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Post by bc2ca on Oct 14, 2015 15:48:26 GMT
IME, texting is replacing phone calls. It is either an FYI that needs no response (soccer practice canceled) or a question that the sender expects to be answered quickly so I apply the same "rules" to texting that I do to phoning anyone and generally don't do it between 10 pm and 7 am.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:48:56 GMT
No, a text is more like email to me. My cell phone stays in the other room - if it rings, I'll hear it just like I would the landline. Now, I'll be first to admit I'm not technologically avant garde, and I can do just fine without a cell phone (and many other things, long as I have Internet). But I also don't have a need to be on my phone nearly as much as pretty much anyone else I see that's about age 50 on down. I think this has a lot to do with it. If you personally don't keep your phone on you or near you at all times then it may not even occur to you that your texts are going anywhere but a phone that is either charging or turned off for the night. I keep mine in my car since it's useless inside. The idea of it waking someone up never ever dawned on me. In fact DS just received an invitation where the only RSVP option was to text a specific word to someone, and I haven't done it yet, because I don't remember to carry around the invitation and my phone isn't really reliable until I drive half a mile away. So I never have the 2 together. I told DS to tell the girl he's coming and that I will do my best to get a text out eventually. So not only do I never text, but having to text is a minor pain to me.
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Post by Kerri W on Oct 14, 2015 15:50:03 GMT
I didn't pass judgement at all on why somebody would have a landline. I'm sure there are oodles of reasons to have one as a great number of peas seem to have.*That* is what I commented on and was surprised by. I literally do not know a single person who has a landline and there are many here who do. Even the oldest of your friends/relatives? I ask because I know that I have a list of people in their late 80s or 90s who either do not own a cell phone at all or own one but own specifically for use in an emergency in their car. No one I know in that age bracket has embraced their cell phone to the extent of getting rid of everything else. Heck, several of those folks don't have computers, either. The people in their 70s have both, but for some reason the usage of both drops way low once I think of the people past 85. The oldest person I know is my 82 year old dad and he gave up his landline a couple years ago. Now...don't get all crazy and ask him how to turn the volume up on his phone or how to check his voicemail, but he is officially a completely mobile guy. My MIL is the next in line and she doesn't have a landline either. Though she is slightly more techy and has a laptop to email and Facebook.
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Post by cyndijane on Oct 14, 2015 15:50:40 GMT
I am a late night texter and I was thrilled when I realized that my android (samsung s5) had a way to write texts and schedule them to be sent at a certain day or time. Now when I write a text at night or early morning, I just schedule it for delivery at around 9 or 10 am. I think it came in the last update or at least I never noticed it before. I have been looking for an app for this for years. I would love to be able to send scheduled texts!! I'm an iPhone girl, though. But if anyone knows how to make that happen, I'm all in!!
And most people I know have dropped the landline. Having said that, if they received a text in the middle of the night, they wouldn't understand it to mean they should respond right away.
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Post by knit.pea on Oct 14, 2015 15:52:16 GMT
Yes; to me, texts and calls are the same. I would not have texted someone at 3 am. I keep my phone volume on at night, in case of emergencies (family or weather). We had an Amber Alert issued for our area one very early morning, and all 4 of our phones went off at the same time. We have also received severe weather alerts that way, which is a great heads-up for the overnight hours. DH travels frequently, and DS goes to college in September ... my phone volume will always be on
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 15:53:08 GMT
But the alerts still make a noise, which could wake someone just like the tone for a text could, right? So if I'm up at 2 am unable to sleep and opting to use that time to work through my inbox, I could be setting off alerts on bedside phones all over the place and I never would have even thought about it before this thread. You could be... but the person choses to have those alerts on their phone, where as a call or a text is initiated by one person specifically to another... I see a distinction. I will choose to email rather than text at 3am. But I wouldn't think twice about posting on Facebook. IF you have a sound overtime someone posts on Facebook.. clearly you aren't bothered by alerts! But I do send out messages to people on FB all of the time, at any time. Because I only access FB through my computer. I'm not talking about notifications of a FB post, but me sending you a FB private message at 3am. I would definitely be the one initiating that, kwim? And I wouldn't think, "Oh man, they might be sleeping, better not.". Well, I will *now*.
