital, loved one in a car accident where their phone is destroyed / trapped and they are using someone else's phone? When you have DND enabled and someone calls you more than once in rapid succession, your phone will ring. It happened to me early one weekend morning and the person wasn't in my preferred list. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 23:38:35 GMT
haven't read all the responses, but I use my cell as my alarm clock so it is always next to the bed and on. I also keep it close because my two DDs are at college and I want them to be able to reach me at any time if needed... So yes, a text overnight would wake me up.
DH keeps his (work) cell phone in his office so a text would not bother him. So I think it is very individual and I wouldn't assume others turn their cells off, especially if they don't have a landline.
eta: A lot of responses are assuming every cell phone is a smart phone and has those available settings/apps. Mine isn't and doesn't. It is either on silent or not. There is not middle ground of DND/favorites. Either everyone gets through or no one. I'm not about to get a smart phone and pay the monthly fee just to make sure others who text at late/early hours don't bother me. Luckily it doesn't happen much. |
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Post by anniefb on Oct 15, 2015 0:39:03 GMT
I probably wouldn't text late at night because I don't usually have my phone on, but I guess I don't really think of it like a call - it's more like an email which you don't expect someone to answer immediately, and I wouldn't hold off emailing just because it's after someone's bedtime. If I'm using my iphone as an alarm, I always switch the ringer off so I won't be bothered by any incoming emails. The alarm still rings if you do that  |
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Post by paget on Oct 15, 2015 0:51:54 GMT
My phone is on silent about 99% of the time so it wouldnt bother me at all. I like to text whenever I'm thinking about it. However, I only would be texting people at night that I know very well like dds, sister, and best friend and I know why their habits are regarding their phone. I use my phone as a tool for myself and so I look at it for texts and emails when I have time. If I am expecting a text I may hVe my phone in front of me and glance at it occasionally otherwise my family knows if it's urgent they should call the home Line or my work number depending on where I am at. Drives my husband bonkers but I don't want my phone making all kinds of notices for texts (I have three chatty dds) and Instagram likes emails, etc. my way works for me.  |
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Post by AussieMeg on Oct 15, 2015 2:39:09 GMT
Just adding my 2c worth, because I don't want to miss out on contributing to a 5 page thread!  I have a couple of friends who have texted me in the middle of the night because they are up for some reason. It does actually bug me a bit because it wakes me up and I sometimes have trouble falling back to sleep. I don't want to turn my phone off or onto silent because (a) I usually forget to turn it back on and (b) what if someone needs to call me for an emergency? The rule I follow is that I don't call OR send a text after about 9:30pm or before 8am. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 15, 2015 4:04:01 GMT
DH has his phone set to automatically turn off at 10:00 pm. Some of his clients have no boundaries and call at all hours of the day or night and he will get text messages when someone makes an appointment online, and we don't need to listen to that at night. My phone and our tablets charge downstairs. No one will call or text me at night anyway. We use an old school clock radio in our no-tech-zone bedroom. We don't even have a tv in there anymore.
I will add that one of the things I *hate* about sharing a hotel room with friends is the near constant blinking, beeping and flashing of all of their stupid phone/email/Facebook/text alerts all.freaking.night.long. It drives me totally insane. None of the people I know need to be that connected 24/7.
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Post by Nink on Oct 15, 2015 4:06:49 GMT
I just follow the 9 to 9 rule when it comes to phones. Unless it's so important that it can't wait, I never text or call after 9pm or before 9am.
