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Post by onelasttime on Aug 5, 2021 13:27:15 GMT
And quite frankly, it’s not up to any of us to decide who gets to post on this public board. All this does is smack of “mean girl” and/or bullying IMO. I don't think anyone is trying to dictate who posts here are they? Just suggesting a different response to someone who only interacts here on certain threads, in a certain way, which yes, is their right. And imho, posting about tacos is more like lighthearted distraction techniques than mean girl bullying. When one calls a person a “troll” on this thread and another one flat out tells the person to go away because no one wants them here is, IMO, mean girl /bullying crap. You may disagree with this but in my world that is exactly what it is.
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Post by onelasttime on Aug 5, 2021 14:08:22 GMT
Several folks posted on this thread with the intention of shutting it down with silly childish posts. In one post the person in question was called a troll. And in another post there was a comment made of wanting the person in question to fade away.
I have a question for these individuals. Why did you feel the need to come on this thread with the intent of shutting it down because I guess you didn’t like the exchanges instead of just ignoring the exchanges and the thread?
There are threads on this board that I think after reading a couple of posts “what the hell” but rather then “policing “ it with childish posts I back out of the thread and ignore it. It’s that simple.
I mean if it was really mean nasty disgusting over the line stuff I might and have made a comment but otherwise it’s whatever floats your boat.
So why the need to police the threads/posts YOU don’t like? Why not just ignore them?
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Post by gar on Aug 5, 2021 14:16:35 GMT
Because as elaine said, they could be informative and interesting discussions if one person wasn’t continuously derailing them. Once that happens and one or two others play her game then real discussion is lost imo.
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Post by gar on Aug 5, 2021 14:18:15 GMT
I don't think anyone is trying to dictate who posts here are they? Just suggesting a different response to someone who only interacts here on certain threads, in a certain way, which yes, is their right. And imho, posting about tacos is more like lighthearted distraction techniques than mean girl bullying. When one calls a person a “troll” on this thread and another one flat out tells the person to go away because no one wants them here is, IMO, mean girl /bullying crap. You may disagree with this but in my world that is exactly what it is. I would probably normally agree with you but this just seems to be a game quite honestly.
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Post by onelasttime on Aug 5, 2021 14:52:58 GMT
When one calls a person a “troll” on this thread and another one flat out tells the person to go away because no one wants them here is, IMO, mean girl /bullying crap. You may disagree with this but in my world that is exactly what it is. I would probably normally agree with you but this just seems to be a game quite honestly. Do you know for sure it’s all a big game? No you don’t, none of us know. So how would you feel if I told you to leave the board because no one wants you here? And kept calling you a troll based on an assumption?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2021 15:07:48 GMT
I would probably normally agree with you but this just seems to be a game quite honestly. And kept calling you a troll based on an assumption? There's no assumption about it. Gia has a history of doing exactly what a troll does - a person who intentionally tries to instigate conflict, hostility, or arguments in an online social community. I see she's succeeded, don't you?
