Country Ham
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Post by Country Ham on Apr 10, 2017 14:45:59 GMT
Have you considered matching t shirts?
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Country Ham
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Post by Country Ham on Apr 10, 2017 14:51:32 GMT
Got it. The Peas hate their periods. Truth be told, I do too. It's a moronic system and one I would never have instituted if I were the omnipotent designer of the universe. Far better to have a little switch somewhere - "yes, ready for kids" or "no, not interested". I think we'll still do something to mark the occasion when it happens. Probably a little weekend away. But thanks for the insights. See for me it's not that I hate or like my period. It's just a biological function to me that isn't any great accomplishment needing recognition. I don't cringe from the word menstruation or period. I don't think it needs to be whispered and hidden. Personally I will be glad when my daughter's starts. She is the oldest in her circle of friends and all of her friends have started but her. if I am curled up with a hot water bottle and my teenage son asks what's wrong I tell him I started my period. I am not embarrassed or find it distasteful at all.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 10, 2017 14:55:45 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY??? Let's repeat this. Again and again. I would have been mortified if my mom would have suggested a celebration for that, even though I was a very late bloomer and she was probably pretty relieved there was nothing wrong with me! Ice cream and Midol handed over quietly would be the only celebration needed. Now menopause on the other hand? That there is something I could understand celebrating!
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Apr 10, 2017 14:55:54 GMT
I would no more celebrate my daughter's first period than my son's first wet dream.
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Post by melanell on Apr 10, 2017 14:59:40 GMT
Far better to have a little switch somewhere - "yes, ready for kids" or "no, not interested". No kidding! I always felt that would be best. Jeez, I had my period for 18 years before I was actually ready to have a kid. 18 years!! I could have happily lived without it for all of those years.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 10, 2017 15:01:37 GMT
Got it. The Peas hate their periods. Truth be told, I do too. It's a moronic system and one I would never have instituted if I were the omnipotent designer of the universe. Far better to have a little switch somewhere - "yes, ready for kids" or "no, not interested". I think we'll still do something to mark the occasion when it happens. Probably a little weekend away. But thanks for the insights. See for me it's not that I hate or like my period. It's just a biological function to me that isn't any great accomplishment needing recognition. I don't cringe from the word menstruation or period. I don't think it needs to be whispered and hidden. Personally I will be glad when my daughter's starts. She is the oldest in her circle of friends and all of her friends have started but her. if I am curled up with a hot water bottle and my teenage son asks what's wrong I tell him I started my period. I am not embarrassed or find it distasteful at all. True, but for a late elementary or middle school aged (or in my case HIGH school aged!) girl who already feels awkward and self conscious about it? It's probably not something she would like shouted from the rooftops if you KWIM. It can be pretty embarrassing depending on the circumstances. One of my sisters got her first one when she was 11 years old, and on a day she wore light blue pants to school. Definitely not something she felt like celebrating or even talking about. She was mortified.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Apr 10, 2017 15:29:29 GMT
I could tell a story about flowers, dinner out, and a card about becoming a women...
Ugh....
