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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 0:30:03 GMT
I don't know if I've ever vented about a friend here, but today's the day. PLEASE feel free to add yours.
One of my closest friends live about a half hour away, in an area of town you don't "drive through on your way elsewhere." It's off by itself (West Seattle for locals). We see each other frequently. Sometimes twice a week, sometimes every couple of weeks.
Anyhow, we spent the afternoon together at her place on Tuesday then had dinner together at a restaurant a (short) block away from her place. Today I realized that I left my CC at the restaurant, called and confirmed it was there and left my friend's name as the one who would pick it up. I then texted and asked (I promise I asked nicely, did not assume anything) her if she'd be willing to run by there in the next few days (didn't give a time limit) and pick it up for me. To my surprise she said no, that's she's "too busy." Single woman who works exclusively from her home about 25-30 hours a week. And we're good friends, I know her social schedule. She's not too busy, she simply doesn't want to.
I'm not going to press her, but I am annoyed. It'll certainly give me pause next time I want to do something nice for her. I apologized for asking, confirmed that were getting together with mutual friends on Saturday to go antiquing, and called it good. Meanwhile, I'm kinda/sorta blown away. I'll drive out there tomorrow and pick it up, but there's an hour wasted, KWIM?
Next?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2019 0:37:34 GMT
Wait, she wouldn't walk one block to help you pick up your credit card that you left behind? Not only would I have done it, I would have mailed it to you via priority mail in case you needed it right away.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 12, 2019 0:39:07 GMT
Sorry.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 0:40:08 GMT
Yup. I can't even.....
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paget
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Post by paget on Apr 12, 2019 0:45:09 GMT
Whoa. That is really strange! I don’t think I could help but let that color my feelings about her. Sorry.
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Post by roundtwo on Apr 12, 2019 0:45:43 GMT
I've gone further for people who are not close friends - very strange indeed!
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Apr 12, 2019 0:47:24 GMT
Wow. I would've done it no questions asked. Probably right then so you would know it was in safe-keeping.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2019 0:50:27 GMT
I'm sorry. Maybe she was just having a bad day or something is going on with her personally that she hasn't shared. At this point, I'd cancel my card and just have your credit card replaced.
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Post by Skellinton on Apr 12, 2019 0:51:14 GMT
Dang, that stinks. I would totally pick it up for anyone I knew who asked.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Apr 12, 2019 0:55:06 GMT
Do you think maybe she didn’t want to do it because if something fraudulent pops up on this card that’s hanging around in a random place she won’t get blamed? I just find it really weird she won’t do this for you.
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Post by mom on Apr 12, 2019 0:55:07 GMT
Whoa. I'd help just about anyone out when it comes to getting their card back. I know what a pain it is to cancel it or worry its in the wrong hands.
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Post by scrappington on Apr 12, 2019 1:00:17 GMT
I've gotten out of bed and drove across the road because my boss left her phone at the restaurant that is across street from me. She lives a half HR away And I drove cause it's a 5 lane road and it was 10:30 at night. They were closing
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Post by trollie on Apr 12, 2019 1:01:34 GMT
Very strange. I would do that for anyone I knew including someone I barely knew.
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Post by anaterra on Apr 12, 2019 1:09:44 GMT
That sucks... I dont know how I could not pop off when I see her next...
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 12, 2019 1:23:52 GMT
That is weird. Maybe she thought she had to do it right that second?
I'd do that for most people I know Hell, I've had peas who only know me here go further out of their way for me
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Post by pilcas on Apr 12, 2019 1:23:59 GMT
I really don’t know if I could ever see her in the same light ever again. A stranger once showed up on my door step to return my wallet.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 12, 2019 1:27:08 GMT
I can't imagine a friend such as you describe declining to assist you with something like this. It would definitely affect my friendship, I'm afraid.
