wellway
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Post by wellway on Jul 29, 2022 17:35:04 GMT
If you haven't installed cameras with sound, now might be the time.
I guess she was mad her kids jumped the fence into your property because it weakens her threat of having your child charged with trespass. Seriously, can a five year old be so charged?
Document, document, document with times and dates, who was present etc.
Then ignore them. I can see no up side for you.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 29, 2022 17:36:52 GMT
Wow, this sounds like the beginning of an episode of "Fear Thy Neighbor". That woman truly sounds like she has issues. How attached are you to your house? I would seriously be considering selling and moving if I were in your shoes. Life it too short to be stressed out every time you are home.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 29, 2022 17:40:41 GMT
We used to have neighbors/friends who had a son that had adhd. He was about 5 when they moved last year. He would come and knock on the door but also push the door as if to just barge right in. He had a lot of energy, poor boundaries, and was just “a lot.” I’m not sure if that is the same issue with OP or not (it doesn’t really seem like they have had enough contact with the neighbors for it to be that annoying?) but either way, the neighbors aren’t handling the situation well. It is not the responsibility of the neighbor to make sure that this child is entertained. The parents of this child need to supervise better. Trust me, as a person who had annoying child neighbors, more than once is often enough to realize that there will be a pattern. Your DS is 5. He needs to be directly taught socialization skills and what is appropriate and not. At this age, children need to be supervised while they are playing. My mother always said that 3 children playing together is a bad combination. They always have squabbles. They need adults there to teach them to solve issues and to make sure everyone is included. Your son isn’t bad, he just needs to be taught the skills. YES -- the mom thinks that their child is cute and really doesn't think that he teaching of social skills. Who said the neighbor has to entertain him all of the time? It seems to me that the neighbors are being unreasonably rude to the OP and her family. They were hoping the kids could be friends (and are also open to the other kids coming to their home). That isn’t an unreasonable hope when you live so close to other kids.
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quiltz
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Post by quiltz on Jul 29, 2022 17:50:51 GMT
That isn’t an unreasonable hope when you live so close to other kids. Sometimes it is an unreasonable hope. We had an inground pool and the neighbor kids would stare at us when we were using the pool. Their house was a tri-level, so their deck overlooked a 6 ft. fence. I am allowed to enjoy my backyard without having being stared at or have people make comments on what I am doing. The kids were brats and their parents thought that they should have usage of our backyard, when they had the same sized backyard. Nope, not gonna happen at all. I didn't want my kids to pick up on their language and bad habits. Hope is eternal. Plus, we were there first in a new-build cul-de-sac.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Jul 29, 2022 17:50:59 GMT
They will be leaving the fence up as-is. They don't want to build a proper fence. It is their side and if they want to "decorate" it however they want it is their business. If we complain to HOA or whatever, they will make sure to never let their boys play with ours again, and "we will regret ever reporting them". They said they would press juvenile charges for trespassing against our kiddo. We are requested that when they are in the backyard, they have complete privacy. However, if the kids are all in the front, they are ok with them playing together. If we are in front, we are to be pleasant and nice to them. They didn't like that we were keeping to ourselves and ignoring them (the adults - we wouldn't ignore the kiddos). Who the hell made them your commander? If I didn't want to interact with someone, I wouldn't. I'm sorry for all the children, but I would go about my life completely ignoring them. And I'd report them to the HOA for the fence, along with the threats they've made against you.
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Post by sunnyd on Jul 29, 2022 18:01:10 GMT
I wonder why the previous owners of your home moved...hmmmm?!! Does the HOA allow 6' privacy fences?
