MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Jan 23, 2019 3:48:16 GMT
My answer: Yes.
Just curious if everyone feels that way?
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Post by mom26 on Jan 23, 2019 3:51:03 GMT
Yes, I do. I often feel like I can't pull the pieces of me together into a whole person.
If that makes sense?
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Post by mom on Jan 23, 2019 3:51:43 GMT
I used to be but I think I am healing. It's taken a long time but I can see progress now.
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Post by sawwhet on Jan 23, 2019 3:54:26 GMT
No. I don't feel broken. I feel strong and resilient.
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 23, 2019 3:55:17 GMT
I've been through a lot in the last few years and felt like I just existed for awhile. I'm still trying to figure out what the rest of my life will be like. Things will never be the same again and I'm still adjusting to a "new normal". But I'm not broken- things will get better.
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Post by cindytred on Jan 23, 2019 3:59:44 GMT
I'm Humpty Dumpty and my pieces are scattered all over the place. I just keep taking it one day at a time.
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hutchfan
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Post by hutchfan on Jan 23, 2019 4:20:54 GMT
Since I lost my mom in January 2015 I don't think my heart will ever feel right again.
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ComplicatedLady
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Jan 23, 2019 4:23:59 GMT
I used to be. I was depressed and lived nap to nap....until bedtime. I moved halfway across the country to try a new career in a new field. Dh hated it there and I was just ok—but I loved my house. Within a year, after a record cold windchill and snowfall, dh and I moved back home to Phoenix and got jobs that fit who we are with room to grow. I’ve been in this job 5 years and I finally feel like I’m where I belong. Out of those choices, I think that I used to be broken but I’m better now is the best fit. I’m proud and happy that I can say that.
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Post by pjaye on Jan 23, 2019 4:29:47 GMT
Some parts of me are...but I don't feel "broken" totally. I've spent a lot of time with my mother over the past 12 months (more than I have since I moved out of home 30 years ago) and as an adult now I can clearly see how and why those bits got broken as I grew up.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 23, 2019 4:33:44 GMT
Since I lost my mom in January 2015 I don't think my heart will ever feel right again. Have you ever heard of the term "complicated grief"? Please google it and see if it fits. 3 years after I lost my mother I was talking about her to a new friend. The friend thought that my mother had just passed away w/in weeks. When I told my new friend that it had been 3 years, I realized that I was holding on the grief and not letting go. Then my bff sent me an article about complicated grief and it really resonated w/me. So, I got some help and soon after that I was able to find joy, once again. You settle into a new normal and eventually you are able to think about your mom and smile.
Your heart will feel right and you will be happy. I wonder if you just need a little bit of professional support to work this through? It's very tough and horrible stuff, but healing is very real. I wish you happiness.
To answer the original question: I feel broken physically, because I am, but emotionally I feel good. I try to be happy as much as I can.
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hutchfan
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Post by hutchfan on Jan 23, 2019 4:37:59 GMT
Since I lost my mom in January 2015 I don't think my heart will ever feel right again. Have you ever heard of the term "complicated grief"? Please google it and see if it fits. 3 years after I lost my mother I was talking about her to a new friend. The friend thought that my mother had just passed away w/in weeks. When I told my new friend that it had been 3 years, I realized that I was holding on the grief and not letting go. Then my bff sent me an article about complicated grief and it really resonated w/me. So, I got some help and soon after that I was able to find joy, once again. You settle into a new normal and eventually you are able to think about your mom and smile.
Your heart will feel right and you will be happy. I wonder if you just need a little bit of professional support to work this through? It's very tough and horrible stuff, but healing is very real. I wish you happiness.
To answer the original question: I feel broken physically, because I am, but emotionally I feel good. I try to be happy as much as I can.
Thank you.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 23, 2019 4:41:52 GMT
Have you ever heard of the term "complicated grief"? Please google it and see if it fits. 3 years after I lost my mother I was talking about her to a new friend. The friend thought that my mother had just passed away w/in weeks. When I told my new friend that it had been 3 years, I realized that I was holding on the grief and not letting go. Then my bff sent me an article about complicated grief and it really resonated w/me. So, I got some help and soon after that I was able to find joy, once again. You settle into a new normal and eventually you are able to think about your mom and smile.
Your heart will feel right and you will be happy. I wonder if you just need a little bit of professional support to work this through? It's very tough and horrible stuff, but healing is very real. I wish you happiness.
To answer the original question: I feel broken physically, because I am, but emotionally I feel good. I try to be happy as much as I can.
Thank you. You are most welcome. My mother was my best friend and I never thought I could survive such a loss, but I did and I'm a very happy person. You will find happiness, too.