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Post by SnowWhite on Oct 14, 2015 15:54:32 GMT
IME, texting is replacing phone calls. It is either an FYI that needs no response (soccer practice canceled) or a question that the sender expects to be answered quickly so I apply the same "rules" to texting that I do to phoning anyone and generally don't do it between 10 pm and 7 am. ^^ This. But at the same point in time, I would not get angry at someone who texted me after hours. I do not expect them to know that I keep my phone on my nightstand and my quiet times shush everything but calls and texts. The people I communicate with most, my closest friends and family, all do the same, so none of us would text each other after hours. Occasionally I get a late text and it wakes me, but I certainly don't bother taking that person to task for disturbing me. If they did it all the time, I'd probably just politely say 'hey, I keep my phone on my nightstand at night, do you mind not texting me at 3am? Cool, thanks!' So many people get their panties in a bunch over really inconsequential things.
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Post by FrozenPea on Oct 14, 2015 16:05:55 GMT
I set my phine to only receive phone calls at night. My kids and family know if it is an emergency call don't text. I also use the schedule a text feature if I am texting some who might be sleeping.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Oct 14, 2015 16:08:57 GMT
I see a text (because it comes through on your phone) as similar to a phone call. I agree with what Burning Feather said on the first page... some people, because of their work or home-life situations, can't use the Do Not Disturb setting for whatever reason, and have to keep their phone by their bed so they CAN be contacted in the middle of the night in case of emergency.
if it's not an emergency, then either send the person an e-mail or send your text when the recipient is likely to be awake, not in the middle of the night. Just in case they DO have their phone by their bed.
ETA: my BF keeps his phone by the bed because his job involves 24/7 contact in case of emergency from customer sites or customer representatives-- he can't set those to favorites, because it could be anyone calling from any phone number at a customer site. We assume anything coming thru in the middle of the night is 'emergency' level.
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Post by compeateropeator on Oct 14, 2015 16:11:31 GMT
I didn't pass judgement at all on why somebody would have a landline. I'm sure there are oodles of reasons to have one as a great number of peas seem to have.*That* is what I commented on and was surprised by. I literally do not know a single person who has a landline and there are many here who do. Even the oldest of your friends/relatives? I ask because I know that I have a list of people in their late 80s or 90s who either do not own a cell phone at all or own one but own specifically for use in an emergency in their car. No one I know in that age bracket has embraced their cell phone to the extent of getting rid of everything else. Heck, several of those folks don't have computers, either. The people in their 70s have both, but for some reason the usage of both drops way low once I think of the people past 85. This is just a fluff side note. In my immediate family my 93 year old grandmother and my 96 year old great aunt do not have cell phones or computers and I know of others also. My gram (who still drives and does a cleaning job once every 2 weeks) was looking for something at Costco. They didn't have it any longer and I said maybe we can order it. She said oh you mean you can go on that computer thing, yea why don't you. So she is willing to embrace it... At least through others... My mom showed my great aunt FaceTime (we both use iPads) when she was staying with them. She was quite impressed. They both only have landlines. My gram is not much of a phone person for just chit chat, I have a recording on my answering machine of a message she left that I won't erase.
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Post by SabrinaP on Oct 14, 2015 16:21:07 GMT
My phone is my alarm, so yes a text in the middle of the night would wake me. I wouldn't answer you though. We don't have a landline, so we both sleep with our cell phones.
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Post by rainangel on Oct 14, 2015 16:25:30 GMT
I have not read any of the responses here, but here is mine:
I use my phone as my alarm, so it is on my nightstand. I usually will not be woken by a text alert, so I would read it in the morning. If I DID wake up from a text alert, I might possibly read the text, depending on how tired I was. And unless it was a message about an emergency, I'd ignore until the morning. If it was an emergency there would be a call not a text, anyway.
I would never expect anyone to answer my text if they received it in the middle of the night. If it's a life and death situation, I will CALL, not text at 3.30 in the morning.