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Post by tentoes on Jul 29, 2022 18:04:07 GMT
Wow, that is quite a thing. I hope things turn around!! We kind of have a "situation" in our neighborhood too. There is a little boy next door sometimes. His parents own the property, but they "live" in another area because of work. They come here on the weekends sometimes. Anyhow, when they first "moved in" the little boy would come over and play with my grandchildren. They had a great time together. He'd eat with us, and we really enjoyed him for several months. They there was a raid at their house--apparently, they were growing marijuana in the "sauna" barn. We had no idea except for the stink. Anyhow the parents thought it was my son that "turned them in" and it wasn't-we didn't even know what they were doing. Since then, they haven't let their kid play with the kids here. We miss him. He was a nice little boy (about 9 years old).
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jul 29, 2022 18:06:31 GMT
They will be leaving the fence up as-is. They don't want to build a proper fence. It is their side and if they want to "decorate" it however they want it is their business. If we complain to HOA or whatever, they will make sure to never let their boys play with ours again, and "we will regret ever reporting them". They said they would press juvenile charges for trespassing against our kiddo. We are requested that when they are in the backyard, they have complete privacy. However, if the kids are all in the front, they are ok with them playing together. If we are in front, we are to be pleasant and nice to them. They didn't like that we were keeping to ourselves and ignoring them (the adults - we wouldn't ignore the kiddos). Who the hell made them your commander? If I didn't want to interact with someone, I wouldn't. I'm sorry for all the children, but I would go about my life completely ignoring them. And I'd report them to the HOA for the fence, along with the threats they've made against you. Exactly. So if they are in the backyard, you aren't allowed to interact with them at all but in the front yard, you are supposed to act all friendly? um, ok fine. Then the same goes both ways. To be honest, they have too many rules and make it too hard! screw that, life is too short. I would also report to the HOA - fuck that. Just to make sure the HOA knows you didn't do one damn thing to the fence.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 29, 2022 18:07:58 GMT
As they're discussing trespassing charges, is your son continuing to go into their yard? I know you said he denied it, but I would first make sure that he's not continuing that behavior, it certainly sounds like the neighbors believe he is hence the ugly fence. Personally I would put up a 6' privacy fence to block any of their "improvements" and accept these are not going to be your son's friends.
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Post by Zee on Jul 29, 2022 18:47:23 GMT
I would let the tarp go for now but I'd be installing a Ring floodlight camera in the front and back yard. I'm not sure what your five year old is up to, the fact that you have so many professionals involved tells me he might be beyond typical 5yo behaviors. Or he may just be doing completely normal things that I wouldn't even think twice about. But I'd want all interactions with these neighbors to be on camera.
And I would not take kindly to being told how I'm going to interact with them in the front vs back yard. They would be dead to me.
As for the five year old catching a trespassing charge, lololol ok then. But if he's still climbing the fence, he does need to know that's against the rules. Another reason for a camera.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 29, 2022 18:57:24 GMT
Call her bluff and contact HOA. No police officer is going to file trespassing charges on a 5 year old. She’s bat 💩crazy. She has no right to demand complete privacy when she’s in her own backyard. Go about your own way and turn her into the HOA. I’d be tempted to put up a bigger fence so you don’t have to see your kids or her.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 29, 2022 19:09:39 GMT
I think you know why previous owners moved. The wife sounds a bit unhinged.
Bet if you told her your family required complete privacy if you went into your backyard, she would protest that.
