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Post by scrapbookwriter on Feb 2, 2019 20:39:51 GMT
elaine sending many prayers to you and your family. If you remember Tara Whitney (one of 2P's Garden Girls), she has a blog post from July 23, 2014. It is well worth reading and it's called "When McKenna Turned 18". ((hugs)) This is brilliant. I would like to share it with a friend in a similar situation as elaine, but I can’t find Part Two. I want to share the resolution, not just the problem. Is Part Two still online, do you think? Lots of hugs to you, elaine ❤️❤️❤️ |
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Post by heartland on Feb 2, 2019 20:54:17 GMT
Sending much love and (((hugs))).
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Post by Zee on Feb 2, 2019 21:12:09 GMT
Hugs Elaine. It must be so very difficult to feel like a failure with your child... know that you are not, you're doing your very best by him.
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Post by Jili on Feb 2, 2019 22:05:43 GMT
Take care, Elaine. Thinking of you and your family and keeping my fingers crossed that this is the reset that you all need.
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Post by cakediva on Feb 2, 2019 22:12:16 GMT
Hugs Elaine. I hope the three months flies by and they are able to regulate his meds so he can come home....
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Post by peanutterbutter on Feb 2, 2019 22:13:37 GMT
Please don't feel guilty, you are still trying your best to give your son a solid foundation for his future. Sometimes you have to expand the members of his village to do that.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Feb 2, 2019 22:30:52 GMT
Elaine, you are not a failure. You’re a trailblazer. You’re an excellent mom and advocate for your kids. Here you are, figuring your family’s way through this part of your son’s life, and offering to share what you’ve learned and found with others, because you know there are more following you down the same path. You’ve openly shared your heartache and struggles. Because of your openness, we can all be aware of a mental health crisis coming our country’s way as autistic kids age and families need more/different support. It takes a strong, successful mom to admit that she needs a new resource to get their child through a rough spot. You’re choosing to do the heartbreaking, difficult thing because you know your DS needs more than just mom and dad at this point in his life. That’s all good mothering. Hang in there. I’ll be thinking of you in the coming days and months.
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Post by Lexica on Feb 2, 2019 22:41:31 GMT
Much love and compassion to you, elaine. I can only try to imagine the multiple feelings you are dealing with during this. Especially when you are dealing with your own health issue. Where are you in your treatment, if you care to share? I think of you every single time I use my IP or grab those tongs you recommended to remove a bowl from the microwave that is too hot to handle.🥰. Each time I do, I send you healing thoughts. I will add thoughts of comfort and calm during the next 3 months. It must be incredibly difficult to have to let go and trust that this facility will care for your boy and that he will be okay with it all. As his mother, no one knows him better than you do and know what helps to comfort him, reassure him, or bring him joy, so having to hand over the reins to someone else must be both a nightmare as well as a blessing. I pray they are able to quickly get his meds adjusted so you can have him back home with you. If they accomplish this sooner, will he still remain the whole 3 months or be able to come home sooner? Although, I imagine it will take time to tweak his dosage and be sure it is exactly right for him. Take time to pamper yourself during this 3 months. You deserve it more than anyone I know. Huge hugs, my friend. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Feb 2, 2019 23:08:19 GMT
I, too, hope that everything goes well and that your son gets the help that he needs. I am sure it has been a very stressful time.
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Post by quinlove on Feb 2, 2019 23:13:46 GMT
Sending lots of hugs and love to you, Elaine. ❤️
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 3, 2019 0:24:26 GMT
Sending you love Elaine, I will be thinking about you on Tuesday and hope that it goes well. I'm sorry you are going through this.
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Post by Sarah*H on Feb 3, 2019 0:31:44 GMT
I hope this is the beginning of a long term improvement for all of you. <3
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 3, 2019 0:34:09 GMT
Hugs, know that it is for the best even though it is so hard.
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Post by paperaddictedpea on Feb 3, 2019 0:55:47 GMT
Thinking of you and your family, Elaine. I hope that this is the first step toward a happier, more peaceful/less stressful life for all of you.
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Post by Nanner on Feb 3, 2019 1:11:13 GMT
Joining in in the big hug to both Elaine and refugeepea. I really hope this helps, Elaine, and I'll be thinking of you, your son and the rest of your family often.
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Post by elaine on Feb 3, 2019 1:12:33 GMT
Eli just put his foot through the wall above our bathtub. He is angry at us because Apple won’t send him pictures of the upcoming iPod Touch. One of his many obsessions that we have no control over.
The name labels I rush ordered for his clothes came in today, so I have the iron heating so that I can label the clothes I am sending with him.
So many tears. Why does G-d give you a child that can’t safely live in your house?
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 3, 2019 1:19:45 GMT
elaine, sometimes there aren't answers for the things that seem insurmountable. What I do know is that you are doing the best thing for Eli, as well as your family. Your heart must be broken into many pieces, but don't give up hope. You are doing the right thing. Putting Eli's care into the hands of people who see Elis all day long is a good thing. Meanwhile, you have a peaboard full of friends, as well as your in person friends and family to hold you up and sit w/you as you wait. (((((HUGS)))).
