christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Oct 14, 2015 13:22:36 GMT
There are still many places where cell coverage is spotty or non-existent. If you don't have a landline then you don't have a phone. I am smack dab in the middle of a fairly decent sized town, right next door to the world's largest tourist attraction involving a mouse, and there really is very little of Central Florida that is not covered by cell service. And yet. My house seems to have it's own personal cell phone jammer. Texting is fine, the wifi works like a champ, but phone calls on my cell only happen if I am in a particular spot on my back porch. I have had multiple cell providers over the years and not one single one of them work. Currently, my son and I have different providers (ATT and Verizon) and neither one works inside. So for me, if I didn't have a landline, I would not be able to ever talk inside my house. Emergency phone calls would be problematic-both in receiving or God forbid, in making. That was at my sister's old house. You could only get cell phone reception standing by the front door or on the steps outside the kitchen door to the back yard...in NYC. We have a landline because DH insists we keep a corded phone plugged in to the wall in case of emergencies.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Oct 14, 2015 13:24:14 GMT
It is impossible to control the whole group of family, friends, acquaintances and workmates who might call, text or email a smartphone from whatever timezone they might find themselves in. Then there is spam. Finger faults and wrong numbers. The only thing we can possibly control is our need to have the darned thing turned on and near us at night and/or its settings. Most of us need that emergency lifeline and therefore have to risk having our sleep disrupted. If you don't need the 'phone turned on for those possible emergencies, get a different alarm clock. Read on a different device. OP, you did nothing wrong. ETA: I am one of the world's light sleepers and when I am awakened I find it very difficult to go to sleep again, but still: pluses and minuses, people.
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Post by oliquig on Oct 14, 2015 13:26:57 GMT
It's the phone owners job to control the incoming messages and noises. If you don't wanna be bothered, set it appropriately. That is what I think too. I often wake up to text messages from a friend on the West coast, I use DND since I use my phone as an alarm. It is MY responsibility to find a way to sleep, not anyone else's.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 13:27:30 GMT
I am a late night texter and I was thrilled when I realized that my android (samsung s5) had a way to write texts and schedule them to be sent at a certain day or time. Now when I write a text at night or early morning, I just schedule it for delivery at around 9 or 10 am.
I think it came in the last update or at least I never noticed it before.
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Post by myshelly on Oct 14, 2015 13:35:12 GMT
Yes, if you text me you will wake me up.
I do not talk on the phone. Ever, to anyone, period.
My text is my phone. It's my only way of communication.
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Post by katlady on Oct 14, 2015 14:03:41 GMT
I made that mistake once of texting someone too early. It was the only chance I would have for a couple of hours to text my friend and I just wanted to give her an FYI. Since I don't answer/hear text in the middle of the night, I didn't realize she kept her phone on. Oops! Now I try to text people only during normal hours.
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Post by Zee on Oct 14, 2015 14:06:57 GMT
I don't like middle of the night texts. I don't get them anymore, but I used to when I worked nights and my co-workers would text me funny things on my nights off. I had to put a stop to that, much as I appreciated being included!
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Post by chaosisapony on Oct 14, 2015 14:07:19 GMT
I have never heard of a do not disturb feature. I'm going to have to look into that.
My phone lives on my night stand at night where it's charger is. It's there because I use it as my alarm clock and I like to listen to the radio on it when I get ready for work in the morning. It's also my only phone so it's there in case of emergency. A 3:30 AM text would have woken me up and I would have been slightly irritated.
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Post by Drew on Oct 14, 2015 14:10:48 GMT
My phone goes off all night for various notifications, emails, etc. It doesn't bother me at all. If I'm truly asleep, I won't hear it. That said, I don't text people until it's a reasonable hour after reading previous threads about this topic and learning that it is quite bothersome to some.
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Post by nicole2112 on Oct 14, 2015 14:14:06 GMT
Do Not Disturb is the best invention since the iPhone itself.