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twinsmomfla99
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Jul 29, 2022 19:20:11 GMT
Just a real quick address to parenting/behavior: We are working with therapists, his ped and school and working on boundaries and social skills. I don't let or want to let my kid do whatever. I very much understand that going over the fence is unacceptable. Like any parent, as kids grow and change, we adapt our parenting. We're not 100% by any means, but we do work very hard at it. I worry very much about the fine line between dimming his amazing spark and still making sure he is "socially acceptable". This is also just a message board, and I'll tend to be a little off the cuff and lighthearted about something that I actually take very seriously. This post/saga was really just a place to vent, commiserate and type out a crazy story to share. We (the adults) did talk last night and it did not go well. At all. They will be leaving the fence up as-is. They don't want to build a proper fence. It is their side and if they want to "decorate" it however they want it is their business. If we complain to HOA or whatever, they will make sure to never let their boys play with ours again, and "we will regret ever reporting them". They said they would press juvenile charges for trespassing against our kiddo. We are requested that when they are in the backyard, they have complete privacy. However, if the kids are all in the front, they are ok with them playing together. If we are in front, we are to be pleasant and nice to them. They didn't like that we were keeping to ourselves and ignoring them (the adults - we wouldn't ignore the kiddos). All in all, I'm just really sad. In the beginning it was so great, and now it's just a horrible tense situation. Their kids want to play with mine as badly as mine wants to play with theirs. Just an hour before "the big talk" their kids had jumped over the fence to ours so they could talk to our kid. She came out, saw that they were over the fence and lost her effing mind on those poor kids. I know she didn't know I was out there. So, in the back when their kids yell over to mine, I will simply walk over and tell them that I'm sorry my kid can't talk right now, we are giving them privacy. When we plan on going out front, if they come out, great. If not, great too. There are other kids in our group/neighborhood that he can play with, and we'll just shift focus there. As for the fence, I can only hope the first storm rips the whole freaking thing down. Not sure sitting here today if throwing all the kids in as collateral damage is worth an official complaint. I'm also not going to be manipulated or blackmailed either. I have some thinking to do on that. I hope you have enjoyed this episode of "As the cul-de-whack turns"...... OMG this would be “challenge accepted” time for me. 1. Call the cops on my kid? Two can play that game, and her kids have trespassed as well. And besides, nobody is arresting a 5 yo for trespassing. 2. They made structural changes to your fence by adding the chicken wire and tarp. I don’t care if it’s nailed up on their side, it is still an addition to your fence and affects you. I would call the HOA first thing Monday morning and report it. This goes beyond decorating, and you don’t want to be the one on the hook for fines if someone else reports it. 3. The kids have already been thrown into the mix, and “tolerating” this bullying behavior will not fix it. So don’t let that stop you from doing what you feel you need to do. 4. Record EVERYTHING. If you have to shoo her kids out of your yard, record that they are there, then record yourself approaching them and asking them to leave. If she approaches you, turn on your phone camera immediately. I’m not sure where you live and what the laws are that cover recording, but generally you can record anyone and anything in public. As long as you are on your property while recording, there probably isn’t anything she can do. Check your local laws, though, because you don’t want her to have any evidence of your “wrongdoing” that she can hold against you. The purpose of the recordings is to make sure she can’t accuse you of things you don’t do and to have what she says on record. You don’t want her to be able to turn the tables and use recordings against you. I know it’s stressful to be dealing with this, but it will probably help you if you have a plan for how to respond to various possible situations and take control of some of the narrative.
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peppermintpatty
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Post by peppermintpatty on Jul 29, 2022 19:23:46 GMT
Let the HOA know what is going on and let them deal with it. That woman is all kinds of bat shit crazy. Sounds like her husband just does whatever she says to keep the peace. Take a picture of the fence just in case they pull it down before the HOA can come and see what they did. They will be leaving the fence up as-is. They don't want to build a proper fence. It is their side and if they want to "decorate" it however they want it is their business. If we complain to HOA or whatever, they will make sure to never let their boys play with ours again, and "we will regret ever reporting them". They said they would press juvenile charges for trespassing against our kiddo. We are requested that when they are in the backyard, they have complete privacy. However, if the kids are all in the front, they are ok with them playing together. If we are in front, we are to be pleasant and nice to them. They didn't like that we were keeping to ourselves and ignoring them (the adults - we wouldn't ignore the kiddos).I'm sorry? What the ever loving f? At this point, I would let the HOA know what she has said and if necessary, get a letter from a lawyer to have her stop harassing you.
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tracylynn
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Post by tracylynn on Jul 29, 2022 19:26:17 GMT
Wow.