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 5, 2021 15:21:29 GMT
I understand that, and have a really hard time with lies and twisting of statements as well. If the goal is to give accurate information for others rather than trying to change her mind, perhaps people should change their tactic and post as if they are giving the information to those people. The posts usually get pretty nasty and that isn’t really pleasant for anyone to read. If I’m ignoring those posts, I would guess that people who don’t follow politics enough to know what the truth is are also doing the same. Toning down the nastiness would do everyone good. Yes. And when any of these threads degenerates into back and forth with Gia/pixiechick, it really becomes little different than posts about jello or 🌮, and certainly a great deal more personal and nasty. The topics usually have little to do with the original post, and what is presented on one side bears as much connection to reality and the OP as jello and 🌮. It becomes increasingly frustrating- as someone who enjoys the political discussions - that they become sidetracked in this unpleasant back-and-forth that becomes increasingly personal and attacking as the “discussion” goes on. It ruins political threads as much as food discussions, yet is much less entertaining and much more “mean girl.” The excuse/justification is that “real” information is put out there, yet once these discussions/arguments start, I can guarantee that very few people beyond the participants are actually reading them for information. Our eyes all glaze over and we mutter an internal “here we go again.” The participants don’t appear to realize that every time the political threads degenerate into these arguments that pixiechick “wins.” The original discussion is abandoned for whatever rabbit hole she leads you down. You give her the power to steer the conversation. She, and those who follow and believe the right wing lies, will never be swayed by what they see as the liberal spin, and there is much satisfaction over having the power to derail many political discussions. And all the people who supposedly will believe the “truth” have stopped reading in detail, they just skim hoping that the fight will end. If the few posters want to engage in that back-and-forth with pixie, I won’t try to stop them. It is a public message board and people can post what they want. But I also don’t think that their behavior is really subjectively different from diverting the thread to talking about food or David Hasselhoff, except that the political discussions become more personally attacking. 💕💕
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Post by onelasttime on Aug 5, 2021 16:12:58 GMT
And kept calling you a troll based on an assumption? There's no assumption about it. Gia has a history of doing exactly what a troll does - a person who intentionally tries to instigate conflict, hostility, or arguments in an online social community. I see she's succeeded, don't you? Unless you know for an absolute fact that pixiechick is Gia YOU are making assumptions. The only way you would absolutely know if pixiechick is Gia is if you personally knew them/her. Or she admitted she was Gia. Do you or has she? As to pixiechick being a troll. Is she or is she just voicing her opinion? For a troll she sure is spending a lot of time & energy trying to make her point. My take is she believes what she is saying and wants to be right in her observation/beliefs. I don’t know if pixiechick is Gia and I don’t know for sure if she believes the stuff she posts. But until I have facts before me that 1) it’s Gia and 2) she is indeed a troll pulling all our legs, I’m keeping an open mind and will engage with or not engage with her as I see fit. Just like I do with everyone else on this board. Nor will I go on a thread that I think is stupid and post childish posts to try and disrupt it or end it. I will simply ignore the thread. By the way Gia did, IMO, believe what she posted and what was important to her was making a valid point. In one exchange with Gia I told her that I didn’t agree with her opinion and she fired back that I should at least agree that she made a valid point. One last thought. I think one has to ask themselves is what pixiechick posting on this board any different then what a trump supporter believes? If it’s not, what does that make trump supporters? A bunch of trolls?
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Post by dewryce on Aug 5, 2021 16:51:57 GMT
Several folks posted on this thread with the intention of shutting it down with silly childish posts. In one post the person in question was called a troll. And in another post there was a comment made of wanting the person in question to fade away. I have a question for these individuals. Why did you feel the need to come on this thread with the intent of shutting it down because I guess you didn’t like the exchanges instead of just ignoring the exchanges and the thread? There are threads on this board that I think after reading a couple of posts “what the hell” but rather then “policing “ it with childish posts I back out of the thread and ignore it. It’s that simple. I mean if it was really mean nasty disgusting over the line stuff I might and have made a comment but otherwise it’s whatever floats your boat. So why the need to police the threads/posts YOU don’t like? Why not just ignore them?Can’t you see that’s what you’re doing? With good intention, to be sure. But still policing threads.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 5, 2021 17:26:26 GMT
I always try to figure out intent. What is the intent of the OP and what is the intent of responders? There are some who like to discuss, there are some who seek to educate, but there are a handful here who I would guess their intent is simply to argue.
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Post by elaine on Aug 5, 2021 19:09:44 GMT
Several folks posted on this thread with the intention of shutting it down with silly childish posts. In one post the person in question was called a troll. And in another post there was a comment made of wanting the person in question to fade away. I have a question for these individuals. Why did you feel the need to come on this thread with the intent of shutting it down because I guess you didn’t like the exchanges instead of just ignoring the exchanges and the thread? There are threads on this board that I think after reading a couple of posts “what the hell” but rather then “policing “ it with childish posts I back out of the thread and ignore it. It’s that simple. I mean if it was really mean nasty disgusting over the line stuff I might and have made a comment but otherwise it’s whatever floats your boat. So why the need to police the threads/posts YOU don’t like? Why not just ignore them?Can’t you see that’s what you’re doing? With good intention, to be sure. But still policing threads. Amen.