I have texts, alerts from all different social medias and game alerts that come in around the clock. I turn on my alarm and then set my DND and that's that. The phone is silent unless 1 of 3 things happen: 1) someone from my "Favorites" call me in the middle of the night 2) Someone calls twice in two minutes. That means they got my voicemail and they are calling me right back. Could be an emergency. 3) It's time for my alarm to go off.
People can text me anytime of the day and I'll see it when I'm ready to get up and be engaged with my phone again.
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Post by katyscrap on Oct 14, 2015 14:16:02 GMT
Yes, I would be freaked out if I got a text at 3 am. My sister is 3 hours behind me so I know not to text her too early and she knows not to text me too late.
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Post by gar on Oct 14, 2015 14:16:34 GMT
Do Not Disturb is the best invention since the iPhone itself.I have texts, alerts from all different social medias and game alerts that come in around the clock. I turn on my alarm and then set my DND and that's that. The phone is silent unless 1 of 3 things happen: 1) someone from my "Favorites" call me in the middle of the night 2) Someone calls twice in two minutes. That means they got my voicemail and they are calling me right back. Could be an emergency. 3) It's time for my alarm to go off. People can text me anytime of the day and I'll see it when I'm ready to get up and be engaged with my phone again. Ah, so not something everyone will necessarily have or be able to use. I wonder if there's an equivalent for other phones. ETA - I've now discovered Quiet Hours on my Windows phone
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Oct 14, 2015 14:17:22 GMT
I don't think you did anything wrong (I don't equate texts and calls as the same). And now you know not to text that sister at night. *shrug*
I think it's fine for a person to nicely say "hey, please don't text me at night - the phone is by my bed and it wakes me up". And then hopefully the sender remembers that next time. It doesn't need to be a big drama. And in the end I think the onus is on the cell phone user to figure it out (maybe get a separate alarm clock, etc).
But then again, we still have a landline, I don't have a smartphone, and I prefer email - so what do I know. ;-)
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Post by cath4k on Oct 14, 2015 14:18:44 GMT
I think the great thing to learn from this thread is the large variety of ways people use and interpret the different forms of communication. This isn't even discussing things like Facebook messaging and invites.
I do keep my phone on at night in my bedroom for a variety of reasons. I do not have anyone who regularly texts me in the middle of the night. I would not get angry if someone did text me regularly (because different people have different ideas on how to use communication methods), but I might ask them not to text in the middle of the night and explain why my phone is on at night if I couldn't find a way to silence only their texts.
It does seem like phones should have a way to set up silencing for texts and notifications for a set period of time while allowing for phone calls and alarms. Does such a thing exist?
ETA: Allowing for all phone calls, not just ones in your favorites.
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Post by akathy on Oct 14, 2015 14:27:10 GMT
I don't have a landline and keep my phone on the bedside table at night. It pisses me off to get middle of the night texts. They wake me up and I have a heck of a time going back to sleep. Turning it to DND is not an option as I have an aging mother who may need me at night. If you don't need an immediate response, send me an email instead please!
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Oct 14, 2015 14:29:36 GMT
It does seem like phones should have a way to set up silencing for texts and notifications for a set period of time while allowing for phone calls and alarms. Does such a thing exist? It looks like the answer to that is yes. I went to settings>Do Not Disturb and then there is a choice to Allow Calls From and you can choose who to allow calls from. You can also schedule when your iphone is on DND. I didn't know that existed until now.
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Post by Rhondito on Oct 14, 2015 14:35:33 GMT
It wouldn't have bothered me. My phone is always on silent. The vibrating from a phone call would wake me; a single text wouldn't.
I have a couple of friends who I used to group text with - one is a SAHW, the other a nurse. The nurse would get off her shift around 1:00 am and they would start texting - that got to be irritating FAST. I was the only one who HAD to get up early for work and the constant buzzing kept me awake. I had to start using DND so I could get some sleep! lol
Peabay, I would just apologize to the irritated sister and make a mental note not to send her late night texts.
