Is this unreasonable to ask of my vegan daughter??

No, that is not even remotely unreasonable.

I am not Vegan. I respect her choices. She should respect yours. I think she is being unreasonable and if she is unwilling to shop for you, how can she expect you to accommodate her?

I'm not vegan. You've gone above and beyond to support her. She's being rude in my opinion.

I really can't answer for vegans, but as a parent, I'd be so angry that she's not willing to help out that I'd want to change the locks before she got home.

Of course I wouldn't do that, and I can't even answer as to what I would do. I don't think you're asking a lot and she's being incredibly ungrateful as it sounds like you've been more than accommodating to her and her dietary preferences. You didn't ask her to run to the butcher or slaughter a chicken on her way home. I'm sorry, going young adults can be so incredibly difficult sometimes.

No it isn't. She is expecting everybody to accommodate her and not doing the same in return.


Signed btdt mother of a vegetarian.

I'm not vegan, but plant-based. I may not know her exact reason, but can guess. 

For true vegans, who are in it for animal-rights, the purchase of ANY animal products goes against the core of their beliefs. They don't want any part, even if it's not for them, of purchasing animal products. It would be like a Christian being asked to purchase a satanic book (or something similar) to bring home to someone else. It goes completely against their beliefs and they don't want any part of it. 

If she is vegan for the animal products, then she may have that aversion to even participate in the process of animal products. Some of my local friends are. If she is vegan for health reasons, then it's not an unreasonable request.

That's understandable, but a Christian wouldn't sit at the table of a satan worshiper and let them prepare all of their meals for the past 2.5 years either.

I'm answering as a vegetarian from a family of big meat eaters, your daughter is being unreasonable. My husband is a meat eater and when he comes over I buy him whatever the hell he wants, ham, bacon, lamb chops cos it's really the least I can do.

Your DD is letting her personal feelings about animal products get in the way of her relationships.

You respect her veganism, it is only fair that she respect that you are not. She's being very hypocritical. I would be upset too.

So veganism, for some, is a religion.

That's a real interesting analogy.

Yeah, she's being a brat. I would never serve another vegan dish in my house and I'd stop cooking separately for her. And if I was really feeling spiteful, I'd start leaving apartment ads on her bed. But then I'm pretty mean when you piss me off.

I am so sad for you. I don't think it is unreasonable, but then...I'm not a vegan. I know vegans are very much against any product that harms or creates abusive atmospheres for animals. My nephew and niece-in-law are vegans and are raising their son as one, but I know if my sister asked him to pick up cream or something else like that, he would. Because he respects his mom. Your dd does not respect you. The most obvious hint of that is that she does not care that she upset you. She could have kept her values and simply told you that she is so very sorry, but she can't bring herself to buy the whipping cream for you. It doesn't sound like she did any of that. I could be wrong.

I would be one of the ones that stops cooking anything special for her. You have gone out of your way to cook food especially for her and she has basically thrown that in your face. No more. She can buy and make her own food now. If you make vegetables, make sure you use plenty of real butter! I kid. Not really. Hugs to you. I hope you were able to get your whipping cream.

I'm not a vegan but my niece is and I know for a fact she's picked up non-vegan items from the grocery store for family meals and had no issue with it.