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Post by kachilyn on Oct 14, 2015 16:44:33 GMT
I have not read any of the responses here, but here is mine: I use my phone as my alarm, so it is on my nightstand. I usually will not be woken by a text alert, so I would read it in the morning. If I DID wake up from a text alert, I might possibly read the text, depending on how tired I was. And unless it was a message about an emergency, I'd ignore until the morning. If it was an emergency there would be a call not a text, anyway. I would never expect anyone to answer my text if they received it in the middle of the night. If it's a life and death situation, I will CALL, not text at 3.30 in the morning. I was a Resident Director in college and we had to stress to our staff of RAs to CALL, not text if they needed us during the night. I am a light sleeper and would leave both my personal cell and the duty room on loud ringer during the nights I was on call. I would wake instantly to the ring but not always the text alert. If you need me in the next five minutes, hit the dial button, don't send me a text I might not hear or see till morning!! Now, I am up early during the week and have my phone set to DND from 11pm-6am. Texts and facebook alerts during that time still arrive, they just don't vibrate or ping. The way my DND is set is that anyone on my favorites lists can call and it will still go through or if anyone calls twice in a 5 min period, it goes through. I do get texts in the middle of the night or very early, I just don't see them till I get up. I often have to be someplace by 6 or 6:30 am and sometimes it gets canceled - usually at 3:30am. I'll see the message when my alarm goes off.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 16:48:32 GMT
Personally, I'm glad to hear that people are saying that in a true emergency they would make a call not send a text.
It's good to know that in a potentially frightening/sad/devastating situation someone would be able to hear an actual human voice giving them the news.
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Post by theshyone on Oct 14, 2015 16:53:51 GMT
Exactly what farmdpea said. I don't think you were out of line. There's a DND feature on the phone for a reason. It's unfortunate so many people don't know how to use it. Honestly, I'm surprised so many people still have landlines. We keep a landline for the possibility of 911 having to be called. Two cardiac cases at our house. Cell phones don't do locations for 911 like a landline. also the reason DND cannot be used. It could prevent me being reached, in cases of emergency. A text to me is exactly the same as a call. It disturbs me, wakes me. Email, Facebook, but don't text or call after ten or before 7
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Post by pierkiss on Oct 14, 2015 16:54:58 GMT
I keep my phone on my nightstand. It's on in case of emergency. No land line in this house. Yes, texting is like the phone with regard to not calling/texting after a certain hour. I'm usually up until midnight, so anything after that will wake me up. I'm not a deep sleeper anymore, so the vibration sound from the text would be enough to completely wake me up. And I'm grumpy when I'm woken up. So you'd probably hear about it right then and there.
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Post by nyxish on Oct 14, 2015 17:08:43 GMT
My phone is on and at my bedside because i use it as an alarm and in case of emergency. So i would likely hear a text that came in really late. i get more annoyed by really super early texts than really late ones (5 am, 6 am 7 am) because if i'm not up crazy early for work...due to my normal levels of insomnia i don't sleep well until the wee hours and into the morning. (it's awesome lemmetellya)
That said, because i don't find texts to be like phone calls, i will often be comfortable texting someone much later than i would be comfortable calling them (i'm don't call someone who isn't my guy or my best friend after 9pm, usually. 9:30 for really close friends who have said it's cool), but i will often avoid just normal question texts really late unless i know that person is likely up and about anyway, just in case i do wake them up.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 17:45:33 GMT
I keep my phone on my nightstand. It's on in case of emergency. No land line in this house. Yes, texting is like the phone with regard to not calling/texting after a certain hour. I'm usually up until midnight, so anything after that will wake me up. I'm not a deep sleeper anymore, so the vibration sound from the text would be enough to completely wake me up. And I'm grumpy when I'm woken up. So you'd probably hear about it right then and there. Yeah, but the problem is that your hours aren't the same as my acceptable hours. So it really should be on each person to make sure they aren't disturbed. Because like I said, I don't want the phone to ring before 10 and frankly, I'm a little pissy before noon (who am I kidding? I'm always pissy when I answer the phone; I hate talking on the phone)
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Post by myshelly on Oct 14, 2015 17:50:59 GMT
I don't have a landline and keep my phone on the bedside table at night. It pisses me off to get middle of the night texts. They wake me up and I have a heck of a time going back to sleep. Turning it to DND is not an option as I have an aging mother who may need me at night. If you don't need an immediate response, send me an email instead please! Do you have a. iPhone? You can program it to let certain numbers call you even when you set it to Do Not Disturb.
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Post by cmpeter on Oct 14, 2015 17:52:12 GMT
I do just because I had a similar experience. I texted a friend while I was in NYC and with the time difference I read 4:00 am for her. She keeps her phone by her bed and texted me back asking what I was doing up so early. So now, I treat a text like a call.
I keep my phone in my office at night. Dh keeps his by the bed, but on do not disturb. We have a landline.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 14, 2015 18:04:45 GMT
I don't have the sound on at night, so text away. I'll get it in the am. However, after reading this I am now aware that people do keep their phones at their side and wouldn't want to wake or scare anyone.