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Post by Rhondito on Oct 14, 2015 14:37:24 GMT
I don't have a landline and keep my phone on the bedside table at night. It pisses me off to get middle of the night texts. They wake me up and I have a heck of a time going back to sleep. Turning it to DND is not an option as I have an aging mother who may need me at night. If you don't need an immediate respons, send me an email instead please! Kathy, if you have an iPhone you can add your mom to your "favorites" and any calls from her number would still come through if you have your phone on DND.
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Post by Kerri W on Oct 14, 2015 14:42:53 GMT
I don't have a landline and keep my phone on the bedside table at night. It pisses me off to get middle of the night texts. They wake me up and I have a heck of a time going back to sleep. Turning it to DND is not an option as I have an aging mother who may need me at night. If you don't need an immediate respons, send me an email instead please! I have the same concern as my mother has medical issues so I need to be able to be reached by her at night but I still use DND. NOT SAID CONDESCENDINGLY. If you (general) are interested in checking out DND, here is how you do it: Settings Do Not Disturb (second section right below Notifications and Control Center) Once in DND you can choose manual or schedule certain times you would like your phone to be on DND. You can also choose who to allow calls from or allow a call to ring if they call twice within three minutes (Repeated Calls).
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Post by buddysmom on Oct 14, 2015 14:46:43 GMT
No, I don't consider them the same. I wouldn't call unless it was an emergency.
My DD was in Europe--six hours ahead of me so she would send me texts--important stuff/jokes/cute cats/whatever--say at 9 am her time which is 3 am my time--no big deal. I did the same and she would get them in the middle of the night--no problem at all.
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Post by milocat on Oct 14, 2015 15:02:04 GMT
I used to text people whenever I thought of something but it seems like most people keep their phones on 24/7. My husband does because I job can come in anytime. My sister does and then gets mad when you text her. I power my phone down completely every night. We have a landline for emergencies.
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Post by krazykatlady on Oct 14, 2015 15:02:59 GMT
I am a late night texter and I was thrilled when I realized that my android (samsung s5) had a way to write texts and schedule them to be sent at a certain day or time. Now when I write a text at night or early morning, I just schedule it for delivery at around 9 or 10 am. I think it came in the last update or at least I never noticed it before. Now this might give me a reason to ditch the iPhone
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 15:06:19 GMT
I am a late night texter and I was thrilled when I realized that my android (samsung s5) had a way to write texts and schedule them to be sent at a certain day or time. Now when I write a text at night or early morning, I just schedule it for delivery at around 9 or 10 am. I think it came in the last update or at least I never noticed it before. Now this might give me a reason to ditch the iPhone It's perfect for me because I'm typically up until 2 or 3 a.m. and I actually do a fair amount of business via text. Sometimes there's info that I want someone - personal or customer - to have in the morning, but I'm not up and fully functioning until 10-ish or so and I really don't like to start "talking" via text or even email until noon, so I can get the info to them but do it on my own time and know that I'm not disturbing them, or worse yet, being unprofessional (not that texts are particularly "professional" but it's the way that a fair number of my customers communicate with me.) I can't imagine that there's not some iPhone app that can schedule texts. . .