1. Avoid them at all costs regardless of what yard you're in. These people are not your friends.
2. Work with your son to understand this. It'll be hard but it's important.
3. Take pictures of their makeshift privacy and email to the HOA immediately. Her threat about the Police is bullshit and she likely knows it.
4. Put cameras up, careful not ti record their house though. Just your property.
5. If you can afford it, put up a 6ft privacy fence on that line. You'll be so much happier.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on Jul 29, 2022 19:27:02 GMT
Avoid them. No playing front or back yard. Keep your distance. The first thing I did when we moved into our house is put up a fence within our property line. Not a HOA property. My fence is nice but if it was not it was still in my property. I am a private person and I if I want to have my morning coffee in my pjs I want to do it privately. I’m not the I want every kid on the block coming in at all times. And I don’t always want to socialize with my neighbors during my down time.That I understand. But her other behavior is strange. If the fence is on her side and there is nothing forbidding it in the HOA rules then there is nothing you can do except hide it by putting your own fence on your side of the property line. Find out what the rules are.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Jul 29, 2022 19:30:02 GMT
Oh, teeheeheehee that chick is nucking futs. F'reals.
Call the HOA and report the fence. Tell your kid to pretend there's a huge brick wall and don't engage with the neighbors, even if they're in their "social area". Then, find some other things for your precious pumpkin to do. I'm amazed that at the tender age of 5, you've got so many professionals involved with him . . . dunno what to make of that, but it's neither here nor there. Your neighbors are being unreasonable, and you don't need to give them any leeway at all. Report to HOA and be done with it. Put 'em on ignore.
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Post by tara on Jul 29, 2022 19:30:22 GMT
That isn’t an unreasonable hope when you live so close to other kids. Sometimes it is an unreasonable hope. We had an inground pool and the neighbor kids would stare at us when we were using the pool. Their house was a tri-level, so their deck overlooked a 6 ft. fence. I am allowed to enjoy my backyard without having being stared at or have people make comments on what I am doing. The kids were brats and their parents thought that they should have usage of our backyard, when they had the same sized backyard. Nope, not gonna happen at all. I didn't want my kids to pick up on their language and bad habits. Hope is eternal. Plus, we were there first in a new-build cul-de-sac. You got butthurt because they were staring at you? 😂. You and the op’s neighbors need your own acreage and no neighbors. When you’re in a neighborhood you cant trespass eyes. Op ignore the hell out of this bitch. When she’s outside act like she’s invisible. Karen’s hate that because they want a reaction so don’t give her any. Hammer in your kids head that she’s not a nice person and stay the hell away from her. Put cameras up and have your house cps ready at all times. She sounds unhinged threatening a 5 year old with arrest. I’m mad as hell for you. Keep us updated.
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Post by Laurie on Jul 29, 2022 19:30:33 GMT
Yeah it would be game on for me as well. The kids have already been brought into this mess.
The very first thing I would be doing is installing cameras on my house. It would be tempting to me that the first time her kids jumped the fence to send that video to her.
They would also not exist to me. I am not going to change my interactions with someone based on where I am standing at the time. FFS, leave us alone in the back but be friendly to us in the front. That is just messed up rules.
I would encourage your child to play with the other kids but her kids would be off limits. She is off her rocker and I wouldn't trust my child around that family.