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Post by scrapnatya on Oct 14, 2015 18:56:17 GMT
I haven't read all the replies but from 2 pages in, it seems that the opinions are all over the map. For the spreadsheet, I keep my cell next to my bed because it's my alarm. I don't ever shut off my phone because I have a 20 yr DD that lives in another state. If I get a text in the middle of the night, it usually doesn't awaken me. If I got multiple texts, I would probably wake up. I don't have sleep issues so I would just go back to sleep. A random, middle of the night text, here and there, would not bother me. I might only text two people late at night that I know wouldn't care.
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Post by jennyap on Oct 14, 2015 19:41:03 GMT
Now, I am up early during the week and have my phone set to DND from 11pm-6am. Texts and facebook alerts during that time still arrive, they just don't vibrate or ping. The way my DND is set is that anyone on my favorites lists can call and it will still go through or if anyone calls twice in a 5 min period, it goes through. I do get texts in the middle of the night or very early, I just don't see them till I get up. Same here. I have always treated texts more like emails than calls, but I try to be considerate. Even that can fail though - I once texted a friend in the middle of the day, but it turned out she was travelling on business and on a completely different time zone, so it was actually the middle of the night for her.
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Post by mirabelleswalker on Oct 14, 2015 19:47:45 GMT
No. I leave my phone downstairs on the charger. If by chance I had it by my bed at night, the volume would be off and the vibration would not wake me.
I have sent texts late at night without thinking about it at all. I guess I will reconsider that.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Oct 14, 2015 19:48:01 GMT
My mom leaves hers on and she likes to sleep late! I explained to her about the do not disturb too. I even told her you can have specific #'s ring through the do not disturb. I am up at 4-6 AM no one is likely ever going to wake me but her sister calls her early often and wakes here and she isn't happy about it.
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Post by JustTricia on Oct 14, 2015 20:58:54 GMT
I've only read through page four, so this opinion may already have been said.
I think of a smartphone as two separate things ~ a phone and a tablet in essence. Texts and phone calls are communications that go directly to the person. Emails, Facebook, Snapchat, etc, are apps.
If the person chooses to have all apps notify them immediately, that's on them.
I treat texts and phone calls to a personal smartphone (so not work related) just like I was taught to treat a regular phone when I was little ~ not after 10:00 pm, not before 10:00 am unless it's an emergency. If I wouldn't call their landline, I won't text or call their cellphone.
The only exceptions to my before 10:00 am rule is if it is work related and I know the person is at work.
For the record, I don't text or call anyone who doesn't live in my time zone or works outside 8-5 with one exception, so it's not a difficult thing to do. I have a friend in California (I'm in Indiana) and he works three days 3:00 pm to 3:00 am, so he's a crapshoot.
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Post by akathy on Oct 14, 2015 21:05:01 GMT
I don't have a landline and keep my phone on the bedside table at night. It pisses me off to get middle of the night texts. They wake me up and I have a heck of a time going back to sleep. Turning it to DND is not an option as I have an aging mother who may need me at night. If you don't need an immediate response, send me an email instead please! Do you have a. iPhone? You can program it to let certain numbers call you even when you set it to Do Not Disturb. Yes I do have an iPhone but I refuse to program it so that I have to put it on do not disturb when just common courtesy applies.
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Post by scrappert on Oct 14, 2015 21:18:41 GMT
Mine is also on my nightstand. If I received a text, it would wake me. I also have my phone set to remind me I have a text, so if I did not look at the text in the middle of the night, it would continue to go off every 10 minuets until I did.
I would expect a call if it was a true emergency, but you never know. So, I do treat a text like a phone call. I would not text someone in the middle of the night unless I wanted a response back. I would hope the same for who ever is texting me at 3:30.
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Post by melanell on Oct 14, 2015 21:51:07 GMT
So, does your phone work while it's charging? Or does it charge extremely quickly? I'm just wondering because it sounds like many people keep their phones turned on 24/7, which I guess you have to do if it's your only phone.
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Post by SnowWhite on Oct 14, 2015 21:58:41 GMT
So, does your phone work while it's charging? Or does it charge extremely quickly? I'm just wondering because it sounds like many people keep their phones turned on 24/7, which I guess you have to do if it's your only phone. Mine works while it's charging. I keep mine on 24x7 because it is my only phone. I plug it in to charge at night when it's sitting on my nightstand.
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