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Post by myshelly on Oct 15, 2015 4:10:29 GMT
So, does your phone work while it's charging? Or does it charge extremely quickly? I'm just wondering because it sounds like many people keep their phones turned on 24/7, which I guess you have to do if it's your only phone. Of course it works while it's charging. Are there phones that don't? You can also buy portable chargers (little devices that you plug into the charger and charge them, then you can plug the device into your phone to charge your phone instead of having to plug your phone into a cord in an outlet). |
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Post by myshelly on Oct 15, 2015 4:11:58 GMT
For all that are saying set your DND to only allow specific people, what about emergencies? Police, hospital, loved one in a car accident where their phone is destroyed / trapped and they are using someone else's phone? When you have DND enabled and someone calls you more than once in rapid succession, your phone will ring. It happened to me early one weekend morning and the person wasn't in my preferred list. That's a specific setting. You can change it, FYI. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2015 4:22:48 GMT
So, does your phone work while it's charging? Or does it charge extremely quickly? I'm just wondering because it sounds like many people keep their phones turned on 24/7, which I guess you have to do if it's your only phone. Phone do function while charging. I rarely turn my phone off...not because I'm so vital to anyone that may need me but because it's a tool I use all the time for a million things. I get maybe three calls a week but many texts, listen to music, read books, track sales, consult menus and recipes, make notes, handle reminds from my son's school, look up the meaning of a word, schedule car maintenance, watch tv, consult peas, turn off the fireplace, order invitations for the neighborhood fall fest, edit photos, FaceTime w the husband who is working in another state, read the Bible, do the journaling for my next scrapbook page, blog, order some shoes, calculate my taxes and donate to my local food bank. Why would I turn it off? |
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Post by gina on Oct 15, 2015 4:22:20 GMT
Like others have said, my phone stays on my night table with the ringer on because it is my alarm in the morning. I woldn't have apreciated a middle-of-the-night text and it certainly would have woken me (I'm a very light sleeper). I myself won't text anyone usually past 9pm. I'll wait until the following morning.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2015 4:24:01 GMT
For all that are saying set your DND to only allow specific people, what about emergencies? Police, hospital, loved one in a car accident where their phone is destroyed / trapped and they are using someone else's phone? Any number that calls two to three times in rapid succession will be "put through". Otherwise, they will just have to wait. Being reachable 24/7 isn't really possible. I find it kind of amusing that people say "I have a son or daughter in college in another state so I must be near my phone 24/7 in case of an emergency and they need me". Really? They are in college. Adults. It's time to fly and be free and make your own way. Geesh. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2015 7:30:25 GMT
My son rides his bike home from work at about 1am. I get a little nervous about that for various reasons. He texts me when he starts for home and the he turns the light off by my bed. I don't sleep well till he gets home, but at least this way I get a little better sleep. Most of the time I'm not coherent enough to turn off the phone at that point even if I wanted to. So if I get a call somewhere between then and 7 I' m not likely to answer the phone politely when someone wakes me.
DH turns his off completely, but the group he works with are all in France except for him so he would never get any sleep if he kept it on.
Funny thing is he DOES keep it on when he is in France, because he won't be getting work calls. I found that out this morning when he told me to tell DS that 8pm our time is not a good time to text him.
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Post by Katie on Oct 15, 2015 9:40:41 GMT
I do not consider a text the same as a phone call. My cell phone is not in the bedroom at night so I wouldn't hear it anyway.
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Post by Nink on Oct 15, 2015 12:03:23 GMT
For all that are saying set your DND to only allow specific people, what about emergencies? Police, hospital, loved one in a car accident where their phone is destroyed / trapped and they are using someone else's phone? Any number that calls two to three times in rapid succession will be "put through". Otherwise, they will just have to wait. Being reachable 24/7 isn't really possible. I find it kind of amusing that people say "I have a son or daughter in college in another state so I must be near my phone 24/7 in case of an emergency and they need me". Really? They are in college. Adults. It's time to fly and be free and make your own way. Geesh. I'm all for letting my kid be an adult and spread his wings. I never interfere in his life normally. But my son is 30, and if God forbid, he's in an accident or hurt or whatever and is rushed to a hospital in the wee hours of the morning, you can damn sure bet I wanna know about it. I don't think that is at all unreasonable. Obviously the majority of us on here feel the same way. Why wouldn't any parent? |
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Post by JustTricia on Oct 15, 2015 12:24:57 GMT