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Post by Merge on Aug 5, 2021 19:39:15 GMT
Speaking as the OP of this thread, I’m curious if anyone was able to read the article or has any sociological insights to share related to it.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 5, 2021 19:49:20 GMT
Speaking as the OP of this thread, I’m curious if anyone was able to read the article or has any sociological insights to share related to it. I definitely know people who have been conned. I also know people who have been vaccinated but would never admit it. Being vaccinated around here is a sign of being a sheep and socialist and stupid, but like I said I know people who have. I think that is because they cam hide it and it directly effects them. I want more people vaccinated, but I don't see many giving up on the con that they believed. I want more people vaccinated, but it will be a hard pill to swallow if DeSantis becomes the savior because he first downplayed and now endorses the vaccine. Maybe once the FDA fully approves the shot, it will give those who have spouted off and believed the con the out they need to get off their ass.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 5, 2021 19:57:54 GMT
Speaking as the OP of this thread, I’m curious if anyone was able to read the article or has any sociological insights to share related to it. I loved the article so much I shared to facebook the other day. I think both sides accuse the other of group think, but I think that the anti-vax crowd seems to share some very important psychological aspects. And I think that religious conformity shapes the way they think about other things too. I am a spiritual person who is often irritated by the anti-religious posts on this board. However, I do think there is a very serious element of group think amongst evangelical denominations. And they are likely to be on the anti-vax side. Just as I think they would try to hide behavior that goes against their religion, I think they would also be susceptible to hiding vaccine status if they thought it was against the group they belong to.
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Post by elaine on Aug 5, 2021 20:01:43 GMT
Speaking as the OP of this thread, I’m curious if anyone was able to read the article or has any sociological insights to share related to it. I agree that refusal to take the vaccine, for the most part, IS a societal - not individual- issue. The right has made a whole number of responses to the pandemic and lessening the spread of the virus political ones. It started with Trump and his followers now have bought in hook, line, and sinker and wouldn’t change their minds even if he were to come out advocate for it. Not wearing a mask and not getting the vaccine has become a badge of honor, of one way of sticking it the libs, and now that they have committed to that path, nothing - absolutely nothing - will change their direction save getting deathly ill themselves. And even then, their belated pleas for others to get vaccinated will fall on deaf ears. For a whole segment of the population that longs for the “good ‘ol days” it is mind-boggling. None of them would submit to the smallpox vaccine or allow their children to be vaccinated with a shot that left a lifelong scar - we would still have smallpox if it happened today. Sacrificing for the good of society/community is not as important as saying “f you” to what they see as the liberal left - currently, the way to do that is to refuse to wear a mask and/or get vaccinated. It also allows them to work in anti-semitism and racism (just heard the latest conspiracy theory diatribe that the Democrats are bringing up variant-infected immigrants from the border and seeding them throughout the rest of the USA) and feel justified somehow. And, of course, if for some reason you decide that your life is more important that sticking to the libs, you have to get vaccinated in private. Your political face/cred is more important than helping to save lives.
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 5, 2021 20:04:45 GMT
Speaking as the OP of this thread, I’m curious if anyone was able to read the article or has any sociological insights to share related to it. It made sense to me. They are frequently being told that Covid is no big deal They feel pressure to refuse the vaccine because they don’t want to be sheep. And then they want freedom to live their lives. Well, don’t we all want that?
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Post by Montannie on Aug 5, 2021 20:16:39 GMT
There's a reason the old saying is an old saying: He'd cut off his nose to spite his face.
Rather than admit being mislead, people would choose to ignore the vaccine.
Saving face, rather than saving their life.