If you want a weekend away enjoy.. But don't make it all about her period
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Post by darkangel090260 on Apr 10, 2017 15:45:38 GMT
give her supplies, Chocolate and favorite junk food and leave her alone. There are thing in life that does not need a party or a gift.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 15:59:20 GMT
My DD started this weekend on her first vacation. It sucked. We bought her endless ice cream and chocolate bars and a stuffed animal and she and I cried and watched tv together while dh was doing work stuff. She will remember it and be glad we spoiled her but mommy is wxhausted. She couldn't swim and there were many tears. My oldest DD thought she was starting for like 5 years. She really drug it out. My middle daughter was on hers for two years before anyone told me. The nice thing about DD #3 was that I had prearranged 2 days out of school for the weekend trip to Florida and she got to go to Florida so that made it a bit easier! Except I had packed already, bright pink shorts...I had one pair of black shorts and she had to wear them all 3 days because she's having a very heavy cycle which I figure is normal for a first time. Anyways, my sympathies. It's bittersweet letting her grow up.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on Apr 10, 2017 16:04:18 GMT
It is exactly the type of thing my hippy mother would have celebrated which is why, when I got my first period at ripe old age of 9, I chose to keep it to myself.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 16:07:57 GMT
I don't hate my period, it's always been easy for me (thank you menstruation gods) but it's not something I wanted or needed to celebrate. Take her away but don't make it a period celebration, that's kind of icky!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 16:08:49 GMT
Ps it wasn't a celebration by any means but she did get some special treatment and like I said, she was going to get out of school for 2 days anyways so for us, it was a special little moment. And we talked about woman stuff and how to handle these changes. It's not like I bought red balloons and told everyone in the hotel...but it was a mommy daughter time.
So if you andyour daughter want a weekend together, do it. Don't let anyone make you feel badly for wanting to be there for her. For my daughter, it was rough because she realized all the things she'll miss out on (until she can wear tampons) and we had a lot of discussions on how we women handle that and how to carry pads inconspicuously, she's in the 5th grade, 13 years old. This was something I was dreading. I was in the 8th grade when I started. I knew my DD was going to need more nurturing than my mom gave me (i got a pack of carefree pantyluners and told good luck, then screamed at when I bled all down myself at school the next day. Maybe I wanted my daughter to have a better memory of her first period.)
You know your daughter. You do for her.
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Post by nicolep on Apr 10, 2017 16:08:51 GMT
All I can say is that I will never forget the day I started. My brother and sister and I were supposed to go swimming in the neighbor's pool (which I LOVED!!!) and bam. There it was. At the time it was the saddest day of my 12 yr life, LOL!
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 10, 2017 16:24:27 GMT
Got it. The Peas hate their periods. Truth be told, I do too. It's a moronic system and one I would never have instituted if I were the omnipotent designer of the universe. Far better to have a little switch somewhere - "yes, ready for kids" or "no, not interested". I think we'll still do something to mark the occasion when it happens. Probably a little weekend away. But thanks for the insights. I don't think my bolded is really true. In my family, growing up with 3 sisters and having feminine products bought in bulk, it was very much a matter-of-fact thing that was handled practically more than a love/hate thing. My DD was 10 and not ready emotionally for what was happening. She really needed hugs and a practical approach and was not interested in celebrating anything. The important things for her to know were that both dad and I would always have supplies on hand. Yes, dad kept a pouch with pads/tampons in his truck for a few years. It was also really important to reassure her that if anything took her by surprise that any woman would help her (teacher, friend's mom, etc.). DD went away with friends twice in the 18 months before her periods became more regular and predictable and I talked to both moms, letting them know what could happen and they really appreciated the heads up and made sure DD knew she could come to them if she needed any help. I think @scrappersoccermom is right that every girl is different and there is nothing wrong with marking this right of passage if it is something you think your DD would like. SaveSaveSaveSave
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 16:29:45 GMT
My DD started the last day before Christmas Vacation...right before a field trip I was chaperoning. LOL DH and I showed up and she calmly asked me to meet her in the bathroom (newly turned 11). She explained what she thought was happening and asked about supplies (I reminder her she has some in her book bag and the school keeps some in the bathroom for the Jr. High). She then took care of things herself, gave me a hug and told me it would be okay. LOL She asked me to privately let her teacher know and went to inform her dad herself (wrapped her arms around him and whispered "I am not a little girl any more, but I will always be your little girl so don't freak out."). LOL I'm glad she felt so prepared!
She did ask for some special time to shop with supplies so she could ask some practical questions, so we did that and bought some Starbucks and chocolate. I got advice from my kid sister (age 14) about a bean bag type animal that you could heat in the microwave that might be helpful, so I did get her that, as well. (She LOVES that thing.)