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Post by lisae on Apr 12, 2019 1:28:25 GMT
I can't see why she would not do that for you. All she has to do is pick it up and bring it to you on Saturday. I would cancel the card since it has been out of your possession for so long and ask the company to send you a new one.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 12, 2019 1:30:20 GMT
Wow, that is really surprising. I wouldn't be happy about it, but if she is a great friend, well, great friends are hard to find. I would definitely remember this the next time she asked me to do something for her though.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 12, 2019 1:33:21 GMT
I’m sorry, that would annoy me too. And hurt my feelings.
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Post by sunnyd on Apr 12, 2019 1:33:41 GMT
That's so weird and unfortunately, my sister is similar so I understand how shocking it is. We live in different states and I pick stuff up all the time for her and mail it to her. She put out an all points bulletin for a very specific $5 shirt from Walmart that she needed for a Halloween costume last year. I went to two different WM's, bought it in 2 different sizes to make sure she had exactly what she needed and mailed it to her. I love doing stuff like that for anyone, especially my sister. Later I needed a certain lipstick from Walmart that they discontinued. I confirmed that it was still available at her Walmart, 2 miles from her house & asked her to pick it up for me next time she's there. We were going to be seeing each other at Christmas & I could have just gotten it from her then. She replied sorry, she doesn't shop at Walmart. Guess what? NEITHER DO I but I tracked down your damn Halloween costume because you asked me to and it makes me happy to make you happy. After several experiences like that, I've stepped back and it makes me sad.
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Post by kelly8875 on Apr 12, 2019 1:34:28 GMT
Wow, really? Maybe she thought you meant to do it right now, and she was busy then? I’d have to tell myself that was what happened.
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Post by trollie on Apr 12, 2019 1:38:13 GMT
I really don’t know if I could ever see her in the same light ever again. A stranger once showed up on my door step to return my wallet. That reminded me that I had a stranger once call my home (looked me up in the phone book) to tell me they found my debit card. I had left it at the gas pump. This was about 25 years ago. Long before everyone had cell phones. I drove to their house to pick it up.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 12, 2019 1:41:30 GMT
I've reread your OP a couple of times because I feel like I must have missed something. I'd have walked over, grabbed the card and sent a text "have it - see you Sat" within minutes if you'd texted while the restaurant was open.
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Post by trollie on Apr 12, 2019 1:44:28 GMT
You are going to have to update us after you see her on Saturday! Someone put a reminder on their spreadsheet!
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 12, 2019 1:53:48 GMT
I really don’t know if I could ever see her in the same light ever again. A stranger once showed up on my door step to return my wallet. That reminded me that I had a stranger once call my home (looked me up in the phone book) to tell me they found my debit card. I had left it at the gas pump. This was about 25 years ago. Long before everyone had cell phones. I drove to their house to pick it up. I had a similar thing happen. I dropped my Visa at the gas pump and realized when I was at Trader Joe's unloading my cart that the card was missing. I couldn't get back to the gas station fast enough. The attendant told me someone had reported a person picking it up so I headed home to cancel the card. Thankfully, I listened to a voice mail first and it was the woman who picked it up. She didn't feel comfortable leaving it with the employees and decided to try look me up first. She was heading out to walk her dog so we met at the park.
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 12, 2019 1:58:46 GMT
Very strange. I would do that for anyone I knew including someone I barely knew. Me too. How odd.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 12, 2019 2:10:17 GMT
First off, one of my closest friends would never say no and if they did, I would automatically say why not. That's really crappy of your friend.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 12, 2019 2:13:19 GMT
Why won’t you say more to her about it? I would. She sounds very selfish.
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Post by gritzi on Apr 12, 2019 2:18:09 GMT
I'm not sure I would categorize her as a "great friend". If the OP needed a loaf a bread that errand could possibly wait until the next day. A left behind credit card is something one doesn't want to lose or wait days to recover. Unless the friend was in bed with the stomach virus or flu I can't think of a legitimate reason why she could not help out the OP.
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