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:27:38 GMT
Some people set their phones up to alert them to emails or Facebook messages. Do I have to worry that any email, FB message, etc. I send may wake them, too? It seems like sometimes people want the convenience of having a phone that will allow them contact with anyone at any time, but become upset if that causes some unintended negative consequences as well. I know someone whose phone dings and bings all day long and the owner complains about it all day long. It drives me crazy. She bought the phone. She set up the alerts. Then on the flip side, people seem to think that everyone sees their emails and messages immediately and some of us do not choose to be alerted all day long about these things, so it could be hours before we see them. So much aggravation about something that is supposed to make life better. I think think alerts are different. People use text today like calls. But the alerts still make a noise, which could wake someone just like the tone for a text could, right? So if I'm up at 2 am unable to sleep and opting to use that time to work through my inbox, I could be setting off alerts on bedside phones all over the place and I never would have even thought about it before this thread.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:30:56 GMT
There are still many places where cell coverage is spotty or non-existent. If you don't have a landline then you don't have a phone. I am smack dab in the middle of a fairly decent sized town, right next door to the world's largest tourist attraction involving a mouse, and there really is very little of Central Florida that is not covered by cell service. And yet. My house seems to have it's own personal cell phone jammer. Texting is fine, the wifi works like a champ, but phone calls on my cell only happen if I am in a particular spot on my back porch. I have had multiple cell providers over the years and not one single one of them work. Currently, my son and I have different providers (ATT and Verizon) and neither one works inside. So for me, if I didn't have a landline, I would not be able to ever talk inside my house. Emergency phone calls would be problematic-both in receiving or God forbid, in making. I have a long driveway. If I walk up to the very end of the drive, right at the road's edge (Which is a fairly dangerous area to hang out. We're on a curve on a very busy rural road.) and face East, I can get a bar or two. But that's really inconvenient, dangerous, and completely unhelpful in an emergency.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 14, 2015 15:35:26 GMT
My phone is an alarm and I have the ringer turned off and texting sounds off. I hear the ringer and not the texts coming in. It works for me.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:36:51 GMT
Even if my cell worked at home, if I needed to call 911, if I could use a landline phone, I'd still rather use that. Whenever I receive a call from someone on a cell we both spend time repeating ourselves, asking "what?", saying "Sorry, I missed that", etc. So I wouldn't want to risk wasting time on any of that unless it was my only option.
I find it so refreshing these days to receive calls where we can talk and talk with no static or blips in the conversation. I don't know if its just my area or if cell phones are just like that, because I receive calls from people with all different carriers and on all different phones, and none of them are ever as clear as when someone calls from a landline.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:39:02 GMT
If I lose power for an extended amount of time (and it does happened) I can plug in an old rotary phone and not have to worry about keeping a phone charged. I'm stuck in the 80's? We keep a corded phone plugged in at all times due to fairly frequent losses of power. I don't want to risk not being able to make an out-going call because I only have cordless phones. If the phone lines go down, then I'll be at the end of my driveway begging my cell to work, but otherwise, I'm covered.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:43:22 GMT
You sound a touch condescending. Or maybe I'm taking offence because I'm tired. Just because YOU don't have a landline doesn't make it the right way to do it. There are reasons people have them. And just because YOU use DND, there are also reasons that a person would have their phone turned on. Because someone doesn't use it, doesn't mean they are stupid and don't know how to use it. I didn't pass judgement at all on why somebody would have a landline. I'm sure there are oodles of reasons to have one as a great number of peas seem to have.*That* is what I commented on and was surprised by. I literally do not know a single person who has a landline and there are many here who do. Even the oldest of your friends/relatives? I ask because I know that I have a list of people in their late 80s or 90s who either do not own a cell phone at all or own one but own specifically for use in an emergency in their car. No one I know in that age bracket has embraced their cell phone to the extent of getting rid of everything else. Heck, several of those folks don't have computers, either. The people in their 70s have both, but for some reason the usage of both drops way low once I think of the people past 85.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 14, 2015 15:45:53 GMT
I think think alerts are different. People use text today like calls. But the alerts still make a noise, which could wake someone just like the tone for a text could, right? So if I'm up at 2 am unable to sleep and opting to use that time to work through my inbox, I could be setting off alerts on bedside phones all over the place and I never would have even thought about it before this thread. You could be... but the person choses to have those alerts on their phone, where as a call or a text is initiated by one person specifically to another... I see a distinction. I will choose to email rather than text at 3am. But I wouldn't think twice about posting on Facebook. IF you have a sound overtime someone posts on Facebook.. clearly you aren't bothered by alerts!
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