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Post by hopechest on Jul 29, 2022 20:04:53 GMT
Oh, teeheeheehee that chick is nucking futs. F'reals. Call the HOA and report the fence. Tell your kid to pretend there's a huge brick wall and don't engage with the neighbors, even if they're in their "social area". Then, find some other things for your precious pumpkin to do. I'm amazed that at the tender age of 5, you've got so many professionals involved with him . . . dunno what to make of that, but it's neither here nor there. Your neighbors are being unreasonable, and you don't need to give them any leeway at all. Report to HOA and be done with it. Put 'em on ignore. My kiddo was in kinder this year. He has had an IEP for speech since he was 3 or so. We've had him in both private and school speech therapy for a couple of years. As the year progressed, it became more obvious that it was more ADD or ADHD than speech issues. He just would't sit still and focus. Always distracted. For a 5 year old boy, that is not unusual, so we waited out until the end of the year to see if it was more of a maturity thing. At the end of the year, we spoke to his kinder teacher and IEP teachers and all came to agreement he probably had ADD. Since we were in the summer, we went back to our old speech therapy place and have been working on some ADD/ADHD coaching. No formal diagnosis, just looking for some tools to help him as well as us to parent him better. We had his kinder teacher fill out a form from the ped and in august during his physical we're going to talk about some eval for formal diagnosis. More so we can get it added to an IEP or 504 if that is needed. So, yes we have a lot of professionals involved, but he's not a kiddo with severe issues. We're just pretty pro-active in mostly getting some understanding in order to parent better. My DH has ADD and of course was never diagnosed/treated since they didn't do that back in the "olden days"...he struggled in school and we're just trying to get the kid a leg up.
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Post by Mel on Jul 29, 2022 20:15:20 GMT
I would let the tarp go for now but I'd be installing a Ring floodlight camera in the front and back yard. I'm not sure what your five year old is up to, the fact that you have so many professionals involved tells me he might be beyond typical 5yo behaviors. Or he may just be doing completely normal things that I wouldn't even think twice about. But I'd want all interactions with these neighbors to be on camera. And I would not take kindly to being told how I'm going to interact with them in the front vs back yard. They would be dead to me. As for the five year old catching a trespassing charge, lololol ok then. But if he's still climbing the fence, he does need to know that's against the rules. Another reason for a camera. This!!!
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Post by Laurie on Jul 29, 2022 20:22:51 GMT
I thought more about this after my post. I am not a confrontational person but I do like to dream of what I would like to do. With the Ring cameras you can turn on a siren within the app. Every single time one of her kids crossed that fence I would sound the siren. Hell, I would do it once they crossed the property line in the front yard too.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 29, 2022 20:23:13 GMT
Have your HOA President over for drinks in the back yard.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 29, 2022 20:32:49 GMT
I'm really glad this had a good resolution. I'm still reeling from the AITA "kids coming over" 11-page train wreck that happened recently.
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Post by Skellinton on Jul 29, 2022 21:07:35 GMT
Oh, teeheeheehee that chick is nucking futs. F'reals. Call the HOA and report the fence. Tell your kid to pretend there's a huge brick wall and don't engage with the neighbors, even if they're in their "social area". Then, find some other things for your precious pumpkin to do. I'm amazed that at the tender age of 5, you've got so many professionals involved with him . . . dunno what to make of that, but it's neither here nor there. Your neighbors are being unreasonable, and you don't need to give them any leeway at all. Report to HOA and be done with it. Put 'em on ignore. My kiddo was in kinder this year. He has had an IEP for speech since he was 3 or so. We've had him in both private and school speech therapy for a couple of years. As the year progressed, it became more obvious that it was more ADD or ADHD than speech issues. He just would't sit still and focus. Always distracted. For a 5 year old boy, that is not unusual, so we waited out until the end of the year to see if it was more of a maturity thing. At the end of the year, we spoke to his kinder teacher and IEP teachers and all came to agreement he probably had ADD. Since we were in the summer, we went back to our old speech therapy place and have been working on some ADD/ADHD coaching. No formal diagnosis, just looking for some tools to help him as well as us to parent him better. We had his kinder teacher fill out a form from the ped and in august during his physical we're going to talk about some eval for formal diagnosis. More so we can get it added to an IEP or 504 if that is needed. So, yes we have a lot of professionals involved, but he's not a kiddo with severe issues. We're just pretty pro-active in mostly getting some understanding in order to parent better. My DH has ADD and of course was never diagnosed/treated since they didn't do that back in the "olden days"...he struggled in school and we're just trying to get the kid a leg up. The professionals you have involved are nothing that.would make anyone who works with kids his age bat an eye. In fact you sound like a parent all teachers would like to have. You acknowledge there are issues and you are getting the appropriate assistance. Just as if he had a problem with his eyesight or hearing or physical issue. As a pre-K teacher, I wish we had more parents that would acknowledge there were benefits to things like OT, PT and the like. The earlier things are dealt with the better off the kids will be. As to your neighbor issue, the woman sounds like a nutter and I would absolutely contact the HOA along with documenting her threats. I think the idea of getting cameras it just record your backyard is a very good idea as well.