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Post by inkedup on Aug 5, 2021 20:32:37 GMT
Ladies, I don’t want to step on any toes here, but I don’t understand why you are trying to reason with Gia. You know by now that she is unreasonable. I do understand the desire to push back because she is so obnoxious and so wrong, I was very tempted to join the fray after her willfully ignorant statements about Dr. Fauci. But please spare yourself the stress of trying to enlighten someone who is not just drinking the trump humper Kool-Aid, but is probably being infused via an IV! She lives for this kind of back and forth, she knows which buttons to push, you are giving her exactly what she wants. I agree. I usually just try to scroll by any of the back and forth because it is pointless. I think I've finally learned that all the arguing in the world won't open anyone's closed mind.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Aug 5, 2021 20:37:06 GMT
They are frequently being told that Covid is no big deal They feel pressure to refuse the vaccine because they don’t want to be sheep. and yet, by glomming on to the "no, I won't do it, no matter WHAT" thing with no thought behind it whatsoever, they ARE being sheep. Just in a different pasture, but still SHEEP. But they can't see that, either-- "oh, no, I'm being an INDIVIDUAL!" lol. Okay; whatever.
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 5, 2021 20:42:54 GMT
They are frequently being told that Covid is no big deal They feel pressure to refuse the vaccine because they don’t want to be sheep. and yet, by glomming on to the "no, I won't do it, no matter WHAT" thing with no thought behind it whatsoever, they ARE being sheep. Just in a different pasture, but still SHEEP. But they can't see that, either-- "oh, no, I'm being an INDIVIDUAL!" lol. Okay; whatever. It’s a paradox all right. What I have trouble understanding is the complete and utter selfishness of doing whatever the hell you want and refusing to take sensible precautions during a pandemic.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2021 20:59:08 GMT
There's A LOT of fixed mindset going on on this board - on both sides.
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Post by Merge on Aug 5, 2021 21:08:38 GMT
There's A LOT of fixed mindset going on on this board - on both sides. Please do give examples.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2021 21:22:26 GMT
Oooooooh, both sides! We've never heard that before!! How interesting. (everything happens on "both sides" - the key is HOW MUCH on EACH SIDE)
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Post by gar on Aug 5, 2021 21:40:51 GMT
Do you know for sure it’s all a big game? No, that's why I said probably but a long history makes it a distinct possibility in my opinion, whatever you choose to think. Over and out.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 5, 2021 21:51:02 GMT
Do you know for sure it’s all a big game? No, that's why I said probably but a long history makes it a distinct possibility in my opinion, whatever you choose to think. Over and out. I agree. At some point history leads to educated guesses. Otherwise, we could use the ‘do you know for sure’ logic for everything.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2021 22:59:34 GMT
There's A LOT of fixed mindset going on on this board - on both sides. Please do give examples. Merge - there's not enough lifetimes to go around to show all the examples and you know that (I say this nicely with a wink ). Having to ask for examples IS an example of a fixed mindset (see text "focus on proving yourself). Living in a house divided on vaccines to the point where my husband and I are not talking to each other because of his tone of telling everyone what we are seeing and thinking due to his perceived notion that we can’t think or see for ourselves...I'm living the split-fence of politics of this pandemic every minute of every day. Even though it may come across as me being on the other side I am really trying to show empathy and compassion to the other side. I will say trying to work to keep a roof our our heads and food on the table, keep my health up, my wits intact and keep DH alive - it's f*@#ing exhausting.