Not a HUGE deal, but she wanted some girl time, so I took my cues from her. MY MOM announced my first one at a dinner with my dad's boss and brought out a china jewelry box and a cake. UGH! LOL
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 16:31:58 GMT
Oh, I work with teens, as well, so have been on the "mom's not there when it started" end of it as well and have always tried to make it not a big deal, but special. Bought supplies and a cute pouch to keep them in and some chocolate and call the mom to see if she would like to come talk with her daughter. I am surprised with the amount of times I had been told no, you can handle it. LOL
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Post by padresfan619 on Apr 10, 2017 16:34:55 GMT
I would have been mortified. My mom simply gave me a basket of supplies and also threw in some of my favorite candy. Anything beyond that at that age I would have rather had the world open up and swallow me whole.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Apr 10, 2017 16:35:11 GMT
MY MOM announced my first one at a dinner with my dad's boss and brought out a china jewelry box and a cake. UGH! LOL That is the worst 'outing' I've ever heard! I bet you wanted the earth to open up and swallow you pad and all right then and there!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 16:38:56 GMT
Yes, I did. LOL And I was not prepared at all as we never had any talk. I had no idea what was going on. I can laugh about it now, but at the time...I cried and cried and cried.
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 10, 2017 16:40:53 GMT
Just make sure that you daughter is okay with marking her first period. My mother and grandmother drew a lot of attention to my starting menstruation and it just pissed me off. I seriously wouldn't speak to either one of them for a time over it. So intrusive!
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Post by stumpedagainof3 on Apr 10, 2017 16:45:03 GMT
give her supplies, Chocolate and favorite junk food and leave her alone. There are thing in life that does not need a party or a gift. This. I bought my daughter a plain Hershey bar and some chips. It was a bonding moment. Lol
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 10, 2017 16:46:49 GMT
Ps it wasn't a celebration by any means but she did get some special treatment and like I said, she was going to get out of school for 2 days anyways so for us, it was a special little moment. And we talked about woman stuff and how to handle these changes. It's not like I bought red balloons and told everyone in the hotel...but it was a mommy daughter time. So if you andyour daughter want a weekend together, do it. Don't let anyone make you feel badly for wanting to be there for her. For my daughter, it was rough because she realized all the things she'll miss out on (until she can wear tampons) and we had a lot of discussions on how we women handle that and how to carry pads inconspicuously, she's in the 5th grade, 13 years old. This was something I was dreading. I was in the 8th grade when I started. I knew my DD was going to need more nurturing than my mom gave me (i got a pack of carefree pantyluners and told good luck, then screamed at when I bled all down myself at school the next day. Maybe I wanted my daughter to have a better memory of her first period.) You know your daughter. You do for her. Feel free to tell me to mind my own business - but why not just get her some tampons? I was a swimmer, almost everyone I know started tampons day 1, and I did the same. My daughter is a dancer - same situation. I see no reason to miss out on anything because of your period.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Apr 10, 2017 16:50:19 GMT
DD is 9.5 and I'm already dreading the day. I had such AWFUL, heavy, painful periods before I went on BCP! I've been on the pill continuously for 23 years now, minus 2 years for trying/pg/nursing, and (so long as my OBGYN keeps blessing it) will stay on them until I know I'm completely done with periods. So I guess the way I'd like to celebrate DD getting hers, when it happens, is by putting her on the pill! Not sure if there's a minimum age for that, but I sure as hell wish my parents had done that for me when I was young.