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Post by MorningPerson on Feb 3, 2019 2:22:54 GMT
Elaine, I pray that you and your family will find many unexpected blessings during these difficult times, and that you will be posting happy updates in the days ahead.
ETA I just read your post a couple above this one. I'm so sorry. Does it kind of confirm that you're doing the right thing getting this intensive help for Eli?
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Post by Zee on Feb 3, 2019 2:27:40 GMT
Eli just put his foot through the wall above our bathtub. He is angry at us because Apple won’t send him pictures of the upcoming iPod Touch. One of his many obsessions that we have no control over. The name labels I rush ordered for his clothes came in today, so I have the iron heating so that I can label the clothes I am sending with him. So many tears. Why does G-d give you a child that can’t safely live in your house? I'm not really a believer and not religious, but I do like the idea of a God that is there to provide comfort and respite from mental pain while not being directly responsible for what happens to us here on Earth. These things happen to us for no real reason so it doesn't seem to help to wonder why God did this...it just is. You've certainly had your share of stress. I hate the saying "God never gives you more than you can handle", so I won't say it. But you have shown such strength. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2019 2:37:33 GMT
Eli just put his foot through the wall above our bathtub. He is angry at us because Apple won’t send him pictures of the upcoming iPod Touch. One of his many obsessions that we have no control over. The name labels I rush ordered for his clothes came in today, so I have the iron heating so that I can label the clothes I am sending with him. So many tears. Why does G-d give you a child that can’t safely live in your house? Hoping for a respite from pain for your son and all your family. Hugs and more hugs. |
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Post by elaine on Feb 3, 2019 2:42:39 GMT
Elaine, I pray that you and your family will find many unexpected blessings during these difficult times, and that you will be posting happy updates in the days ahead. ETA I just read your post a couple above this one. I'm so sorry. Does it kind of confirm that you're doing the right thing getting this intensive help for Eli? We know in our heart of heart it is the right thing. That is minor compared to some of what has happened this past year. We have had to call 911 and had the police come to us several times over the past year when he is out of control. Once was over the summer at a Bath-and Body Works store because they didn’t have the Christmas scents in yet in August that he wanted (BBW another of his obsessions). I was in the midst of chemo and weak and he threw me into a brick wall. The police had to come and my husband leave work to get him home and then we still ended up in the ER with him that night. They still sent him home because no one has any room for mentally ill teens. Especially those with an IQ of 50 (intellectually disabled). Even though we know it is the right thing, it is still so hard. My Dh and I mean the world to him. He will feel beyond betrayed and hurt. And due to being intellectually disabled, he really won’t understand all of the why this is happening to him. |
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Post by kikitwo on Feb 3, 2019 2:53:21 GMT
My heart goes out to all of you dealing with this issue. Prayers will be said for you.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Feb 3, 2019 3:17:39 GMT
So much love and so many hugs coming your way, Elaine. I'm honestly sitting on the agnostic bench these days, but for you, your DS, and your family, I will pray the end of these 3 months brings you a miracle, or at least real renewed hope for the future.  |
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Post by DEX on Feb 3, 2019 3:34:41 GMT
I can not even fathom the pain you and your family are in. My wish for all of you is for peace.
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Post by Sue on Feb 3, 2019 3:43:08 GMT
I'm so sorry for what you're going through, elaine. Wishing you the best and praying that Eli's Drs. will be able to find the most helpful medications for him during the next three months. I hope you'll be able to take this time to allow yourself to heal from the trauma you've suffered this past year. Peace and God's love to you. |
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Post by inkedup on Feb 3, 2019 3:46:16 GMT
Elaine, I pray that you and your family will find many unexpected blessings during these difficult times, and that you will be posting happy updates in the days ahead. ETA I just read your post a couple above this one. I'm so sorry. Does it kind of confirm that you're doing the right thing getting this intensive help for Eli? We know in our heart of heart it is the right thing. That is minor compared to some of what has happened this past year. We have had to call 911 and had the police come to us several times over the past year when he is out of control. Once was over the summer at a Bath-and Body Works store because they didn’t have the Christmas scents in yet in August that he wanted (BBW another of his obsessions). I was in the midst of chemo and weak and he threw me into a brick wall. The police had to come and my husband leave work to get him home and then we still ended up in the ER with him that night. They still sent him home because no one has any room for mentally ill teens. Especially those with an IQ of 50 (intellectually disabled). Even though we know it is the right thing, it is still so hard. My Dh and I mean the world to him. He will feel beyond betrayed and hurt. And due to being intellectually disabled, he really won’t understand all of the why this is happening to him. There is no winning here, only survival. My love to you, your husband and your boys. How is your other son handling all of this? |
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Post by brandy327 on Feb 4, 2019 15:03:46 GMT
Oh Elaine. My heart just hurts for you and your family. Thinking of all of you during this...
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Post by MadamG2U on Feb 4, 2019 15:11:41 GMT
Sending positive thoughts
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Post by luckyexwife on Feb 4, 2019 15:14:38 GMT
Oh, Elaine. Thinking of you and your family. Please be gentle with yourself tomorrow. (((HUGS)))
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Post by thundergal on Feb 4, 2019 15:17:33 GMT
Love and hugs to you elaine. Sending you my very best as you move in to this week. |
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