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Post by pixiechick on Aug 6, 2021 1:39:41 GMT
Several folks posted on this thread with the intention of shutting it down with silly childish posts. In one post the person in question was called a troll. And in another post there was a comment made of wanting the person in question to fade away. I have a question for these individuals. Why did you feel the need to come on this thread with the intent of shutting it down because I guess you didn’t like the exchanges instead of just ignoring the exchanges and the thread? There are threads on this board that I think after reading a couple of posts “what the hell” but rather then “policing “ it with childish posts I back out of the thread and ignore it. It’s that simple. I mean if it was really mean nasty disgusting over the line stuff I might and have made a comment but otherwise it’s whatever floats your boat. So why the need to police the threads/posts YOU don’t like? Why not just ignore them? Freddie, I do so appreciate your reasoned responses here. You don't necessarily agree with me, but you're being quite reasonable and rational and I thank you for that. I've had several ideas of how to respond, at several different points after I was accused of being a troll and being mentally ill. Ideas ranging from indignant and defensive to asking for input. Eventually I just backed off and let the conversation happen and "listened". I'm not "a troll". I'm not "mentally ill". I'm a nice person, I'm not "willfully ignorant" and I don't "live for this stuff". I acknowledge I'm not always right. There are times when I DO get it wrong, but I do have opinions and some knowledge of what's happening currently just like everyone else here. I don't name call, I don't bully, and I don't harass. What I do is state my opinion or occasionally correct misinformation... IMO, it is NEVER about changing the brainwashed mind of the person posting lies/half-truths. It is ALWAYS about correcting the lies and half-truths for the bystanders who can learn and spread the truth in their spheres of influence. What it looks like from my side of the keyboard is that you only want to correct information that benefits Democrats. Information that shows when Democrats got it wrong is met with it doesn't matter because... ...well the list of excuses is long and ever changing, but that's an entire conversation all on it's own. Most of the time statements from Conservatives that disagree with the majority here are not allowed to stand and we're left with two choices... back up for your statement and get smeared for doing so even when you're respectful, or back down and let one narrative or even misinformation reign. Neither ends up being very productive for honest discussion. We're too often given a pretty clear message that you're free to say what you want, but you are wrong and when we tell you so, you need to sit down, shut up and accept that "we" have spoken the final word on it or we'll smear you. That tends to lead to either refusing to back down when you know you are right or people just not participating if they don't hold the majority opinion. Clear evidence for both of those. I tend to back off for a little while after so much and usually when I come back I always think I'll take the stance that I'm talking to my favorite and beloved Aunt. That I would never, ever speak to her with any negativity. Then with the hostility and overbearing nature of disagreement with Conservatives, that doesn't tend to stick very long. Perhaps now that I've said it "out loud", I'll be able to stick more to that idea. If you got to know me, you might like me. There are times I've had my mind changed here, having spent so much time here with a group of women all so different and from so many different places, that I've come to realize we are ALL more alike than we are different. I've come to a place where I approach my intake of what I hear from the media with an ear from all the women here. Knowing what you all would say. You should hear me yell at my TV or podcast when I know the people I'm listening to have left something crucial out in order to make their point. Yes, I do watch Fox, but not exclusively. I've caught Don Lemon and Chris Cuomo doing the same damn thing as I've caught people on Fox doing. (no, I don't watch Hannity) Neither "side" is doing what's best for the country. Those in the media are dividing the country just as much as any politician does. I never thought Trump would win. When he did, I didn't participate here at all for a few months. I figured nothing any of us on the Right had to offer was wanted here nor would it help anything. If I was a troll, I suppose I'd have been here gloating and rubbing it in your face. That's not me. At all. I've had many people respond very well to the way I say what I say here even though they disagree with me. That gets harder and harder for anyone to WANT to do the more I'm smeared simply because I didn't agree with you and backed up my statement. Sometimes even when I do agree with you some of you keep going with the smears. People tend to start believing that hype even though it doesn't hold water when you really examine it, because who has the time or desire to do that. So I hope you all take all of this in the spirit it's intended and we can have honest, productive, conversations. One of the things said to me when I responded was "We always appreciate having conservatives stop by with evidence, not anger. I mean that sincerely." I'll try to keep that in mind when I respond and do my best to hold my own self accountable in my responses. Because I'm not a troll.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2021 2:10:40 GMT
What it looks like from my side of the keyboard is that you only want to correct information that benefits Democrats. Information that shows when Democrats got it wrong is met with it doesn't matter because... Not by me. Check my posting history. I call out Dems all the time when they f' up. Strawman argument.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2021 3:45:20 GMT
Straight out, Eric Metaxas says, Don't get the vax to be a rebel.
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