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Post by pierkiss on Jan 23, 2019 4:42:36 GMT
Yes
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 23, 2019 4:45:15 GMT
I’m not a well person... I have depressions and anxiety and no self-worth... I feel like a failure constantly, or like I’m failing constantly... I’m alone and lonely... but I don’t think I’m broken. I struggle a lot, but to me broken means something is irreparable, and can’t be fixed and can’t fulfill its role anymore; I may be a mess, but I am not permanently non functioning.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 23, 2019 4:47:32 GMT
Nope, I like myself and I have a lot of fun.
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Post by ToniW on Jan 23, 2019 4:49:52 GMT
Not broken, just cracked. Ever since my thyroid, I've never felt quite the same, so I just try to do my best, or not on some days.
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Post by roundtwo on Jan 23, 2019 4:53:35 GMT
I don't think I was broken - I felt more like the lyrics in P!nk's song Just Give Me a Reason - "... not broken just bent". I'm better now and I truly believe that if I had stayed any longer in my marriage, I really would have been broken.
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Post by anniefb on Jan 23, 2019 4:56:37 GMT
No - although parts of me are definitely getting slightly worn
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Post by FurryP on Jan 23, 2019 5:02:05 GMT
I get a little anxiety now and then, and sometimes sad, but I am not broken.
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Post by Chips on Jan 23, 2019 5:07:14 GMT
Wow, that is a question - but can someone explain or give examples of what broken is or means?
Believe me, I am asking this to understand and no judging.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 23, 2019 5:11:09 GMT
I feel incredibly thankful to feel like I have had a lifetime of feeling like life has been very good to me in spite of having some awful losses at a young age. For me, it made me stronger. I have learned to be thankful for each day and remain positive. I also believe I have a few angels looking out for me. I know it won't always be this way, but for each day that it is. I remain thankful
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Jan 23, 2019 5:20:06 GMT
I guess for me “broken” might be different than what it is for others...
But, just this perception that life has busted me in ways that I’m not sure are reparable. That no matter what I do, I’m never going to respond to things the way a “normal” person would. Like I’m always trying to play catch up to others that just seem to know how to function better than me.
I’m not depressed, I consider myself happy, intelligent and generally capable. I don’t know that this is even a self esteem thing. For me, I guess it’s more of a trauma thing. Something inside me has been broken and I really don’t know that it will ever be... put back together again.
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Post by papersilly on Jan 23, 2019 5:35:41 GMT
Bent but not broken.
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Post by Chips on Jan 23, 2019 5:42:58 GMT
In hindsight I should/could be broken. I have thought about this part of me a lot and sharing it helps me understand my parents more and respect their story more too.
I was the fifth and last child born to my parents, my Mom was very sick (un-diagnosed but had a very aggressive form of multiple sclerosis) and a priest (my Dad's brother) in the family advocated that my parents terminate the pregnancy since my Mom was so sick. My Dad fully believed that he and my Mom would have the family God gave them so they did not terminate the pregnancy. Life growing up for me was un-charted an unsupervised since my parents had so much to deal with.
All of this independence, being unsupervised, and not having boundaries put me at a very young age of having to make adult decisions. My personality was one of wanting to explore the limits and not have boundaries. I was an explorer and boundary pusher.
I got into some trouble but was lucky to get out of it and not go down the wrong path of no return. My parents were great leaders in that respect but their guidance was very subtle.
Have I been broken yes.
Currently I feel good with my life.
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Mystie
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Post by Mystie on Jan 23, 2019 6:05:15 GMT
I'm not broken, but I'm slightly cracked.
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Post by paget on Jan 23, 2019 6:11:27 GMT
I’ve never felt broken or damaged. I’ve had hurts and disappointments; “broken” sounds more related to trauma which I do not feel I have had in my life to this point.
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Post by Elsabelle on Jan 23, 2019 6:51:38 GMT
My childhood damaged me but it didn’t break me. I have a happy, meaningful life with a loving family but some things can’t be forgotten and I’m still learning how to unlearn certain traits. I’m a work in progress. There was a time when I was much less positive than I am now. I had to make a conscious decision to stop reliving the past because it was ruining my present.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparing yourself to others who haven’t suffered the way you have is unfair to you. You’re doing the best you can with the cards life has dealt you.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jan 23, 2019 7:36:22 GMT
More like evaporation than ice. I lost my sister and mother and my mind. I don’t care any longer about anything or anyone.
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Post by stittsygirl on Jan 23, 2019 7:48:03 GMT
I don't think I was broken - I felt more like the lyrics in P!nk's song Just Give Me a Reason - "... not broken just bent". I'm better now and I truly believe that if I had stayed any longer in my marriage, I really would have been broken. I’m at that point. I think I’ll become mean and bitter and broken if I stay in my marriage any longer. We’re still trying to work things out but it’s starting to feel hopeless .
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 23, 2019 8:20:58 GMT
Yep, sure am.
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