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Post by twinks on Jul 29, 2022 21:14:41 GMT
Hopechest - I certainly didn’t mean to imply that you were letting your son run free. I was just pointing out where most 5 year olds are developmentally and what they need. I do sincerely apologize for my delivery. I certainly didn’t mean to imply you weren’t a wonderful mother and the right mother for your child. Again, I apologize. I know how hard it is to always have to be working on social skills and appropriate behavior. I applaud your efforts. Personally, I wish you were my neighbor. I would gladly welcome you son over anytime.
This outcome is certainly disheartening. It brings the rebel out in me. I would make my backyard really really an exciting place to be. I would be out there playing games and having cook outs, etc. Just so the parents have to listen to their children complain that they can’t come over to your place to play. That is the rebel in me talking, but it isn’t a bad idea. Not to make her children miserable, but to help your son and to keep tabs on things that are happening. Another thing I would do is immensely limit the time your son plays out front. In fact, I wouldn’t be playing out there. If they want to ride bicycles, scooters, etc. I would be taking them to a local park.
She sounds like a whackadoodle. I could just imagine what the police would say about a 5 year old “trespassing” in a neighbors back yard. You have records of what you are doing for your son. You know. Neighbor needs to chill out. But like a PP advised, I would be taking pictures and documenting the ugly fence. I wouldn’t be “blackmailed” and controlled by her. I would make sure the others in the neighborhood know what she is doing. I am not saying it is right, but her kids will end up being blackballed. There is no way I would ever let a child of mine play with her snowflakes. After hearing how she disciplined her own kids, I would be frightened over what she would do to my child.
Keep doing what you are doing. If you want and when you have the money, I would work with the HOA to build a privacy fence on my side and within my property line. Then the HOA will have to see her ugly makeshift tarp fence. Normal and natural consequences. I hope you and your child can make lasting friendships in your neighborhood. Move on and forget about whackadoodle.
I sincerely apologize.
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Post by tara on Jul 29, 2022 21:19:22 GMT
Oh, teeheeheehee that chick is nucking futs. F'reals. Call the HOA and report the fence. Tell your kid to pretend there's a huge brick wall and don't engage with the neighbors, even if they're in their "social area". Then, find some other things for your precious pumpkin to do. I'm amazed that at the tender age of 5, you've got so many professionals involved with him . . . dunno what to make of that, but it's neither here nor there. Your neighbors are being unreasonable, and you don't need to give them any leeway at all. Report to HOA and be done with it. Put 'em on ignore. My kiddo was in kinder this year. He has had an IEP for speech since he was 3 or so. We've had him in both private and school speech therapy for a couple of years. As the year progressed, it became more obvious that it was more ADD or ADHD than speech issues. He just would't sit still and focus. Always distracted. For a 5 year old boy, that is not unusual, so we waited out until the end of the year to see if it was more of a maturity thing. At the end of the year, we spoke to his kinder teacher and IEP teachers and all came to agreement he probably had ADD. Since we were in the summer, we went back to our old speech therapy place and have been working on some ADD/ADHD coaching. No formal diagnosis, just looking for some tools to help him as well as us to parent him better. We had his kinder teacher fill out a form from the ped and in august during his physical we're going to talk about some eval for formal diagnosis. More so we can get it added to an IEP or 504 if that is needed. So, yes we have a lot of professionals involved, but he's not a kiddo with severe issues. We're just pretty pro-active in mostly getting some understanding in order to parent better. My DH has ADD and of course was never diagnosed/treated since they didn't do that back in the "olden days"...he struggled in school and we're just trying to get the kid a leg up. Our youngest son has ADHD. We used to live on a 300 acre farm when he was growing up so I didn’t have to worry about what he