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Post by jennyap on Apr 10, 2017 16:52:01 GMT
Ps it wasn't a celebration by any means but she did get some special treatment and like I said, she was going to get out of school for 2 days anyways so for us, it was a special little moment. And we talked about woman stuff and how to handle these changes. It's not like I bought red balloons and told everyone in the hotel...but it was a mommy daughter time. So if you andyour daughter want a weekend together, do it. Don't let anyone make you feel badly for wanting to be there for her. For my daughter, it was rough because she realized all the things she'll miss out on (until she can wear tampons) and we had a lot of discussions on how we women handle that and how to carry pads inconspicuously, she's in the 5th grade, 13 years old. This was something I was dreading. I was in the 8th grade when I started. I knew my DD was going to need more nurturing than my mom gave me (i got a pack of carefree pantyluners and told good luck, then screamed at when I bled all down myself at school the next day. Maybe I wanted my daughter to have a better memory of her first period.) You know your daughter. You do for her. Feel free to tell me to mind my own business - but why not just get her some tampons? I was a swimmer, almost everyone I know started tampons day 1, and I did the same. My daughter is a dancer - same situation. I see no reason to miss out on anything because of your period. Agreed. I was just turned 11, also a swimmer. I started using tampons as soon as I figured out how to use them.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 10, 2017 17:01:51 GMT
Glad someone asked about the swimming because I was wondering also. I get being careful on your first day/first time but swimming was definitely not a forbidden activity just because I had my period. I also started with tampons.
The one thing that I remember was that all tampons are not created equal for everyone. I had a specific brand and style that I used unless I had no other option.
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Post by jassy on Apr 10, 2017 17:15:41 GMT
I am getting horrible flashbacks here. My grandmother announced at our weekly family Sunday dinner - "So our little jassy became a woman yesterday" Shudder. My poor grandpa was just trying to butter his dinner roll.....
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 17:22:30 GMT
Ps it wasn't a celebration by any means but she did get some special treatment and like I said, she was going to get out of school for 2 days anyways so for us, it was a special little moment. And we talked about woman stuff and how to handle these changes. It's not like I bought red balloons and told everyone in the hotel...but it was a mommy daughter time. So if you andyour daughter want a weekend together, do it. Don't let anyone make you feel badly for wanting to be there for her. For my daughter, it was rough because she realized all the things she'll miss out on (until she can wear tampons) and we had a lot of discussions on how we women handle that and how to carry pads inconspicuously, she's in the 5th grade, 13 years old. This was something I was dreading. I was in the 8th grade when I started. I knew my DD was going to need more nurturing than my mom gave me (i got a pack of carefree pantyluners and told good luck, then screamed at when I bled all down myself at school the next day. Maybe I wanted my daughter to have a better memory of her first period.) You know your daughter. You do for her. Feel free to tell me to mind my own business - but why not just get her some tampons? I was a swimmer, almost everyone I know started tampons day 1, and I did the same. My daughter is a dancer - same situation. I see no reason to miss out on anything because of your period. Id prefer to wait a year or two. She's 13, and a young 13 at that. I started using them at 15 when I joined the swim team so I know it's normal and safe and all that stuff but for her first few periods id like to hold off.
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River
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Post by River on Apr 10, 2017 17:22:40 GMT
Wow, the peas all agree here! Love it when that happens! If you do your weekend trip away, I'd suggest doing it low key and NOT actually making it about her entry into woman hood. In fact, I'd hope it is never even mentioned other than, letting her help pick out the supplies she'd like to try. Mine was forever etched in my memory. Thank god it was a funny memory and one I will always carry with me. But given the choice, heck no! I would not have wanted it marked by some mother daughter bonding trip. In case you missed my story, here it is from a favorite memory thread a long while back:
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 17:24:28 GMT
Feel free to tell me to mind my own business - but why not just get her some tampons? I was a swimmer, almost everyone I know started tampons day 1, and I did the same. My daughter is a dancer - same situation. I see no reason to miss out on anything because of your period. Agreed. I was just turned 11, also a swimmer. I started using tampons as soon as I figured out how to use them. Ok you guys are making me rethink this--I didn't realize 11 year olds were wearing them! So perhaps I'll introduce them earlier, especially since she's the only one In her class to have periods and it's definitely going to be noticeable, the smell was horrid this weekend:(
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