Any number that calls two to three times in rapid succession will be "put through". Otherwise, they will just have to wait. Being reachable 24/7 isn't really possible. I find it kind of amusing that people say "I have a son or daughter in college in another state so I must be near my phone 24/7 in case of an emergency and they need me". Really? They are in college. Adults. It's time to fly and be free and make your own way. Geesh. I'm all for letting my kid be an adult and spread his wings. I never interfere in his life normally. But my son is 30, and if God forbid, he's in an accident or hurt or whatever and is rushed to a hospital in the wee hours of the morning, you can damn sure bet I wanna know about it. I don't think that is at all unreasonable. Obviously the majority of us on here feel the same way. Why wouldn't any parent? That's the thing. I don't leave my phone on just in case my son needs a tissue in the middle of the night. I keep it on because ten years ago I decided to leave my phone in the pocket of my jacket while out to dinner. For some reason, and I can only say it was a divine reason, I decided to check my phone halfway through dinner. My ex had called me three times to tell me my son was having a seizure and was being rushed to the children's hospital because it wasn't stopping. I was three hours away at the time. If I would have turned my phone off for the night I wouldn't have known until the next morning. His seizure lasted an hour and a half. It wasn't some little thing. Ever since that day I leave my phone on and it's close to me. Have I ever received a phone call again like that one? No, thank God. But I sure as hell am not going to miss it again if God forbid I do. So again, my phone isn't on in case my son is at his dad's and forgot his gym uniform. It's on in case he has some emergency. |
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Post by melanell on Oct 15, 2015 12:37:19 GMT
So, does your phone work while it's charging? Or does it charge extremely quickly? I'm just wondering because it sounds like many people keep their phones turned on 24/7, which I guess you have to do if it's your only phone. Of course it works while it's charging. Are there phones that don't? I have no idea, which is why I asked. When mine is charging it sits on the counter ignored because it won't from in my kitchen, so I have never done anything with it to see if it would work. |
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Post by melanell on Oct 15, 2015 12:38:50 GMT
So, does your phone work while it's charging? Or does it charge extremely quickly? I'm just wondering because it sounds like many people keep their phones turned on 24/7, which I guess you have to do if it's your only phone. Phone do function while charging. I rarely turn my phone off...not because I'm so vital to anyone that may need me but because it's a tool I use all the time for a million things. I get maybe three calls a week but many texts, listen to music, read books, track sales, consult menus and recipes, make notes, handle reminds from my son's school, look up the meaning of a word, schedule car maintenance, watch tv, consult peas, turn off the fireplace, order invitations for the neighborhood fall fest, edit photos, FaceTime w the husband who is working in another state, read the Bible, do the journaling for my next scrapbook page, blog, order some shoes, calculate my taxes and donate to my local food bank. Why would I turn it off? You obviously have a great list of reasons not to turn yours off. Mine is off more than it is on because I figure if I am not using it, then why keep letting the battery run down. |
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Post by padresfan619 on Oct 15, 2015 13:22:32 GMT
When you have DND enabled and someone calls you more than once in rapid succession, your phone will ring. It happened to me early one weekend morning and the person wasn't in my preferred list. That's a specific setting. You can change it, FYI. Thanks. I won't be changing it because it did happen to be a minor emergency so I'm glad I didn't have the setting enabled. |
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Post by Patter on Oct 15, 2015 13:35:48 GMT
For all that are saying set your DND to only allow specific people, what about emergencies? Police, hospital, loved one in a car accident where their phone is destroyed / trapped and they are using someone else's phone? Any number that calls two to three times in rapid succession will be "put through". Otherwise, they will just have to wait. Being reachable 24/7 isn't really possible. I find it kind of amusing that people say "I have a son or daughter in college in another state so I must be near my phone 24/7 in case of an emergency and they need me". Really? They are in college. Adults. It's time to fly and be free and make your own way. Geesh. My daughters are in college in another state (3 hours away), and they need to be able to get me in an emergency. They have many health issues. One has already been taken from campus twice to the hospital via ambulance. The most recent just a couple of weeks ago where she spent 10 days in the hospital. Even if they didn't have health issues, I would certainly want to know about any emergency just as my mom would about me and I am 50. |
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I have a couple of friends who have texted me in the middle of the night because they are up for some reason. It does actually bug me a bit because it wakes me up and I sometimes have trouble falling back to sleep. I don't want to turn my phone off or onto silent because (a) I usually forget to turn it back on and (b) what if someone needs to call me for an emergency? 