was doing because we had no neighbors. We moved two years ago when he was 9. I could have told you when he was in pre k he had it but he couldn’t take any medicine till he was 6 and even then he was trying. It breaks my heart that people don’t understand these kids. I don’t know how many people told me he needed a good beating 😞 That’s the last thing these kids need and it wouldn’t help at all. Plus I’m not a child abuser. These kids are so loving. My little guy just wants to be friends with everyone and it took some time for boundaries to sink in. When we moved he was 9 and walking from the bus stop was the first freedom he has ever gotten. I was so nervous because these kids know no stranger danger. But he’s doing alright. Our next door neighbor is 90 and our little guy likes to go over and talk to her when she’s out on the porch because he said he feels sorry for her since she lives alone. When it started to get cold he noticed she wasn’t out. He ran home to tell me about it and said he got worried so he was looking in her windows and she was sitting in a chair reading. I got onto him and explained he was being a peeping tom and not to do that ever again.
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Post by peabay on Jul 29, 2022 21:29:55 GMT
Have your HOA President over for drinks in the back yard. This wins “pea post of the day.”
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Post by librarylady on Jul 29, 2022 21:29:58 GMT
I like having the HOA officers over for a bowl of ice cream while your son and the other kids play....
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Post by hopechest on Jul 29, 2022 21:42:16 GMT
My kiddo was in kinder this year. He has had an IEP for speech since he was 3 or so. We've had him in both private and school speech therapy for a couple of years. As the year progressed, it became more obvious that it was more ADD or ADHD than speech issues. He just would't sit still and focus. Always distracted. For a 5 year old boy, that is not unusual, so we waited out until the end of the year to see if it was more of a maturity thing. At the end of the year, we spoke to his kinder teacher and IEP teachers and all came to agreement he probably had ADD. Since we were in the summer, we went back to our old speech therapy place and have been working on some ADD/ADHD coaching. No formal diagnosis, just looking for some tools to help him as well as us to parent him better. We had his kinder teacher fill out a form from the ped and in august during his physical we're going to talk about some eval for formal diagnosis. More so we can get it added to an IEP or 504 if that is needed. So, yes we have a lot of professionals involved, but he's not a kiddo with severe issues. We're just pretty pro-active in mostly getting some understanding in order to parent better. My DH has ADD and of course was never diagnosed/treated since they didn't do that back in the "olden days"...he struggled in school and we're just trying to get the kid a leg up. Our youngest son has ADHD. We used to live on a 300 acre farm when he was growing up so I didn’t have to worry about what he was doing because we had no neighbors. We moved two years ago when he was 9. I could have told you when he was in pre k he had it but he couldn’t take any medicine till he was 6 and even then he was trying. It breaks my heart that people don’t understand these kids. I don’t know how many people told me he needed a good beating 😞 That’s the last thing these kids need and it wouldn’t help at all. Plus I’m not a child abuser. These kids are so loving. My little guy just wants to be friends with everyone and it took some time for boundaries to sink in. When we moved he was 9 and walking from the bus stop was the first freedom he has ever gotten. I was so nervous because these kids know no stranger danger. But he’s doing alright. Our next door neighbor is 90 and our little guy likes to go over and talk to her when she’s out on the porch because he said he feels sorry for her since she lives alone. When it started to get cold he noticed she wasn’t out. He ran home to tell me about it and said he got worried so he was looking in her windows and she was sitting in a chair reading. I got onto him and explained he was being a peeping tom and not to do that ever again. Yeessss! This is my kid. The sweetest on the planet, but man..... A stranger is just someone he hasn't spoken to yet. But just give him a sec and he'll tell you about some stuff. .
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